You Don't Owe Your Parents Anything
 
你根本不欠父母任何东西
 
Neither of my retirement aged parents have anything saved for retirement. That's fine because this country disproportionately helps seniors and Medicare and Medicaid are meant primarily for seniors.
 
我那两位已到退休年纪的父母，没为养老存下一分钱。这倒无妨，毕竟美国对老年群体的福利扶持力度偏高，联邦医保与医疗补助本就主要面向老年人。
 
My father especially dodged work all his life. He has been hinting lately that he wants financial help from me and my grandma. He has asked me before and has asked them before.
 
我父亲这辈子更是常年逃避工作，最近总旁敲侧击，想让我和奶奶给他经济接济，这种事他以前就找我们要过不止一次。

Let me just be clear- I have helped him plenty and my grandma gave him a house and land that he sold for less than it was worth to "go travel" while I was young and still needing parents.
 
我把话说明白 —— 我早就帮过他不少，奶奶还赠予他房产和土地，可他低价变卖拿钱去 “周游世界”，那时我年纪尚小，正是需要父母照顾的时候。
 
I saw a similar post on this subreddit but I want to let you all know: let your parents be wards of the state.
 
我在这个论坛看过类似帖子，今天只想告诉大家：就让父母依靠国家福利养老就好。
 
They will eventually turn into bottomless pits that you throw money into.

他们早晚会变成无底洞，不断消耗你的积蓄。
 
They have to spend down their assets and savings to qualify for Medicaid anyway, so just let them spend it quickly and become wards of the state.
 
况且申领医疗补助本就需要耗尽名下资产存款，不如让他们尽快花完，直接接受政府帮扶。
 
As a young person, you are largely on your own and either on the streets or working for your keep.
 
年轻人大多只能靠自己，要么拼命工作谋生，要么就只能流落街头。
 
Your parents are privileged to be able to rely on the taxpayer, so let them. I will never give another dime to my mom or dad and I feel zero guilt.
 
父母有资格依靠纳税人福利生活，那就随他们去。我再也不会给父母一分钱，内心毫无愧疚。
 
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补充说明：
 
thanks all for the comments! I don't live in a filial responsibility state
 
感谢大家的留言！我所在的州，没有强制子女赡养父母的法律规定。
 
Also, to the person who recommended therapy for me:

另外，回复那位建议我去做心理疏导的网友：
 
Thanks, babe, but I'm very happy with kids and successful relationships with a 10 yr marriage and community supports through my church and business. Very happy and well adjusted.
 
谢谢你的关心，但我现在生活美满，有孩子、婚姻稳定已十年，教会和事业上都有人脉支持，心态平和，生活顺遂。
 
Not everyone needs to put a bandaid over unnecessary parental relationships and insist that abusive people maintain a presence in their lives.
 
不是所有人都要勉强维系无意义的亲子关系，更没必要纵容有伤害行为的亲人留在身边。
 
My children don't need to be around abuse and neither do I.
 
我的孩子不该身处伤害环境，我自己也一样。
 
I hope that you keep all relationships with anyone who abuses you, because it's very important for you. Good luck
 
祝你能和所有伤害过你的人好好相处，毕竟这对你意义重大，祝你安好。
 
So many boomers had all the opportunities in the World, opportunities I would have killed for.
 
婴儿潮那一代人，坐拥我们梦寐以求的所有机遇。
 
Modern healthcare isn't for everyone. Not everyone is meant to live to 100 or even 80.
 
现代医疗资源并非人人享有，也不是所有人都必须活到八十岁，乃至一百岁。
 
I didn't choose to enter this world. I did, however, choose to have kids and I chose that so that I could give two people the best childhoods and lives and that's exactly what I'm doing.
 
我从未选择来到这个世界，但我主动选择生孩子。我成为父母，是想给孩子最好的童年与人生，而我也一直践行着这个承诺。