Hi! I’m a Filipina and I met this Chinese guy here in the Philippines. We don’t really speak the same language — he barely speaks English and I don’t speak Chinese, so most of the time we use a translator when we talk.

你好！我是菲律宾人，在菲律宾认识了一位中国男生。我们语言不太通——他几乎不会说英语，而我也不懂中文，所以大多数时候我们聊天都靠翻译软件。

I work full-time, and I’m pretty independent — I like having my own thing going on. He’s also a workaholic, so we both stay busy and we don’t talk that much, whether it’s in chat or even when we’re together.

我有全职工作，性格很独立——喜欢有自己的生活节奏。他也是个工作狂，所以我们俩都很忙，平时交流不多，无论是线上聊天还是见面时都话很少。

But whenever I’m with him, he does these little things that make me feel cared for in his own quiet way. Like opening pistachio shells for me without me asking, carrying my bag, lending me his clothes or charger (and even fixing my laptop charger when I’m at his place), bringing me food, or just quietly preparing things for me before I even notice. Sometimes he even feeds me a bite of whatever he’s eating just so I can taste it, and I don’t know… it’s such a simple thing, but it makes me melt a little every time.

但每次和他在一起时，他都会用这些安静的小举动让我感受到关心。比如不用我开口就帮我剥开心果、主动拎包、借我外套或充电器（甚至在他家时还会修我的笔记本充电器）、给我带吃的，或是默默准备好我需要的东西。有时他还会把自己正在吃的食物喂我一口尝尝...怎么说呢，虽然都是小事，但每次都会让我心里暖暖的。

We’re not super touchy or clingy, but there’s this calm feeling when we’re together. Even in silence, it feels warm. His gestures might seem small or “bare minimum” to others, but to me, they mean a lot — because I can tell he puts thought into them.

我们并不十分黏人或肢体接触频繁，但在一起时有种平静的感觉。即便沉默不语，也让人感到温暖。他的那些举动在别人看来或许微不足道甚至只是"基本操作"，但对我而言意义重大——因为我能感觉到他是经过深思熟虑的。

The thing is, I’m not really showy with actions either. I’m better at expressing how I feel through words — but because of the language barrier, I don’t know how to tell him that I like him and that I appreciate what he does.

问题在于，我也不太擅长用行动表达感情。我更善于通过言语诉说感受——但由于语言障碍，我不知道该如何告诉他我喜欢他，并且很感激他的付出。

So I just wanted to ask:

所以我想问问：

Are Chinese men usually like this — quiet, not that expressive, but they show care through small gestures?

中国男性通常都是这样吗——安静、不善表达，但会通过细微举动展现关怀？

How do Chinese guys usually show affection?

中国男生通常如何表达爱意？

And how can I show him that I care even if words are hard to use between us?

在言语交流困难的情况下，我该如何向他表达我的关心？

I’m honestly just curious. I don’t want to misread his quietness, but there’s something about the way he makes me feel cared for without even trying. It’s rare.

我纯粹是出于好奇。不想误解他的沉默寡言，但他那种不动声色却让我倍感关怀的方式很特别，实在罕见。