印度为何难以制止针对女性的性侵犯和暴力？

 
 
@Dunkin_MeMer
When i was 5 i got harrassed by a phermasist ...in the name of checkup he was touching my private parts i told my family and they said we will change our phermanist and i will contact a new one and then wheh i was about 10 someone i don't remember that clearly did same thing to me and later that day i told this to my mother she said dont go outside after a few years i was about 12 one my uncle did exactly same thing to me but this time i didn't tell anyone because i know they will blame me later on when was 16 in my own sister's wedding i got physically harrassed by a group of people including my own sister's husband i took stand for me but nothing happened they never got any punishment my family said my destiny is bad i think i am the only one who got harnessed by multiple times i am afraid of these people till now they are around me i dont feel safe around them now i am 23 and i am scared to go out to wear any revealing dress even they still visit my house and everytime they comes i got panic attack i dont know what to do i wish someone could help me
 
当我5岁时，我被一名药剂师骚扰……以检查的名义，他触摸我的私密部位。我告诉了家人，他们说我们会换一个药剂师。然后当我大约10岁时，有人（我不太记得是谁）对我做了同样的事，那天晚些时候我告诉了妈妈，她说不要出门。几年后，我大约12岁，我的一个叔叔对我做了同样的事，但这次我没有告诉任何人，因为我知道他们会责怪我。当我16岁时，在我姐姐的婚礼上，我被一群人（包括我姐姐的丈夫）身体骚扰，我为自己站出来，但什么都没发生，他们从未受到任何惩罚，我的家人说我的命不好。我想我是唯一一个多次被骚扰的人，我至今仍然害怕这些人，他们仍然在我身边，我在他们身边感到不安全。现在我23岁，我害怕出门，害怕穿任何暴露的衣服。他们仍然会来我家，每次他们来我都会恐慌发作。我不知道该怎么办，我希望有人能帮助我。
 
@kashmeerar
Whenever i travelled alone, i would get groped, harassed , catcalled by boys and men. So i decided to get a haircut. I got a boycut. The trouble decreased significantly.
 
每当我独自旅行时，我都会被男孩和男人摸、骚扰、吹口哨，所以我决定剪短发。我剪了个男孩头，麻烦明显减少了。
 
@namrata8442
Having worked in peripheral govt hospitals and attending such neglected girls every day, I can conclude for sure that the rape cases we see in India are just the tip of an iceberg, the real number is way more than that. Sometimes 15-16 year old girls will only come with 9 months of pregnancy, and the case would be reported for the first time by the hospital administration. The conditions are pathetic!!
 
在政府附属医院工作并每天照顾这些被忽视的女孩后，我可以肯定地说我们在印度看到的强奸案件只是冰山一角，真实数字远远超过这些。有时15-16岁的女孩会带着9个月的身孕来医院，而案件是由医院管理部门首次报告的。情况真是可悲！！
 
@dhrooviposwal5672
Even educated people have really cheap thinking. My coaching director in a way blamed women for rape cases that they put fake rape allegations, and there's no fault of poor boy. This comes from a person who is earning in crores in a year. With half of it's student being female students.
 
即使是受过教育的人也有非常低级的思维。我的辅导主任在某种程度上将强奸案件归咎于女性，说她们提出虚假的强奸指控，而可怜的男孩没有错。这是一个年收入数千万的人说的话，他的学生中有一半是女生。
 
@theanimelover8585
for those who think women are weak: a woman is a person who gave birth to you , they go through labour pain, period pain which even men cant handle . most women are nurses which help to save lives and are mentally strong
 
对于那些认为女性软弱的人：女性是生下你的人，她们经历了分娩的痛苦，经期的痛苦，这些甚至男人都无法承受。大多数女性是护士，她们帮助拯救生命，而且心理强大。
 
@xbluebirdx
I used to study at Aakash coaching centre when I was 14 years old. One day I was relentlessly harrassed by the security guards, who kept laughing at me, telling me to come to them, making disgusting sexual comments about my body and especially my legs. I was dressed from head to toe in very modest clothing (not that it matters). I told my father when I went home and he just shrugged and told me "hota hai". I dropped out from the centre the next year because I felt so ashamed and scared. The people who were meant to be protecting me completely failed me.
 
我14岁时曾在Aakash辅导中心学习。有一天，我被保安无情地骚扰，他们一直嘲笑我，叫我过去，对我的身体，尤其是我的腿，发表恶心的性评论。我穿着从头到脚都非常朴素的衣服（虽然这并不重要）。我回家后告诉了父亲，他只是耸耸肩，告诉我“这种事常有”。第二年我退出了中心，因为我觉得非常羞愧和害怕，那些本应保护我的人完全辜负了我。
 
@pavithrabalasubramanian7344
I am 25. Till now there had been two instances where I have been inappropriately touched. Both of the incidents happened in a crowded bus. And one male was 70+ old man and another around 45+. I was wearing modest clothes as I live in the rural areas. I narrated the incidents to my mom and she said this happens all the time with all the women and I should ignore it. But, not every man has bad intentions. The guys from my college and workplace behaved respectfully and even helped me during my bad times.
EDIT: I see a few comments saying I have to report it to police. But I don't even know the identities of those men, what I will report? I don't even remember their faces clearly because I was too afraid to look at them when I realized what they were doing to me. My only thoughts were of wishing to quickly reach my bus stop or how to avoid their touch in any way possible. And even if I report them to police or social media, I don't have any proof....I didn't take a photo or video of them. In the era where fake cases are on the rise, no one will be convinced that I am telling the truth. And remember it was a crowded bus, they can easily say that it was not their intention, that it was so crowded that accidentally they touched me. Please put yourself in my shoes.
 
我25岁。到目前为止，我有两次被不恰当地触摸的经历，这两次事件都发生在拥挤的公交车上。一个男性是70多岁的老人，另一个大约45岁。我穿着朴素的衣服，因为我住在农村地区。我向妈妈讲述了这些事件，她说这种事经常发生在所有女性身上，我应该忽略它。但是，并不是每个男人都有恶意。我大学和工作场所的男生们表现得很有礼貌，甚至在我困难时帮助了我。
编辑：我看到一些评论说我应该向警察报告，但我甚至不知道那些男人的身份，我要报告什么？我甚至不记得他们的脸，因为当我意识到他们在对我做什么时，我太害怕了，不敢看他们。我唯一的想法是希望尽快到达公交车站，或者如何尽可能避免他们的触摸。即使我向警察或社交媒体报告，我也没有任何证据……我没有拍他们的照片或视频。在虚假案件上升的时代，没有人会相信我在说真话。而且记住，那是一辆拥挤的公交车，他们可以轻易地说这不是他们的本意，只是太拥挤了，不小心碰到了我。请设身处地为我想想。
 
@ThatonemaskedUchiha
Parents should stop protecting and blaming their daughters saying they should be aware that they are wearing instead they should educate their sons that how to respect and treat a woman like mother and sister
It's really sad that half of our country is uneducated due to poverty
 
父母应该保护和停止责备他们的女儿，说她们应该注意自己的穿着，而应该教育他们的儿子如何尊重和对待女性，像对待母亲和姐妹一样。
令人难过的是，由于贫困，我们国家有一半的人没有受过教育。
 
@Aex-ry1pn
Me being a girl can definitely say that yes this topic is like a very sensitive topic in Indian families... Whenever there's a rape case my mother warns me and say "see that's why you should be careful and shouldn't go outside after 7 pm and all".. They never ever talks about it with my brother.. They should tell him to be respectful and humble to all women and even if a girl is wandering out at 11 pm make her feel safe not uncomfortable by your presence...
 
作为一个女孩，我可以说，是的，这个话题在印度家庭中是一个非常敏感的话题……每当有强奸案件时，我妈妈都会警告我，说“看，这就是为什么你应该小心，晚上7点后不应该出门”……他们从不和我弟弟谈论这件事……他们应该告诉他尊重和谦逊地对待所有女性，即使一个女孩在晚上11点外出，也要让她感到安全，而不是因为你的存在而感到不舒服……
 
@dead7584
Such a great video Mohak, I too have faced the harsh separation b/w girls and boys in schools. In my old school, we were not allowed to talk to a girl in the corridors or even share a tiffin with the girls during lunch. Boys and girls were regularly taken to the principal for talking to girls in corridors and even their parents were asked to come to school.
The teachers and principals regularly said ALL GIRLS ARE YOUR SISTERS, and we were made to not even sit close to them, talk about sitting with them.
I believe this type of taboo in our society is also a leading cause of such acts of shame. The students are not given sex ed., even teachers fear teaching the reproduction chapters in class.
I hope our govt. takes some actions in breaking this taboo in the near future
 
Mohak，这个视频太棒了，我也在学校里经历过男生和女生之间的严厉隔离。在我以前的学校，我们不允许在走廊里和女生说话，甚至午餐时也不能和女生分享饭盒。男生经常因为和女生在走廊里说话而被带到校长那里，甚至他们的父母也被叫到学校。
老师和校长经常说“所有女生都是你的姐妹”，我们甚至不能坐得离她们太近，更不用说和她们坐在一起了。
我相信我们社会中的这种禁忌也是这种可耻行为的主要原因之一，学生们没有接受性教育，甚至老师也害怕在课堂上教授生殖章节。
我希望我们的政府在不久的将来采取一些行动来打破这种禁忌。
 
@averyelf3557
This reminds me of when I went shopping with my mom and two young men (they looked educated) started following us. I noticed them and informed my mom. I was literally shivering, cause it was my first time experiencing something like that.
My mom said, "Don't be scared and walk with your head high, those low-lifes can't do sh*t." It really helped me a lot.
 
这让我想起有一次我和妈妈去购物，两个年轻的男子（他们看起来受过教育）开始跟着我们，我注意到了他们并告诉了妈妈。我真的很害怕，因为那是我第一次经历这样的事情。
我妈妈说：“不要害怕，昂首挺胸地走，那些低等生物什么都做不了。”这真的帮了我很多。
 
@version365
I would like to argue that false rape cases are also about controlling the women. As Mohak said, most of the false rape cases are filed by the girl's parents because she ran away & married someone against their will. So in this case, it's about controlling the daughters by their parents.
 
我想争辩说虚假的强奸案件也是关于控制女性的。正如Mohak所说，大多数虚假的强奸案件是由女孩的父母提出的，因为她离家出走并与某人结婚，违背了他们的意愿。所以在这种情况下，这是关于父母控制女儿的。
 
@anweshapahan2921
My father is a retired school teacher he used to give tution in a NGO where underprivileged students used to come...one child there i think he was in 8th standard he was uninterested in studying so my father asked him why you don't want to study so he said i can't concentrate my mind in studying,i don't kknow why i've no interest in studying, so my father told him to take some break from regular things and observe your surroundings,help your mother doing houseworks,he started laughing and saying housework is not for men it is women's work...so this thinkings are always entertained by society but i am glad than my father directed him to a good path and half of the boys there were not like this boy so there's still hope left.
 
我父亲是一名退休的学校教师，他曾经在一个非政府组织里给贫困学生补习……那里有一个孩子，我想他是8年级的，他对学习不感兴趣，所以我父亲问他为什么不想学习，他说他无法集中精力学习，不知道为什么对学习没有兴趣，所以我父亲告诉他从日常事务中休息一下，观察周围的环境，帮助妈妈做家务，他开始笑着说家务不是男人的事，是女人的事……所以这种思维总是被社会所接受，但我很高兴我父亲引导他走上了一条好的道路，那里有一半的男生不像这个男孩，所以还有希望。
 
@samsam_23
As a girl, I feel proud that my generation is shedding light on issues like sexual violence and their consequences in our country. Kudos to you, this is such an amazing video it's so informative for everyone, keep up the good work.
 
作为一个女孩，我感到自豪的是我们这一代人正在揭示性暴力及其在我们国家的后果。向你致敬，这个视频太棒了，对每个人都非常有教育意义，请继续努力。
 
@harinisri8384
After watching this video I realized how differently my parents raised me. I'm also a victim of sexual harassment and it happened in a second that I was unable to voice it out. My dad was there with me when it happened. He hit the guy with his helmet and then others followed suit beating the guy up. Through out the ride home I was conflicted about what happened. It felt like a lapse of memory and judgement. My father complained how I didn't even shout or say anything. My mom sat with me and told me to not be afraid to voice it out, basically said Fuck Society and do what you think is right at that moment. Sure, my parents are very conservative but they taught me the right thing to do. I realized how important sexual education is throughout the years and how its lacking in India and how shrewd believes are holding people by leashes. I decided to talk openly to my little brother. I tell him how much it hurts to have periods or what happens during that, I told him how hard it is to walk in broad daylight but still feel like a prey to men as they stare at me even though I'm not wearing revealing clothes. My brother too believed that girls shouldn't be lewd before but now his views are changing. My mom would scold me for talking these things to a child, a boy at that but I shrug her off because he needs to learn these and to act on it. We can't wait for our parents or society to change , I believe we need to implement on it by our own even though u receive backlashes. Freedom of speech includes talking about sexual violence too and if we dont it causes major trauma. Teach your brothers. I'm not saying this as a feminist or shit, I just wanted to tell that watching documentaries and commenting about change in education, views,blah blah blah wont be changing anything. YOU NEED TO START FROM SOMETHING WITHIN THE GRASP.
 
看完这个视频后，我意识到我的父母是如何以不同的方式教育我的。我也是性骚扰的受害者，事情发生在一瞬间，我无法说出来。当时我爸爸在场，他用头盔打了那个男人，然后其他人也跟着打了他。回家的路上，我对发生的事情感到矛盾，感觉像是记忆和判断的缺失。我父亲抱怨我甚至没有喊叫或说什么。我妈妈坐在我旁边，告诉我不要害怕说出来，基本上是说“去他的社会”，做你认为在那一刻正确的事情。当然，我的父母非常保守，但他们教会了我做正确的事。多年来，我意识到性教育的重要性以及它在印度的缺乏，以及那些根深蒂固的观念是如何束缚人们的。我决定公开地和我弟弟谈论这些，我告诉他月经有多痛苦，或者在那期间会发生什么，我告诉他即使在白天走路也很难，但仍然感觉自己是男人的猎物，尽管我没有穿暴露的衣服。我弟弟以前也认为女孩不应该放荡，但现在他的观点正在改变。我妈妈会责怪我向一个孩子，尤其是一个男孩谈论这些事情，但我对此不以为然，因为他需要学习这些并采取行动。我们不能等待父母或社会改变，我相信我们需要自己实施这些改变，即使你会受到反对。言论自由也包括谈论性暴力，如果我们不这样做，就会造成严重的创伤。教你的兄弟们。我不是以女权主义者或其他什么身份说这些，我只是想告诉你们，看纪录片和评论教育、观点的改变等等不会改变任何事情，你需要从自己能掌控的事情开始。
 
@alonemusk703
As a man i dont think so there is a mistake of girls being raped by wearing short clothes or out late night . The problem is mindset of boys toward women or POV thats matter alot and mohak bhai said it can only be done by these type of classes in our school,colleges or atleast any online platform especially in villages.
 
作为一个男人，我不认为女孩因为穿短衣服或深夜外出而被强奸是她们的错。问题是男孩对女性的心态或观点，这很重要，Mohak兄弟说这只能通过在学校、大学或至少任何在线平台上的这类课程来实现，尤其是在农村地区。
 
@Anime_STAY15
I hate.. I HATE it when they blame on what girls are wearing. I have heard other people blame the girl who was inappropriately touch for her cloths. Ever since I remember, my father has told me to wear clothes that cover my butt and to not wear sleeveless top of dresses. He has also told me it was not safe for me to go alone even during day time. Instead of people telling girls to change the way dress they should teach BOYS how respect women and to not do such things and teach them the consequences of their actions. Old people say that the mindset of the new generation is bad but they don't realise what is actually bad. My grandparents say that new generation always thing they are right that's why there is lots of problems now, but these people who blame new gens don't think of their own mindset. People say the internet is bad for you but I personally do not believe that as long as you don't get influenced by the bad things. I rely on the internet to get informations like this for my own safety. I learn a lot of things from the internet that has proved to be useful. I argue against my grandparents sometimes because they don't want to accept the change. I have asked to myself, why do people send boys outside and not girls, if there are no boys outside during night then girls can walk freely and safely at night. Why don't they teach boys to not do these things and instead blame it on what the girl was wearing? It's so sick to hear people around me say this. Honestly I can't blame everyone because this is what they were taught to believe when they were children. My grandmother always tells to my cousin that she is too friendly with the boys. Everyone focuses on only blaming the victim not the person who committed the crime. It's so disgusting and outrageous when people take issues like this very lightly and always blame the female especially of what they were wearing. While watching this video i had so much to say but I don't want to comment everything.
 
我讨厌……我讨厌他们把责任归咎于女孩穿的衣服。我听到其他人责怪那个被不当触碰的女孩，说是因为她的衣服。从我记事起，我父亲就告诉我穿要遮住臀部的衣服，不要穿无袖上衣或裙子。他还告诉我，即使是在白天，我一个人出去也不安全。与其告诉女孩改变穿衣方式，他们应该教男孩如何尊重女性，不要做这样的事情，并教他们行为的后果。老年人说新一代的心态不好，但他们没有意识到什么是真正不好的。我的祖父母说新一代总是认为他们是对的，这就是为什么现在有很多问题，但这些责怪新一代的人没有考虑自己的心态。人们说互联网对你有害，但我个人不相信，只要你不受坏东西的影响。我依赖互联网获取像这样的信息，以确保自己的安全。我从互联网上学到了很多有用的东西。有时我会和祖父母争论，因为他们不愿意接受变化。我问自己，为什么人们让男孩出去而不让女孩出去，如果晚上没有男孩在外面，女孩就可以在晚上自由安全地行走。他们为什么不教男孩不要做这些事情，而是责怪女孩穿的衣服？听到周围的人这样说，我感到非常恶心。老实说，我不能责怪每个人，因为这是他们从小被教导相信的。我的祖母总是告诉我表妹，她对男孩太友好了。每个人都只关注责怪受害者而不是犯罪的人。当人们轻描淡写地对待这样的问题并总是责怪女性，尤其是她们穿的衣服时，这真是令人作呕和愤怒。在看这个视频时，我有很多话要说，但我不想评论所有内容。