印度强奸问题的真相

 
 
 
@Sakshi.21
immense respect for this guy who has the guts to admit that he was treated differently than his sister. it takes a lot to admit such things on such an open platform.
 
对这位敢于承认自己与姐姐受到不同对待的男士表示极大的尊重，在如此公开的平台上承认这些事情需要很大的勇气。
 
@mimansa26
Here after the RG Kar hospital case and literally nothing changed. This country is becoming more and more unsafe every day, its literally disgusting.
 
自从RG Kar医院事件发生后，实际上没有任何改变。这个国家每天都在变得越来越不安全，真是令人作呕。
 
@Jennyc103
I remember one day I saw my little brother who was around 15-16 years old, sitting with a bunch of older guys who were catcalling girls, he was laughing along with them. I felt soo much anger and ashamed, I went home and at first I wanted to tell our dad but then again our dad’s scolding might not create a huge impact on him. The moment he came home I poured ice cold water on his head and asked him if his head is ok or not that he felt it was okay to even sit with those idiots and laugh along with them when they were harassing those girls. He was still confused and that made me even more angry, and I told him that it is NEVER ok to make women uncomfortable or unsafe with your actions or words. I told him I didn't want to speak to him until he realises his mistake, because I saw him as one those idiots and not my brother. Let’s just say I’ve never seen him do that again, I guess it hit him when his own sister told him that what he did made her uncomfortable even though they were not aimed at her.
 
我记得有一天，我看到我15-16岁的弟弟和一群年纪较大的男孩坐在一起，他们对女孩们吹口哨，而他也跟着笑。我感到非常愤怒和羞愧，回到家后，我本想告诉父亲，但父亲的责骂可能不会对他产生太大的影响。他一回到家，我就往他头上倒了一盆冰水，问他脑子是不是有问题，竟然觉得和那些骚扰女孩的白痴坐在一起笑。他仍然很困惑，这让我更加生气。我告诉他，永远不能用行动或言语让女性感到不舒服或不安全。我告诉他，在他意识到自己的错误之前，我不想和他说话，因为在我眼里，他就是那些白痴之一而不是我的弟弟。可以说，我再也没见过他那样做了。我想当他的亲姐姐告诉他，他的行为让她感到不舒服时，他受到了触动，尽管那些行为并不是针对她的。
 
@rimi3335
Rape is definitely a problem but the biggest problem is how they're treated after being raped.
The thought that a woman's life gets completely destroyed after rape is most problematic.
It's society's duty to help rape victims adjust in the society and not treat them as outcast.
 
强奸绝对是一个问题，但最大的问题是她们在遭受强奸后如何被对待。
认为女性在遭受强奸后生活完全被毁的想法是最成问题的。
社会有责任帮助强奸受害者重新适应社会，而不是将她们视为被排斥的对象。
 
@khushisharma4668
At 13 i was harassed by an auto driver who used to pick me up from my school. I came to home and cried and told everything to my parents. They told me not to tell this thing to anyone and complained in my school. My parents put unbelievable restrictions on me after that incident. I hate them for doing this to me. I felt like i was the wrong person in the situation but i don't know how because i was wearing full clothes neither i was flirting. As i grew i developed many fears within myself. Now, i talk about that incident to many people especially to young girls and all my friends. I came to know that its such a small thing which happened to many girls and they arent even able to voice it out. Public places are actually not safe for women. I just dont know if at any point of time women would feel safe on this planet.
 
13岁时，我被一个经常从学校接我的三轮车司机骚扰。我回到家后哭了，并把一切都告诉了父母，他们让我不要告诉任何人并向学校投诉了这件事。那件事之后，父母对我施加了难以置信的限制，我恨他们这样对我，我觉得自己是那个错的人，但我不明白为什么，因为我穿着得体的衣服，也没有任何轻浮的举动。随着年龄的增长，我内心产生了许多恐惧。现在，我会向很多人，尤其是年轻女孩和朋友们谈论那件事。我发现很多女孩都经历过类似的事情，但她们甚至无法说出来。公共场所对女性来说实际上并不安全，我不知道女性在这个星球上是否会有感到安全的一天。
 
@Study_X_Together
Dear men,
From a girl:
When you look at a girl, its okay to appreciate her beauty, but you must not do it with your hands, eve-teasing isnt okay either.
Just look at her and leave if you absolutely cant bear it.
Please dont drink after 6pm...A few women tend to have nightshifts, or perhaps her father/brother/sister is at the hospital and she must go there all alone/Perhaps she went out in the dark for some other reasons, if you are drunk and out of your mind you might end up hearting her. Please dont drink once the daylight is gone.
Please show off your physical strength by protecting your sisters, not by harassing them...If you protect a woman you become a god for her, otherwise you are simply the cruel product of Kali, a vison of the devil himself.
This is coming from your sister, please stay safe, please be righteous, please protect women when they cant do it themselves.
Lots of love to all my sisters who might have been through hell.
Lots of love to all my brothers who are willing to change and change the society.
 
亲爱的男士们，
以下来自一个女孩的话：
当你看到一个女孩时，欣赏她的美丽是可以的，但你不能用手去触碰她，调戏也是不对的。
如果你实在无法忍受，那就看看她然后离开。
请不要在下午6点后喝酒……有些女性可能需要上夜班，或者她的父亲/兄弟/姐妹在医院，她必须独自前往，或者她因为其他原因在黑暗中外出。如果你喝醉了，失去了理智，你可能会伤害到她。请在太阳下山后不要喝酒。
请通过保护而不是通过骚扰你的姐妹们来展示你的体力……如果你保护一个女人，你会成为她的神，否则你只是迦梨的残酷产物，是魔鬼的化身。
这是来自你的姐妹的请求，请保持安全，请正直，请在女性无法保护自己时保护她们。
向所有可能经历过地狱的姐妹们致以深深的爱。
向所有愿意改变并改变社会的兄弟们致以深深的爱。
 
@philipzerubbabel3583
Every rape got these layers behind it.
    obxtification of women in our movies
    The common role our actresses are offered is to support a man emotionally or to earn his love as her prime goal
    The iniquitous 'item songs'
    Men never told to not stare at a woman rather women are told to dress properly
    Lack of proper sex education
    Prostitution and pornography
    Patriarchy causing men to feel superior
    Alcohol, drugs
    As long as we don't address all of these collectively, we'll only erupt now and then and won't find a solution.
 
每一起强奸案背后都有这些层次： 电影中对女性的物化
女演员通常被赋予的角色是在情感上支持男性或以赢得他的爱为主要目标
不道德的“插曲歌曲”
男性从未被教导不要盯着女性看，而是女性被要求穿着得体
缺乏适当的性教育
卖淫和色情内容
父权制让男性感到优越
酒精和毒品 只要我们不同时解决所有这些问题，我们就会时不时地爆发而找不到解决方案。
 
@Truthislogical
As an Indian, I am deeply concerned about racism, mannerless, terrorism, rape, beggars, scamming, inflation, unemployment, and hygiene in India.
 
作为一名印度人，我对印度的种族主义、无礼行为、恐怖主义、强奸、乞丐、诈骗、通货膨胀、失业和卫生问题深感担忧。
 
@Vardhan789
I love how almost all the video was in black and white symbolizing the seriousness about the issue. And in the final part it turns into colors symbolizing a ray of hope.
 
我喜欢视频几乎全部是黑白的，因为这象征着这个问题的严肃性。而在最后部分，它变成了彩色，象征着希望的曙光。
 
@rk7854
When I was in eighth grade in my school, a debate started between me and one of my favorite teachers regarding good coordination between males and females. I was saying that men and women should be treated equally in our society so that they do not feel shy and lack of confidence in sharing something in front of the opposite gender or asking for help when needed. This debate continued until my teacher said, "पत्नी का ये मजाल कि बो अपने पति को आंख उठा कर देख ले." Then I realized that I am wasting my time.
Now you can understand what kind of mentality even a teacher can have.
 
当我在八年级时，我和我最喜欢的老师之一就男女之间的良好配合展开了辩论。我说，在我们的社会中，男性和女性应该被平等对待，这样他们在异性面前分享某些事情或在需要时寻求帮助时不会感到害羞或缺乏自信。这场辩论一直持续到我的老师说：“妻子怎么敢抬头看她的丈夫。”然后我意识到我在浪费时间。
现在你可以理解了，即使是老师也可能有怎样的心态。
 
@Z_emily
The main problem is that the government is just saying "we will do more to protect girls" and do basically nothing, and the lack of education about sex and telling your kids about it is considered a touchy subject.
 
主要问题是政府只是说“我们会做更多来保护女孩”，但实际上什么都没做，而且关于性的教育和对孩子谈论性被视为一个敏感的话题。
 
@countlitmogaphil392
I don't care if people are pissed over the fact that the 'name' of India is getting ruined because of the publicization of such rape cases. But we have to fix our problems first! We can't avoid or dismiss the situation by saying that it defames India, this is the height of carelessness. Don't care about the foreign nations or their views, the only thing that matters is the safety for all who venture into our homeland, whether it be our sister or a foreigner. We must stand and fight rather than ignore and avoid.
 
我不在乎人们是否因为这种强奸案件的公开化而愤怒，认为印度的“名声”正在被毁。但我们必须先解决我们的问题！我们不能通过说这玷污了印度的名声来回避或忽视这种情况，这是极度的不负责任。不要在乎外国或他们的观点，唯一重要的是所有进入我们国土的人的安全，无论是我们的姐妹还是外国人。我们必须站出来战斗，而不是忽视和回避。
 
@arshadanwar5328
Why aren't media showing this? They are more concerned about how to root discrimination among religions.
Spreading hate will never make India the most secular country.
 
为什么媒体不报道这些？他们更关心如何在宗教之间制造歧视。
传播仇恨永远不会让印度成为最世俗的国家。
 
@ohlookadandelion
I like how the rapists blame the women for wearing revealing clothes and provoking them, but how would they explain the rape of an 8-year-old who doesn't even know what sex is?
And I've seen countless videos of a girl talking about a certain topic and the immature men in the comment section talking about her cleavage, when it has no relation to the video at all. They think they're being funny but they're just proving that they are porn addicted and in reality, they're pathetic. Not only that, even when a girl was wearing a normal shirt, those men still talked about how heavy-chested she was. We are taught that natural things are unnatural.
India needs some solid sex ed otherwise the problem will NEVER be solved. Thank you, sir, for researching and covering such an important topic. This is called a true influencer :)
 
我喜欢强奸犯如何指责女性穿着暴露并激怒他们，但他们如何解释对一个甚至不知道什么是性的8岁女孩的强奸呢？
而且我看过无数女孩谈论某个话题的视频，评论区里那些不成熟的男性却在谈论她的胸部，尽管这与视频内容毫无关系。他们认为自己很有趣，但实际上他们只是在证明自己是色情成瘾者，而且他们很可悲。不仅如此，即使一个女孩穿着普通的衬衫，那些男人仍然在谈论她的胸部有多大。我们被教导自然的事物是不自然的。
印度需要一些扎实的性教育，否则这个问题永远不会得到解决。先生，谢谢你研究并报道了如此重要的话题。这才是真正的影响力者。
 
@bhavya7953
Also a lesson to parents, what goes wrong in their parenting? Their indifference in raising kids based on gender makes a huge impact.
Our Indian parents raise women to be submissive and raise their sons like they're born to rule women with brutality.
That's the root of these problems.
They should teach both empathy towards each other, kindness, humanity, how to act like a human instead of looking who is useful for them in old-age.
Stop raising your sons like insurance in old-age. Raise them both like individual humans. This solves so many problems we face in this society. Think twice what's going wrong? Where it all started. The seed to these problems.
 
这也是对父母的一个教训，他们的教育出了什么问题？他们在抚养孩子时基于性别的漠不关心产生了巨大的影响。
我们的印度父母将女性培养成顺从的人，而将儿子培养成仿佛生来就要用残酷手段统治女性的人。
这是这些问题的根源。
他们应该教导彼此的同理心、善良、人性，如何像人一样行事，而不是看谁在老年时对他们有用。
停止将你的儿子当作老年保险来抚养，要将他们当作独立的个体来抚养，这能解决我们在这个社会中面临的许多问题。仔细想想哪里出了问题？这一切是从哪里开始的？这些问题的种子是从哪里来的？
 
@therealgrimreaper68
People compare rape to crimes like theft and mugging when they don't work the same way, thefts are mostly done by strangers while rapes are mostly done by people the victims trust like a relative, friend, or family friend.
 
人们将强奸与盗窃和抢劫等犯罪相比较，但它们并不相同，盗窃大多由陌生人实施，而强奸大多由受害者信任的人实施，如亲戚、朋友或家庭朋友。
 
@alwayssaanvi
I see people making memes on rape, and sexual harassment and labeling it as "dark humour". It doesn't tell anything about the kind of humorous personality one has, but the cheap mentality and the lack of education one has been given.
 
我看到人们制作关于强奸和性骚扰的段子并将其标记为“黑色幽默”，这并不能说明一个人有什么样的幽默个性，而是说明了一个人廉价的心态和缺乏教育。
 
@AbcdWxyz-c6o
As a man I state, if a woman is a victim of sexual abuse, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. Report it to the police as soon as possible, so that you can get justice. Please.
 
作为一名男性，我声明如果女性是性虐待的受害者，这不是你的错，请尽快向警方报告以便你能获得正义。
 
@hiteshdhawan1
I met a 12-year-old boy who told me that Girls are only meant to sit at home, do makeup and make Roti... while boys are meant to work and become sipahi.
This thought is deep-rooted in all these kids. Who is planting this? When will this society change? I hope I see a developed India before I die.
 
我遇到了一个12岁的男孩，他告诉我，女孩只应该坐在家里，化妆和做Roti……而男孩则应该工作并成为士兵。
这种思想在这些孩子中根深蒂固。是谁在灌输这种思想？这个社会什么时候会改变？我希望在我死之前能看到一个发达的印度。
 
@SoVidushi
I would gladly let the tourism of our country go down if that incentivizes the people in power to make it safer for all women. The safety of our girls is more important than reputation.
 
如果这能激励当权者让所有女性更安全，我会很乐意让我们国家的旅游业下滑。我们女孩的安全比声誉更重要。
 
@nousheenkhan8564
Very well said Mohak bhai. Rape is a heinous crime & it must be stopped. I am a mother of 3 boys & I always taught my boys to respect females, I am doing my bit for a better tomorrow.
 
说得好，Mohak兄弟。强奸是一种令人发指的罪行，必须被制止。我是三个男孩的母亲，我一直教导我的男孩们尊重女性，我在为更美好的明天尽自己的一份力。
 
@thepotatoman9069
The worst part is those people who dismiss the entire problem without a second thought. "Other countries also have this problem" and a thousand more excuses.
The insecurity of our own issues runs deep within many. We just wanna avoid any backlash rather than solving the problem at hand. Until this mentality changes all the problems plaguing India won't go away.
 
最糟糕的是那些毫不犹豫地忽视整个问题的人，他们有“其他国家也有这个问题”以及无数的其他借口。
我们对自己问题的不安全感深深植根于许多人心中。我们只是想避免任何反弹，而不是解决眼前的问题。除非这种心态改变，否则困扰印度的所有问题都不会消失。
 
@avan7ika
KV student from Bangalore here. we have CCTVs in all rooms and corridors, a dedicated team of handpicked students who will complain to the vice principle if a guy and a girl are seen talking alone, two braids with red ribbons mandatory to make us look like a clown because one ponytail is somehow going to give guys a hard on ?? and no nail paint allowed, no jewelry allowed, no khol, if your sunscreen leaves a white imprint on your skin consider yourself dead, you are not allowed to open your collar button at any time. (collar reaches upto the chin and first button is on the neck) and you cannot wax or shave your arms. separate seating rows inside a classroom for boys and girls and we are not allowed to sit with each other. no group project will involve both boys and girls together and you will have to find a same gender person to team up with. i could go on and on forever.
 
我是来自班加罗尔的KV学生。我们所有的房间和走廊都有监控，我们有一支专门挑选的学生团队，如果看到男生和女生单独交谈，他们会向副校长投诉。女生必须扎两条带红丝带的辫子，让我们看起来像小丑，因为一条马尾辫会让男生兴奋？？不允许涂指甲油，不允许戴首饰，不允许涂眼线，如果你的防晒霜在皮肤上留下白色印记，你就完蛋了。任何时候都不允许解开领口的扣子（领子一直延伸到下巴，第一颗扣子在脖子上）。而且你不能给手臂脱毛或剃毛。教室里男生和女生分开坐，不允许坐在一起。没有任何小组项目会让男生和女生一起合作，你必须找一个同性别的伙伴。我可以一直说下去。
 
@KnightViper15
I studied in a co-ed school where everything was segregated. School trips were organized separately for boys and girls, and any interaction between genders was strictly discouraged. This patriarchal tradition continues to be enforced in my old school to this day.
 
我曾在一所男女同校的学校学习，那里的一切都是分开的。学校旅行是男生和女生分开组织的，任何性别之间的互动都被严格禁止。这种父权传统在我以前的学校一直延续到今天。
 
@theultimateshield5133
People who are saying "rape happens in every country India ka naam badnaam kyun kare ho" need a special kind of award.
 
那些说“强奸在每个国家都会发生，为什么要抹黑印度的名声”的人需要一种特别的奖励。
 
@ronakcarpenter9060
Society plays an important role, people will stare at you if you talk to a girl, even in some schools they have separate line for girls and boys how can there be sensitivity
I had a teacher in 10th grade he said, "the more you try to stop something the more it will happen"
He also educate us about sex education, I'm glad I had a teacher like him
 
社会扮演着重要角色，如果你和女孩说话，人们会盯着你看，甚至在一些学校，男生和女生有分开的队伍，怎么可能有敏感性？
我在10年级时有一位老师，他说：“你越是想阻止某事，它就越会发生。”
他还教我们性教育，我很高兴有这样一位老师。
 
@namrata8442
Having worked in peripheral govt hospitals and attending such neglected girls every day, I can conclude for sure that the rape cases we see in India are just the tip of an iceberg, the real number is way more than that. Sometimes 15-16 year old girls will only come with 9 months of pregnancy, and the case would be reported for the first time by the hospital administration. The conditions are pathetic!!
 
在政府附属医院工作并每天照顾这些被忽视的女孩后，我可以肯定地说我们在印度看到的强奸案件只是冰山一角，真实数字远远超过这些。有时15-16岁的女孩会带着9个月的身孕来医院，而案件是由医院管理部门首次报告的。情况真是可悲！！