作为一名富家子弟有哪些劣势？

Adrienne Flowers I grew up a 1% kid in California. Lower edge of 1%, we didn't have a plane or multiple summer homes or anything (see how obnoxious that sounds?) I had a falling out at 19 and ended up homeless, which whacked me in the face with perspective.

我在加利福尼亚长大，属于1%的富裕家庭。在这1%的富裕家庭中，我们能属于底层，没有私人飞机或多个夏日度假屋之类的（听起来是不是很讨厌？）。19岁时，我与家人闹翻，最终无家可归，这让我对生活有了全新的认识。

Disadvantages:

缺点：

Someone always has more, and if you've learned that wealth is your defining feature, that's devastating.

总有人拥有更多，如果你认为财富是你的定义特征，那将是毁灭性的。

You likely grew up around wealth and no idea of your privilege.

你可能在富裕环境中长大，对自己的特权一无所知。

Wealth generally equals beauty (money buys a lot of prettifiers, and rich men marry beautiful women and have pretty babies) and ideals get skewed.

财富通常等同于美丽（金钱可以买来很多修饰品，有钱的男人会娶美丽的女人，并生下漂亮的孩子），而理想则会被扭曲。

Entitlement. Oh gods, the entitlement.

权利。噢，天哪，这种权利感。

Ignorance of boundaries and consequences. Seriously, you can buy your way out of a lot of bad choices.

对界限和后果的无知。说真的，你可以用钱摆脱很多糟糕的选择。

You don't learn how to budget a normal household. When I moved out (at 17), I could calculate compound interest, understood capital gains taxes, could work out points on a mortgage, and knew how to file a 1040 long form to maximize my deductions. I didn't know now much rent I could afford or how to buy groceries to last a week.

你没有学会如何预算一个普通家庭的支出。当我搬出去（17岁时）的时候，我可以计算复利，理解资本利得税，能够计算抵押贷款的积分，并且知道如何填写1040长表以最大化我的扣除额。但当时我并不知道自己能负担多少房租，也不知道如何购买可以维持一周的杂货。

Expectations are high. What do you mean you got into Stanford? Why not Yale? Slacker!

期望值很高。你说你进了斯坦福是什么意思？为什么不是耶鲁？懒鬼！

Family gatherings are weird. Everyone in my family is a beautiful 1%er. I am a plain, chubby chef with a comfortable middle class life. At holidays everyone chatters about the trips they took and new cars and houses and there's flashy jewelry and expensive clothes worn casually, and there I am in worn out jeans and a brand new shirt because all rest have grease stains.

家庭聚会总是很奇怪。我家的每个人都是精英阶层，光鲜亮丽。而我是一个平凡、胖乎乎的厨师，过着舒适的中产阶级生活。每逢节日，大家都会聊起他们去过的旅行、新买的汽车和房子，还有那些随意穿戴的华丽珠宝和昂贵衣物。而我则穿着破旧的牛仔裤和一件崭新的衬衫，因为其他的衣服都沾满了油渍。

Poor little rich girl, right? Yes, there are disadvantages. Yes, some screw you up forever. But honestly? I could write all day and not touch all the benefits. Having been both rich and poor and having settled at a comfortable medium, when the wealthy come looking for sympathy, tell them to suck it.

可怜的小富家女，对吧？是的，有缺点。是的，有些会让你永远搞砸。但说实话？我可以写一整天也说不完所有好处。经历过富有和贫穷，现在处于一个舒适的中间状态，当富人寻求同情时，告诉他们去忍忍吧。

I've known a few women who were maternity nurses and nannies in London for really rich families. eg. in one particular case, each child had their own nanny, and there was a servant that came and asked them each day what special food they would like to be bought for them.

我认识几位在伦敦为非常富有家庭工作的妇产科护士和保姆。例如，在一个特定案例中，每个孩子都有自己的保姆，还有一位仆人每天来询问他们想要买什么特别的食物。

Mostly they said they often felt sorry for those children. Often the parents were working very hard and away from home a lot. Their children were almost another possession to talk about, but not necessarily be involved with on any continual basis.

他们大多表示，他们经常为那些孩子感到难过。通常，父母工作非常努力，经常不在家。他们的孩子几乎成了他们谈论的另一个财产，但未必会持续参与其中。

People need attention, children especially. And they will bond with the people who provide that attention for them. They all said it wasn't uncommon for the child to bond with their nanny. Then, the parent(s) would get jealous, because now their child was turning to someone else for comfort/advice. The parent(s) would fire that nanny. The main support for that child would be gone. A new nanny would show up, and the process would repeat. Except after a time or two, the child becomes jaded. They learn that whoever they have loved either leaves or is distant. They stop trusting and loving, because it's too painful to break too often.

人们需要关注，尤其是孩子。他们会与那些给予他们关注的人建立联系。他们都说，孩子与他们的保姆建立联系并不罕见。然后，父母会感到嫉妒，因为现在他们的孩子转向别人寻求安慰或建议。父母会解雇那个保姆。孩子的主要支持就会消失。一个新的保姆会出现，这个过程会重复。只不过在一两次之后，孩子会变得冷漠。他们学会了他们曾爱过的人要么离开，要么疏远。他们停止信任和爱，因为太过频繁地破碎太痛苦了。

That, IMO, is the greatest sadness. To be in the presence of everything, but in a desert of love and attention.

在我看来，那是最深的悲哀。置身于万物之中，却处于爱与关注的荒漠中。

Anonymous Rich is really vague term. And trying to generalize what are the disadvantage of rich kids are hard.

“富有”是一个非常模糊的术语。并且试图概括富家子弟的劣势是困难的。

Is like asking "What are the advantages/disadvantage of coming from a middle-income family?". Therefore, I can only answer this question based on my person experience.

这就像在问“来自中等收入家庭有什么优势/劣势？”。因此，我只能根据我的个人经历来回答这个问题。

I came from a relatively rich-family from Asia and here some some disadvantage I perceived in my life, especially what I experienced when I was young:

我来自一个相对富裕的亚洲家庭，以下是我在生活中，尤其是年轻时感受到的一些劣势：

Lack the sense of achievement - People talk about being the first college graduate in the family or the happiness they felt when they finally contribute to family's income or earn more than their parents. I don't have any of these.

缺乏成就感——人们谈论成为家中第一个大学毕业生时的感受，或者当他们终于能够为家庭收入做出贡献或收入超过父母时的幸福感。我没有这些经历。

High expectation from family - This really depends on the family but my family have very high expectations on me. I won't say it is un-achievable but it is certainly tough when your family earns around 100 times the average graduate income in my country.

家庭的期望很高 - 这真的取决于家庭，但我的家庭对我有很高的期望。我不会说这是无法实现的，但当你的家庭收入大约是我国家毕业生平均收入的100倍时，这无疑是很艰难的。

Lack of recognition - It is really hard to be recognize by anyone, your parents or your friends. You will always be Mr. XXX's son.

缺乏认可 - 真的很难得到任何人的认可，无论是你的父母还是你的朋友。你永远是XXX先生的儿子。

Halo effect - I read somewhere in Quora after someone became a millionaires, their friends feel that they no longer entitle to humanly complain. Feel sad? You are rich, you have nothing to worry about. This is essentially how your friends respond when you come from a rich family. They view you to be free from earthly worry and live in some hermit kingdom. The last time I check, I am still a human.

光环效应 - 我在Quora上读到，当某人成为百万富翁后，他们的朋友觉得他们不再有资格像普通人那样抱怨。感到难过？你很有钱，你没什么好担心的。这基本上就是当你来自一个富裕家庭时，你的朋友们的反应。他们认为你摆脱了世俗的烦恼，生活在某种隐士王国中。上次我检查时，我依然是人类。

Friends expect you to pay - You are rich, you suppose to pay for everything. Just like what Leonard Kim wrote on What are the downsides to being rich? except you don't have the money, your parents do. If you don't pay, they will think of you being stingy. Unlike being rich as an adult, you need to learn the hard way who your real friends are when you are just going through puberty. The good side is, you learnt quickly (and sadly).

朋友们期待你付账——你有钱，你就应该付所有费用。就像Leonard Kim在《富有的缺点是什么？》中写的那样，只不过你没有钱，你父母有。如果你不付账，他们会认为你吝啬。与成年后富有不同，当你刚刚进入青春期时，你需要艰难地学习谁是你真正的朋友。好的一面是，你学得很快（而且很遗憾）。

Negative perception - Let's be frank, there is a lot of negativity towards 'rich kids'. Maybe there is too much movies out there portraying rich kids being spoiled (e.g.: Malfroy from Harry Potter, rich kids from Secret Service). So when your friends or strangers know you are rich, they automatically assumed you are spoiled or can't live without money.

负面印象 - 坦白说，对于‘富家子弟’存在很多负面看法。可能是有太多电影描绘富家子弟被宠坏的形象（例如：《哈利·波特》中的马尔福，《王牌特工》中的富家子弟）。所以当你的朋友或陌生人知道你很有钱时，他们会自动认为你被宠坏了或者离不开钱。

People make you feel guilty - There are a lot of jealousy out there and they use it to make you feel guilty. "You won't understand because you're from a rich family", "If I have like rich family like you, I won't...". Is like an orphan telling you, "If I just have parents...". What am I suppose to do? I was just born in this family, that's all. I did not rob or kill your family or whatsoever.

人们让你感到内疚——外面有很多嫉妒，他们利用这一点让你感到内疚。“你不会理解的，因为你来自一个富裕的家庭”，“如果我有像你这样的富裕家庭，我就不会……”。就像一个孤儿告诉你，“如果我有父母就好了……”。我该怎么办？我生在这个家庭，仅此而已。我没有抢劫或杀害你的家人，或其他任何事情。

Wrong idea of how money flows in the family - I once had friend who had a friend that married into a rich family. She told me her friend was very disappointed when the family did not just give shower her money or gifted her with expensive stuffs. Her life is no difference compared to a middle-class family. When I heard this, I was not surprised at all. Perhaps she was expecting the rich family to pay them a monthly income just for being their daughter-in-law?

对家庭资金流动的误解——我曾有个朋友，她的朋友嫁给了一个富裕家庭。她告诉我，她的朋友非常失望，因为那个家庭并没有随意给她钱或送她昂贵的物品。她的生活和中产阶级家庭相比并没有太大差别。当我听到这些时，我一点也不感到惊讶。也许她期望这个富裕家庭仅仅因为她是他们的儿媳，就每月给他们发一笔收入？

Disclaimer: These are just my personal experience and please do not generalize to every 'rich-kid'.

免责声明：这些只是我的个人经历，请不要将其泛化到每一个“富家子弟”。

Calen Riggs I was a wealthy kid while living with my parents. It wasn't until leaving the bubble that I realized how much of a disadvantage it has been.

和父母一起生活时，我是个富家子弟。直到离开那个舒适圈，我才意识到这曾经是多么大的劣势。

Expectations - My mother never went to college, neither did my father or stepfather. My father is a minimalist, my stepfather is the opposite. Yet, everyone knew that I was brilliant, yet underachieving because of the lack of motivation. They expect me to graduate from college (being the first on my father's side to do so).

期望——我的母亲从未上过大学，我的父亲和继父也是如此。我的父亲是个极简主义者，而我的继父则恰恰相反。然而，每个人都知道我很聪明，但由于缺乏动力，我未能充分发挥自己的潜力。他们期望我能够大学毕业（成为我父亲这边第一个做到这一点的人）。

Motivation is the disadvantage here. When you are in a wealthy family, you expect life to always be so easy so you just blow off everything. All it really did was destroy many opportunities that others took advantage of. I blew off high school and paid the price.

这里的劣势是动力。当你出生在富裕家庭时，你会期望生活总是如此轻松，以至于你对一切都毫不在意。这实际上只是摧毁了许多别人抓住的机会。我荒废了高中，最终付出了代价。

The perception of reality is a big one here. My mother didn't really care what I did as a child, my stepfather was the one that stepped up. He always warned me what the real world would be like. When you are wealthy, you don’t expect the unknown. I found out the hard way, but I adjusted.

对现实的认知在这里是一个很大的问题。我母亲在我小时候并不真正关心我做了什么，是我的继父挺身而出。他总是警告我现实世界会是什么样子。当你富有的时候，你不会预料到未知。我艰难地发现了这一点，但我适应了。

After all, isn't my generation the “entitlement generation?” Well, for wealthy people, it often is. Most wealthy adults my age forgot the magic of making their own dollar. Some people are exluded, but there is a ton that aren't. I felt entitled, but I started working and have loved making my own path.

毕竟，我们这一代不正是所谓的“特权一代”吗？对于富人来说，确实如此。与我同龄的大多数富有的成年人都忘记了赚取自己第一桶金的神奇。虽然有些人被排除在外，但也有很多人并非如此。我曾感到自己有特权，但当我开始工作后，我热爱于开辟自己的道路。

There is this “bubble” that we often live in. Because of that, we fail to see ourselves in others shoes. When crisis happens to others, we often look away and carry on with our lives. Empathy is severely lacking among our wealthy youth.

我们常常生活在一个‘泡沫’中。正因为如此，我们无法站在他人的立场上看问题。当危机发生在他人身上时，我们常常视而不见，继续自己的生活。在我们富有的年轻人中，同理心严重缺乏。

This is just through my personal experience. Not all wealthy adults are grouped into this.

这只是根据我的个人经验。并非所有富有的成年人都归属于这一类。

Anonymous My first boyfriend was a rich international student from Hong Kong.

我的第一个男朋友是一个来自香港（特区）的富有的国际学生。

He was one of the reasons I started to learn Mandarin and explore East Asian culture.

他是我开始学习普通话并探索东亚文化的原因之一。

Never in my life have a met such a hollow shell of a human looking for the spark of human connection his parents never gave him. No matter how ridiculous his actions were, it was as if a child were committing them and not a young adult. There was something in his soul eternally longing for connection, but left feeling it was out of reach.

在我的一生中，我从未见过如此空洞的外壳般的人，他寻找着父母从未给予他的人性连接的火花。无论他的行为多么荒谬，都像是孩子在行动，而不是一个年轻人。他的灵魂中永远渴望着连接，却总觉得那遥不可及。

I wasn't raised wealthy, but have had firsthand experience with those who were raised wealthy, and I suppose he chose me because I could sympathize with him and speak his language.

我并不是在富裕家庭中长大的，但我曾亲身接触过那些在富裕家庭中长大的人，我想他选择我是因为我能理解他，也能说他的语言。

He are some of the experiences I observed while with him:

以下是我与他在一起时观察到的一些经历：

There were always "friends" around him who clearly felt nothing for him as an individual, but enjoyed having him around to provide them with free things. I would tell my friends "I won't get that, I didn't bring very much money," and they would say "What's the problem? Just leave it on him. We are."

他身边总有一些‘朋友’，这些人显然对他个人毫无感情，但喜欢有他在身边，因为他可以为他们提供免费的东西。我会告诉我的朋友‘我不会买那个，我没带多少钱’，他们会说‘有什么问题？就让他付吧，我们就是这样。’

For whatever reason, his parents were practically non-existent (with the exception of their money), so he was an extremely vulnerable person to predators, particularly financial and social.

无论出于什么原因，他的父母几乎不存在（除了他们的钱），所以他是一个极其容易被掠夺者侵害的人，尤其是在财务和社会方面。

Culturally, he was completely lost.

在文化方面，他完全迷失了。

Before I met him he had been living in Hong Kong and before that Tokyo and previous to that Beijing. His parents either didn't have time to raise him or couldn't tolerate raising him, so they sent him to live with his Grandparents In Japan when he was tweleve (he is half Japanese). By the time I met him, he had already been living in the U.S. for 3 years. There were other international students where we went to school- plenty- but he had no niche, no sense of groundedness, or cultural identity. He was the son of wealth.

在遇到他之前，他曾在香港（特区）生活，更早之前是东京，再之前是北京。他的父母要么没有时间抚养他，要么无法忍受抚养他，所以在他十二岁时，他们把他送到日本的祖父母那里（他有一半日本血统）。到我遇到他时，他已经在美国生活了三年。我们学校有很多其他国际学生，但他没有自己的小圈子，没有归属感，也没有文化认同感。他是富家子弟。

That possessed him more than any nationality.

那比任何国籍都更占据了他的心。

Very few people on earth he felt he could genuinely relate to.

他感到在这个世界上没有几个人能真正理解他。

This speaks for itself.

这不言自明。

I've noticed (with more than just him) that wealthy parents often expect their children to be hyper dependent or hyper independent. Neither situation tends to cultivate well adjusted adults. As a result, some often aren't well adjusted and/or have blatant character flaws.

我注意到（不仅仅是他），富有的父母常常期望他们的孩子要么极度依赖，要么极度独立。这两种情况往往都不会培养出适应良好的成年人。因此，有些人往往不能很好地适应社会，或者有明显的性格缺陷。

In the end, I genuinely felt sorry for him because I couldn't imagine the road he was going down taking him to happiness or even prosperity.

最后，我真的为他感到难过，因为我无法想象他所走的道路能带给他幸福，甚至是成功。

I tend to think that these disadvantages aren't prent among all "rich kids" but more common to that group.

我倾向于认为这些缺点并非在所有“富二代”中普遍存在，而是在这个群体中更为常见。

Anonymous My family is not very rich, maybe upper middle class in the U.S. economy (I'm from a Eurasian country.)

我的家庭并不非常富裕，可能在美国经济中属于中上阶层（我来自一个欧亚国家。）

My dad is a self made men, even though his father was wealthy. He was not spoiled and he did his best not to spoil us either.

我爸爸是一个白手起家的人，尽管他的父亲很富有。他没有被宠坏，也尽力不宠坏我们。

I'm sick of people assuming that I always have so much money to waste on them. I never ask my dad for money more than I need. And I can survive with very little, I'm a pro. (FYI, I'm an international student in the U.S., and I don't make any money myself)

我受够了人们总是以为我有很多钱可以随便花在他们身上。我从不向我父亲要超过我需要的钱。而且我可以靠很少的钱生存，我是专家。（顺便说一下，我是美国的国际学生，我自己不赚钱。）

I had "friends" stealing from me. When I was in elementary/middle/high school, I'd always be the target in the class to steal from. I don't know how many of my wallets went missing during the breaks. And sometimes even bigger things. Like my "bff" stole my brand new phone. And many other examples that would fill at least a few pages.

我曾被“朋友”偷窃。在小学/初中/高中时，我总是班上被偷的目标。我不知道在课间休息时，我丢失了多少个钱包。有时甚至更贵重的东西。比如我的“最好的朋友”偷了我的全新手机。还有很多其他例子，至少能填满几页纸。

People assume that I'm just a materialistic b*****. I don't own a bag that cost me more than $50. I did buy people some expensive things because I love them, but I'll never use anything that has a brand logo on it. I'm using a 2,5 years old phone that I charge 3 times a day. And then, I get judged by people that buy every single new Iphone, when they clearly cannot afford. (Minimum wage in my country for a month is $450; while, an Iphone 6s costs at least $1500)

人们以为我只是一个物质主义的婊子。我没有一个包是花了超过50美元买的。我确实买了一些昂贵的东西给别人，因为我爱他们，但我永远不会使用任何带有品牌标志的东西。我用的是一部已经用了两年半的手机，每天要充三次电。然后，我被那些买每一部新iPhone的人评判，而他们明显买不起。（在我的国家，一个月的最低工资是450美元；而一部iPhone 6s至少要1500美元。）

People underestimate my achievements. Yes of course my dad paid for my straight A's. Duh. For some reason people think that I must be successful at school because my dad has money. I don't understand what kind of logic it is. I did not go to private schools, I got my education in public schools, I didn't get tutored or anything like that. I have never asked anyone for help even to my parents, even when I was in elementary school. This is probably what irritates me the most. Why is it so hard to believe that I'm just smart? Why I have to be a stupid rich girl? And why are you blaming me for your stupidity?

人们低估了我的成就。是的，当然是我爸爸付钱让我全科都得A的。废话。不知为何，人们认为我爸爸有钱，我就一定在学校很成功。我不明白这是什么逻辑。我没有去私立学校，我在公立学校接受教育，我没有接受过辅导或任何类似的东西。我从未向任何人寻求过帮助，甚至包括我的父母，即使是在我上小学的时候。这可能就是最让我恼火的地方。为什么就这么难相信我只是聪明？为什么我必须是一个愚蠢的富家女？为什么你要因为你的愚蠢而责备我？

People assume that I'm shallow and uneducated. I'm not even commenting on this one. This post already seems like I'm just bragging on how smart I'm lol

人们认为我肤浅且没受过教育。我甚至不对此发表评论。这条帖子已经让人觉得我好像只是在吹嘘自己有多聪明，哈哈。

I acted poor till I was around 20. Mostly did not work, but I have tried very hard.

我一直装穷到20岁左右。大多时候没有工作，但我已经非常努力了。

F.ex: When my dad dropped me to the school, I would tell him to stop a block earlier, so people wouldn't see his car.

例如：当我爸爸送我去学校时，我会让他在一个街区前停车，这样人们就看不到他的车了。

Whenever someone asked me the price of something I have, I'd tell them the half. I actually still do this often. Like my friends think they can find a flight ticket to the U.S. as cheap as $500. Hahaha no.

每当有人问我某样东西的价格时，我就会告诉他们一半的价格。实际上我现在还经常这样做。就像我的朋友们认为他们能找到低至500美元的飞往美国的机票。哈哈哈，不可能。

When I was a teen, my first boyfriend (he was from a really poor and kinda f*ed up family ) that I was dating for 8 months realized that I had way more money than him. (Thanks to my sister) And he was just changed after. He started to judge my behaviors, make sarcastic comments, and use that typical sentence "You wouldn't understand bla bla" more than the bareable amount. And as you can imagine, I started paying everything when we went out (before, it was always 'pay for yourself'. I never made him pay for me) He almost hated me for not being poor. Then, cheated. I didn't care about him much, but I think it's a good example.

当我还是个青少年时，我的第一个男朋友（他来自一个非常贫困且有些混乱的家庭）和我交往了8个月后，意识到我比他有钱得多（多亏了我姐姐）。然后他就变了。他开始评判我的行为，说讽刺的话，并且频繁使用那句典型的话‘你不会明白的，等等’，多到让人难以忍受。正如你所想象的，我们出去时我开始付所有的钱（以前是‘各付各的’，我从未让他为我付钱）。他几乎因为我不贫穷而恨我。然后，他出轨了。我并不太在乎他，但我认为这是一个很好的例子。

When I was a kid, I would judge my dad for being rude. I'd hate him for that. He is not a bad person, but he is very rude. I rarely heard him saying thanks or please. He doesn't ask, he orders. He doesn't care who he is talking to. When I was 20-21, I realized that he has a reason to do so. Some just freaking deserve it.

当我还是个孩子的时候，我会因为爸爸的粗鲁而评判他。我因此而讨厌他。他并不是一个坏人，但他非常粗鲁。我很少听到他说“谢谢”或“请”。他不是请求，而是命令。他不关心他在跟谁说话。当我20-21岁的时候，我意识到他这样做是有原因的。有些人就是活该。

I'm sick of being treated like an ignorant, shallow, spoiled, daddy's little girl. Not only my dad have never called me 'my little girl' even ones, I'm not even that rich.

我厌倦了被当作一个无知、肤浅、被宠坏的爸爸的小女孩。不仅我爸爸从未叫过我“我的小女孩”，我也没那么有钱。

So here is the disadvantages of being richer: I am rude, and I hate myself for that, but I have no intention to change it because I hate everyone else more. I have trust issues, and I cannot find real friends. I was diagnosed with major depression when I was 15, and currently it's just chronic (23). Also, yea my social skills suck, and as soon as I graduate, it'll hack me hard and I'll probably be never very successful in the real world.

这就是变得更富有的缺点：我变得粗鲁，我为此讨厌自己，但我无意改变，因为我更讨厌其他所有人。我有信任问题，找不到真正的朋友。我在15岁时被诊断出重度抑郁症，现在它只是慢性病（23岁）。是的，我的社交能力很差，一旦我毕业，这会严重打击我，我可能在现实世界中永远不会非常成功。

Timothy Chiu I certainly wasn't wealthy growing up, but I got accepted and went to an Ivy League college, so about half my friends were wealthy and the other half were like myself (on financial aid and scholarships).

我成长过程中当然并不富有，但我被录取并进入了一所常春藤盟校，所以大约一半的朋友都很富有，而另一半则和我一样（靠助学金和奖学金生活）。

I remember being invited over to a friend's house for dinner, he lived locally in the suburbs of Philadelphia, an area referred to as "the Main Line", a very well-to-do suburb. We drove in the car together around his parent's neighborhood, and we got into a discussion about what it was like to grow up in that neighborhood.

我记得被邀请去一个朋友家吃饭，他住在费城郊区的本地，一个被称为“主线”的地区，这是一个非常富裕的郊区。我们一起开车在他父母的社区转悠，并讨论了在那个社区长大是什么感觉。

As an person of Asian descent, I said to him, I bet you never had any friends who were African American or Asian growing up. His response, was "Of course, we had an African American family living right behind us and their kids played with us." He then proceeded to point out a really small home on side of the road, and continued to explain to me that it was the servants quarters for the main home and the kids were kids of the servants in the home (his home). His response and the following conversation were about how he thought they were just like him, and their life was no different than his.

作为一个亚洲人，我对他说，我打赌你从小到大从来没有非裔美国人或亚洲朋友。他回答说：“当然有，我们家后面就住着一个非裔美国人家庭，他们的孩子和我们一起玩。”然后他指着路边一个非常小的房子，继续向我解释说那是主屋的仆人房，那些孩子是主屋仆人的孩子（也就是他家的仆人）。他的回答以及接下来的对话都是关于他认为他们和他一样，他们的生活和他没什么不同。

To me that was the biggest disadvantage to being a rich kid. Having a completely warped view of the world, and not understanding that not everyone else got to grow up and have the same experience as the wealthy.

对我来说，这是作为一个富家子弟最大的缺点。对世界有着完全扭曲的看法，并且不理解并不是每个人都能够在成长过程中拥有与富人相同的经历。

Both my parents grew up rich but could never make it on their own. I've seen first hand what difficulties they've faced, whether or not they realize it themselves.

我的父母都是在富裕的环境中长大，但他们从未能独立成功。我亲眼目睹了他们所面临的困难，不管他们自己是否意识到了这一点。

My parents come from rich families. On my dad's side his grandfather worked hard to build an empire. My mum is from very old money.

我的父母都来自富裕家庭。在我父亲这边，他的祖父努力工作建立了一个帝国。我的母亲则来自历史悠久的豪门。

Both my parents are university educated, but they never learned how to work hard. Everything was always handed to them, and they were constantly told they could do anything and the world was their oyster. Not true.

我的父母都受过大学教育，但他们从未学会如何努力工作。一切总是被送到他们手中，他们一直被告诉可以做任何事情，世界是他们的舞台。但事实并非如此。

My parents live off of their family wealth and earn next to nothing on their own, but if you ask them they will tell you they work incredibly hard. Their family money affords them a comfortable upper middle class life, but it's a life of a pauper if you ask my mum. Their perspective of hard work and success is greatly skewed. They see their relatives and childhood friends owning private planes, jetting off on fancy vacations every 4 months and winning oscars (I kid you not) and they think they've failed in life. They aren't happy with life. It makes me so sad that they don't see what they have in front of them.

我的父母依靠家族财富生活，自己几乎不赚钱，但如果你问他们，他们会告诉你他们工作非常努力。他们的家族财富让他们过上了舒适的中上阶层生活，但如果你问我妈妈，她会说这是穷人的生活。他们对努力工作与成功的看法大为扭曲。他们看到亲戚和儿时的朋友拥有私人飞机，每四个月就飞去豪华度假，甚至赢得奥斯卡奖（我没开玩笑），然后就觉得自己人生失败了。他们对生活不满意。看到他们看不到眼前的一切，我感到非常难过。

Even daily things don't come easy to them. My mum cannot cook or clean, because growing up she never had to. She was bred to be arm candy, and that's it. Her education was something that was expected of her, but she was never expected to actually use it. Growing up our house was always an absolute mess but she always complained about how hard she works.

即使是日常琐事对他们来说也不容易。我妈妈既不会做饭也不会打扫卫生，因为她从小到大从未需要做这些。她被培养成装饰品，仅此而已。她的教育是她的期望之一，但她从未被期望真正运用它。我们成长的过程中，家里总是一片混乱，但她总是抱怨自己工作有多辛苦。

Having said all of this, I love my parents to bits. They may not realize the comfortable life we live, but I thank them for it anyways. They've instilled in me the importance of working hard, because they realize it is something they lack. And they've taught me to be fiercely independent, because they could never be.

说了这么多，我非常爱我的父母。他们可能没有意识到我们生活的舒适，但我仍然为此感谢他们。他们向我灌输了努力工作的重要性，因为他们意识到这是他们所缺乏的。他们还教会了我要极度独立，因为他们永远无法做到。

All of these stories are beautifully written, but I felt like I need to share my story. My family were immigrants from a Middle Eastern (central Asia) country which you may call 2nd world. I have seen both wealth and poverty equally yet I am only 25.

所有这些故事都写得非常优美，但我觉得我也需要分享我的故事。我的家人是来自一个中东（中亚）国家的移民，你可能称之为第二世界。我年仅25岁，却已经平等地见证了财富与贫穷。

Growing up rich in my home country, I went to private International school, I had a private tutor on 4 to 5 different subjects. Unlike western culture, the wealthy people from my home country focus mostly on educating their children to the highest standard. Education and achievements are very important from young age as early as 5 years old, I feel like the American kids having it very easy and relaxed lifestyle. We ate food with foreign brands particularly American and some German products. I wore mostly designer clothing, we travelled 3 to 4 times a year. My family had a farm, a mansion in the city, lot’s of land and a villa. We were four children and I am the youngest one in the family. I would say I had a great childhood and I was considered to be on the top of 10% until my family got bankrupt.

在我的祖国，我成长在一个富裕的家庭，上的是私立国际学校，有私人家教辅导4到5门不同的学科。与西方文化不同，我祖国的富人主要专注于为孩子提供最高标准的教育。从五岁起，教育和成就就非常重要，我觉得美国孩子的生活非常轻松和悠闲。我们吃的是外国品牌的食品，特别是美国和德国产品。我穿的主要是设计师品牌的衣服，每年旅行3到4次。我的家庭有一个农场、一栋城市豪宅、大量土地和一座别墅。我们有四个孩子，我是家里最小的。可以说我有个美好的童年，并且被认为是前10%的顶尖者，直到我的家庭破产。

Where I come from things work heavely on connections and who you know, unfortunately many could not see my father’s succes in his work, so they had to destruct his wealth and his family, believe me it’s very common. My family started looking at various options to immigrate abroad for a better future for all of us. After selling everything into cash, our wealth was down to half a million Dollar, when we did the currency exchange. We moved abroad, the only possible way to move out of the country was to become political refugees to gain citizenship in the host country, there my family became political refugees.

我来自一个地方，那里的事情很大程度上依赖于关系和你认识的人。不幸的是，许多人看不到我父亲在工作中的成功，所以他们不得不摧毁他的财富和他的家庭，相信我，这非常常见。我的家人开始考虑各种移民国外的选择，以期为我们的未来谋求更好的发展。把一切都变现后，我们的财富只剩下五十万美元，当我们进行货币兑换时。我们搬到了国外，离开那个国家的唯一可能方式就是成为政治难民，以在接收国获得公民身份，在那里我的家人成为了政治难民。

My mother never had worked in her life, but she had to start cleaning restaurants to make ends meet. Most of our wealth was spent on education for school tuition fees and my sister’s university fees. I went to school with children mostly from extreme poor families, many with single parents. Some days we did not have teachers, some days we did, my siblings helped me with maths and physics due not having enough teachers to meet the demand. The first 4 years of our immigration was pure hell, we lived in a neighbourhood of a total chaos, gunshots after midnight, and constant rape and violence in the neighbourhood. We experienced war and serious crimes, it was intense especially growing up as a teenager.

我母亲一生从未工作过，但为了维持生计，她不得不开始清洁餐馆。我们的大部分财富都花在了教育上，包括学校的学费和我姐姐的大学费用。我上的学校大多是来自极度贫困家庭的孩子，许多是单亲家庭。有些日子我们没有老师，有些日子有，由于没有足够的老师来满足需求，我的兄弟姐妹帮助我学习数学和物理。我们移民的前四年简直是地狱，我们住在一个完全混乱的社区，半夜后常有枪声，社区里不断发生强奸和暴力。我们经历了战争和严重的犯罪，尤其是在青少年时期成长时，这种经历非常紧张。

Since I lived in a total wealthy neighbourhood and a low income neighbourhood, I could totally see the transition and the contrast. It’s been 15 years since my family have immigrated. My sister is a doctor now, my brother has it’s ow company and one is having his own restaurant and I recently graduated with a master from a well known university. By the time I was entering college, my family fund was zero, but I managed to get a scholarship. This year both me and my siblings bought a house for our parents, it’s not a mansion but it’s a house in a good neighbourhood, this was the only way to repay our parents hard work, they sacrifised everything for us to have a better life, to me that’s the most incredible wealth any parent could contribute to it’s children.

因为我曾经住在一个非常富裕的社区和一个低收入社区，所以我能够完全看到这种转变和对比。自从我们家移民以来已经15年了。我姐姐现在是医生，我哥哥开了一家公司，还有一个兄弟开了自己的餐厅，而我最近刚从一所知名大学毕业，获得了硕士学位。当我进入大学时，我家的资金为零，但我设法获得了奖学金。今年，我和兄弟姐妹们为父母买了一栋房子，虽然不是豪宅，但位于一个好的社区，这是我们唯一能回报父母辛勤工作的方式，他们为我们牺牲了一切，让我们过上更好的生活，对我来说，这是任何父母能为孩子提供的最不可思议的财富。

I hope, I gave you a better clarity of what’s it like to be a rich kid verses poor kid. I have experienced both. They are both equally bitter, however, I found the real humanity and real friends while I was growing up poor. Hope you learn something from this.

我希望，我让你更清楚地了解了富家子弟和穷孩子的生活是怎样的。我两者都经历过。它们都同样苦涩，然而，我在贫穷的成长过程中找到了真正的人性和真正的朋友。希望你能从中有所领悟。

Fred Landis Lets start by admitting that envy is one of the most powerful forces in the world.

让我们首先承认，嫉妒是世界上最强大的力量之一。

Reducing it to obxtive real disadvantages, these exist in some countries much more than in others.

将其简化为客观的实际劣势，这些劣势在某些国家比其他国家要严重得多。

In most of the developing world the real advantages of being a rich kid completely outweigh any imagined psychological disadvantage: you are safe from crime, you have a world class education and good medical care. The others do not. If huge tracts of land and factories and aristocratic status is involved, it is harder for the rich kid to completely screw up.

在大多数发展中国家，成为富家子弟的实际优势远超过任何想象中的心理劣势：你可以远离犯罪，接受世界一流的教育和良好的医疗护理。而其他人则没有这些。如果涉及大片土地、工厂和贵族身份，富家子弟完全搞砸的可能性就更小。

In places like the US and the USSR the up and down elevator move very fast.

在美国和苏联等地，升降电梯运行得非常快。

If a rich kid took his status for granted or got addicted to drugs or did poorly in college he could loose everything.

如果一个富二代把他的地位视为理所当然，或者沉迷于毒品，或者在大学表现不佳，他可能会失去一切。

At one time in Brazil,Colombia and Mexico there was a large kidnapping industry which definitely took the fun out of being a rich kid.

在巴西、哥伦比亚和墨西哥，曾经有一个大规模的绑架产业，这无疑让做一个富家子弟失去了乐趣。

A 16 year old teen girl coming from a rich family. Ultra-rich family roots.

一位16岁的少女，来自一个富裕家庭，家族极其富有。

I heard from my parents that we were the descendants of the awadh rulers.

我听父母说我们是阿瓦德统治者的后裔。

What do you expect her to act like?

你期望她如何表现？

(So this is my first anonymous answer after being active on quora for three years.)

所以这是我在Quora活跃三年后的第一个匿名回答。

Friends think you are spoiled. Not every rich teen boozes in hookah parlour or sleep overs. Moreover my family is strict on arrange marriage rule.

朋友们认为你被宠坏了。并不是每个富有的青少年都会在水烟馆喝酒或在外过夜。而且，我的家庭对包办婚姻的规定非常严格。

Boys are always after me. Not only for cash inflow I can provide but also for the hourglass figure I have.( heriditary, I don’t like gyming too much)

男孩们总是追求我。不仅是因为我能提供资金流入，还因为我的沙漏型身材。（这是遗传的，我不太喜欢去健身房。）

Relatives are always showing off. Family wedding become runway for my cousins.

亲戚们总是在炫耀。家庭婚礼成了我表兄弟姐妹的秀场。

I don’t have boy friends. Shocked aren’t you? My house is at the good location with tutions and school nearby for parent to track my advances.( pure they want me to be)

我没有男朋友。你很惊讶吧？我的房子位置很好，附近有补习班和学校，方便父母监督我的进展。（他们希望我保持纯洁）

Beauty is considered above brains as friends think richie kids are only physically attractive. I think I am a face palm on them.( Computer Science in plus two)

颜值被认为比智商更重要，因为朋友们认为有钱人家的孩子只是外表吸引人。我觉得我对他们来说是个尴尬的存在。（计算机科学在高中阶段）

Lastly I would tell all of you. Please don’t think an affluent family’s kid is always hooking up.

最后我想告诉所有人，请不要认为富裕家庭的孩子总是在约会。

Anonymous I'm 17 and my father is a millionair.

我17岁，我父亲是百万富翁。

I'm writing this answer from latest iphone.

我正在用最新的iPhone写这个回答。

I also own samsung s20 ultra.

我也拥有三星S20 Ultra。

I'm not good at studies.

我不擅长学习。

Now, disadvantages;

现在，缺点；

Every girl want to be your girlfriend because of your money and not whom you are..it's really difficult to find someone who really love you.

每个女孩都想成为你的女朋友，因为你的钱，而不是因为你这个人。真的很难找到一个真正爱你的人。

Parents don't have time I haven't had quality time with my parents yet…still I bielive that they love me.

父母没有时间，我还没有和父母度过美好的时光……但我仍然相信他们爱我。

Friends look upon your money…they don't want to share bills they want you to pay for all expenses.

朋友们盯着你的钱……他们不想分摊账单，而是希望你来支付所有费用。

Even if you want to study people discourage you by saying that your father is really rich you don't need to do job.

即使你想学习，人们也会通过说你父亲真的很富有，你不需要工作来劝阻你。

We do have struggle like we don't have anyone to tell our secret but everyone thinks that my life is super enjoyble.

我们确实有挣扎，比如没有人可以倾诉我们的秘密，但每个人都认为我的生活非常愉快。

You are not treated normally which most of us don't want.

你没有被正常对待，这是我们大多数人不希望的。

Igor Sushko Funny question. However, it's not all good just because you were born rich. Just look at the "fuerdai" or second generation noveau riche in China. It's an issue especially if the parents don't take care to properly raise their children or pay attention.

有趣的问题。然而，仅仅因为生来富有并不意味着一切都会好。只要看看中国的“富二代”或新贵的第二代就知道了。如果父母不注意好好抚养孩子或关注他们，这尤其是个问题。

I would definitely make sure you know what you're doing if you have a kid and also have a lot of wealth they will inherit. Just look at Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, they are pledging away their fortunes to charity. It is not simply handed down to their children. Extremely important as the children need to know how to make it themselves - and often to appreciate how hard their parents actually worked to get where they were.

如果你有孩子并且拥有大量他们将要继承的财富，我一定会确保你知道自己在做什么。就像比尔·盖茨和马克·扎克伯格，他们正在将自己的财富捐赠给慈善机构，而不是简单地将财富传给他们的孩子。这是极其重要的，因为孩子们需要知道如何自己创造财富，并且往往要感激父母为取得成就所付出的辛勤努力。

Anonymous I wouldn't say that I'm a "rich kid" but I'm definitely upper middle class.

我不会说我是“富家子弟”，但我绝对属于中上阶层。

Probably the biggest disadvantage was that my Dad was never really home since he was usually working. I didn't really mind it when I was younger, but I realized that I wasted a bunch of time entertaining myself (video games/television) instead of doing anything constructive. With no parental supervision, I never really learned anything about discipline and hard work until I was about 21 years old (I'm 22 now). Nor did I know anything about how difficult and draining life can be.

可能最大的缺点是我爸爸因为工作几乎从不在家。我小时候并不在意，但后来意识到我浪费了很多时间在娱乐上（如玩电子游戏和看电视），而不是做任何有建设性的事情。在没有父母监督的情况下，直到我大约21岁（我现在22岁）之前，我对纪律和努力工作一无所知。我也不知道生活有多么艰难和令人疲惫。

Also, as another anonymous posted commented, no parental supervision + lots of disposable income and free time = heavy drug use.

此外，正如另一位匿名评论者所说，没有父母的监督 + 大量的可支配收入和空闲时间 = 严重的毒品使用。

You cannot experience happiness without an experience sadness.

没有悲伤的经历，就无法体验快乐。

You cannot experience comfort without an experience of discomfort.

没有经历过不适，就无法体验到舒适。

You cannot experience triumph without experience of adversity and hard work.

没有经历过逆境和努力，就无法体验到胜利。

You cannot experience wealth without an experience of poverty or mediocrity.

你无法体验财富，除非你经历过贫穷或平庸。

Rich kids are not able to fully experience the luxury of being rich simply because this was the default experience they got. They never experienced any other financial status, so they will forever take wealth for granted and are unable to enjoy the wealth like that of a poor person experiencing it. That's just how humans are wired, no matter how conscious a rich kid is of the aforementioned fact, they can never value it from the poor man's standpoint.

富家子弟无法完全体验到富有的奢侈，因为这是他们默认的经历。他们从未经历过其他的经济状况，因此他们将永远把财富视为理所当然，无法像穷人那样享受财富。这就是人类的本质，无论富家子弟多么意识到上述事实，他们永远无法从穷人的角度来珍视它。