哪种事情肯定能毁掉你的一辈子?
What is a sure way of fucking up your life?译文简介
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What is a sure way of fucking up your life?
哪种事情肯定能毁掉你的一辈子?
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Telling yourself that you can't do any better. It will become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
告诉你自己你做不到更好了。这会成为自我实现的预言。
“Which direction does a tree fall?”
“树会朝哪个方向倒下?”
“呃……往下?”
“树只会朝它倾斜的方向倒下。小心你所倾斜的方向。”
The conclusions we come to about ourselves, become the limit of our potential.
我们对我们自己所下的结论,就会成为我们潜力的限制。
Great answer, I’ve seen this happen with so many people and it really can apply to almost everyone.
非常好的答案,我在很多人身上都见过这种事情发生,这真的对几乎每一个人都适用。
How do I avoid this when so far I fail at everything I try?
可是到目前为止我尝试过的每一件事都失败了,我该怎么避免这种想法?
Keep failing until you don’t. You only really fail if you don’t get back up
不断失败,直到你不再失败。只有你不敢再站起来的那一刻,你才是真正的失败了。
Maybe those failures lead you to something very significant, you never know. Be open to possibilities. And things might not be really as bad as you think they’re.
或许这些失败会给你带来非常重要的东西呢,这又不好说。对于可能性保持开放的态度。并且事情或许并没有你想的那么糟糕呢。
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Getting into credit card debt early.
太早欠下信用卡债务。
Even worse when your mother applies for credit cards in your name when you turn 21, maxes them all out, and leaves you with thousands of dollars worth of debt before you even know how to be an adult.
更糟糕的是你妈妈在你21岁那年以你的名义把你的信用卡全都透支掉,然后在你学会怎么当个大人之前给你的身上留下几千几万的债务。
Damn I'm sorry. Some people suck so much
妈耶我很抱歉。有的人就是这么烂。
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Indeed. That, along with never being taught how to manage money made my 20s and early 30s very difficult. She wasn’t a good mother. But she got her act together and is a pretty good grandma though.
没错。此外我还不知道怎么管理我的钱,所以我的20岁和30岁前半都过得非常揪心。她不是一个好母亲。但她最后还是改过自新,现在已经变成一个很好的奶奶了。
You were the beta test, grandkids are the production run
你只是测试版,孙子孙女才是正式版。
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I went to college on full scholarship. Found out many years later my dad had taken out student loans in my name to pay for a move and I had gone into default. $10,000. With interest and penalties I just recently paid them all off at age 46.
我全奖读的大学。很多年之后才发现我爸爸以我的名义借了学生贷用来搬家,把我弄失信了。一万美元。算上利息和罚款,我46岁这年才刚刚全都还干净。
Jesus Christ. And there's no law to sue her for credit card fraud? I mean surely you can threaten to sue the credit card company for not carrying out appropriate identification???
我的天哪。然后还没有法律可以起诉她进行信用卡诈骗吗?说真的你肯定可以起诉信用卡公司没有进行身份认证吧?
这听起来实在是太可怕了。
I probably could have. But I still lived under her roof at the time. It was a shitty situation and crippled me financially for years. It’s water under the bridge and she’s a much better person now than she used to be. We got past it for the most part but I still have weird feelings towards her. I still don’t trust her.
我或许本来可以的。但是当时我还要靠她过日子。当时的情况很糟糕,我的财政状况有好几年都揭不开锅。但那都是过去的事情了,现在的她比之前好多了。总地来说我们已经翻篇了,虽然我对她仍然有一点奇怪的感受。我还是不信任她。
编辑:我应该说一下,那是15年前的事情了。
Actually, the worst time to get into debt when you're in your 50s. You go bankrupt, get reset to zero after 7 years or whatever, and then you'll never build wealth again by the time you retire.
事实上,人生中最不适合破产的时间段是50多岁的时候,你破产了,七年或者几年之后归零,然后等到你退休,你就再也不可能重新创造那份财富了。
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最好就不要破产,但就算不得不破产,也最好在二十多岁的时候这么做。
Declared bankruptcy at 23. Had over 40k in credit card debt. Took years to rebuild my credit.
23岁那年宣布破产了。信用卡欠了四万多。花了好几年重建我的信用。
Succumbing to anger while under the influence.
醉酒之后被愤怒控制身体。
Angry drunk fights manslaughter charges
愤怒的酒后斗殴=谋杀罪
Ya know I didn't even think about this because my head was up my own ass, but that's actually how a classmate of mine died.
这一点我连想都不用想你们懂吧,因为我自己醉了会把脑袋贴到屁股上,但我的一个同学还真就是这么死的。
先是开枪打了另一个人,然后开枪打了他自己。
100% heavy drinking can ruin lives in one night. If youre going to drink learn your limits, set your limits and drink water.
没错,喝大酒只需要一晚上就能毁掉你的一生。如果你真的要喝酒,那就弄明白你的酒量,把你的酒量定好,多了就喝水。
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Heroin, meth and crack
海洛因,冰毒和可卡因
Thank god I’m only addicted to the first 2!
谢天谢地,我只染上了前两个!
I was addicted to crack. That time in my life as far as the timeline goes was one big blur so I'm not sure how long I was addicted but I want to say 5 years.
我曾经染上过可卡因。我生命中的那段时间就像是一片模糊,我不确定自己染上了多长时间,我想说大概是五年。
那并不像是电影里一样,我并没有每天都吸,有时候我可能过几个星期吸一次,或者一个月吸一次。但是每次吸了之后,我都得让这种快感继续下去,所以要花很多钱,去我的毒贩那里回购很多次。
我能正常工作,也能保持自己的职业生涯,但是这非常困难,我的精神和身体付出了很严重的代价。有时候我通宵吸毒,第二天去工作。reddit上有个人说过,“一个瘾君子在任何时间都会很清楚自己身上有多少钱。”这太真实了,因为我永远缺钱。
我前任在和我结婚之后,也向我透露她有可卡因的毒瘾。我试过一切手段让她戒掉,最后我试着跟她一起吸,想通过和她一起染上毒瘾来让她戒掉毒瘾。真他妈大错特错。
至少8年前她离开了我,此后我再也没吸过毒。她天天都吸,家里一直都揭不开锅,也没法保持稳定的工作。
而我的财政状况越来越好,现在我可以做昂贵有趣的事情,能供孩子上大学,也能还清我的所有债务。
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然而,那种对可卡因的渴望是永远不会结束的。你尝试过了,它就永远存在。现在我仍然会把第一次吸毒时的那种快感浪漫化。有时候,当然最近不会了,我做梦会梦到,醒来之后我还会嗨几秒。
而且我也没法忘掉我自己曾经是多么烂的一个人,我曾经过了怎样差劲的生活,我本可以拥有什么东西,我所扔掉的那些永远都拿不回来。哪怕到了今天,我还会怀念那个8年前我本可以成为的人,它对我的伤害就像是昨天才发生一样强烈。
我把这条放在这里,因为我在真实生活中没人能聊这些事情,所以我只能偶尔写一写。
or any abuse substance, had a friend ruining his life with alcohol,
任何物质的滥用都一样,我有个朋友就是喝酒把自己喝完了
前途很好,是我认识的最聪明的人之一,生物制药的博士,辉瑞和各种大企业都在向他递出疯狂的合同,有个可爱的妻子和两个孩子
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他把这一切冲进了下水道
That's my story....
我就是这样的……
高功能性酗酒者……曾经在医药领域有工作,设计并制作定制医用植入体,薪酬不错,有时候我一天只需要工作三个小时……所以下班就去酒吧,拿几杯酒当午饭……然后回家再喝半瓶子威士忌……慢慢就变成了一整瓶威士忌喝一晚上,有个两卧的公寓,存款不少,车也不错……所以我的酗酒显然算不上问题
算不上问题,直到它忽然间就成为了问题……失去了朋友,家人不想我陪着他们,工作上遇到麻烦,有的时候我醉到根本不想去上班,也不打电话,就在家里接着喝……把车子撞上了四辆停好的车子上,有六次超速……幸亏没人伤害我。
终于去戒酒了,等回到公司的时候,我发现一个刚毕业的小姑娘坐在我的工位上……老板耸耸肩,对我说“我们会给你找点事情做”
但他们没有……
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在有机会用合法的手段把我赶走之后他们立刻就这么做了,然后我在业内到处都找不到工作……我很确定我的老板在医药会议上讲了我的故事……或许我能发现的话,这能够成为我的法律依赖吧……
所以我的名下有大大小小85件文凭,学位,证书和资格证,但我现在在干夜班保安。
但是去年圣诞节,我妈妈看了一眼我之后说,“你变开心了!”她跟我说她这几年都没见过我开心的样子,她脸上的表情让我痛不欲生……
戒酒五年,再也不想回到那样的生活了。
Currently work at a casino and although I’ve only been there less than 6 months, it feels like a very dangerous game that could easily lead to fucking up your whole life.
目前在赌场工作,尽管我在这里工作不到六个月,但我还是觉得这是一种非常危险的游戏,很容易把你这辈子毁掉。
Gotta be able to walk away or stay away. Those buildings are huge for a reason.
要么立刻走,要么离得远远的。那些建筑那么大不是没有原因的。
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I don’t think any novelty has worn off faster for me than gambling. Got the opportunity to do so for the first time a couple years ago (mainly slots), and was bored after about 10 minutes.
我不觉得有比赌博更让我觉得无聊的事情。几年前头一次有机会赌博(主要是老虎机),过了大概十分钟就厌倦了。
在我见到有人被这种东西毁掉人生之后,我很庆幸自己对此感到厌倦。
I've gambled 3 times in my life. All 3 times I walked away an hour or two later and down roughly $50 down. All three times I found myself thinking, "That time and money could have been a really nice dinner."
我这辈子赌过三次。这三次都是一两个小时之后我就立刻离开了,亏了差不多50美元。这三次我都在想,“这些时间和金钱,本来可以去吃一顿非常不错的晚餐。”
此外,我依稀记得在赌了第三次之后,我花了4美元买了一份杏仁可颂。我发现这个可颂给我带来的享受比之前几个小时的21点都高。这之后过了十年,我再也没有赌过。
A gambling habit, especially since the growth of online gambling. There's nothing else you can do that will drain away your money and property as quickly as this can.
赌博的习惯,尤其是在线赌博开始发展之后。世界上没有什么别的东西能比这个更快地带走你的金钱和财产。
All childhood, I get told about drug dealers who will offer you the first one to get you hooked. Never once happened. Now we got a million sites/apps offering us the first bet for free (or even paying you in credit to gamble). And nobody bats an eye.
从小到大都有人跟我说毒贩子会先免费给你一口尝尝让你上瘾。我从没遇到过。现在有一百万个网站让我们第一注免费下注(甚至给你点数让你下注)。但根本没人怀疑。
Trying to make other people happy by changing yourself. You’ll start to lose your sense of identity and you’ll never be happy yourself. It’s your life and you should make you happy before you even think about making anyone else happy.
通过改变自己的方式让别人开心。你会开始失去对自己的认识,再也不可能因为当自己而感到快乐,这是你的人生,因此你应该首先考虑让自己开心,而不是考虑让别人开心。
Get filmed losing your shit and saying stuff you shouldn’t say. Worse than bad credit these days.
被别人拍下来你情绪失控、说你不该说的东西时候的样子。现在这可比失信还可怕。
Having a temper. You are agitated most of the time. No one values your opinions. Family, friends and colleagues would keep their distance from you. You don’t make rational choices.
暴脾气。你一天到晚都急眼。没人在乎你的意见。家人,朋友和同事都会和你保持距离。你也没法做出理性的决策。
Procrastination
拖延
You’re right. I’ll stop procrastinating tomorrow
你说得对。我明天就停止拖延。
Having sex with family members. Very awkward at Christmas time
和家庭成员做爱。过圣诞的时候会非常尴尬。
Drunk driving. Sure, you can get away with it a lot. However, that one time you kill or paralyze someone, you are in for a hell of a life.
醉酒驾驶。没错,你很多时候都可以躲过一劫。但只要有一次你撞死或者撞瘫痪某个人,你这辈子就都毁了。
I went to school with a guy that had unsuccessfully attempted to end his life blew the front of his face off. Pretty sure it was over a girl.
我之前上学的时候有个同学自杀未遂,把前脸崩没了。我很确定那是因为一个女孩。
Wasting time on social media
在社交媒体上浪费时间。
Eh. Like you said, I think it’s more just wasting time. I don’t think it’s a sure way to fuck up your life though compared to the other comments
呃。正如你所说,我觉得这更多只算是浪费时间。和其他评论相比,我倒不觉得这一定会毁掉你的人生。
not making 200k/yr when you’re 6, you are never going to catch-up to this economic mess
六岁那年没法一年挣20万美元的话,你就这辈子也不可能逃出这种经济混乱了。
Don’t hang around with losers. You don’t pick them up, they drag you down.
不要和烂人在一起混。你不会带他们起来,但是他们会带着你往下坠。
This is so true. You’re known for the company you keep, so be very discerning when choosing who you spend time with
太对了。人们通过你的同伴来认识你,所以选择一起花时间的同伴的时候一定要多加斟酌。
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A DUI. It’s so fucking easy, too.
醉驾。而且这也很容易。
你和朋友一起出门,你喝了几杯。你说话走路都没事儿,可能开车也不会有事。你上了车,没有任何问题,直到你被交警拦了下来。或许是你忘了标签贴在车牌上,或许只是惯例停车检查,或许你有点超速了。警官闻到了酒精的味道,让你吹口气。想要超过法定的酒精浓度非常轻松,你喝了两三杯啤酒之后就已经超了。这会影响你的工作,你未来找到工作的机会,甚至如果你在租的房子做背景检查的话,你租房子也会有问题。
这只是因为你喝了几瓶啤酒,然后没叫网约车。说真的,就算你觉得没问题,就算你喝酒之后开了车也没问题,你也不要酒后开车。
Porn addiction. Not the "I watch porn everyday", but the "I wastch porn all the time, I stop speaking with family,work etc."
黄片上瘾。不是那种“我天天看”的程度,而是“我一天看到晚,不跟家人聊天也不工作”的程度。
这会严重地毁掉你的人生。并且你会形成一些很危险的性癖。
不开玩笑,如果你觉得你该休息一下,不能再看片儿了,那就别看。停下。信我,不是开玩笑的。
(我自己没有遇到这种问题,但我有个朋友是这样的。他一开始看得挺无知的,但3-6个月内他每天都在看片儿,后来就出现了非常危险的性癖(炼铜,人兽和黄文)。现在他已经进监狱了,但他曾经承认过,就是这种不可控制的螺旋让他的生活越来越糟。)
Going to college for gender studies
进大学学性别研究。