生活中最快乐的事情是什么(二)
What are the most happy things in life?
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What are the most happy things in life?
生活中最快乐的事情是什么?
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How can you maximize your happiness in life?
I've seen boys stalking girls and vice versa.
I've seen fans standing for hours to catch a glimpse of celebrities.
I've seen people judging people.
I've seen them scrolling up & down through social media all day and night.
I've seen them intruding in businesses that aren’t theirs.
To be brutally honest, I found none of them happy or content or anything even close to that.
And the only thing that I say to myself everytime I come across anyone like that is— never ever let yourself be more interested in someone else's life than in your own.
你怎样才能最大限度地提高生活中的幸福感？
我见过男孩跟踪女孩，反之亦然。
我见过粉丝们为了一睹名人风采而站了几个小时。
我见过人们评判他人。
我看到他们整天整夜地在社交媒体上刷来刷去。
我见过他们侵入不属于他们的业务。
老实说，我发现他们中没有一个是快乐的，也没有一个满足的，甚至没有一个接近快乐和满足状态的。
每次我遇到这样的人时，我对自己说的唯一一句话就是——永远不要让自己对别人的生活比对自己的生活更感兴趣。
What's the most magical thing about life?
I was waiting for a cab.
There were 3–4 kids who used to live on roadside, came to me begging for money.
They were too hungry.
I went to this nearby shop.
The kids followed me there.
I gave the shopkeeper 20 Rs and asked for four Parle-G biscuit packets. (Each one costs 5 Rs)
Those kids looked happy seeing that they'll get something to eat.
The shopkeeper saw this.
He gave me five packets instead of four.
I gave him one back thinking that he must have made some mistake.
He gave it to me saying: “This one is from me. Give it to these kids.”
生活中最神奇的事情是什么？
我在等出租车。
有3-4个以前住在路边的孩子来向我乞讨。
他们太饿了。
我去了附近的一家商店。
孩子们跟着我去了。
我给了店主20卢比，要了四包Parle-G饼干。（每件5卢比）
那些孩子们看到他们会有东西吃，看起来很高兴。
店主看到了这个。
他给了我五包而不是四包。
我退回他一个，心想他一定是弄错了。
他送给我说：“这这是我送的。把它给这些孩子。”
I went ahead and gave the biscuits to the kids.
They went to their roadside place, and started eating.
A few more kids joined.
I was looking at that scene.
I knew that biscuits won't be enough for them now.
Then I saw the lady coming with 4 more packets of biscuits. She gave them to the kids.
I was standing there. She came to me, smiled and thanked me. I took blessings from her.
店里也站着一位老太太。她看到了。
我上前把饼干给了孩子们。
他们去了路边的地方，开始吃饭。
又有几个孩子加入了。
我当时正在看那个场景。
我知道饼干现在不够他们吃了。
然后我看到那位女士又拿了4包饼干过来。她把它们给了孩子们。
我站在那里。她来到我身边，微笑着感谢我。我从她那里得到了祝福。
The shopkeeper was happy.
I was happy.
The kids were happy having some food.
So, what's the most magical thing about life?
It's how contagious a good deed is.
You don't have to push or force anyone.
You don't have to say anything.
Hearts have their own language. They connect even before the eyes have met.
她见到那些孩子很高兴。
店主很高兴。
我很高兴。
孩子们吃东西很开心。
那么，生活中最神奇的事情是什么？
这就是善行的感染力。
你不必强迫任何人。
你什么都不用说。
心有其语，它们甚至在相遇之前就联系在一起了。
What is the most unfair thing in life?
I went to eat pizza with my friends. It's a thing we do every now and then.
On my way home, near the bus stop, I saw a very old lady in dirty clothes sitting on the doorstep of a closed shop. Obviously, she was a beggar.
When I reached into my pocket to find some change to give her, she asked me, “Buy me a loaf of bread from that shop, they wouldn't let me buy from them. I can't walk to a different shop, my leg hurts,” and pointed to a shop nearby.
The shop not letting her buy bread was probably due to the fact she had been sleeping on their doorstep at night. It's unfair too. But that was not what hit me hard.
In my country, pizza is an expensive food. I ate approximately 17 loaves of bread worth of pizza on that day. That's for a single meal. She probably ate the loaf of bread I bought her for at least 3 meals. That means if I save the money I spend for a single pizza meal and give it to her, she could survive nearly half a month.
Isn't it unfair how a group of people starve while I spend an amount on a single meal that could serve 17 people for a day?
生活中最不公平的事情是什么？
我和朋友去吃披萨，这是我们经常做的事。
在回家的路上，在公共汽车站附近，我看到一位穿着脏衣服的老太太坐在一家关门的商店门口，显然，她是个乞丐。
当我把手伸进口袋拿零钱给她时，她问我：“从那家商店给我买一条面包，他们不让我从他们那里买。我的腿疼，又无法走到不同的商店去买。”然后指着附近的一家商店。
商店不让她买面包可能是因为她晚上睡在门口的台阶上。这也不公平。但这并不是对我打击最大的。
在我的国家，披萨是一种昂贵的食物。那天我吃了大约17块面包—只够买一块披萨。这是一顿饭，她可能吃了我给她买的至少吃3顿的面包。这意味着，如果我把花在一顿披萨上的钱存起来，给她吃，她就能活近半个月。
一群人在挨饿，而我却花了足够17个人吃一天饭的钱，这难道不是不公平吗？
Are you happy being single?
YES and NO. I am happy being single because
I enjoy the loneliness and can travel to different places in Bangladesh.
I can do whatever I want; I am free to do anything.
I run, meditate, eat, pray, read and help people.
I am not accountable to anyone. I enjoy a carefree life.
I can save enormous amounts of time and declutter all my problems.
I don't need to share my bed with anyone.
Nobody can give missed calls at midnight. So, I always have sound sleep.
I live my life with my own rules.
I can spend more time to develop myself.
I am emotionally strong and I avoid relationships consciously.
你单身快乐吗？
是也不是。我喜欢单身，因为
我喜欢孤独，可以去孟加拉国的不同地方旅行。
我可以做任何我想做的事；我可以做任何事。
我跑步、冥想、吃饭、祈祷、阅读和帮助人们。
我不对任何人负责。我享受无忧无虑的生活。
我可以节省大量时间，解决所有问题。
我不需要和任何人共用我的床。
午夜不会有未接电话。所以，我总是睡得很好。
我按照自己的规则生活。
我可以花更多的时间让自己成长。
我情感上很坚强，我有意识地避免谈恋爱。
I always stay peace of mind because I lead a very simple and single life.
I don't need to check facebook messenger or whatsapp continuously to see whether she has sent any messages or not.
I can spend more time on creativity.
I can chase my passion without any problem.
But after running miles after miles and I have not breath left, I start to miss someone. When I am rejected by employers, I feel the need for someone to console me. When I walk among the thousands of people in the busy street, I feel the need to walk with someone. At the end of busy working day I return from office. I am exhausted, tired then make a cup of coffee and sit in the balcony. I feel the need to find someone.
But there’s nobody there but me.
我不需要给别人留下深刻印象；我唯一想打动的人就是我自己。
我总是保持平静，因为我过着简单而单身的生活。
我不需要持续查看facebook messenger或whatsapp，看看她是否发送了任何消息。
我可以花更多的时间在创造力上。
我可以毫无问题地追逐我的激情。
但在跑了几英里又几英里后，我已经喘不过气来了，我开始想念某人。当我被雇主拒绝时，我觉得需要有人来安慰我。当我在繁忙的街道上走在成千上万的人中间时，我感到需要有人陪我走。忙碌的工作日结束后，我从办公室回来。我累得筋疲力尽，然后冲杯咖啡坐在阳台上。我觉得有必要找个人。
但那时除了我没有人。
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When have you experienced true joy?
“Dad, I need your help. Come here!” My 11-year-old girl dragged me towards the computer.
“Dad, please purchase everything I have in the Amazon shopping cart. Here, take this cash from my savings!”
The shopping cart showed ten items for a total of about 130 dollars.
"Wait!” I replied. “That’s too much money! Why do you need all these things?”
"Please, Dad! These items will get here before Christmas. I have a surprise for everyone … no peeking!” she insisted, and I never hesitated.
I purchased everything.
A couple of days later she got everything.
I saw her then wrapping all her gifts.
你什么时候体验过真正的快乐?
“爸爸，我需要你的帮助，过来下！”我11岁的女儿拖着我走向电脑。
“爸爸，请购买我在亚马逊购物车上的所有东西。给，从我的储蓄中取出这笔钱！”
购物车上显示了十件物品，总计约130美元。
“等等！”我回答。“那太多钱了！你为什么需要这些东西？”
“求你了，爸爸！这些东西会在圣诞节前送到这里。我给大家一个惊喜……不要偷看！”她坚持说要，我毫不犹豫的都买了。
几天后，她得到了一切。
我看到她在包装所有的礼物。
“No, Dad. I told you these are special surprises. Absolutely no peeking!”
Her excitement was visible. She was proud. She was alive. She was glowing with happiness.
The day came. She couldn't contain herself. She was all over her gifts, planning, protecting, arranging. Everything had to be perfect.
As soon as dinner was over, she jumped up from her chair and took her gifts. She went around, giving each one of us her piece of love. These were small value items, but it was the meaning of her giving heart that we were really feeling.
As she gave to each person, she paused. She watched the expression on our faces. Our smiles were her greatest reward.
“我能帮你吗？”
“不，爸爸。我告诉过你这些是特别的惊喜。绝对不能偷看！”
她的兴奋之意是显而易见的。她很骄傲。她充满活力。她容光焕发。
这一天来了。她无法控制自己。她满脑子都是天赋，计划，保护，安排。一切都必须完美。
晚餐一结束，她就从椅子上跳起来，拿走了礼物。她四处走动，给我们每个人一份爱。这些都是价值不大的物品，但我们真正感受到的是她付出真心的意义。
当她给每个人时，她停了下来。她看着我们脸上的表情。我们的微笑是她最大的回报。
It’s hard to describe the explosion of delight that my little boy had on his face when he got this gift!
For several minutes, everyone was totally absorbed, our attention taken up watching him go all around the house making it a rodeo arena. Even though the pony is designed to be a static rocking horse?— his excitement was so significant that the horse slid a few inches forward or backward with every thrust he exerted into the little toy.
My little girl watched, rewarded with a huge smile on her face.
Somehow, witnessing these acts of giving love from my 11-year-old helped me understand the power of giving. Giving from the heart. Giving from the inside out.
Later that day, my girl received some gifts, but she didn't need them. She was focused on others, not on herself. It was evident that she was the one feeling true JOY. She was full.
她的最后一份礼物是送给我当时两岁的小男孩的：骑在玩具上的摇摇马。
很难形容我的小男孩收到这份礼物时脸上的喜悦之情！
有好几分钟，每个人都全神贯注，我们的注意力都集中在看他在房子里转来转去，把它变成了一个竞技场。尽管小马被设计成静态摇椅。他非常兴奋，以至于马每向前或向后推一次，都会向前或向后滑几英寸。
我的小女孩看着，脸上露出灿烂的笑容。
不知怎么的，亲眼目睹了我11岁的孩子给予爱的这些行为，帮助我理解了给予的力量：发自内心的付出，从内而外的给予。
那天晚些时候，我的女孩收到了一些礼物，但她不需要。她专注于他人，而不是自己。很明显，她才是真正感到快乐的人。她吃饱了。
Are the best things in life those which bring the most happiness to others and to ourselves?
The best thing we can do with our life is to selflessly serve others without desire for recognition or reward.
Living selflessly in thought, word, and deed, is benevolent and seeds positivity in the world that certainly brings happiness to others, and by reflection, back upon ourselves.
Good thoughts. Good words. Good deeds.
生活中最好的事情是那些给别人和自己带来最大快乐的事情吗?
我们一生中所能做的最好的事情就是无私地为他人服务，而不求认可或回报。
在思想、语言和行为上无私地生活，是仁慈的，在世界上播下积极的种子，肯定会给别人带来快乐，通过反思，也会给自己带来快乐。
好主意、好言好语、善行。
Can you share your marriage secret?
I don’t like to tell people, because there is often some level of envy when I tell them.
I am so lucky. My secret is that my husband of 47 years still sees me the way I looked the day we met when we were both 20.
But that’s only part of my secret.
He also feels that I am the most beautiful woman ever, and he loves my body. Although I started out 36–22–36, now, he says I am Rubenesque (Rubens painted a lot of voluptuous women).
And there’s more.
We perform a Sabbath service together every Friday afternoon at the assisted care home nearby, as well as lots of other charity work at and for our synagogue, not necessarily together. We share the same religious and spiritual zeal.
你能分享你的婚姻秘密吗？
我不喜欢告诉别人，因为当我告诉他们时，他们往往会有某种程度的嫉妒情绪。
我真幸运。我的秘密是，结婚47年的丈夫看到的我，仍然是我们20岁相遇时的样子。
但这只是我秘密的一部分。
他还觉得我是有史以来最美丽的女人，他爱我的身体。虽然我一开始是36–22–36，但现在，他说我是鲁本斯克（鲁本斯画了很多性感的女人）。
还有更多。
每周五下午，我们一起在附近的辅助护理院进行安息日服务，以及在我们的犹太教堂进行许多其他慈善工作，不一定是一起。我们有着同样的宗教和精神热诚。
We often shop together - at two local farmer’s markets, at the kosher butcher’s, at our local ethnic grocer’s, BJ’s, Costco and Trader Joe’s.
When we awaken and right before we go to sleep, we always share a kiss.
During the day when we are together, when we walk by each other, I touch his shoulder as I pass or kiss his cheek, he will grab my hand for a moment as we pass - not every time, but when we are so moved. We use Nordic walking poles when we take our daily walks together when the weather allows and talk about our day.
We do a lot of other things for each other - he gets up very early to start his business day, and brings me coffee every morning when I get up. I appreciate the hell out of him, and he does the same for me.
We have pretty much been through hell and back for almost 5 decades, and we have arrived at a magnificent place.
I wish it for everyone.
我们与成年的孩子和我们的两只猫分享快乐，一只20岁的猫在我们的后院出生，另一只是最近从缅因州的一场浣熊救援中收养。
我们经常一起购物——在当地的两个农贸市场，犹太肉店，在当地的民族杂货店：BJ’s，Costco和Trader Joe’s。
当我们醒来和睡觉前，我们总是亲吻对方。
在我们在一起的日子里，当我们经过对方身边时，我抚摸他的肩膀或亲吻他的脸颊，当我们经过时，他会抓住我的手一会儿——不是每次哈，而是当我们非常感动时。当天气允许的时候，我们每天一起散步，谈论我们的一天时，我们会使用北欧步行杆。
我们为彼此做了很多其他的事情——他很早就起床开始一天的工作，每天早上当我起床的时候给他端咖啡。我非常感激他，他对我也是如此。
我们经历了差不多50年的地狱之旅，终于来到了一个壮丽的地方。
我希望每个人都这样。
What important lessons has life taught you?
This is an incident that happened two years ago. At that time, I was studying in Vijayawada.
In Vijayawada, there is a food court which starts at 9.30pm and ends at 2.30am.
We usually go there to have dinner. One saturday, my friends and I went there at 10.00pm and the place was pretty crowded as it was a weekend. I went to one of the stalls and ordered a dosa and told the guy to put extra chutney on my plate. As I was eating, a man from behind turned and unknowingly pushed my hand. As it was a plastic plate, it slipped from my hand and fell on the person in front of me. That person was of a healthy physique, had a big moustache and an angry face looking almost like a villian in old movies.
At that point of moment I was thinking, “Abha! He is gone a slap me and kick me infront all of them.” There were many girls as well. My heartbeat started rising and I started saying ‘sorry bhai sorry bhai.’
生活教会了你什么重要的教训？
这是两年前发生的一起事件。当时，我在维杰亚瓦达学习。
在维杰亚瓦达，有一个美食广场，从晚上9点30分开始，到凌晨2点30分结束营业。
我们通常去那里吃饭。一个星期六，我和我的朋友在晚上10点去了那里，那里就像周末一样拥挤。我去了一个摊位，点了一份多莎饼，告诉那家伙多放些酸辣酱。当我正在吃饭时，一个男人从后面转过身来，不知不觉地推了我的手。因为那是一个塑料盘子，它从我手中滑落，落到了我面前的人身上。这个人体格健康，留着大胡子，一张愤怒的脸，看起来就像老电影里的恶棍。
那一刻，我在想，“他会当所有人面扇我一巴掌，踢我一脚。”还有很多女孩。我的心跳开始加快，我开始说“对不起，对不起，对不起。”
I didn't expect that kind of reaction from him
Lessons Learnt:
1. One should not form an opinion about a person’s character by their appearance.
2. Sometimes people don't do things intentionally. One should be patient and try to think over what really happened?
Thanks for reading.
但他只是用一种平静的声音回答“你应该小心点。”这时，我走到摊位附近，向他们要了一块纸巾，然后说了声抱歉，开始清洁他的衬衫。与此同时，他的妻子来到那里，说：“孩子，你不必这么做。”。有时会发生这种情况，不要担心，要小心。那个人拿出一张50美元的钞票，又为我点了一份多莎饼。我被他的手势吓了一跳，说:：“不，不，我不想要”，但他劝我吃饭，因为你是学生，可能身上没有钱。
我没想到他会有这种反应
经验教训：
1.一个人不应该通过外表对一个人的性格形成看法。
2.有时候人们做事不是故意的。一个人应该有耐心，试着想想到底发生了什么？
感谢阅读。
Never be afraid to ask questions or admit your ignorance on any matter.
Read. Devour books.
Learn to be alone, travel alone.
Learn to let go of friends/lovers who're not as enthused by the relationship you think you share. Walk away from a relationship if you have to keep putting in all the effort for it to stay afloat.
Never raise your voice against grandparents. They're big babies.
Current politics and news. At the least, have an idea as to what's happening in the world around you.
Learn to discuss and debate with people whose thoughts you disagree with, without getting angry/loud.
The only person you have a right to judge is yourself.
The times when you think something is falling apart, it's probably falling together. You probably lack the courage to accept the change.
Last but not the least, learn to make the perfect tea of your liking. It's going to come with you until the very end.
永远不要害怕提问或承认自己对任何事情的无知。
阅读，专心读书。
学会独处，独自旅行。
学会放下那些对你所分享的关系不感兴趣的朋友/恋人。如果你不得不继续付出一切努力让一段关系保持下去，那就离开它。
永远不要大声反对祖父母，他们是大婴儿。
当前政治和新闻：至少，要知道你周围的世界正在发生什么。
学会与你不赞同其观点的人讨论和辩论，不要生气/大声。
你唯一有权评判的人是你自己。
当你认为某件事情正在崩溃的时候，它很可能正在崩溃。你可能没有勇气接受改变。
最后但并非最不重要的一点是，学会做你喜欢的完美茶。它会一直伴随着你直到最后。
Is being happy the most important thing in life?
I used to think happiness was the most important thing in life. I thought we were here to be happy. And I believed that for decades.
But then I hit a point on my spiritual path where I realized I was mistaken.
One problem I saw was that if I’m trying or hoping to be happy all the time, I have an insidious habit of resisting doing anything that I believe won’t help me feel happy.
And because of that I missed out on a lot of experiences.
So what’s more important than happiness?
(In reality there is no “more” or “less” important. But that’s getting quite meta so forget I said that.)
For most people, in my view, what serves us far, far more than being happy is to be present.
快乐是生活中最重要的事情吗？
我过去认为幸福是生活中最重要的事情。我以为我们来这里是为了开心。几十年来我一直相信这一点。
但在我的精神道路上，我意识到我错了。
我看到的一个问题是，如果我一直在努力或希望快乐，我有一个潜在的习惯，抗拒做任何我认为不会让我感到快乐的事情。
正因为如此，我错过了很多经验。
那么，什么比幸福更重要？
（事实上，没有“更多”或“更不”重要。但这越来越重要了，所以别忘了我说过的话。）
在我看来，对大多数人来说，活在当下远比快乐更重要。
Present in whatever we are feeling.
Present in whatever we are thinking.
Because by being present we make ourselves available to experience whatever is happening—experience our lives—to a much greater degree. And that makes life far more interesting.
With presence we tend to “live” much more, with less denial and resistance.
And so our experiences are more available to live. Also they’re more fun, more painful, more everything.
One last thought: By being more present we step into the place (here and now) where we truly have access to our power, our ability to guide and to change and improve our lives.
无论我们在做什么，都要表现出来。
呈现在我们所感受的一切中。
呈现在我们所想的一切中。
因为通过活在当下，我们可以让自己体验正在发生的一切，在更大程度上体验我们的生活。这让生活变得更加有趣。
有了当下，我们往往“活”得更多，拒绝和抵抗更少。
因此，我们的体验更适合生活。而且他们更有趣，更痛苦，更无所不包。
最后一个想法:通过更关注当下，我们进入了一个地方(此时此地)，在那里我们真正拥有自己的力量，我们的能力来引导、改变和改善我们的生活。
How do we get more present?
Take a few deep and slow breaths from your gut, with your muscles (stomach and shoulders, etc.) as relaxed as possible.
Do that several times and as you do you’ll bring yourself more and more into the present.
In this state you’ll feel more like “all is well.” You’ll feel a lightness about you. You'll feel more complete, like “There’s nothing I need to do now.” And more.
If I say so myself, this is super-valuable for anyone, not just those of us on a spiritual quest, for the reasons I mentioned above. It’s been amazing for me.
May this be very useful to you!
当我们陷入沉思或努力工作以避免痛苦，或认为我们应该这样做或那样做，或对过去感到遗憾或对未来感到担忧等时，我们根本没有这种感觉。
我们如何获得更多的礼物？
用你的内脏做几次深呼吸，让你的肌肉(腹部和肩膀等)尽可能放松。
这样做几次，当你这样做的时候，你会越来越投入到当下。
在这种状态下，你会感觉更像是“一切都很好”。你会觉得更完整，比如“我现在什么都不需要做”等等。
如果我自己这么说的话，这对任何人来说都是非常有价值的，不仅仅是我们这些正在进行精神探索的人，因为我上面提到的原因。这对我来说太棒了。
希望这对你很有用！
What aspects of your life bring you the most happiness and why?
There are many things in my life that bring me happiness, but some of the most important things are my family, friends, and career. My family is my rock and they have always been there for me, no matter what. My friends are like family to me and I cherish our relationships. I am also very career-oriented and I enjoy working hard to achieve my goals. I find that all of these things bring me a great deal of happiness and satisfaction.
你生活的哪些方面给你带来了最大的快乐？为什么？
在我的生活中有很多事情给我带来快乐，但最重要的是我的家人、朋友和事业。我的家人是我的支柱，无论发生什么，他们都一直在我身边。我的朋友对我来说就像家人，我珍惜我们的关系。我也非常注重职业，我喜欢努力工作以实现我的目标。我发现所有这些都给我带来了极大的快乐和满足。