当你的前男友拉黑你又重新关注你时，这意味着什么？

Shan Thoughts 
I am assuming that you have been doing no contact with your ex and he/she has unblocked you.

我假设你一直没有和你的前任联系，他/她现在又重新关注了你。

Questions

所以我的问题是：

How do you know that your ex has unblocked you?

你是怎么知道你的前任拉黑后又重新关注了你的？

Has your ex contacted you after being unblocked ?

你的前任在重新关注你之后联系过你吗？

Now, the question you must be wondering why? It's funny how human beings are because we always want what we can't have. Your ex unblocked you because they are wondering what have you been up too. As human beings, we always want to know what is our significant other is doing right now. They might be wondering are we doing well or feeling terrible after the break up. Most people would immediately try to contact our ex and try to rekindle the past( reminder: please don't do it). When they unblock you, it doesn't mean they want to get back to you. Worst case scenario they have moved on and your presence doesn't effect them emotionally. That's the worst feeling of having an ex being indifferent and having no feelings towards you.

现在，你一定想知道我为什么问这样的问题？人类之所以如此有趣，是因为我们总是想要我们得不到的东西。你的前任重新关注了你，因为他们也想知道你在做什么。作为人类，我们总是想知道我们的另一半现在在做什么。他们可能想知道我们分手后现在过的很槽糕还是很快乐。大多数人会立刻联系我们的前任，试图重燃旧情(提醒: 请不要这样做)。当他们重新关注了你，这并不意味着他们想回到你身边。最糟糕的情况是，他们已经释怀了，而你的出现并没有在情感上影响他们。最糟糕的结果就是前任对你漠不关心，对你没有感觉。

What you should do?

你该怎么办？

Changing your mindset - look at it this way, they have finally broke some wall barrier and it shouldn't affect you in any way. Have a mindset of having a whatsoever attitude and don't give a damn. This is important because they can block you again and you will go through a roller coaster of emotions again.

改变你的心态。他们重新关注你，说明他们终于打破了一些壁垒，但这不应该以任何方式影响到你。拥有一种无所谓的心态，这很重要，因为他们可以再次影响到你，你将再次经历情绪的过山车。

Going no contact - maintain no contact with your ex until they reach out to you via personal message/ direct message. If you broke up with your ex, do the honor of reaching out to them in a calmly manner. If they like/ comment your social media. It doesn't mean anything and you shouldn't react to it.

不要联系。千万不要和你的前任保持联系，直到他们主动联系到你。如果你和你的前任分手了，要以平静的方式和他们联系。如果他们喜欢/评论你的社交媒体。这并不意味着什么，你也不应该对此做出反应。

If they reached out to you - do not bring up any issues of the break up from the past. Treat your ex like you are meeting a new person for the very first time. Keep the conversation short, light , with some humor and make plans to meet up with your ex. Try to make her smile and bring he/she emotional state like how you meet before. That's was the main reasons why they had fallen in love with you. Hope this helped you.

如果他们主动联系你。不要提起过去分手的任何问题。对待你的前任就像你对待第一次见面的人。保持谈话简短，轻松，带点幽默，可以约个时间和你的前任见面。试着让她微笑，带给他/她你们之前恋爱的情绪状态。这就是他们爱上你的主要原因。希望这对你有帮助。

Matthew DeMarco 
It's simple. Your ex wants you to see them and deep down they want you to reach out to them even if they don't really want you back. It's about their ego.

很简单。你的前任希望你看到他们的生活状态，并且在内心深处，他们希望你去联系他们，即使他们并不真的想要和你复合。这一切都是他们的自我意识在作祟。

Its a game of cat and mouse and only you can decide if you want to play there game. If I were you, I would take my power back and take this opportunity to block THEM instead.

这是一个猫捉老鼠的游戏，只有你才能决定你是否想玩这个游戏。如果我是你，我会主动出击，抓住这个机会去拉黑他们。

This would send a clear message to your ex that you want nothing to do with them and they'll be like. “OMG, they blocked me!”

这会给你的前任一个明确的信息，你不想和他们有任何瓜葛，他们会感觉“天哪，他们把我拉黑了!”

Xunny Lee
He blocked me from the day that we broke up and from then on I started doing the no contact thing. The reason why we broke up is because he told me that he doesnt want his parents to get mad at him for dating a single mom he told me he loved me but had to choose his parents wish to not date a single mom- ( he was dating single mon too prior to me)

从我们分手的那天起，我的前男友就拉黑了我，从那时起，我开始不和他联系了。我们分手的原因是因为他告诉我他不想他的父母因为他和一个单身妈妈约会而生他的气。他告诉我他爱我，但是不得不遵从他父母的意愿—(他在我之前也和一个单身妈妈约会)

Steve Claridge 
My ex blocked me 3 or 4 times a day sometimes. Over nothing. Proper immature weirdo

我的前男友有时一天会无缘无故拉黑我3到4次。真是个不成熟的怪胎

Steve Claridge 
If u want nothing to do with her…block everywhere. Spam her emails.

如果你不想和她有任何关系... 在所有社交媒体上拉黑你的前任，给她发垃圾邮件。

I'm guessing like me and most men we hate rejection and even if u dont want a relationship- u still want her to contact and chase u a bit. Makes u feel good eh?

我猜想，像我和大多数男人一样，我们讨厌被拒绝，即使你不想谈恋爱，但你还是希望她主动联系你，追求你。这让你感觉很好吧！

Nova Aspel 
It's a bit funny to me, how many people see blocking/unblocking on social media as some kind of a Statement?. It's intended as a feature, that helps you to take care of your mental health or privacy. There was one time, when I blocked one of my best friends when our relationship become mutually toxic. More to protect her, then myself, to be honest. And also save me from temptation to message her and to say something so dark I would regret it for the rest of my life. I unblocked her, when I felt I could speak to her normally without lashing out. Or to see her picture at all without feeling hurt. We are very good friends now, just not as close as before.

这对我来说有点好笑，有多少人把社交媒体上的屏蔽/解除屏蔽视为某种声明。这项功能只有一个目的，那就是帮助你保护你的精神健康或隐私。曾经有一次，我屏蔽了我最好的朋友，因为我们的关系变得对彼此都有害。老实说，我更想保护她，而不是我自己。同时也让我免于给她发短信的诱惑，免于说一些让我后悔一辈子的黑暗的话。当我觉得我可以正常地和她说话而不会大发雷霆时，或者看到她的照片而不感到受伤时，我对她又解除了屏蔽。我们现在是非常好的朋友，只是不像以前那么亲密。

You can say for sure, that you ex doesn't have hard feelings for you anymore. Or, at least is trying to move on from the negative feelings he had about you contacting him.

可以肯定地是，你的前任对你不再有任何敌意了，或者至少是试图摆脱他对你联系他的负面感觉。

I don't generally block people on social media, save for random feed I don't desire. So having someone in my blacklist at all is a constant reminder of conflict I had, how hurt I felt and how I hurt people back. Unblocking someone = letting go of this hurt. It doesn't automatically means, your relationships with someone is going to be the same again. 

我一般不会在社交媒体上屏蔽别人，除非是那些发垃圾信息的人。有人在黑名单上只会不断提醒我和他/她之间的冲突，我感到如何受伤害，我又是如何伤害别人的。解除屏蔽等于释放这种伤痛。但这并不意味着，你和某人的关系会再次变得和之前一样。

I would probably message a person who unblocked me, if I wanted something to say, but wouldn't hope for much. If there's nothing particular to say, I'd wait and see what he will do next.

如果我有什么话想说，我可能会给解除我屏蔽的人发一条短信，但不会期望太多。如果没有什么特别的话要说，我就等着看他下一步会做什么。

It sounds to me, like you probably would want to get back together, and that's understandable. But you really need to think it over. If the break up was his fault, are you ready to forgive? If it was yours, are you ready, if he never truly forgives you and would still blame you all over the course? If it was nobody's fault, why the blocking even happened? Is one of you an impulsive person? Sadly, still loving someone doesn't mean it would be healthy to be together.

在我听来，你们可能想复合，这是可以理解的。但你真的需要好好考虑一下。如果分手是他的错，你准备好原谅他了吗？如果是你的，你准备好了吗? 如果他从来没有真正原谅你，并且在整个过程中仍然责怪你呢？如果你们两人都没有错，他又为什么拉黑你呢？你们中有人是冲动的吗？可悲的是，仍然爱着一个人并不意味着在一起就是健康的。

Dhiraj Kumar 
May be your ex misses you.

可能是你的前男友想你了。

May be your ex wants to come back in your life.

也许你的前任想要回到你的生活中。

May be……….

可能是... ..。

Stop

不要在胡思乱想了

There may be many reasons, but do you want your ex back in your life.

可能有很多原因，但是你希望你的前任回到你的生活中吗？

First think about the reasons which made your ex to block you.

首先想想是什么原因让你的前任拉黑了你。

After that, did you move on in your life?

在那之后，你的生活继续了吗？

If the answer is yes.

如果答案是肯定的。

Then, congratulations.

那么，恭喜你。

If the answer is no.

如果答案是否定的。

Try to move on.

试着向前看。

According to my experience, a person who truly loves you, cannot block you.

根据我的经验，一个真正爱你的人是不会拉黑你的。

If that person blocks you, it clearly shows that he/ she does have something more important than you in their life.

如果那个人拉黑你，这清楚地表明他/她的生活中确实有比你更重要的东西。

More important in the sense, it may be another person, family, fear of society or any other responsibility or interest.

更重要的是，它可能是另一个人，家庭，对社会的恐惧或任何其他责任或利益。

Why did my ex unblock me?

为什么我的前任对我解除了屏蔽？

There are many reasons.

原因有很多。

Your ex, may had love relationship with another person and that person dumped your ex. So, now your ex wants to come back to your life. Do you want such a person?

你的前任，可能和另一个人有过爱情关系，而那个人甩了你的前任。所以，现在你的前任想要和你复合。你想要这样的人吗？

Your ex, had some family commitments before, he/she has fulfilled it. Your ex has finished top priority works, now your ex feels let me go back to my poor lover. Do you want such a person?

你的前任，以前有一些家庭承诺，他/她现在已经履行了。你的前任已经完成了最重要的工作，现在你的前任又想要回到你的身边。你想要这样的人吗？ 

Your ex, wants to hurt you more by making you feel jealous. How does your ex can do that? He/she can do that by showing his present status, which may hurt you. Do you want that to happen?

你的前任，想要通过让你嫉妒来伤害你。你的前任是怎么做到的？他/她可以通过显示自己的现状来做到这一点，这可能会伤害到你。 你希望这种事情发生吗？

Now your existence doesn't matter to him/her at all. Do you want him/her?

现在你的存在对他/她来说根本不重要了。你还想要他/她吗？

Your ex is unhappy with his/her life. So, he/she is in search of happiness. Do you want such a person?

你的前任对他/她的生活不满意，所以，他/她在寻找幸福。你想要这样的人吗？

You may be the last option for your ex. Do you want that person?

你可能是你前任的最后选择。你想要那个人吗？

Reasons are many, but most unlikely if you think that your ex may have realised your love and he/ she wants to come back to your life. I think it will never be the case. Live your life to the fullest. Best wishes to you. Thank you for reading the answer. 

重新关注的你的原因有很多，但是如果你认为你的前任已经意识到了你的爱，并且他/她想要回到你的生活中，这种可能性最小。我认为这永远不会发生。充实地生活。向你致以良好的祝愿。谢谢你阅读这个答案。

Kanwal Murtaza 
no not at all I will never let my ex come again cause I have moved on and i am happy without him he was selfish he have unblocked me but I will never let him back in my life

我是不会复合的，因为我已经向前看了，没有他我也过得很开心。他很自私，他重新关注了我，但我再也不会让他回到我的生活中了。

Afroz Shaikh 
Why do you really care after a long time? If you still care then probably you still have feelings for your ex.

过了这么长时间，你为什么还在乎这个？如果你仍然在乎，那么你可能对你的前任还有感觉。

Anyways let me answer your questions.

不管怎样，让我回答你的问题。

Ex may be checking the people she\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\he has blocked and was wondering I think you have served your punishment and you're harmless, so they have might thought of releasing you out of the jail. 

前任可能正在检查那些被他屏蔽的人，并且认为你已经受到了惩罚，而且你是无害的，所以他们可能会考虑把你从监狱里放出来

They may  want you to contact them. ( Don't do this). 

他们，希望你联系他们。(不要这样做)

They've completely moved on and you don't hurt them anymore by looking at your profile, they don't feel any pain or attachments. 

他们已经完全向前看了，他们再也不会通过看你的个人状态来伤害他们了，他们也不会对你感到任何痛苦或者依恋

No matters what is the condition now but I'd like to tell you to move on, you don't need to be here looking why they're playing unblocked and blocked games.

现在什么情况不重要，但是我想告诉你继续前进，你不需要在这里寻找为什么他们在拉黑你然后又重新关注你的答案。

Time for you to move on and enjoy what's ahead of you.

是时候往前看了，享受你面前的一切。

Afroz Shaikh
Just love yourself, there is nothing better than self-care and self love. Take care of yourself and let this person go.

只要爱自己，没有什么比自我照顾和自我爱护更好的了。照顾好自己，让这个人走吧。

Afroz Shaikh 
Stop looking up and wondering what point made them unblock you, just walk away or concentrate on your life, I am sure you must have met so many beautiful people on your way to 2 years journey. Good luck.

不要再想是什么原因让他们又重新关注了你，你只需走开或者专注于你的生活，我相信在你两年的旅程中你一定遇到过很多美丽的人。祝你好运。

Dan Williams
Because he/she still has interest in you.

因为他/她对你还有兴趣。

When ex's act like this, they don't enjoy the idea of you moving on. They want to know that you're still available, which makes them sleep better at night.

当前任这样做的时候，他们并不喜欢你已经往前看了。他们想知道你现在还是单身，这会让他们晚上睡得更好。

Whether it makes them feel less lonely (if they're still single) or they're curious to know if they still have a chance with you, or both, is up for debate however.

这是否会让他们感觉不那么孤独(如果他们还是单身的话) ，或者他们很好奇是否还有机会和你在一起，或者两者都有，这些都还有待商榷。

My ex did this…she would randomly unblock me on social media after I ended things with her and make comments directed towards me (like she was testing the waters to see if I would react) through a mutual friend's social media account.

我的前女友就这样做了... ... 当我和她分手后，她会在社交媒体上随机解除我的屏蔽，并通过一个共同朋友的社交媒体账户直接向我发表评论(就像她在试水，看我是否会有反应)。

Once I saw this occur, I instantly blocked her. It seems childish on my part, but when I block someone and cut them off completely, that's it…I'm done communicating. I don't want to see what she's doing with her life, nor do I care enough to want to know.

当我看到这一切发生的时候，我立刻屏蔽了她。这对我来说似乎很幼稚，但是当我屏蔽了一个人并且完全与他们隔绝时，就是这样... ... 我不再和他们交流了。我不想看到她在做什么，我也不想知道她在做什么。

Also, I don't want to give her the idea that I'm open to communicating.

而且，我也不想让她觉得我愿意和她交流。

My advice is to cut off communication with this person. It's a game you don't want to play.

我的建议是切断与这个人的联系，这是一个你不想玩的游戏。

Miyah Woods
They either want to see how you’re coping without them or if you’re not coping well at all. Or they want you to see how well they are doing cus they’re over you. They want you to get jealous again because at the beginning of a breakup both people get jealous and are trying to move on but of course you still miss eachother. You miss the memories you shared together. The other reason they may have unblocked you is for your reaction. They know that if you message them saying “why’ve you unblocked me it means you have been on their profile recently or tried messaging them and realised that they’ve unblocked you. This indicates you’re still obsessing over them and by messaging them it gives them a reaction implying you aren’t over them and you miss them.

他们要么想看看你没有他们的时候是怎么过得，要么就是看你的狼狈样子。或者他们想让你看到他们做得有多好，因为他们已经超越了你。他们希望你再次变得嫉妒，因为在分手的开始，双方都试图向前看，但是你们仍然想念彼此。你怀念你们一起的回忆。另一个对你解除屏蔽的原因是看你的反应。他们知道，如果你给他们发短信说“你为什么解除了我的屏蔽，这意味着你最近一直在关注他们的社交媒体，或者试图给他们发短信，并意识到他们解除了你的屏蔽。这表明你仍然沉迷于他们，并且一直在给他们发信息，这会暗示他们，你还没有忘记他们，你想念他们。

Overall, my belief is that they are either wankers that want to rub it in your face that they’re doing well without you and make you jealous. Or they’re regretting the end of your relationship and trying to get your attention by making you jealous or feel bad for the decision you made I end the relationship.

总的来说，我认为他们要么是想在你面前炫耀自己没有你也过得很好并让你嫉妒的傻瓜。或者他们后悔结束了你们的关系，试图通过让你嫉妒或者为你做的决定感到难过来引起你的注意。

Either way, stay strong, move on and enjoy your life without that waste of space.

不管怎样，保持坚强，继续前进，享受你的生活，不要浪费精力。

Lisa Heyworth 
Because he cares. If you totally got over the person, you don’t give a damn on his facebook account. And he’s interested in your life and in how’s it going without him.

因为他在乎。如果你完全忘记了这个人，你就不会在乎他的 facebook 账户。他对你的生活很感兴趣，想知道没有他的生活会怎样。

I think he feels a bit guilty for the breakup or for being so immature. Now, after weeks, the emotions abated and he can see the clear picture. I don’t mean he necessarily wants the relationship back. But definitely thinks of straightening things up and staying friends.

我认为他对分手或者对自己的不成熟感到有点内疚。现在，几个星期过去了，他的情绪有所缓和，他看到了一幅清晰的画面。我的意思不是说他一定想要恢复这段关系。但肯定会考虑改善你们之间的关系，保持朋友关系。

Now it’s you turn to consider. But, if I were you, I’d just ease his heart and let him go without any friendship stuff. Leave the past in the past.

现在轮到你考虑了。如果我是你，我会让他放心，让他离开，不要载做朋友了。让过去成为过去吧。

Just My Word 
I know for me personally, I recently unblocked my ex after we broke up about six months ago, because not only did I move on in the best way possible but I know for certain, her image wouldn’t trigger me if I saw her again. Plus I'm not interested by any means to get back with her. It was simply a matter of me feeling it was the right time to do it and I did, without looking back or considering to reach out to her.

就我个人而言，在分手六个月后，我最近解除了对我前女友的屏蔽，因为我不仅以最好的方式继续前进，而且我确信，如果我再见到她，她的形象也不会触发我。再说我也没兴趣跟她复合。只是我觉得现在是时候了，我就这么做了，没有回头看，也没有考虑去找她复合。

Phil Roberts 
My ex ran dumped me for a very rich man (actually married him!) I knew about him when we were together constantly questioning her about him, she insisted he was just a ‘family friend’ & had no feelings for him. When she married him (only a month after leaving me!) I sent a lot of abusive messages to her so she blocked me, that was almost 3 years ago, I recently discovered she unblocked me….now if she was so much ‘in love’ with him why would she bother about me?  when I see photos of them together on her FB she never looks happy, I compare the photos with when she was with me & she ALWAYS looked happy & laughing, I think she married him purely for money (body language doesn’t lie!) & now she’s having second thoughts hence unblocking me.

我的前女友为了一个非常有钱的男人甩了我(事实上是嫁给了他!)我知道他，当我们在一起的时候，不断地问她关于他的事情，她坚持说他只是一个‘家庭朋友’，对他没有感觉。当她嫁给他的时候(离开我才一个月!)，我给她发了很多辱骂性的短信，所以她屏蔽了我。大约3年前，我最近发现她解除了我的屏蔽... ... 如果她真的那么爱他，为什么还要为我操心呢？。当我在她的脸书上看到他们在一起的照片时，她看起来从来都不快乐，我把照片和她和我在一起时的照片进行比较，在我和她的照片上，她总是看起来快乐，我认为她嫁给他纯粹是为了钱(肢体语言不会说谎!)(现在她改变主意，解除了对我的屏蔽)。

Jake Ando 
Maybe this will give you an insight

也许这会给你一些启示

I unblocked an ex because:-

我解除了前任的屏蔽，因为:-

keeping her blocked means I still care. I don’t. 

继续拉黑她意味着我还在乎她。实际上我不在乎

I don’t care if she is checking my online status anymore. It means nothing. 

我不在乎她是否还在查看我的在状态，这没有任何意义

the more you try and guess the more you will drive yourself crazy. If you have anything to say to him, say it - expect him to be a little hostile at first. Keep calm and be polite & respectful.

你越想猜，就越会把自己逼疯。如果你有什么话要对他说，就说出来，她一开始可能会有点敌意。保持冷静，礼貌和尊重。

if you want him back he may not make it easy for you. Depending on why it ended and if you did anything that really hurt him. Dig deep, you know what it is. It starts there.

如果你想要他回来，他可能不会让你好过。这取决于你们分手的原因以及你是否做了什么伤害他的事。好好想想是什么原因导致了你们分手。

hope this helps.

希望这能帮上忙。

Patrick Boada 
In some cases simply because they regret doing it, a lot of times they just do it because of the rush fellings, anger and more (there are many reasons), but after that they just realized how immature they were or they regret doing it because they miss something as seeing your pictures or things like that. People are used to regret those kind of decisions because they know they did something they didn't think carefully.

在某些情况下，仅仅是因为他们后悔和你分手了，很多时候他们提分手只是因为冲动，愤怒和更多的其它原因，但后来他们才意识到他们是多么不成熟，或者他们后悔这样做，因为他们错过了一些东西，比如看到你的照片或类似的东西。人们习惯于后悔这种决定，因为他们知道自己做了一些没有仔细考虑过的事情。

They could also do it because they don't “care” but that just stupid since if they don't care anymore they would just leave it there without any changes.

他们也可以是释然了，但这只是愚蠢的，因为如果他们不再关心了，他们就会维持现状而不是突然解除对你的屏蔽。

Rohit Vashist 
Curiosity.

好奇心。

Not necessarily to get back with you.But to see if you have moved on or what.

不一定是为了回到你身边，而是为了看看你是否已经开始新的生活。

She/he had blocked you which means the separation waznt very friendly.

她/他屏蔽了你，这意味着你们不是和平分手的。

Unblocking you is their curiosity to check if you still put status regarding your past and write those poems . (To feel the upper hand)

解除对你的屏蔽是他们的好奇心，来看看你是否仍然保留过去状态和写那些诗。(感觉自己占上风)

Or just a very feeble chance . They want you back ,not necessarily in romantic way but as a friend because u just cant dexe and ignore a person when u know he or she is there.

或者只是为了一个微弱的机会。他们希望你回来，不一定是以恋人的身份，而是以普通朋友的身份，因为当你知道一个人在那里的时候，你不能删除和忽略他。

Ego may stop them to make contact with you and maybe they are hoping that u wld take the first step.

自我感可能会阻止他们与你联系，也许他们希望你能迈出第一步。

I hope this make sense.

我希望我的答案是有意义的。

Kathy Lynch
Who cares? This is your ex. They are your ex for a reason. Why are you checking if they have blocked, unblocked, friended, unfriended, tweeted or whatever?

谁在乎呢？这是你的前男友。他们能成为你的前男友是有原因的。你为什么要检查他们是否已经屏蔽、解除屏蔽、加为好友、解除好友、发推或者其他什么呢？

This person is your ex.

这个人是你的前男友。

The time you've taken to write this question here is already more time than you should spend on your ex.

你花在写这个问题上的时间已经超过你应该花在前任身上的时间了。

Why give them that which is the most precious thing we have? Time.

为什么要给他们我们拥有的最宝贵的东西? 时间。

Don't do it. Move on or you're gonna miss something worthy of your time.

不要这样，继续前进，否则你会错过一些值得你花时间的东西。