你是如何生活的?(上)

Karan, Assistant Manager -Marketing
Every person has his situations which governs the proceedings of his life.
And your question is really helpful in knowing fellow being's opinion on life.
One thing which i learned and observed is that this very life is quite practical. It doesn't matter how kind you are, how intelligent and hardworker you are, just a one little blunder and it closes the opportunity. So i do keep this thing in mind while performing any action so that i may not blame destiny for my mistakes and failures.
And "someone's opinion of you doesn't have to become your reality". Don't live the life being the victim of someone's opinion. Do what you think is beneficial and good for you in a long run. Try to do things now.
Don't wait. I can make thousands of excuses but deep inside I know that it is just an excuse. May be fear of failure is an impediment but that is needed to be excluded asap because I don't want to use "wish i had done _ _ _ _) phrase excessively.
And we never know what is truth after death. So why not give a best shot to the present ??
I try to spend quality time with my parents because they won't be here for long.(an ugly truth)
I avoid saying NO to a person who really needs help. I just imagine myself in that situation. But that doesn't mean become a saint. Be practical
There is no coolness is being a night owl. I try to get up early , the best hours of the day.
All in all have a positive attitude but be ready for a setback and at that moment keep your head high.

每个人都有一段足以影响他一生的经历。
你提的这个问题对于帮助别人了解他们对生活的看法很有帮助。
我看到并了解到一件事，那就是生活是非常现实的。无论你是多么的善良，多么的聪明，多么的努力，但只要你犯了一个小小的错误，你就会失去很多机会。所以我在做任何事情的时候都会牢记这一点，这样我就不会把我的错误和失败归咎于命运了。
“别人对你的看法你并不需要当真”。不要活在别人对你的意见中，不要成为其中的受害者。从长远来看，你要做对你有益的事，而且从现在就要开始做，不要等。我可以编造成千上万个借口，但我内心深处知道，这都只是一个借口而已。也许对失败的恐惧是一种障碍，但是我们要努力克服这种障碍。因为我不想一直说“真希望我已经做了……”这种话。
我们永远都不知道死了以后会发生什么，所以我们为什么不好好把握现在呢？
我们现在要珍惜和父母在一起相处的时光，因为他们不会陪伴我们很久。（这是一个非常可怕的真相）
我不会拒绝一个真正需要帮助的人。我只是想象如果是我自己处于这种情况下会怎么办，但这并不意味着你要成为一个圣人。
事实上，做一个夜猫子一点也不酷。我每天都努力早起，努力在一天中最好的时间点起床。
总之，我们要一直保持积极向上的态度，还要准备好面对挫折，并在遇到挫折的那一刻昂首挺胸。

Anna Chong, Student
I’m a student. I do homework, study, and compete with only people in my head…
This is how I want to live mine. I don’t want to simply be average. I want to do what I truly want.
Go to a prestigious college (looking at you, Stanford)
Get a degree in business/economics. Also get voice lessons and art lessons.
My dad actually does this and he’s fairly successful. I still have a lot to learn.
Earn enough money. Spend all holidays at various opera houses and work on stocks while pursuing an opera career. I sing coloratura soprano at the moment, but I think I might end up singing coloratura mezzo
I probably won’t be very successful but I think I can manage some of it.
I don’t want a very busy schedule but I want to keep on performing. I might have to move somewhat, but that’s okay. I’ll keep buying and selling shares and probably do a bit of art as well.
I want to have a fairly stress-free life, and I will work hard for it every day of my life but not be stressed about everything.
And I want to retire late, because I do love performing and surprisingly finance. I don’t mind doing the budgeting for family holidays and calculating budgets and these kind of things - the stuff I can do now. I’m working towards a larger goal and this is only a part of it.

我是一名学生。我每天都不停的做作业，学习，并且和我脑子里的人竞争。
这就是我想要的生活方式。我不想只是做一个普通人，我想去做我真正想做的事。我想上名牌大学（比如斯坦福大学），并获得商业/经济学学位。我还想上声乐课和艺术课。
我爸爸就这么做，而且相当成功。所以我还有很多东西要学。
我希望我能够赚到足够多的钱。然后在追求歌剧事业的同时还可以做股票投资，我希望我可以在不同的歌剧院里度过我所有的假期。我现在唱的是花腔女高音，但我想我最后可能会唱花腔女中音
我可能不会很成功，但我想我应该可以小有成就。
我不想把我的时间安排得很满，我想继续表演。所以我可能得换个地方，但这都没关系。因为我会继续买卖股票，可能还会做点艺术上的事。
我希望自己过上无忧无虑的生活，虽然我还是会每天都努力工作，但是我不会再对每件事都感到有压力。
我想晚一点退休，因为我确实喜欢表演，并且非常喜欢让人意想不到的金融投资生活。我不介意做家庭假期的预算，不介意做计算预算或者这类我现在可以做的事情。我现在正在朝着一个更大的目标努力，但这只是其中的一部分。

Misha Doraisamy, it always depends on how you looking at it !
This is how I'm living my life to the FULLEST !
1. Create a bucket list and start checking things off - of course I will die one day, but before that, I want to experience this world as much as I can.
2. Set goals and write them down - I set my goals when I was 15 ( wrote it on a A3 sized paper and pasted in on my room wall ) and I'm going to achieve it this year, November 2016. (B.Sc.IT )
3. Don’t live for others - It's my ONE AND ONLY LIFE. So I will live it in my own way. I normally wont care what others will think.
4. Live for others - I won’t let others choose a path for me, and at the same time, I don’t choose a path that will hurt those around me especially my parents. Its easy to get caught up in your my life, but if I don’t take care of those I love, what is it all for in the end?
5. No Blaming Game - I won’t blame others for my own failure .I strongly believe there’s always someone out there who was dealt a worst hand that made more of it than I did.
6. Don’t complain -I used to complaint to my parents when I am not happy with something in my own life, But then, I gradually changed that kind of attitude and try focus on it and believe myself that I can actively work to change it to make my life more happier than before.
7. Don’t be jealous - This is quiet HARD, but I tried, tried and tried and finally its WORKING ! Not because its morally wrong, but because jealousy is a destructive emotion. Its also a symptom that I am not living my life to the fullest.
8. Don’t be a crab in the bucket -" its the tendency crabs have for pulling other crabs back down, right when they’re about to climb out.". So I stopped being jealous of someone else's success.
9. It’s OK to fail - Failure is the key of success !! So try harder and don't give up easily when you fail in something
10. Change things -I can make a difference – once I stop dismissing myself.
11. Plan for the future, but live in the present - I already planned how I want my life to be in 5 years time and I'm still working for it.
12. Do work you love - I dont always get everything that I want in my LIFE, but that doesn’t mean I can’t find something I love waking up in the morning for. I will keep looking for it, and won’t give up until I find it. Life is too short :)
13.Smile - I never failed to smile - in whatever situation is it. Our life will be much happier, if we smile .
14. Love your parents and cherish them -PARENTS, I'm giving them all the love I have got. I'm lucky enough to have loving parents, its easy to take them for granted because they’ve always been their for me. In simple words, there are only the two souls in this world,that always praying for our success, PARENTS !

这就是我如何充实生活的方式！
1、 列一份遗愿清单，然后开始核对——当然我总有一天会死，但在那之前，我想要尽可能多地体验这个世界。
2、 设定目标并把它们写下来——我在15岁的时候就设定了我的目标（我把它写在A3大小的纸上，并贴在我房间的墙上），我打算今年实现它，也就是2016年11月。
3、 不要为别人而活——这是我唯一的生命。所以我会用我自己的方式去生活。我并不在乎别人是怎么想的。
4、 为别人而活——我不会让别人为我选择一条路，同时，我也不会选择一条会伤害到我身边的人，尤其是我的父母的路。你会很容易的进入到我的生命中，所以如果我连我爱的人都照顾不好的话，那我这辈子活着的意义又是什么呢？
5、 不要责怪别人——我不会因为自己的失败而责怪别人。我坚信，世界上总会有人经历过比我更糟糕的事情。
6、 不要抱怨——当我对我自己的生活不满意的时候，我曾经向我的父母抱怨过，但是后来，我逐渐改变了这种态度，我开始不断的关注这种状态，并且坚信我自己可以积极努力的改变它，使我的生活变得比以前更加快乐。
7、 不要嫉妒——这是个很难克服的难题，但我在不断的尝试，试了又试，终于奏效了！并不是因为嫉妒是道德上的错误，而是因为嫉妒是一种破坏性的情绪。所以这也是我没有充分享受生活的一种表现。
8、 不要做桶里的螃蟹——“这是螃蟹的一种习性，它会在其他螃蟹正要爬出来的时候把它们拉回去。”所以我不会再嫉妒别人的成功。
9、 失败没关系——失败是成功的关键！所以，当你失败的时候，要更加努力，而不是轻易的放弃。
10、 改变一些事情——我能做出改变，只要我不再轻视我自己。
11、 计划未来，但要活在当下——我已经计划好了我5年以后想要的生活了，所以我现在仍在为之努力。
12、 做自己喜欢的工作——我并非总能在生活中得到我想要的一切，但这并不意味着我不能在早晨醒来的时候找到自己喜欢做的事情。我会继续寻找它，没有找到就不会放弃。因为生命实在是太短暂了。
13、 保持微笑——在任何情况下，我都从来不会忘记微笑。如果我们保持微笑，我们的生活将会变得更快乐。
14、 爱你的父母，珍惜你的父母——我在努力给他们我所拥有的所有的爱。我很幸运能够拥有爱我的父母，因为他们一直是我的父母，所以我很容易就把他们对我的付出视为理所当然。简而言之，这个世界上只有两个灵魂会永远的为我们的成功祈祷，那就是我们的父母！

Ed Roberts, just an ordinary person with an interest
How I look at life:
I try not to think too hard about existential matters when there are real problems in front of me that I can help out with.
Everything I do and think I am looking for utility and for ways to improve the process.
Habits:
Exercise.
Meditate when you can.
Be reborn everyday- that sounds weird. I'll try again. Begin again every day. Never rest on your laurels or lament bad luck or mistakes from yesterday. Start again.
Try to be able to accept criticism and aggression with equanimity and compassion, but don't stress too much if you fail. Recognise your human nature and that you can't change who you are.
Do not act without thought. Sometimes a lot can be learned from doing nothing. Ask yourself: Do I really need to know the answer to the question I am about to ask?
How I treat other people:
Be inclusive and let everybody contribute. But do not suffer fools and do not let people walk on you.
Listen, and try to leverage peoples concerns and msigivings to help solve problems. What are their reservations? Could we try their way and see what happens?
Reasons for doing things:
Satisfaction of achieving.
Satisfaction at observing the world in action - seeing beauty where I can.
Satisfaction at learning new things and getting a better handle on the world.

我如何看待生活的：
当我面前出现问题的时候，我会想办法去解决问题，我尽量不去想这个问题是如何发生的。我所做的一切都是为了改进解决问题的过程以及寻找一些实用的办法。
我的习惯：
锻炼！以及在力所能及的时候进行冥想。
每天都重生一次——这听起来有点奇怪。我重新解释一下，就是每天都重新开始。不要停留在过去的荣誉里，也不要抱怨昨天的霉运或错误，重新开始。
试着以平静和同情的心态去接受批评和攻击，但如果你失败了，也不要太过于紧张。你要充分认识到你的人性，就是你无法改变你自己。
不要不经过思考就贸然的去行动。有时候什么都不做也可以学到很多东西。你可以问问你自己：我真的需要知道我将要问的问题的答案吗？
我是如何对待别人的：
要具有包容性，要让每个人都做出贡献。但是不要容忍愚蠢的人，也不要让别人踩在你的身上走过去。
要努力倾听，并试着采用别人的顾虑和疑虑来帮助解决问题。他们有什么保留意见？我们可以试试他们的方法，看看会发生什么？
我做事的理由： 成就感。
在行动中观察世界，你会获得满足感——即尽我所能看到美。
努力的去学习新事物并更好地掌控世界，你会获得满足感。

Vichitra Zawar, Idea is to die young, as late as possible.
An old man fell into a Dam.
The history said, many fell in Dam in the past but nobody returned.
Nobody thought, the man will return as he was weak and old.
To everyone’s surprise, he returned with the waves.
People asked him, How did you come out alive?
He replied, I accommodated myself to the water and not the water to me. I allowed it to shape me and went with the flow. It swirled me, hit me, but eventually I came out with the wave. I lost my fear.
This is what’s life, let go of what’s about to happen, Go with the flow! Let the life shape you! Let it accommodate you!
I let my life accommodate me.

有一位老人掉进了水坝里。根据以往的经历来看，过去也有很多人掉进了水坝里，但是没有一个能活着回来。所以没有任何人能想到，这个人会回来，毕竟他又老身体又弱。但是令大家都没想到的是，这位老人居然跟着海浪回来了。
人们问他，你是怎么活着回来的？
他回答说：我让自己努力适应水，而不是让水适应我。我任由它塑造我，任由它在我的身上打转，任由它击中我，但最终我还是跟随波浪逃了出来。我当时没有任何恐惧。
所以，这就是生活，你要放下即将发生的事，顺其自然！你要让生活塑造你！让它容纳你！
因为我就是让我的生活来适应我。

Vikash Kumar, studied Mechanical Engineering at RVS College of Engineering and Technology, Jamshedpur
1. Between the age of 22 to 28, majority of your friends are entering into relationships, moving to abroad, having fun of their lives in their 20s while you are waking up early, going to the coaching, making notes, discussing concepts with your classmates, appearing for tests, depending upon parents income, cutting down expenses, sleeping late at night, so one day it will be all worth it.
2. You are waiting at metro station or bus station in worn out t shirt and track pants with messy hair while revising before some test you are supposed to appear but you witness bunch of people going to work in their corporate outfits and energetic faces, there you have your own APNA TIME AYEGA moment and go back to what you were doing.
3. Everyone you know whether relatives or friends, will ask you annoying question : So, What are you doing nowdays?… and every single time, you will find it depressing. But still you get over it hoping one day they'll all know it and you go back to studying.
4. Saying NO: to the invitations at marriage, parties at friends, get together at college, movies that your friends are forcing you to come, unhealthy food because exams are nearby, and so on…. You learn to say No to everything that is not your priority, because nothing else matters, everything else can wait.
5. Overcoming self doubt: I have graduated from a non IIT, private engineering college with 8cgpa, and no work experience whatsoever. Hence you keep yourself busy, appear in tests and witness your performance improvement, keep studying and limit your entertainment timings.
Apart from all these, you stop procrastinating, develop perseverance, keep yourself motivated, differentiate intelligence vs hard work and tackle overconfidence. And you learn all things one by one right after you become serious about the preparations and then it isn't a burden anymore!

1、在22到28岁之间，您的大多数朋友都开始谈恋爱了，他们搬去了国外，在20多岁的时候就过上了快乐的生活。而你却要早早的起床，去上辅导班，认真的做笔记，和同学们热烈的讨论着各种各样的概念，你参加各种考试，你每天都努力到很晚才睡觉。你还根据父母的收入，减少了自己的开支。相信我，总有一天你会发现你现在所付出的这一切都是值得的。
2、你留着凌乱的头发，穿着破旧的T恤和运动裤站在地铁站或公交站等车，你此时应该好好的复习准备参加考试，但当你看到一群人穿着他们的工作服，脸上挂着活力四射的表情准备去上班的时候，你会有所羡慕，但是你最终要将注意力转回到你现在正在做的事情上。
3、每个你认识的人，无论是亲戚还是朋友，都会问你一个很烦人的问题：你现在在做什么？每一次你都会被问得很压抑。但是你最终还是会克服它。希望有一天他们都能明白这个道理，让你能回去踏踏实实的学习。
4、你要学会拒绝：你要拒绝婚礼邀请，朋友聚会，大学聚会，以及朋友强迫你去看的电影，你要拒绝考试临近还要吃的垃圾食品等等。你要学会对不重要的事情说不，因为不重要的事情可以往后推。
5、你要克服自我怀疑：我毕业于一所非印度理工学院的私立工程学院，gpa成绩只有8分，没有任何工作经验。因此，你要努力让自己保持忙碌，不停的参加考试，见证自己的成绩得到提高，然后继续学习，并主动缩减娱乐时间。
除此之外，你要停止拖延，培养毅力，保持动力，提高智力和努力工作，还要克服过度自信的问题。当你开始认真准备之后，你会一个接一个地学习所有的新东西，然后它就不再是你的负担了！

Maha Rajan, Life is simple, being simple is the toughest
I love the simple life and trying to live it
? I have no girl friend and not yet married
? Hanging with friends under the Guava tree mostly
? Stopped using mobile phones, so nothing much of disturbances
? Have my skateboard, good habit and a good exercise to keep you fit
? Every weekend beer with friends; not much just a couple max.
? Monthly once go out alone/with friends.
? Get scolded by dad for not cleaning the room, worried words of mom for not able to find a matching girl :)
? Go to films alone;
? Anytime in full enthusiasm to propose a gal, if found one :)
? Smile at everybody; especially at strangers :)
Nothing much other than this! Oh yes, not much of money I have! Someone who can give it will be highly appreciated :P

我喜欢简单的生活，并在努力过上这种生活：
1.我没有女朋友，也没有结婚。
2.我经常和朋友在番石榴树下玩耍。
3.我大部分时间都不用手机，所以我没有太多的干扰。
4.我有一个滑板，所以养成良好的生活习惯以及良好的锻炼习惯，会让你保持身体健康。
5.我每个周末都会和朋友一起去喝啤酒，喝的不多，就几瓶。
6.我每个月都会单独外出旅游一次，或者是和朋友一起出去旅游。
7.我经常因为没有打扫房间而被我爸爸责骂，也经常因为找不到合适的女孩而让我妈妈为我担心。
8.一定要一个人去看一次电影。
9.如果你遇到了合适的女孩的话，那你任何时候都可以热情地向她求婚。
10.对每个人都保持微笑，尤其是对陌生人。
没有什么比这些更重要的了。哦，对了，我的确没有多少钱，但是如果有人能给你这些忠告的话，你将会非常感激这个人的。

Lancelot Quadras, Living a life without regrets since 2015.
I'm 25 now.
In the year 2015, i started trying to live a life without regrets.
It feels good honestly.
It's like a reality check for me.
I have few friends. I keep in touch with each and everyone of them.
If i miss someone, i message/call and let them know that.
It doesn't matter that anymore about me being the person messaging always. Trying to be as positive and optimistic as possible. It works wonders.
I travel. At least once in 3 months. It's a stress buster and a must for all of the city people to escape from the hustle and bustle of this fast paced life.
I have no qualms at my workplace. I meet friends. I blog about what i like. I surprise my family every week by getting them any thing let it be a chocolate each, an ice-cream, a movie treat, pizza treat etc.
But it's not all happy happy days every-time.
I too fell sad sometimes thinking of old moments and wish i could have reacted differently. I try not to think of the past but you know how the mind is; it just doesn't stop.
I've realized i don't want to live in the past anymore, There's only sadness, hatred and regrets. Why do that now when i have so many other things to do, right?

我现在25岁了。
在2015年，我开始尝试过一种没有遗憾的生活。
老实说，这种感觉很好。
这对我来说就像是一次现实的大考核。
我几乎没有几个朋友。但是我和他们每一个人都保持着联系。
如果我想念某人了，我就会给他们发短信或者打电话，让他们知道这一点。
不管我是不是一直发短信的那个人，但这都不重要。除非我对那个人已经没有感觉了。
我一直都尽量保持着积极乐观的态度。因为它能创造奇迹。
我会保持每3个月至少有一次旅行。因为它是一种压力的克星，也是所有城市居民逃离这种快节奏生活的一种必须品。
我在我的工作场所没有任何的不安。我遇见了我的朋友，我在写我喜欢的东西，我每周都会给我的家人准备让他们惊喜的礼物，比如巧克力、冰淇淋、电影、披萨等等。
但并不是每一次都很快乐。
有时回想起过去的时光，我也会感到悲伤，我希望我当时能做出不同的反应。我试着不去回想过去，但是你知道思想是怎么回事的，它就是停不下来。
我意识到我不想再活在过去了，因为过去只有悲伤，仇恨和遗憾。而我现在还有那么多事情要做，所以我现在不可以再沉浸在过去，对吧？