别随便谈性……因色情泛滥已经使性不再神秘而失去了吸引力
Let’s NOT talk about sex… because the onslaught of porn and erotica has demystified it so much that it’s lost its appeal
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别随便谈性……因色情泛滥已经使性不再神秘而失去了吸引力，网友：充气娃娃都比女人要好
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Let’s NOT talk about sex… because the onslaught of porn and erotica has demystified it so much that it’s lost its appeal
别随便谈性……因为色情作品泛滥已经使性不再神秘而失去了吸引力
别随便谈性……因为色情作品泛滥已经使性不再神秘而失去了吸引力
By Charlie Stone, author and journalist who has worked for the BBC, several national newspapers in the UK and international media.
作者查理·斯通，作家兼记者，曾供职于BBC、几家英国全国性报纸和国际媒体。
In the mood for love this Valentine’s Day? No? You’re not the only one. While we have never had more opportunity to consume sex-related content, it seems our appetite for getting it on in reality is waning fast.
今年情人节想要爱爱吗?没有?你不是唯一一个。虽然我们从未有过如此多的机会去消费与性有关的内容，但似乎我们在现实生活中对它的兴趣正在迅速消退。
今年情人节想要爱爱吗?没有?你不是唯一一个。虽然我们从未有过如此多的机会去消费与性有关的内容，但似乎我们在现实生活中对它的兴趣正在迅速消退。
“It’s time to talk more about kink, and take the shame away from it” – at least that’s what some dopey writer in the Guardian says... Except, no it bloody well ISN’T! It’s time to SHUT UP!
“是时候谈谈性癖好，不要再为它感到羞耻了”——至少《卫报》的一些愚蠢写手是这么说的……只是，不是的，他妈的不是的！是时候闭嘴了！
“是时候谈谈性癖好，不要再为它感到羞耻了”——至少《卫报》的一些愚蠢写手是这么说的……只是，不是的，他妈的不是的！是时候闭嘴了！
How about people stop babbling on so much about sex and actually have a real-life encounter or two of their own instead? And then, please, just keep the experiences to themselves.
如果人们不再喋喋不休地谈论性，而是在现实生活中有一两次真正地邂逅，会怎么样?然后呢，拜托，请把这些经历留给他们自己。
I don’t even know what ‘kink’ is, to be honest. And I really don’t care. But I could take a stab at a guess. Here’s the thing, though, I don’t give a toss that Uncle Frank gets off on thigh-length leather boots while also – when he’s in the mood – dressed in his air hostess fetish outfit. It’s powder-blue. It’s Latex. And comes with a little hat. He also has a whip. Say no more.
说实话，我甚至不知道什么是“性癖好”，我真的不在乎。但我可以试着猜一下，事情是这样的，虽然我并不在乎弗兰克大叔穿着长及大腿的皮靴，同时——当他心情好的时候——穿着他迷恋的空姐制服，是浅蓝色。有乳胶，还有一顶小帽子，他还有一根皮鞭，不再多说了。
说实话，我甚至不知道什么是“性癖好”，我真的不在乎。但我可以试着猜一下，事情是这样的，虽然我并不在乎弗兰克大叔穿着长及大腿的皮靴，同时——当他心情好的时候——穿着他迷恋的空姐制服，是浅蓝色。有乳胶，还有一顶小帽子，他还有一根皮鞭，不再多说了。
Just take a quick glance back at the Ancient Greeks or the Romans or the court of Cleopatra. Extravagant sex was just the way it was for the lucky ones. Catherine the Great was – if history is to be believed – a bit of a goer, too.
只需快速回顾一下古希腊人、罗马人或埃及艳后的宫廷就知道了，奢侈的性爱只适合那些幸运儿。叶卡捷琳娜大帝——如果历史可以相信的话——也算个荡妇。
只需快速回顾一下古希腊人、罗马人或埃及艳后的宫廷就知道了，奢侈的性爱只适合那些幸运儿。叶卡捷琳娜大帝——如果历史可以相信的话——也算个荡妇。
I would bet that human sexual activity and the associated oddities and proclivities that travel with it have barely changed since we hunted bison and lived in caves. Just swap a leather sandal for a kinky boot.
我敢打赌，自从我们捕猎野牛和住在洞穴里以来，人类的性行为以及与之相关的猎奇和癖好几乎没有改变。只要把皮凉鞋换成长皮靴就行了。
What has changed, though, certainly in recent years, is the absolute overload of pornographic images, ‘erotic’ books, websites and… sales, sales, sales. Even the tame Huffington Post, sometimes, seems to be some kind of online sex toy hypermarket.
不过，近年来发生变化的是色情图片、“色情”书籍、网站和……销售，销售，销售。即使是老实的《赫芬顿邮报》，有时看起来也像是某种网上性爱玩具大卖场。
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不过，近年来发生变化的是色情图片、“色情”书籍、网站和……销售，销售，销售。即使是老实的《赫芬顿邮报》，有时看起来也像是某种网上性爱玩具大卖场。
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Take, for example, the gadget shop kind of place on my local high street. This is a store that sells pop-mart memorabilia and posters and bits and bobs of jewellery, ‘Best Dad in The World’ and ‘Grumpy Old Man’ coffee mugs and such like. Beside them are sexy maid outfits, fetish handcuffs, lube and vibrators. On a special shelf right beneath the Batman and Stranger Things keyrings. It’s not an ‘adult’ store; in fact it’s mostly teenagers who shop there.
以我所在的商业街上的小杂货店为例。这是一家出售流行纪念品、海报、珠宝、“绝世好爸”和“斗气老顽童”咖啡杯之类的东西的商店，除此之外还有性感的女仆服装、情趣手铐、润滑剂和振动棒，就摆在《蝙蝠侠》和《怪奇物语》钥匙圈下面的一个特殊架子上。这不是一家“成人”商店，事实上在那里购物的大多是青少年。
以我所在的商业街上的小杂货店为例。这是一家出售流行纪念品、海报、珠宝、“绝世好爸”和“斗气老顽童”咖啡杯之类的东西的商店，除此之外还有性感的女仆服装、情趣手铐、润滑剂和振动棒，就摆在《蝙蝠侠》和《怪奇物语》钥匙圈下面的一个特殊架子上。这不是一家“成人”商店，事实上在那里购物的大多是青少年。
But here’s the thing; there have been several studies that suggest youngsters these days are actually having less sex than ever before.
但问题是，有几项研究表明现在的年轻人实际上比以往任何时候都缺少性爱。
And fertility rates are dropping so significantly around the world, that the populations in 23 countries – including Spain and Japan – are set to half by the year 2100. Sex – well, sex between a man and a woman – is where babies come from. (Maybe some folk need a reminder).
世界各地的生育率正在显著下降，包括西班牙和日本在内的23个国家的人口到2100年将减少一半。性——嗯，男人和女人之间的性——是婴儿的来源。(也许有些人需要提醒一下)。
世界各地的生育率正在显著下降，包括西班牙和日本在内的23个国家的人口到2100年将减少一半。性——嗯，男人和女人之间的性——是婴儿的来源。(也许有些人需要提醒一下)。
My guess is all these things are lixed.
我猜这一切都是有联系的。
我猜这一切都是有联系的。
Maybe it’s partly down to sensory overload. There’s just too much sex everywhere slapping kids across the face. And like everything that you get too much of, it has all become, well, a little bit boring. If you can buy condoms and lube at the supermarket checkout alongside Tic Tacs and chewing gum then, maybe – just maybe – you’re taking away a little bit of the mystery.
也许部分原因是感官过载。到处都有太多的性而且触手可及。就像你得到太多的东西一样，一切都变得，嗯，有点无聊了。如果你能在超市收银台嘀嗒糖和口香糖边上就能买到避孕套和润滑剂，那么，也许——只是也许——你就失去了一点神秘感。
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也许部分原因是感官过载。到处都有太多的性而且触手可及。就像你得到太多的东西一样，一切都变得，嗯，有点无聊了。如果你能在超市收银台嘀嗒糖和口香糖边上就能买到避孕套和润滑剂，那么，也许——只是也许——你就失去了一点神秘感。
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And what is it with this obsession for confessing everything that goes on behind closed doors, alone or otherwise, anyway?
究竟是什么让你如此痴迷于承认关起门来发生的一切，不管是独自的还是其他的?
究竟是什么让你如此痴迷于承认关起门来发生的一切，不管是独自的还是其他的?
I don’t just blame the internet. It’s also partly the fault of the worst book ever written; ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’. I would have said “the worst book I’ve ever read,” except I can’t actually finish the thing. It’s just too badly written. I can’t even skip to the juicy bits. I tried. Don’t bother. They’re actually pretty limp and not even all that juicy. It’s just a dodgy fantasy story about bondage with clunky dialogue and cardboard characters.
我不只是责怪互联网。这在一定程度上也是这本史上最烂的书的错：《五十度灰》。我本想说“我读过的最烂的书”，可惜我根本看不下去，只是写得太糟糕了，我都不能直接跳到很刺激的部分。我试过了，不用麻烦了，它们其实很软，甚至不那么刺激。这只是一个关于捆绑的狡猾的幻想故事，有笨拙的对话和刻板的角色。
（译者注：《五十度灰》最初发表在互联网上，当时叫做《宇宙之王》（Master of the Universe），是一篇受《暮光之城》启发创作的SM小说，由于大受欢迎，2011年5月被出版成书。《五十度灰》讲述的只是个再寻常不过的霸道总裁爱上灰姑娘的老套故事，除了那些荷尔蒙决堤的SM情节，一切都跟中文网上一抓一把的玛丽苏小说没什么两样。）
The book will celebrate its 10th anniversary since publication this summer, and has sold something like 150 million copies. The only thing it’s taught anyone is that truly terrible writing can sell by the container load. And spawn a movie that was, arguably, even worse than the book.
这本书今年夏天将迎来出版10周年，迄今已售出约1.5亿册。它教给人们的唯一一件事是，真正糟糕的作品可以以集装箱的数量出售。然后拍出一部可以说比原著更糟糕的电影。
这本书今年夏天将迎来出版10周年，迄今已售出约1.5亿册。它教给人们的唯一一件事是，真正糟糕的作品可以以集装箱的数量出售。然后拍出一部可以说比原著更糟糕的电影。
There’s clearly a lot of money in that game. And the book did help give birth to an industry, with people confessing to all the dumb stuff they should leave on the other side of their bedroom doors. (Maybe they’re also hoping for a 150-million-copy pay day…)
那场游戏显然很赚钱，这本书确实帮助催生了一个产业，人们承认了他们应该把所有愚蠢的东西放在卧室门的另一边。(也许他们也希望能有1亿5千万份的收入……)
那场游戏显然很赚钱，这本书确实帮助催生了一个产业，人们承认了他们应该把所有愚蠢的东西放在卧室门的另一边。(也许他们也希望能有1亿5千万份的收入……)
I don’t know about you, each to their own and all that, but I really have absolutely no interest in what anyone else gets up to in the comfort of their own dungeon, so long as it’s between consenting adults... or at least consenting footwear.
我不知道你们是怎么想的，每个人都有自己的想法，但我真的对别人在自己舒适的地牢里做什么完全没兴趣，只要是成年人之间自愿的……或者至少是成年伴侣。
我不知道你们是怎么想的，每个人都有自己的想法，但我真的对别人在自己舒适的地牢里做什么完全没兴趣，只要是成年人之间自愿的……或者至少是成年伴侣。
We need to talk about kink? Nah, mate. We don’t. It’s Valentine’s Day. It’s sales and marketing and you’re just trying to flog some crap book.
我们需要谈谈性癖好吗?不需要,伙计，我们不需要。今天是情人节，这是销售和市场营销，而你只是在推销一本垃圾书。
我们需要谈谈性癖好吗?不需要,伙计，我们不需要。今天是情人节，这是销售和市场营销，而你只是在推销一本垃圾书。
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Women's Lib ruined everything. Women are NOT any more to be cared for and respected. They are competitor to man, that has to be kept at bay and "bashed up". They have MORE rights than men, earn their own money and in are in no way dependant on men. Therefore men's well being is far from their mind and men turn to the internet. It's quite normal, as far as I can see. You put pressure onto a system and the system will give.
妇女解放运动毁了一切。女性不再需要被关心和尊重，她们是男人的竞争对手，男人必须加以遏制和“击溃”。她们比男人拥有更多的权利，自己挣钱，并且完全不依赖男人。因此，男人的幸福与他们的想法相去甚远，于是男人转向互联网。在我看来，这很正常，你对一个系统施加压力，这个系统就会屈服。
@Robin Whood
So many real men frightened by strong independent women says everything about the man...
许多真正的男人被强大独立的女人吓到了，这说明了关于男人的一切……
@Robin Whood
If a man has no self respect, why would any woman respect that man?
如果一个男人没有自尊，为什么女人会尊重他?
@Jaundo
Who talks about self respect ? Please read properly !
谁谈论自尊了？请仔细阅读文章！
@Jaundo
Men have enough respect to refuse to be managed, insulted, dominated or told to apologize for being born in the wrong gender. Most modern American woman are more trouble than they are worth. That's why I married a Russia women.
男人拥有足够的尊重来拒绝被管理、侮辱、支配或被要求为生于错误性别而道歉。大多数现代美国女人的麻烦都超过了她们的价值，所以我娶了一个俄罗斯女人。
@Jaundo
Where did you read in my lines "a man has no self respect"? Show me !! What I did say is :" men cannot but have little respect for women"and vise versa - see, you must read properly !!
你从哪读到我说过"男人没有自尊"？给我找出来！！我说的是:“男人不能不尊重女人”，反之亦然——看，你必须好好读一下!!
The problem with sex is that ( for most of us) it requires a woman. Modern women come with so many pitfalls and dangers that solo sex is safer by an order of magnitude. Porn makes solo sex as good, if not better than the awkward and dangerous fumbling about that a real human partner entails. Unless you want kids, why bother?
性的问题在于(对我们大多数人来说)它需要一个女人。现代女性身上有如此多的陷阱和危险，单人性行为(solo sex)要安全一个数量级。色情作品让单人性行为变得很棒，如果不比一个真正的人类伴侣所需要的尴尬和危险的摸索更好的话。除非你想要孩子，不然何苦呢?
@apothqowejh
Sad, but true.
很悲哀，但是事实。
@apothqowejh
Trouble is you can see on dating sites(and the older ones are worse than the younger ones) women think they have the keys to the kingdom...until they don't and then they despise their younger counterparts..women pushing late 50's with a list of demands that would make a kidnapper blush..and then as one woman confided to me " the interest just stopped and I became invisible" you had something and you thought it would last forever...applies to men too but not the same degree and men in the main men dont set up a complex courtship to get to the main event
问题是你可以在约会网站上(年长的比年轻的更糟糕)看到的女人认为她们都是女王……直到她们做不成，然后她们就会鄙视年轻的同伴……五十多岁的女人所提出的一系列要求会让绑匪脸红。然后就像一个女人向我倾诉的那样:“兴趣荡然无存，我成了隐形人。”这也适用于男人，但程度不同，主要是男人不会通过复杂的求爱来达到主要目的。
@apothqowejh
still good ones out there though. many have been corrupted and wasted their value unfortunately but a good one is handy to have around for sure
不过还是有不错的。不幸的是，很多都被堕落了，浪费了她们的价值，但一个好伴侣肯定不容错过。
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@Carl Cuckproof
A good one what? I have been through a few males but what I find is how incredibly stupid they are!
一个好的什么?我找过几个男人，但我发现他们是愚不可及!
@rowdypest
Maybe go through a few less and take the time to get to know them. Or do you enjoy being a freeway?
也许你可以少找几个男人，花点时间去了解他们，或者你喜欢当公交车？
@apothqowejh
Sad you have obviously never had real sex. If you had you would know the difference>
很遗憾，你显然从来没有过真正的性生活。如果你有过你就会知道其中的区别(相比单人性行为solo sex)了。
@apothqowejh
Seems to me like you sex for the sake of sex.
Sex should be a byproduct of love (kids or no kids) rathar than a simple energy emptying activity. Thats what my elders taught me.
Dont look for sex. Look for a wife/stable girl. If all you want to do is squirt, just stay on adult websites
在我看来你是为了性而做爱。
性应该是爱的副产品(有孩子或没有孩子)，而不是简单的能量释放活动。我的长辈就是这么教我的。
不要寻花问柳，找个老婆/稳定女友。如果你只想喷射，那就呆在成人网站上吧。
@Bob Ross
1) yes, I like sex for the sake of sex.
2). I’ve already had my kids.
3). Modern women come with a lawsuit and a 50/50 split of YOUR property.
4). Love ... good luck.
1). 是的，我是为了性而做爱。
2). 我已经有孩子了。
3). 现代女性会打官司，并分掉你一半财产。
4). 爱……祝你好运。
@apothqowejh
1) I missed words in my sentence, liking sex isn't bad
3) are you divorced or something? I agree current laws are very biased towards women but ... it's kinda up to you to find the right one that suits you (they are all crazy, you just need the one you can manage). where are you looking for them? it often comes down to this even if not always
4) Your definition of love has been tainted by hollywood and disney? what did your elders say about love? mine told me its basically commitment (but not only). Are you committed to your family? then that's love in my eyes. Investing your energy and time into your family is in fact the reality of the cliche "giving love", not being a hedonicstic in the moment hippie. Anyone can love anything as long as it suits them.
the fizzy buzzing feelings that might last 3-4 years are "just" chemistry
1） 我漏了句话，喜欢性并不是坏事儿
3） 你离婚了还是怎么了？我同意现行法律很偏向女性，但是……找到一个适合你的人取决于你自己（她们都很疯狂，你只需要一个你能应付的人）。你在哪里找她们？它往往归结为这一点，即使不总是如此。
4） 你对爱情的定义被好莱坞和迪斯尼玷污了？你的长辈怎么看待爱情？我的长辈告诉我这是一种基本的承诺（但不仅如此）。你对你的家庭忠诚吗？那就是我眼中的爱。把你的精力和时间投入到你的家庭中，这实际上是老生常谈的“给予爱”的现实，而不是当下的享乐主义者。任何人都可以爱任何适合自己的东西。
这种飘飘欲仙的感觉可能会持续3-4年，这“只是”化学反应而已。
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@Bob Ross
Let’s just say, without over sharing, that in my line of work I get to see, every day, the things people who supposedly love each other are willing to do to hurt each other. I see children deliberately hurt because mom knows inflicting pain on the kids will hurt dad. I see women destroy things of value so the man can’t have them. I see lawsuits filed over nothing, just to bankrupt the ex. I see visitation and the denial thereof used as a club. I see patently false allegations of abuse and even sexual abuse. You cannot watch one of these unfold without concluding that porn is a better option.
这么说吧，不用添油加醋，在我这行我每天都会看到那些本应相爱的人为了伤害对方而愿意做的事。我看到孩子们被故意受伤，因为妈妈们知道让孩子们受伤也会伤害到爸爸。我看到女人毁掉有价值的东西好让男人得不到。我看到过无缘无故提起诉讼，只是为了让前任破产。我看到过有人把探视权和拒绝探视权当作一种消遣。我看到了很多关于虐待甚至性虐待的虚假指控。你看这些的时候，不能不得出结论:色情片是一个更好的选择。
@apothqowejh
Porn was created to destroy you. You're seeing one level of evil, and choosing an even worse one. Do you understand that? Do you see what you are doing?
You've been so tainted by all the corruption around you, you're choosing another form of it, that looks peaceful, but is subtle in its work. Get out of that entire world. You seem to be stuck in a world where people have lost their humanity. Are you going to throw away yours, just because they have done that? You're rebelling because others are idiots, disrespectful to themselves and each other? And in your rebellion you do what's even worse? Is that your answer?
色情作品是用来毁灭你的。你看到了一种程度的罪恶，却选择了一种更糟糕的罪恶。你明白吗?你看到你在做什么了吗?
你被周围的堕落玷污得如此之深，你选择了另一种形式的堕落，它看起来很平静，但它的危害不易察觉。彻底从那个世界理走出来吧，你似乎被困在一个人们失去人性的世界里。就因为他们做了那些狗屁倒灶的事情，你就自暴自弃了吗?你叛逆是因为其他人都是白痴，对自己和彼此都不尊重?在你的叛逆中你做了什么更糟糕的事?这就是你的答案吗?
Generally speaking, if a man talks about sex it's considered sexual harassment. If a women talks about sex, it's 10 bucks per minute.
一般来说，如果一个男人谈论性，就会被认为是性骚扰。如果一个女人谈论性，每分钟10美元。
Sex dolls with AI will serve the "new humans", without risking babies, the unwanted outcome. For breeding of Alphas, Betas, Gammas and Deltas there will be a market for "wombs to rent", the ultimate emancipation for women .... Brave New World of egocentric pathology.
带有人工智能的性爱娃娃将为“新人类”服务，而不会危及婴儿，也不会产生不想要的结果。为了养育阿尔法、贝塔、伽玛和德尔塔，将会有一个“出租子宫”的市场，这是女性的终极解放……自我中心的病态的美丽新世界。
I had an inflatable doll but it ran off with my best mate.
我有一个充气娃娃，但它和我最好的朋友跑了。
@Grant Grant
Who got the house?
谁得到了房子？
the really guilty party is advertising and marketing with images designed to appeal straight to a man's stone age brain..at least porn you decide to view..and when..if a man driving a car sees a good looking woman in knickers and bra on a poster he wants to get it on...it's hardwired...part of the brain doesnt know the difference between reality and fantasy...its caveman sees healthy female of breeding age end of story...women are wired differently.....nature makes them more sextive....the advertising industry and marketing business have been playing around with our emotions since forever...especially men's. And at the same time making women feel insecure about their bodies
真正有罪的一方是广告和营销，用的是直接吸引石器时代男人大脑的图像……色情作品至少你可以决定是不是要看，什么时候看……如果一个开车的男人在海报上看到一个穿着短裤和胸罩的漂亮女人，他就会想和她上床……这是天生的……大脑的一部分不知道现实和幻想的区别……这就是穴居时代男人看到了处于繁殖期健康女性的故事结局……女人的天性不同……自然让她们更挑剔……广告行业和营销行业一直以来都在玩弄我们的情感……尤其是男性的情感。同时也让女性对自己的身体缺乏安全感。
@HerrRStiltskin
Any man who's cave man brain does not kick in at the sight of a near naked woman healthy attractive on an image must have a real real low libido...yes we supress it and move on but if it does nothing for you hmmm....
任何一个男人，如果他的穴居人大脑在看到一个近乎裸体、健康、有吸引力的女人的图像时都没有反应，那他一定是性欲低下……是的，我们压制它并继续前进，但如果它对你没有用，嗯……
@HerrRStiltskin
Please don't compare your mental delays with men in general. I'm quite sure most men can appreciate the sight of a near naked woman without their cave man brain taking over, luckily!
请不要把你的精神迟钝和一般男人相比。我敢肯定，大多数男人都能欣赏一个近乎裸体的女人，而不会被洞穴男人的大脑占据，幸好！
@HerrRStiltskin
Purlease even men are not stupid enough to just respond to such shxxxxt even men must realize at some point that they are being conned?
拜托，即使是男人也不会愚蠢到对这种伎俩起反应，即使是男人也肯定在某个时候意识到他们被骗了？
@rowdypest
Exactly. Most men can rub two neurons together and not get conned by advertisement and TV programming anymore.
On the other hand, womynz are STILL logically impaired and mostly emotional so they still fall for the latest ad tricks. They still buy tones of makeup, browse tones of glossy magazines/app/channels pages, consume tones of TV programming which is now called Netflix and adhere to the latest virtue signaling trends out there.
Instead of hypergamy womynz today lowered their standards to ghettogamy aka voluntarily turning themselves into ho's and sex obxts for lowest class individuals.
完全正确。大多数男人可以消耗两个神经元而不再被广告和电视节目所欺骗。
另一方面，女人仍然在逻辑上有缺陷，而且大多是情绪化的，所以他们仍然会落入最新的广告陷阱，她们仍然会大肆购买各类化妆品，浏览光鲜的时尚杂志/应用程序/频道页面，为各类电视节目（现在称为Netflix）买单，并坚持跟进最新流行趋势。
今天的女性不再攀高枝，而是把自己的标准降低到贫民层级，也就是自愿把自己变成最低阶层个人的性对象。
Porn has become so pervasive that it has (at least for many) changed what should be a healthy physical relationship based on mutual love, respect and pleasure into a dirty movie. Does anyone even know what a healthy physical relationship looks like any more?
色情作品已经变得如此泛滥(至少对许多人来说)，它已经把一种建立在相互爱慕、尊重和快乐基础上的健康性关系变成了一部肮脏电影。还有人知道健康的性关系是什么样子的吗?
@njab
If the gullible would stop buying into the garbage that is fed us purely for financial gain then maybe the torrent of filth would abate. But until those who are obedient to the persuasion of the profiteers of porn wise up and reject their conditioning, no chance!
如果那些冲动者不再购买那些纯粹为了经济利益而消遣我们的色情垃圾，那么这种淫秽洪流可能会减弱。但是，除非那些沉迷于色情奸商劝说的人聪明起来，拒绝他们的条件，否则没有机会!
The 19th century was Romantic, pretty much lost by time of Vietnam war, which also brought an infusion of drugs, then economy declined beginning in 1973, college education became a farce, then student debt. No one feels romantic or appeals to the other when living in or near poverty. Plus who wants to bring children into a world where you can't even take care of yourself? Unless you belong to those tribes who are just into immediate gratification, sans taking responsibility for the consequences and millions of single mothers who nobody else is going to marry either.
19世纪是浪漫的，几乎被越南战争给搞没了，越南战争也带来了毒品的流入，然后从1973年开始经济衰退，大学教育变成了一场闹剧，然后是学生债务。当生活在贫困之中或接近贫困时，没有人会觉得浪漫，也没有人会吸引对方。再说了，谁想把孩子带到一个连自己都照顾不好的世界里呢?除非你属于那些只追求即时满足，不承担后果责任的部落，还有数百万没人愿意娶她们的单身母亲。
Don't talk...just do it.
不要空谈(性)……想做就做。
I do not agree with controlling sex. I detest the concept of exploiting sex for someone elses financial gain.
我不同意控制性，我痛恨利用性来为别人谋取经济利益的观念。
Feminism, plain and simple. This demystification has been happening before covid. Pair bonding is over for good.
女权主义，简单明了。这种去神秘化在新冠疫情之前就已经发生了。男女结合永远结束了。
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@bvbdan
When my woman starts acting like a man I know it's over.
当我的女人开始表现得像个男人时，我知道一切都结束了。
Doubtlessly, not just its appeal, but also the mysterious part..
Hence..
毫无疑问，不仅仅是它的吸引力，还有它神秘的部分。
因此……
With the marital rape laws in the US and the constant barrage of anti-man propaganda, polls now show that over half of the unmarried men never intend to be married, ever.
We men got married to have a safe harbor where we would expect a sex life without being arrested if we patted our wife on the posterior. As thing are, all that marriage gives a man now is the chance to give half his money to a woman - who will tell him how horrible men are. There are times a doll is better
随着美国婚内强奸法的实施和反男性宣传的持续推进，民意调查显示，超过一半的未婚男性从未打算结婚，永远不会。
我们男人结婚是为了有一个安全的避风港，在那里如果我们拍拍妻子的屁股，我们可以期待性生活而不被逮捕。事实上，婚姻给男人的唯一好处就是有机会把自己一半财产给一个女人——这个女人会告诉他男人有多可怕。有时候充气玩玩更好。
@Rodgers Russia
Even 30 years ago many of my peers figured out don;t do the marriage thing..its like signing up to be a bond slave for no good reason..very few women take their part of a bargain seriously
甚至在30年前，我的很多同龄人都明白了不要做婚姻这件事……这就像是无缘无故地签约做一个亲密奴隶……很少有女人会认真对待她们的交易。
@Rodgers Russia
Why get married?
Just find a woman you hate and buy her a house.
It worked for me!
为什么要结婚？
找个你讨厌的女人给她买套房子。
我就是这么干的！
The increasing demand for documented evidence of a mutual agreement before and during sex, the METOO movement, false allegations of rape, etc have undeniably deterred many males from engaging in sexual activity.
越来越多的人要求在发生性行为之前和期间提供双方同意的书面证据、METOO运动、关于强奸的虚假指控等，这些都不可否认地阻止了许多男性参与性活动。
(译者注：METOO movement， MeToo运动，目的是呼吁所有曾遭受性侵的女性挺身而出,在社交媒体发文讲述自己的经历并附上标签“Metoo(我也遭遇过)”,借此唤起社会关注。)
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Its been happening for a while, years ago women dressed in amazing outfits even just to go to the shops. Fashion has destroyed the way women dress now, as far as the way young ones look when when you see them, well they are just men. The lads cant get aroused by that because otherwise they will start finding there mates attractive. Im sure if you dropped lads from now into the eighties they would definitely find an interest in women again!
多年前这种现象就已经发生了，女性甚至只是去商店就会穿上奇装异服，时尚已经摧毁了现在女性的穿着方式，当你看到年轻女性时，你会发现她们只是男性。小伙子们不会因此而兴奋，否则他们会开始发现自己的伴侣很有吸引力。我敢肯定，如果你把小伙子们从现在扔回到20世纪80年代，他们肯定会再次对女人产生兴趣!
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@Remprivac
Not just the dress sense, in the UK certainly almost all women under 60 are morbidly obese.
不仅仅是穿着，在英国，几乎所有60岁以下的女性都患有病态肥胖。
Quit celebrating Valentine's Day after my ex-wife served me divorce papers on it.
Nice touch, eh?
Man's (and women's for you language nazis) obsession with sex is, in my opinion, a symptom of our disconnect with the natural world. Few people hunt, or even fish anymore. Sex is the only primal urge they are in contact with (no pun intended).
我前妻给我发了离婚协议书之后我就不再庆祝情人节了。
在我看来，男人(对你们这些语言纳粹来说包括女人)对性的痴迷，是我们与自然世界脱节的一个表现。现在很少有人打猎，甚至捕鱼，性是他们接触到的唯一原始冲动(没有双关语)。
@RedneckMother
you have a point as a red blooded male who's libido is unchanged in decades from my teens on...you dont get posters with girls in their knickers and bra on trees around the lake so you can relax but no go to civilization and their are sexual images everywhere firing up our caveman brains...women were throwing themselves at for MONEY
你说的有道理，作为一个血气方刚的男人，从我十几岁开始的几十年里，性欲都没有改变……不会在湖边的树上看到女孩们穿着短裤和胸罩的海报，这样你就可以放松了，但是不要去文明世界，那里到处都是性感的图片，让我们的穴居人大脑兴奋起来……女人们是为了钱而自投罗网
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If you're with the right woman sex never loses its appeal.
如果你和好女人在一起，性永远不会失去吸引力。
Even if several studies suggest youngsters these days are actually having less sex than ever before, who says this is actually true? At this day and age with all the hatred and witch hunt, it's probably best to say you don't have sex.
即使有几项研究表明如今的年轻人实际上比以往任何时候都少做爱，但谁说这是真的呢?在这个充满仇恨和政治迫害的时代，最好说你没有性生活。
"And fertility rates are dropping so significantly around the world,...."
Fertility rates are not dropping in the west because of "too much porn". Lol!
They are mostly dropping because the quality of male sperm has dropped astonishingly over the decades. This is a function of man-made chemicals in the environment and food chain.
“世界各地的生育率正在显著下降……”
西方国家的生育率并没有因为“色情泛滥”而下降。哈哈!
它们之所以下降，主要是因为男性精子的质量在过去几十年里惊人地下降，这是人造化学物质在环境和食物链中的作用。
Don't judge the world by the way things are in the US/UK. The world is a big place and there are still many places that understand and value the wonderful complexities of a relationship between a man and a woman. In the "west", true or not, the impression is that men have forgotten how (or are afraid) to be men, and women have forgotten how (or are afraid) to be women.
不要以美国/英国的情况来判断世界。世界那么大，仍然有很多地方能够理解和重视男女关系的奇妙复杂性。在“西方”，不管是真是假，人们的印象是，男人已经忘记如何(或害怕)成为男人，而女人也忘记如何(或害怕)成为女人。
WE haven't lost our interest, just the women. Men are as randy as they ever were.
我们没有对性失去兴趣，只有女人对性失去兴趣了。男人们和以前一样疯狂。
@Rodgers Russia
It's interesting on dating sites 50 plus women looking for the perfect man no consideration around 60 it's virtually game over for women..not great for men either the point is women are delusional
有趣的是在约会网站上，50多岁的女人在寻找完美的男人，没有考虑到60岁左右女人的游戏已经基本结束了……这对男人也不好，关键是女人有妄想症。
! WARNING - STRONG WORDS !
Vaginal mycosis, vaginal discharge, urinary incontinence...
After such an attack of TV commercials, it's really hard to want to have sex with a woman. Instead of getting excited when I see them, I feel disgusted.
!警告——言辞偏激!
阴道真菌病，阴道分泌物，尿失禁……
在电视广告的狂轰乱炸之下，想要和一个女人做爱真的很难。当我看到她们的时候，我非但没有感到兴奋，反而感到厌恶。
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