匿名网友分享被绿经历，网友：坚强
Anon gets drunk with his gf
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坚强。
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>23岁那年交了个女朋友
>搬到一起住了
>生活看起来一片光明
>这样过了两年
>很认真地在想不久后把她娶了
>有天跟她在家喝醉了
>她说她一直在和一个同事上床，那个同事是她介绍给我认识过的，我还觉得是个很不错的男人
>以为她喝醉了在说胡话
>以防万一看了一眼她的手机
>上图是我看见她和那个同事文爱并交换裸照十个来月时的表情
>从公寓里搬了出去，留下她一个人在那里鬼扯她同事的床上技巧有多好
>她一个月后搬去和同事一起住了
总之我又回论坛了，我也不觉得自己一时半会儿还能再出去……
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That's so fucking rough. Heartbreak fucking sucks.
这太他妈难捱了。心碎的感觉真的糟透了。
Seems like he needs something to shake him out of it. Maybe a therapist or an outlet of sorts
我觉得他可能需要一些东西让他走出困境。说不定需要看看心理医生之类的。
Went down this road myself 3 years ago. Best thing for him is support. He might say no I don't want to game, or hang out, or come drink, but you hitting him up with options that his brain doesn't even consider right now is super helpful.
我自己三年前经历过一样的事。对他来说最重要的是支持。他可能会说不我不想打游戏，不想出去玩，不想喝一杯，但是你在给他一些他的脑子压根不会考虑的事情，这本身就是非常有帮助的事情。
He will get over it with time, really. That’s the only thing that helps though. About a year ago my ex and I split after my brother died, couple weeks go by and my childhood best friend of over 10 years up and blocks me on everything out of the blue, no reason given. Yesterday I found out they’re dating, it hurts really bad, worse than anything. But I know from the past year of progress that things do get better, even if it takes years.
他会随着时间过去而慢慢好过来的，真的。只有这一种方式能帮到他。大概一年前我的兄弟去世了，之后我和我前任分手了，过了几周我处了十多年的最好的发小毫无来由地把我屏蔽了。昨天我发现他们两个在约会。这真的很令人难过，没什么比这还令人难过。但是我从过去一年的经历中知道，事情会慢慢变好的，即便要花上几年的时间。
yea it does. im worried my best childhood friend from high school is gonna off himself because of a breakup that he thought was the one, but she lied/cheated. Literally all i can tell him is it gets easier but only with time, but it's been months now and he's still not an ounce over it. Idk what else to say.
确实。我高中认识的最好的朋友最近闹着要自杀，因为他和他心目中的唯一分手了，女方劈了腿。我能做的只有跟他说事情会随着时间慢慢变好的，但已经过了好几个月了他还没好过来。我也不知道还有什么可以说的。
Never realized how much I enjoy solitude until I moved in with my gf. I love her and the time we spend together, but being alone rarely ever happens anymore. Grass is always greener.
在我和女朋友一起住之前我从来没意识到过自己有多喜欢独处。我很爱她，也喜欢我们共同度过的时光，但我基本没有机会享受独自一个人的时间了。这山望着那山高嘛。
Idk I genuinely love being alone. It gets lonely every now and again, but being single and free to do what I want and how I want is a pleasure I’m not ready to give up.
我真的喜欢独处的时光。有的时候我可能会感到孤独，但是一个人生活，想做什么就做什么，这是一种我暂时还不打算放弃的快乐。
Alone =/= lonely
独身 ≠ 孤独
My family could not wrap their heads around that. After my first serious relationship at 23, I was 28 when I entered my current one. The first 3 of the 5 years in between I didn’t date anyone. I just did my thing and worked. I was thoroughly enjoying being alone. But my dad was constantly hounding me about meeting someone and almost trying to convince me that I was lonely and depressed. Always trying to trick me into visiting him when there would be “a pretty girl” at his house for one reason or another.
我的家人就想不明白这种事。我23岁那年第一次正经谈恋爱，28岁的时候认识了现在的对象。之间的5年里，头三年我没交过女朋友。我只是工作，顺便做我想做的事。我非常享受一个人的生活。但我爸爸一直在劝我见见其他人，甚至想让我相信我因此又孤独又抑郁。总是拿“家里有漂亮女孩”之类的理由骗我去见他。
我最后决定交女朋友的时候，甚至都不想告诉他。
Tell anyone this and they immediately think there is either something wrong with you or you're in the closet.
跟任何人说这种想法，他们立刻觉得要么你人有毛病，要么你性取向有毛病。
人们只是不理解独处也是很美好的事情。
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I had a girlfriend for a short bit but the constant pressure to talk to her and spend time with her, which really wasn’t a lot, was just too much for me. I liked being able to do nothing but my work for days at a time. I think talking to people is exhausting.
我曾经交过一段时间的女朋友，但是和她聊天，花时间陪她的压力，虽然真的不算什么压力，但对我来说还是太重了。我喜欢每天除了工作什么也不用做的日子。我觉得和人说话很累。
I used to approach women like "wow I hope I can get her to like me and then keep liking me" and then I figured out that's why I get bored or tired of the relationship. You gotta find someone you actually enjoy not someone you're just gonna be happy that you're able to date.
我以前撩妹的时候，总是抱着“哇我希望我能让她喜欢我，并且以后一直喜欢我”的想法，然后我发现这就是我总觉得无聊或者很累的原因。你得找一个你真的喜欢的人，而不是什么能约上就算很荣幸的人。
直到这些规律开始显现之前，你都很难意识到自己有多么肤浅。
Yup. You always see stories where the husband like to play video games or watch sports and the wife doesn’t and how that causes a big rift in their relationship that they try to work past when the real answer is that you should marry a girl who likes what you’re into as well. Marry a girl who like hiking like you do. Or painting. Or tea collecting. Don’t just start a relationship for the hell of it.
没错。你总是能看见那些丈夫喜欢打游戏或者看体育比赛而妻子不喜欢，最后两人的关系出现了巨大的裂痕的故事，但其实你本来就应该娶一个喜欢你的爱好的女孩。娶一个像你一样喜欢徒步，或者绘画，或者茶叶收集的。别只是为了找女朋友而找女朋友。
Yeah, but how do I find a woman that's into hentai tentacle porn
是啊，但我去哪儿找喜欢变态触手里番的女的啊
Sarcasm aside, I have meet a few who are into it unironically and sometimes end up more lewd than the regular guys on the group.
没有嘲讽的意思，我遇见过不少这种女生，有时候她们色起来比圈子里的男生都厉害。
重点是战术，不要当怪人，找到理解尊重和边界的好的朋友圈。
Yup. Every girl I've ever dated was secretly or not-so-secretly into hentai tentacle porn. Zero exceptions. As well as much kinkier stuff. Just have to know how to approach it.
没错。我约过的每个女孩都公开或秘密地喜欢变态触手里番。没有例外。还有更怪的。你只需要知道怎么接近。
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Honestly I felt the same way. When my wife and I started dating I felt like I really missed being alone. However, after a while when we got used to eachother and moving in together stopped being new I noticed that we could be "alone" together. I'll be on my computer and the passive noises she makes just being home feels like normal and when she's away it feels weird now. Its hard to explain well and I'm not sure I'm doing a very good job.
说实话我有相同的感受。我和妻子刚开始交往的时候我真的很怀念自己一个人的时光。但过了一阵子，我们习惯了彼此，搬到一起住之后，我发现我们可以在一起“独处”。我可以就坐在电脑前，而她发出的背景音让我觉得很正常，但她不在的时候我反倒觉得很奇怪。这不太好解释，我不知道我们现在算不算好。
One time my mom was out of town, and my dad mentioned how he wasn't sleeping well because he's not used to sleeping without her. Which, was odd to me at the time. I've shared a bed with girlfriends before and it's sweet but man do you sleep terribly. I guess it's kind of what you're talking about, where over a long time you get so used to that person's little distractions that it feels weird to be without them. Like your partner turning in bed might keep you up the first 100 nights, but after the 1000th night it's just weird not having it.
有一次我妈妈有事出城，我爸爸跟我说他晚上睡不着觉，因为他不喜欢睡觉的时候她不在身边。当时我听了感觉很怪。我之前和女朋友睡过，虽然很甜美但是真的睡不着。我觉得可能就像你说的这样，在过了很长时间之后，你已经完全适应了另一个人平常做的事情，以至于没有这些事你会觉得很怪。比你的伴侣在床上翻身可能会让你头一百个晚上睡不着，但是再过一千个晚上你就会觉得没有这个反倒睡不着。
My gf went to another country and didn't even wait one whole month before cheating on me. That was a year ago. To everyone who has ever gone through or are going through something like this, just hang on. It gets better, it's really tough but it will get better.
我女朋友出了国，还没过一个月就劈腿了。那是一年以前发生的事。对每个经历过这种事，或是正在经历这种事的人，我想说的只有坚持二字。事情总会变好的，虽然真的很难捱，但也真的会变好。
I never understood how people so easily just start dating someone who openly cheated with no reservations. A few years back I met a girl and she had a boyfriend, she was a coworker. She kept sending me nudes and asking to hook up, I said no, I'm not that guy. I consider people who knowingly assist someone in cheating to be complete scumbags.
我从来没有办法理解那些人是怎么毫无心理负担地和公开劈腿的人处对象的。几年之前我认识过一个女同事，她有男朋友。她一直给我发那种自拍，并且约我，我说不行，我不是那种人。我觉得那些在知情的情况下参与劈腿的都是彻底的人渣。
过了一年多，她和男朋友分手了。之后她找到我说想和我约，我说可以，但我们永远都没机会做男女朋友。她很震惊，说我是个混蛋。当然我们还是约了几个月，所以爱怎么说怎么说吧。
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所以在这段关系即将结束的时候，有天晚上我们喝醉了，夜也深了。我们去睡觉，她说她爱我。我假装没听见，上床睡觉了。她醒了之后向我道歉说不应该说她爱我，我说“没事儿，我喝醉的时候跟几百个人说过我爱你，我懂”。她说她不是因为说爱我，而是因为在喝醉了的时候承认了她爱我。
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在这之后没过多久我就和她分了。显然她想要的比我愿意给的要多得多。
Good for you to cut things off. Every person has their reason for cheating and each situation is different but idk if I knew a girl was cheating on her bf with me or rather trying too, that'd be a total turn off for ever wanting to date them. Cause it would really make me think every male friend, coworker, classmate, is now a possible fuck buddy for them. Good on you to break it off and stop it when you know it was getting serious on her end.
你及时分手是好事。每个人都有劈腿的理由，各有各的不同情况，但假如我认识一个女生，她为了我和男友劈腿的话，那我以后都不可能和她约会。因为这会让我觉得我的每个男性朋友，同事，同学，都是她的潜在炮友。在你知道她打算认真起来的时候及时分手，是好事。
what justifications are valid for cheating?
劈腿难道还有什么正当理由吗？
None really but I've known some girls that cheated cause the situation was shit and then really found the love of their lives. Like idk. My mom cheated on my dad because he was a total fuckin asshole and she didn't handle it right. But my step-dad and her have been married 15 years and she ain't never even thought of cheating on him. Not every girl is "once a cheater is always a cheater" same with dudes.
或许没有，但我知道有些女孩劈腿是因为她们现在的感情状况很糟糕，然后又遇见了她们的真命天子。就，我妈出轨了我爸，因为我爸是个混蛋，她没处理好。但她嫁给我继父的15年里从来没出轨过一次。不是每个女孩都是“出轨过一次，这辈子都劈腿”的，男孩也一样。
Yeah theres a difference between cheating on your "normal" partner and cheating on your "abusive" partner. We always need to know both sides of the story before judging the cheater
没错，出轨你“正常”的伴侣和出轨“虐待你”的伴侣还是有区别的。我们在评判劈腿的那个人之前，还是得把两方面的故事都听进去。
How can an average man not have trust issues now a days?
现在的男人有几个没有信任危机的？
I found out my ex gf and childhood best friend (3rd grade- college) have been together for almost a year hiding it from me, so that’s nice I guess.
我发现我的前女友和童年时最好的朋友（3年级直到大学）在一起将近一年，并且一直瞒着我。所以我觉得还不错？
A long time ago a very good friend of mine broke up with his girlfriend for good (They were always off and on, but this time was the real deal). I was just as much a friend to her as I was to him, and after a few months I began to really miss hanging out with her. During this time we were flirting a little bit over FB and after a while she was starting to lay it on pretty heavy. Eventually one night she called me up drunkenly and insinuated she wanted to do more than just hang out. Well at the time I was still good friends with her ex, and after a little internal struggle I decided to do what I felt was the right thing and decline her offer. It was tough because I was really attracted to her, she was very beautiful and we had a lot in common.
很久之前我有个很好的朋友和他女朋友分手了（他们总是分分合合的，但那次是动真格的了）。两个人都拿我当朋友，过了几个月我就有点怀念以前有她一起出去玩的日子了。在这段时间里我和她偶尔在脸书上互相撩一下，过了一阵子她开始认真起来了。最后有一天晚上她喝醉了，跟我打电话说她想做的不止是一起出去玩。但当时我和她前任仍然是好朋友，所以挣扎了一下之后我决定做自己认为正确的事情，拒绝了她的邀请。这很困难，因为我真的很喜欢她，她很好看，我们也有很多共同话题。
回首之前做的决定，我有些后悔。我觉得自己做的对，但我也有点希望自己答应她。因为她的前任最后对我说了非常差劲的话，我们也不再是朋友了。我觉得我不该把自己的忠诚给他。因为这种感觉不是相互的，并且他配不上我的忠诚。我与她之间的机会已经错过了，因为她找了另一个人，已经结婚好几年了。
I wonder where the girls go (that had this happen to them)? Do they also post stuff like this on 4chan
我很好奇这种事情发生在女孩们身上的时候她们会去哪儿抱怨。她们也在4chan上发这种帖子吗？
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Probably talk with the girls or post a TikTok saying how trash their partner was... from my experience
大概是和闺蜜们聊聊天，或者在抖音上录视频说自己的前任有多渣吧……从我个人的经历来看。
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Its also a lot easier for them to find another guy right away, many times they have them on the back burner anyway
而且她们也很轻松就能再找一个男人，反正后备箱总有一两个备胎。