你支持同性结婚吗？ 为什么？

Luthfi Muhammad, Living in Japan and a slave to its fashion trends
Yes and no. Let me explain.Without a doubt, I support the right for two consenting adults of whatever sex to spend their lives together and officially become a familial unit. There's no question about that. A same-sex couple is theoretically as capable of becoming parents as a heterosexual one is; they just have to either use in vitro or adopt kids.Now here's where the no part comes in. Marriage is traditionally a religious concept, a system that democratizes the nuclear family unit and makes it available to everyone who isn't the pack alpha wolf. This was a social agreement that was strongly reinforced by religion to the point that you could say completely interwoven into most major religions of today. These religions also often frown upon same-sex marriage.I do not support forcing religious institutions to marry a same-sex couple if it goes against their beliefs. There is absolutely no reason to force a traditional marriage ceremony if the ceremony goes against that tradition. However, there's no problem when the religious institutions themselves are cool with it. A Norwegian friend of mine told me an interesting story - some churches back where she's from were actually offering to marry gay couples despite this. If they want to, they can and should be able to marry the same-sex couples.I mean, the reason why we have these debates about gay marriage is because it's a law thing and a tax break thing. If it were up to me, I'd have government hands off the idea of marriage entirely, but that would be a nightmarish mess when it comes to a lot of things. Census, family laws, all sorts of stuff.So at the very least if we're staying with government around, civil unxs and stuff at the very minimum should be okayed.

回答1：
支持还是不支持，先听我解释解释：不用说，只要是成年人，双方自愿一起过生活，无论什么性别，我都支持.  理论上，同性夫妻和异性夫妻，都有能力成为孩子的父母. 他们可以要试管婴儿，也可以收养孩子. 现在，说一些纯碎理念的东西： 婚姻在传统上是一种宗教观念，是一种强化家庭观念的制度，每个人都有个家庭，而不是像狼群那样. 这是一种被宗教强烈强化的社会共识，可以说是完全融入了今天的大多数主要宗教。这些宗教经常反对同性婚姻。
如果某个宗教不愿为同性婚姻举行仪式，那么，我反对世人强迫宗教机构去给同性婚姻举行仪式. 如果婚礼仪式违背传统，那就完全没有理由举行传统的婚礼仪式。宗教机构完全可以冷谈处理同性婚姻. 不过，我的挪威朋友跟我说了些有趣的事情——她的家乡，有些教堂给同性婚姻提供服务.  只要双方愿意，双方可以，也应该结婚. 我的意思是说，我们之所以争论同性婚姻，原因是同性婚姻涉及到法律和税收.  如果由我来决定的话，我会让政府不要干涉同性婚姻. 不过，这样做也会带肋很多问题，比如人口普查，家庭法，还有其他各种各样的问题.  若我们跟政府保持一致的话，那同性婚姻，还可以接受.

Júlia Alexandra Pőcze, works at DAAD (2016-present)
I do.For me, it is something fundamental. There are various reasons why I support same-sex marriage. However, whenever I speak with someone who is opposed to the idea I usually try to convince them with this argument:I ask them: Are you gay? Or bisexual? Or something else that is not considered heterosexual?The answer is usually no.I go on: Okay then, do you have family members or friends who belong to the LGBTQ+ community?The answer is usually no.I continue: Then why do you oppose same-sex marriage? You are not involved in it. Neither is someone close to you. Why do you care then, what others do? It’s not your life - it’s theirs.You don’t get to decide what they can or can’t do.If they are allowed to be legally united, it does not have any effect on you. It does not have an influence on your life or the quality of your life. You do not have to do anything against your own will. The sun will rise just like it did any other day up until this point: you can still do as you please.For you, nothing will change. You still can marry the one you love. You still can start a family, settle down, have a job, do the things that make you happy.The only thing that will change that a lot of others can do the same: they can finally, just like you do, find happiness on someone’s side and have that love legally recognized in the eyes of the state.Because they are human, just like you and I, and they deserve to have the same rights as we have whether they are gay or not.Labels don’t matter but love does.After this little monologue, people are usually quiet. I’m pretty sure they aren’t entirely convinced after hearing my speech but I sure do give them something to think about.

回答2： 
我支持同性婚姻. 原因很多： 每次我跟别人辩论时，我都会问他们是不是同性恋、双性恋或别的什么与众不同的恋，他们会说：不是.  然后我再追问他们的朋友呢，他们会回答说也不是.  于是，我直接说：既然你不是，你朋友也不是，那你跟同性婚姻一毛钱关系都没有，你凭啥反对同性婚姻啊？  别人怎么做，关你什么事啊？  那是他们的生活方式，又不是你的生活方式，你有什么权利决定别人采取什么生活方式？ 如果他们同性结婚是合法的，那他们对你又没有任何影响，你的生活一如既往，明天的生活照样升起，你爱干啥干啥，什么都没有改变.  你仍然可以和你爱的人结婚，你仍然可以组建家庭，安居乐业，做自己快乐的事情.  不管那些人是不是同性恋，他们首先都是人，跟你我一样，他们都应该享有和我们一样的权利.  其他的事都不重要，重要的是爱！我说出这么简浅的道理后，跟我辩论的人通常都会安静下来，我相信他们并没有完全信服我的观点，但我确实给了他们一些值得思考的东西。

Alice Lindsay, Stressed, depressed and coffee obsessed.
Yes, I do support same-sex marriage because I am a member of the LGBTQ+ community and I think that there should be more acceptance. People should be allowed to marry no matter what race, gender, or sexuality they are. Marriage is defined as ‘the legally or formally recognized unx of two people as partners in a personal relationship’, even if they are the same sex it is still united, two people. So, therefore, two females, two males, a male and a female, any genders should be allowed to marry.
EDIT:
Nic Jones asked if the marriage should be between only two people. That is a difficult topic and obviously very controversial. Personally, I don’t agree with marriages consisting of multiple people (polyamory) however I won’t discriminate if someone is part of a marriage like this or supports it. This is whether it a heterosexual marriage, homosexual, etc…They also asked my view on the children that result from these arrangements and is it fair that children now grow up in an environment where they are being deprived of mom or dad. I believe that it is fair. The gender of the parent doesn’t affect how well they can look after their child. Biologically the difference between a male and a female is a penis or vagina which doesn’t affect the child in any way. Two mums or two dads can look after the child just as well as the typical mum and dad family. He suggested children no longer have the right to be raised by mum and dad and is that fair to the child. I wouldn’t call it a ‘right’ to be raised by a mum and a dad. It is mum and dad because dad’s sperm fertilises mum’s eggs. If mum could fertilise mum instead, then maybe getting raised by two mum’s would be a norm. 

回答3：
是的，我支持同性婚姻，因为我是同性白左的一员，我觉得，应该有更多的人接受同性。无论人们是什么种族，什么性别，性取向如何，都应该可以结婚. 婚姻的定义是“法律上或正式承认的两个人作为个人关系的伴侣的结合”，即使他们是同性的，但他们仍然是结合在一起的，两个人是结合在一起的。因此，两个女性，两个男性，一个男性和一个女性，任何性别都应该可以结婚.
后面的故事：
尼克·琼斯提出了这样一个问题:婚姻是否只应该发生在两个人之间。这是一个很难回答的话题，显然也很有争议。就我个人而言，我不同意一夫多妻制的婚姻，但是，我也不会歧视这种婚姻. 他们还问我怎么看待这种婚姻生出的孩子，还问我，孩子在单亲家庭中成长，对孩子公平吗，我相信，公平！ 因为：父母的性别并不影响他们照顾孩子的能力。从生物学上来说，男性和女性的区别在于阴茎或阴道，而这对孩子没有任何影响。两个妈妈或两个爸爸可以像典型的爸爸妈妈家庭一样照顾孩子。跟我辩论的人又问：孩子没有权利接受爸爸或妈妈的抚养，这对孩子来说公平吗？ 我不认为被父母抚养是一种“权利”。是妈妈和爸爸，因为爸爸的精子使妈妈的卵子受精。如果一个女性可以让妈妈受孕，那么，孩子由两个妈妈抚养长大就会成为一种常态。

Azul González, professional in apologies
Yes.I don´t understand why homosexuality may be legal, but same-sex marriage may not sometimes. If you´re letting people have homosexual relationships, you should let them marry, it makes sense to me
I have written before of my country´s culture, and how it´s still a kind of homophobic society. We youngsters may take for granted our sexualities will be respected, but outside there are people who don´t like people liking their same gender, or their same and opposite gender, or any sexuality there exists.Here is a map of my country. Maps for me are what Venn diagrams are for Ethan.In dark blue, states where same-sex marriage is allowed. In light blue, states where same-sex legal unxs are performed, but not marriage. In purple, states where marriage or civil unx is allowed but travelling outside the state, and finally, in green, states where no civil unx or marriage is performed.However, the fact is legally allowed doesn´t mean people take it well, which some people effectively, do not. Catholicism is dominant here, and more religious people don´t tend to see well homosexual relationships, let alone marriage.This, fortunately, is changing. I´ll tell you a story.My grandfather is a boomer and holds very conservative views. But he needed legal advice for a business, so my uncle offered to bring one of his friends (who is a lawyer) home and explain to him what he needed. This friend of his is gay.The conversation was something like this, with A being my grandfather and B, my uncle.
A: Is he going to bring someone with him? His girlfriend?
B: Maybe his boyfriend.
A: Boyfriend?
B: Yes, his boyfriend.
A: I just don´t want them kissing themselves here.
B: No, why would they?
Eventually, this friend came, they talked a little, and apparently his view of homosexuality is now more positive than before. Maybe he still doesn´t like them, but it´s progress.
I do support same-sex marriage, and its legality shouldn´t even be an issue, but we can only dream as of today.

回答4：
我支持同性结婚.我不明白为什么同性恋可能是合法的，但是同性婚姻可能不是。如果你让人们有同性恋关系，你应该让他们结婚，我就是这么理解的.



我以前写过关于我的国家的文化，以及它是如何仍然是一个恐同的社会。我们年轻人可能会想当然地认为我们的性行为会得到尊重，但在外面有些人不喜欢别人喜欢他们的同性、同性或异性，或者任何存在的性行为。



这是我们国家的地图。这个地图对我来说就像维恩图解对伊森一样。
地图上深蓝色区域是允许同性婚姻的州，浅蓝色部分是允许同性合法结合但不允许结婚的州，紫色代表允许结婚或民事结合但不允许在本州以外的州，最后绿色代表不允许进行民事结合或婚姻的州。不过，法律允许的事实并不意味着人们就完全接受，这这里，天主教占主导地位，信教的人往往看不惯同性恋，更不用说同性恋婚姻了.  不过，现在的情况正在渐渐的改变. 
我给你们讲个故事：我祖父是婴儿潮一代，他的观点非常保守。但他做生意时，需要咨询一些法律方面的问题，于是我叔叔就请他的一位律师朋友过来跟我祖父讨论，我叔的这个朋友是个同性恋。
我祖父跟我叔叔的对话如下： （A是我的祖父）.
A: 他会带人来吗?他的女朋友吗?
B: 也许是他的男朋友。
A: 男朋友吗?
B: 是的，他的男朋友。
A: 我只是不想让他们在这里亲吻自己。
B: 放心，他们为什么要在这里接吻?
最后，这个朋友来了，他们聊了一会儿，显然，我祖父现在对同性恋的看法比以前更积极了。也许他仍然不喜欢他们，但现在，他进步了。我确实支持同性婚姻，我们甚至不应该讨论它的合法性问题，不过我们现在只能梦想一下同性婚姻合法了。

Anonymous
I am on the fence. I am not gay and so it does not affect me whether gay people get married or not. If it happens - it doesn't bother me. If it doesn't - it also doesn't bother me.However for the sake of seeing the other point of view (as basically everyone here has said yes) - the reason I am not actively supporting it is because I do not understand why they should get married. Marraige is between a man and a woman and I so not know why they want this. Of course, this is very broad - I do know gay people who don't are for marraige! I believe they should have the legal rights - but I don't think they should call it marraige. That is disrespectful to religion as it was derived from religion. Why should they have this? Why must gay people have everything? They have gay bars, gay celeration - they are always treated special. If they want true equality then gay bars should be illegal. Either that or we should be able to have strictly "straight bars".

回答5：
我有点犹豫不知道怎么回答这个问题，我不是同性恋，所以同性恋者是否结婚对我都没有影响. 不过，（这里几乎所有人都支持同性恋结婚）我支持这种婚姻的原因是：我想不明白同性恋为什么应该结婚.  结婚是一个男人和一个女人之间的事，我真不知道同性恋为什么要结婚。当然，我知道他们大部分恋爱不是为了结婚.  
我相信同性恋应该有合法的权利，但我不认为他们应该称之为婚姻。这是对宗教的不尊重，因为婚姻来源于宗教。
他们为什么要结婚?为什么同性恋者必须拥有一切?他们有同性恋酒吧、同性恋狂欢节——他们一直都有特殊待遇了。如果他们想要真正的平等，那么同性恋酒吧应该是非法的，或者，作为对等，我们应该再设上真正的“异性恋酒吧”。

In my home town, I hear of many gay people discriminating against straight people. Calling us "breeders" in a derogative manner. Yes there are homophobes but everyone gets mistreated - gay people are just more vocal about it and more "me me me!".I actually think it is more acceptable to be gay than to be against gays (not that I am). But if I had voiced this side in public - I am sure I would get harassed. However coming out as gay is somewhat celebrated and admired as "being different", "being yourself". Why are there so many more gay people these days - don't deny it - people are really embracing the trend.But like I said - I am on the fence, that is just one side of my thoughts. I do have strong views for both sides and am very defensive when people pick on others for their differences. This matter does not affect me and so I do not support it entirely but I am definitely not against it. I will not 'rally', protest or make a scene but I will simply watch things go by. Smile if it gets passed, smile if it doesn't.

在我的家乡，我听说很多同性恋歧视异性恋。用一种贬损的方式叫我们“饲养员”。是的，确实有恐同者，但每个人都受到了虐待——同性恋者只是更加直言不讳，更加“我，我，我!”
事实上，我认为同性恋比反对同性恋更容易被接受(虽然我不是)。但如果我在公开场合说出这一面，我肯定会受到骚扰。然而，成为同性恋在某种程度上被称赞和赞赏为“与众不同”，“做你自己”。为什么现在有这么多的同性恋——不要否认——人们真的是宽容同性恋.
但就像我说的，我还在犹豫，这只是我的想法的一方面。我对这两种观点都有强烈的看法，当人们因为他们的不同而挑剔别人时，我会非常保守。
这件事对我没有影响，所以我不完全支持它，但我绝对不反对它。
我不会“集会”、抗议或大吵大闹，我只是静静旁观，有同没同，都微笑面对.

Lia Columbus, studied at Father Agnel School
YES, I do.I believe such questions should not exist. How often we ask “Do you support marraiges between males and females?” There is no need to interfere in someone’s life, it’s as simple as that. They love a girl, boy or a trans. It’s their choice. Who are you to intervene? They have equal rights to raise a family and be happy. I hate it when I see people making fun of gays or lesbians. The way they dress is different but at the same time beautiful andmust be accepted. It’s not just India , in every corner of this miserable world , LGBT community are being targetted by arrogant and conservative crowd. But here, situation is worse. Accordiung to a survey, approximately 11% people in India are gay. Maybe the uncle living next door is one and he is living an inadequate life within society’s parameters. 
I’ve never seen a same sex couple but I know people who are gays and Lesbians and you know what they all want to leave this country and settle in Australia or America because they can’t imagine raising thrir children amidst this giant ridicule and criticism which they encounter everyday. Their homosexuality cannot be the only aspect of their life. It cannot get dominating enbough to mask their achievements and talents. I marvel at the courage of each of those who take the big step to come out and not just bury it inside.To all those who believe that ‘LGBT community are hijacking Indian culture’. Homosexuality has been there in India since ancient times. It’s not any new strange sickness or genetic mutation of millenials as you often suggest. Rigveda says “what seems unusal is also natural”. An another indicator of the liberal Hindu heritage, Kama Sutra. a whole chapter is devoted to homosexuality saying it has to be engaged in and enjoyed as one of the arts. It categorizes men who desire other men as third naturea nd refers to long term unxs between them.sculptures in Khajuraho I strongly believe that like dissolving 377, Supreme court shall legalise same sex marraiges too because considering homosexuality an offence is clearly a western concept.

回答6：
是的，我支持同性恋结婚. 我觉得，根本就不该问这样的问题，我们会时不时的问一句“你支持男女结婚吗？” 无论他们喜欢女孩、男孩还是喜欢变性人，都是他们自己的选择，你凭什么干涉别人的选择？ 没必要干涉别人的生活，他们也有平等的权利来建立家庭，享受快乐，道理就这么简单. 
我讨厌看到人们取笑男同性恋或女同性恋。他们的穿着方式不同，但也很漂亮，大家必须接受。不仅仅是印度，在这个悲惨世界的每个角落，同性群体都被傲慢保守的人群盯上了。但在印度这里，情况更糟。根据一项调查，印度大约有11%的人是同性恋。也许住在隔壁的叔叔就是一个这样的人，他的生活不符合社会的标准。我本身没有见过同性夫妻，但我认识男同性恋和女同性恋，你知道吗，他们都想离开这个国家，定居到澳大利亚或美国，因为他们无法忍受在每天都被嘲笑和抨击中抚养孩子. 给他们贴上同性恋标签，并不能掩盖他们的成就和才华. 我欣赏他们走出困境的勇气，而不是把一切都埋在心底. 
致所有认为“LGBT群体正在劫持印度文化”的人：同性恋自古以来就存在于印度。同性恋并不是你经常说的那种新出现的奇怪疾病或千禧一代的基因突变。梨俱吠陀说“看起来不寻常的东西也是自然的”。印度教自由传统的另一个标志是《爱经》。整整一章都是关于同性恋的，说必须要把同性恋作为一种艺术来享受。《爱经》对其他男人有欲望的男人归为第三种恋爱类型，并指导这种恋爱的XX.



我坚信，像解散377条那样，最高法院也应该将同性婚姻合法化，因为将同性恋视为一种犯罪显然是一个西方概念.