哪些迹象能够表明某个人的人生正在失败？
What are some clear signs that someone is failing in life?
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What are some clear signs that someone is failing in life?
哪些迹象能够表明某个人的人生正在失败？
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How far they have to look back to brag. If a 40 year old talks about his high school life that's a pretty good indicator
他们吹牛的时候得扯多久之前的事儿。如果40岁的中年人吹的是自己的高中生活，那就很能说明事情了。
Back in ‘82, I could throw a pigskin a quarter mile.
82年那会儿，我能把皮球扔一里地出去。
If coach had put me in, we'd have gone to state.
当时教练要是让我上，我们就进省赛了。
No doubt. No doubt in my mind.
没毛病。一点毛病没有。
I bet I could throw a football over that mountain.
信不信我能把橄榄球扔过那座山。（译注：以上皆为美国高中橄榄球队员的刻板印象，跟咱们的体育生沉淀梗还挺像的）
I worked with a middle-aged woman who mentioned every few weeks in conversation that she had been Prom Queen of like 1985.
我之前有个中年女人同事，她每过几个星期就要提一句自己好像是1985年成了毕业舞会上的公主。
不论我们在聊什么，她都会直接打断一句，“你敢相信我当过毕业舞会的公主吗，哈哈！”
而且她也刻薄得简直符合刻板印象。她的心理被困在了高中年代，但自己却是一个大龄中年女性。
Imagine if you got excited for every time she mentioned it. You'd be her favorite person
想象一下如果她每次提起来这件事你都表现得很激动会怎样。那你就会变成她最喜欢的那个人。
I always hit those interactions with a "damn I wasn't even born then".
每次遇到这种话题，我都会回答“我草，那时候还没有我呢”。
About 10 years after I left high school, I had moved away from my home town, but for reasons I had to move back. I needed a haircut so I went to the place nearest to work. The girl cutting my hair starts with the usual chit-chat. Then asks where I went to school. Turns out it was my school.
我在高中毕业之后大概十年，从老家搬走之后，出于工作原因又搬了回来，我需要理发，所以去了趟离单位最近的理发店。给我理发的那个姑娘先是普通地跟我扯了两句，然后问我在哪里上的学。结果她和我上的是一所学校。
“真的吗，你哪届？”
她比我小一届。
让她说自己的学生时代说了个没完，她说学生时代是最美好的时光……她在学校很出名，所有人都知道她是谁……我却既不认识她，也不知道她的名字。
于是她就开始一个一个地讲故事，比如她和她那些出名的朋友们做的事情，事情是一个比一个难以置信，我根本就从来都没听说过。
可能你会觉得是我太冷漠了，她只是想跟我找点共同话题聊聊而已。然而又过了几个月，我又需要理发了，回到这家店等着的时候，却听见她对正在理发的顾客把她那多姿多彩的高中生活又描绘了一遍。等轮到我坐到椅子上的时候，我感觉就像是把上次来理发的体验重播了一次。
第三次过去还是一样。之后我就再也不去了，因为我根本忍不了再听第四次。我不想说她很失败，毕竟她理发确实没有任何问题，但我遇见她的时候，显然她心里自己人生的高峰是高中那会儿。
Just don’t brag in general lol
其实只要别胡吹就行哈哈哈
Yeah, it takes no effort to be humble. I've honestly perfected it without even really trying. I'm probably one of the most humble people in the world.
没错，谦虚其实是一件毫不费力的事情。说实话，我根本都没怎么琢磨，但在谦虚这块儿我已经臻入化境了。真不是吹，哥们可能是这个世界上最谦虚的人之一。
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I'm so humble and the thing about me that's so impressive is how infrequently I mention all of my successes. I'm so ordinary that it's truly quite extraordinary. My belly's full from all the pride I swallow. I guess in a way, being gracious is my weakness and people say I'm so unpretentious for a genius.
我实在是太谦虚了，并且我最令人印象深刻的一点就是，我几乎从来都不跟别人提我有多成功。我实在是太普通了，以至于这本身就是一项极为不凡的特质。我肚子里装的都是自己吞进去的骄傲。说实话，在某种意义上，太懂得感恩反倒是我的弱点，人们都说我这个天才真的是太没架子了。
People are saying it.
确实，他们都这么说的。
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"Who is saying it?"
“谁这么说？”
“呃，就，他们呗。”
Oh I'm the best at not bragging. If there was an award for humility, I'd win it every year, no doubt. I'm pretty awesome at it.
噢我在不吹牛逼这块儿真的是最牛逼的了。要是有个给谦虚的人颁发的奖项，哥们肯定年年拿，真没毛病。我在这块还是很有造诣的。
Continuously having kids that they do not want with a partner they despise.
和自己看不上的伴侣，一个劲儿地生自己不想要的孩子。
Just one more kid should fix this relationship.
再生一个孩子就能修复这段关系了。
Always complaining and never taking responsibility. They characterize everything as happening to them and don't take any initiative to change their situation
总是抱怨，但是从来都不承担责任。他们会把一切都当成是发生在自己身上的不幸，但不会为了改变自己的情况而主动去做任何事情。
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I dated an unemployed 30 year old woman who still lived with her parents, she had a university degree and her family was financially well off. She had a lot of things going for her so I couldn't understand what her problem was until a few months in it became increasingly obvious that she couldn't handle being wrong about anything, ever, even the tiniest things, otherwise she would have a mental breakdown. Meanwhile according to her, everyone else was the problem, her parents, her exes and eventually me. So you're absolutely right.
我曾经和一个没有工作的三十岁的女人约会过，她仍然和父母住在一起，有大学学位，并且家庭条件不错。她的很多事情都很顺，所以我不知道她的问题出在哪里，直到大概是几个月之前，我越来越明显地感觉到，她没办法忍受任何事情出错，哪怕是最微小的那种事情，要不然她就会精神崩溃。而按照她自己的说法，问题永远处在其他人的身上，比如她父母，她前任，最终是我。所以你说的一点没错。
What's that saying? "If you run into an one asshole, you've ran into an asshole. If everyone you run into is an asshole, you're the asshole"
那句话怎么说来着？“如果你遇见了一个混蛋，那么你只是遇见了一个混蛋。但如果你遇见的全是混蛋，那你就是那个混蛋。”
I don’t know man, everyday there just seems to be more and more assholes in the world so it’s hard to tell sometimes….
我不知道，哥们，感觉这个世界上每天都在出现越来越多的混蛋，有时候我自己也分不清楚了……
If you smell shit all day, check your shoes.
如果你一整天都能闻到屎味儿，那就看一眼自己的鞋。
Had a friend who used to be like this. Poor grades at college then bounced from one retail job to another for over a decade. Every time I met up with them there was always another reason everyone else at their job was an unreasonable idiot and they were the only sane, competent one there.
之前有过一个朋友差不多也是这样。上大学的时候成绩不好，十年来从一个零销岗位跑到另一个。每次我遇见他的时候，他总是能找到一个新的理由，比如上一份工作的所有人都是一群说不明白道理的蠢货，他自己才是那个清醒的、有能力的人。
于是后来我开始反驳他……“事实上你的老板在这种情况下还是挺讲道理的”，“雇主有这种期待也没什么问题”，“你还不起房贷也不是他们给你加薪的理由，你得证明自己值得加薪”，“你说你要学这门课已经说了两年了，这回怎么又不学了”，或者“如果你真的这么讨厌，为什么不去城里其他地方上班呢？”
我没怎么见他，所以我说的话他也不一定听进去了——让我更烦恼的是，我的朋友在自己工作的地方不开心这件事——但是我可以想象得到，一天到晚浸泡在这种能量里面，确实很难特别有生产力。
虽然花了一段时间，但是他的看法开始发生了改变，并且他逐渐地开始做出一些更加积极的、自信的行动了。他希望自己能早点这么做。
It sucks to watch people you care about dig themselves into such a mental hole. Getting out of that hole is TOUGH. Imagine being in your 30s, believing all your failures are due to external factors, but you suddenly face the day of reckoning when you realize YOU are the cause of all your problems. It's a tough pill to swallow, and you're in for years of hard work if you want to fix it. Many choose to keep drinking the fantasy kool-aid instead.
看着你在乎的人一点一点把自己埋进这样的精神深坑之中，真的很难受。从这种坑里爬出来是非常困难的事儿。想象一下你已经三十多岁了，觉得你所有的失败都是外部原因导致的，但是忽然有一天你顿悟了，发现你自己才是所有问题的原因。这是很难吞咽的苦药，并且如果你想要解决这个问题，还需要花很多年的苦功夫。很多人都选择了精神胜利法。
I think some people like me have just hit an impasse where we actually feel incapable of doing things correctly, and this society is so punishing over failure. Perception is more important in the workplace than actual performance. Some people simply can't hack the pressure. The games too hard and our stats are too low so we just give up.
我认为一些像我一样的人可能撞上了僵局，我们感觉没有能力做出正确的事情，并且这个社会对于失败的惩罚也太严酷了。在今天的工作场合，你给别人的认知要比你真正的表现更加重要。有些人根本就没法应付这种压力。游戏太难了，而我们的数值又太低了，所以我们干脆就直接放弃了。
Looking through this thread and seeing if any answers apply to you
把这个帖子翻一遍，看看有哪一条是属于你的
I feel attacked
我感觉中枪了
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I find a lot of reddit is just that... Checking to make sure you're above that threshold instead of below it.
我发现红迪上的很多帖子就是这样的……翻一遍确认自己是在那个阈值的上方，而不是下方。
When they believe anyone doing worse than them is because that person is a piece of shit and anyone doing better than them is because that person had it handed to them.
当这些人相信，做事情做得比他们糟糕的人是因为这个人本身就是一坨屎，做事情比他们优秀的人是因为有人替他们做完了。
I have a tendency to think every person doing worse had shit luck, and every person doing better had it better…
我倒是倾向于觉得那些做得烂的人只不过是点背，而那些做得好的人就是自己牛逼……
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这能说明我什么吗…
That says that you recognize chance as a factor in outcomes.
这说明你能意识到机遇也是结果的一部分。
Sounds awful but i have an auntie and the whole family talks about her funeral in passing. Like i cant imagine being such an awful person people look forward to my funeral.
听起来很可怕，我有个姨，临死前全家人都在讨论她的葬礼怎么办。我根本无法想象一个人能可怕到大伙都盼着我的葬礼。
It’s funny though because at her funeral everyone will say nice things
这倒是挺有意思的，因为到葬礼了，人们就都能给她说点好话了。
Let me just add if you are in poverty/financially struggling you aren't failing at life. It feels like it 90% of the time, but you are doing the best in a shitty flawed society.
让我补充一点，如果你现在很穷，或者手头很拮据，那你的人生并不是正在失败，其实90%的情况下人们都会有这种感觉，你只是在一个烂透了的满是瑕疵的社会中尽力做自己而已。
And if you don't believe u/banana_chili, take a look at most of the upvoted answers. Most of them are personality flaws, not financial problems.
并且如果你不相信楼上说的话，可以去看看那些最高票的回答。绝大多数都只是人格上的缺陷，不是钱的问题。
Thank you for pointing this out. A good personality, willingness to learn, and a humble spirit will get you far. If you reject every piece of feedback and go out of your way to create drama, you might as well be a crab in a bucket.
感谢你指出这一点。好的人格、乐于学习的意愿，以及谦虚的精神，这都会让你走得更远。如果你拒绝所有给你的反馈，非要去整幺蛾子的话，那么你可能自己也会变成井底之蛙。
When they pick and torture those weaker than them
挑那些比他们弱小的人去蹂躏的时候
Everyone busily scrolling seeing if they have failed at life…
每个人都在忙着翻这个帖子，想要看看自己的人生是不是失败了……
Not me, I'm just here because I'm bored. I already knew that I failed at life.
不是我，我来看帖子只是因为我无聊，我早就知道自己的人生已经失败了。
Asking for garbage bags because you can't afford them, only for me to find out later that they were at the dispensary earlier that day buying weed.
因为买不起垃圾袋所以管我要，后来却被我发现你人在大麻店买大麻抽。
I had a girlfriend who lost her job shortly after we started dating and asked me for gas money to apply for jobs. She spent it all on weed instead. She looked at me one day and said "You think I'm a loser." and I am a terrible liar, so I ended the relationship. In retrospect, she was super depressed, but I was barely holding on financially and she was pretty rude to me, so I wasn't equipped to save her.
我之前有过一个丢了工作的女朋友，我们开始约会之后不久，她就管我要油钱去找工作。结果她把钱全都花在大麻上面了。她有一天看着我，然后说，“你觉得我啥也不是。”我很不会撒谎，所以我结束了这段关系。现在回头看看，她当时已经特别抑郁了，但是我自己也没什么钱，并且她对我还挺不礼貌的，所以我确实也没有拯救她的这个能力。
They feel it necessary to keep pointing out how great they have it. In my experience, the people who talk themselves up all the time are the ones struggling with something.
他们会觉得不断指出自己有多优秀是很必要的一点。从我个人的经历来看，那些总是把自己夸得天花乱坠的人，生活中肯定都有一些不得不忙的东西。
Ppl are great at covering things up.
人们其实是很擅长掩盖事实的。
那个住在百万美元的房子里的人，或许刚刚离婚，他经营的生意或许摇摇欲坠，本人面临破产，但他也是不会给别人看这一点的。
离开了家里那座房子的人，或许家庭和睦、存款充裕，但是人们却会觉得他要“失败”了，因为他不在乎穿着沃尔玛的衣服开05年的本田车。
除非你真的特别了解这个人，否则最好还是不要妄加评判。
I’m failing at life. I used to be passionate but nowadays I have lost interest in almost everything. I loved watching movies, reading books, talking to my loved ones, now I just stay in my bed, play some CODM and keep thinking about the fuck ups that led to this. I hope my depression doesn’t win.
我自己的人生就很失败。曾经的我充满热情，但是现在我几乎对一切都失去了兴趣。我曾经很喜欢看电影，读书，和我爱的人聊天，但现在我只是躺在床上，玩两局CODM，然后不断地思考到底是什么让我变成了这副样子。我希望我的抑郁不会压过我自己。
Haters are a real thing but no one complaining about "the haters" on Facebook has a life that anyone is jealous about.
虽然黑子这种东西确实存在，但是那些在Facebook上天天抱怨有“黑子”的人，他们自己的生活其实谁都不嫉妒。
Dude, that’s one of my coworkers right now. Constantly posting about “the haters” and “stand up for yourself!” while literally always calling into work and somehow still not being fired.
兄弟，我现在有位同事就是这样的。一天到晚发“黑子”和“为自己站出来！”之类的话，甚至把这种东西带到工作里，但仍然没有被开除。
兄弟，我真的不在乎你生活里发生了什么。哪怕是全身心地投入到你的雕塑工作里面，我不在乎。不过你要么就把班辞了专门干，要么就回来好好上班，别让别人一天到晚给你擦屁股，行不行？
When your adult children hate you.
当你的成年子女痛恨你的时候。
This made me lol.
这个我是真笑了。
我妈妈在去世之前曾经写过一张纸条……“为什么我的孩子们都讨厌我？”
我不道啊妈妈，把我们的宠物杀了做成菜肯定帮不到你啊。
Uhh, elaborate?
呃，展开讲讲？
I'm guessing rabbits or chickens...
我猜可能是小兔子或者小鸡崽儿吧……
Guessing or hoping?
是猜还是希望？