在远离家乡的假期后，回到家里你需要多长时间来重新适应?

Jade Nova
What does it feel like to run away from home?
Pretty fucking amazing.
When I was 16 I left my home because I felt like I had no purpose in life. School was pretty stressful, my boyfriend was constantly cheating on me, and all of my friends were toxic.
My home wasn’t any better. My mom smoked weed and abused me, her dipshit boyfriend who unfortunately lived with us cursed me out over the stupidest things, and one day I had finally had enough.
At this point I had been planning to leave for around 8 months, so I researched what to bring, where to go, and most importantly what to do. I felt like I had a pretty good idea of where I was going to go. I wasn’t planning on coming back ever, so I was planning on taking a bus that went out of the country, which was nerve-racking, but I didn’t think about how nervous I was.
Now that same day what triggered me to leave was something that happened at school. My boyfriend and his side piece humiliated me in front of the whole school by telling everyone that I had begged them for a threesome it was pretty bad. The school called my parents which then believed my boyfriend.
My mom picked me up from school and had not said a single word to me. I was scared shitless. Then, the second I stepped foot inside the house I was knocked onto the floor and was beaten to a bloody pulp. My eyes were closed so I don’t know who it was, I’m assuming it was my mom and her boyfriend tho.
Once they were done they told me to go to my room, calling me a slut and a whore, you know, the usual.

离家出走是什么感觉？
真是太神奇了。
当我16岁的时候，我离开了家，因为我觉得自己没有人生目标。学校压力很大，我男朋友经常对我不忠，我所有的朋友都很令人不愉快。
我的家也好不到哪里去。我妈妈抽大麻，还虐待我，不幸的是，她那个混蛋男友和我们住在一起，还因为最愚蠢的事情诅咒了我，有一天我终于受够了。
在这时候，我已经计划离开大约8个月了，所以我研究了带什么，去哪里，最重要的是做什么。我觉得我对自己要去哪里有一个很好的想法。我本来不打算回来，所以我打算坐一辆公交车出境，这很伤脑筋，但我没有想过自己有多紧张。
就在同一天，学校里发生的事情促使我离开。我男朋友和他的情妇在全校面前羞辱了我，告诉大家我恳求他们搞3P，这太糟糕了。学校打电话给我的父母，然后他们还相信了我的男朋友。
我妈妈把我从学校接回来，一句话也没说，我吓坏了。然后，当我踏进房子的那一刻，我被撞倒在地板上，被打得血肉模糊，我闭上了眼睛，所以我不知道是谁干的，我想是我妈妈和她的男朋友。
之后，他们让我去房间，像往常一样叫我荡妇和妓女。

So that same night I made a mental note to leave at 1 am, grabbed my bag, and mindlessly threw stuff into there.
I remember bringing my phone (of course) I turned off the location, my earbuds, two changes of clothes, 950$ I had saved from my job, my bus pass
So after I was done I cleaned myself up and waited till everyone was asleep. My room was on the 3rd floor and my mom’s room was on the 1st, which was pretty convenient. Once the clock said 1 am I grabbed my bag and snuck down the fire escaped as quiet as humanly possible. I wasn’t caught (Thank goodness) and I walked to the bus stop that was 10 minutes away from my house.
I didn’t really feel scared at all. I had protection, and I lived in a decent area, everything was fine. When I had made it to the stop I waited for the bus, which took a whole hour to come, and without a second thought, I stepped in knowing that I would never be back.
Everyone didn’t seem to care I was a 16-year-old girl that was on a bus at 2 am in the morning. Thanks for not caring I guess?
I lived in Canada, so I went to Toronto which was good for people who liked to give.
I lived on the streets for a couple of weeks until I met a fellow runaway girl, let’s call her Ara, and she was the literal best. She was part of a group that had taken over this warehouse, it felt like I was straight out of a movie. I wasn’t used to having someone having my back, and I’ll always be grateful to her.
I also met this guy, let’s call him Sky, he had taken an interest in me. He was 18, and pretty hot, long story short we got together.
Me and him got a job, an apartment together and everything is cool.
…And, I never heard from my parents again.

就在那天晚上，我心里记着要在凌晨1点离开，抓起包，漫不经心地把东西扔进包里。。
我记得带上了我的手机(当然)，关掉了定位器，带上了我的耳机，两套换洗的衣服，我从工作中攒下的950美元，我的公交卡。
所以在我做完之后，我把自己洗干净，等到每个人都睡着了。我的房间在3楼，我妈妈的房间在1楼，这很方便。时钟一响，我就抓起包，尽可能安静从太平梯偷偷溜了下去。我没有被抓住（谢天谢地），我走到了离我家10分钟路程的公交车站。
我一点也不觉得害怕。我有保护措施，而且我住在一个适宜的地方，一切都很好。当我到达车站时，我等了整整一个小时的公共汽车，我毫不犹豫地上车，知道我再也回不来了。
每个人似乎都不在乎我是不是一个16岁的女孩——凌晨两点在一辆公共汽车上，我想谢谢你的不在乎。
我住在加拿大，所以我去了多伦多，那里对喜欢奉献的人来说很友好。
我在街上住了几个星期，直到我遇到了一个离家出走的女孩，我们叫她Ara吧，她简直是最好的。她是接管这个仓库的团队的一员，感觉就像我刚从电影中走出来一样。我不习惯有人支持我，我永远感激她。
我还遇到了一个人，叫他Sky吧，他对我很感兴趣。他18岁，很帅，长话短说，我们在一起了。
我和他找到了一份工作，一起住进一套公寓，一切都很好。
而且，我再也没有收到父母的消息。

Marnie Grundman
What happens when someone comes back home after running away?
As a child who ran habitually ages 5 - 13 until I stayed gone for over 3 years the return results varied until my final “home-coming” at age 17. Intially most of my family was happy to see me which gave way to my peer aged relatives being angry at me for what I put our family through; they did not understand the abuse that existed in my mother’s home and I had not yet disclosed that my grandfather had been molesting me. Upon my return I lived with my mother and stepfather for about a week and then they put me in an apartment of my own (my mother did not want me in her house, nothing had happened she jsut wanted me out). My mother took me to therapy and then told me that the therapist (she was paying for) would tell her everything I said, my mother could have told me the sky was green; I was so terrified of her that I would have believed anything she said. Most children (over 85%) that run are being abused - physically, emotionally and/or sexually. Their return might be met with relief and love initally, but the abuse does not simply evaporate; dysfunction is typically generational. The child who is being abused is also the black sheep and running away only solidifies that role. Learn more on www.MarnieGrundman.com

当有人逃跑后回家时会发生什么？
作为一个习惯在5 - 13岁之间离家出走的孩子，直到我离开了3年多，直到我17岁最后一次“回家”，返回的结果一直在变化。起初，我的大多数家人见到我都很高兴，但后来我的同龄人的亲戚们对我感到愤怒，因为我让我们家经历了这么多。他们不了解我母亲家里存在的虐待行为，我也没有透露我祖父一直在骚扰我的情况。我回来后，我和母亲和继父一起住了大约一个星期，然后他们把我安置在自己的公寓里（我母亲不想让我进她的房子，什么都没发生，她只是想让我出去）。我妈妈带我去看心理医生，然后告诉我治疗师(她付钱)会告诉她我说的一切，我妈妈本可以告诉我天空是绿色的；我太怕她了，她说什么我都相信。大多数逃跑的儿童(超过85%)都受到了身体、情感和/或性方面的虐待。他们的回归可能会得到最初的宽慰和爱，但虐待并不会简单地消失；功能障碍通常是世代相传的。被虐待的孩子也是害群之马，逃跑只会巩固这个角色。请访问www.MarnieGrundman.com了解更多信息

Abuzar Quraishi
How would you feel if you live away from your home?
Thanks Sri Harsha Bammidi for asking me to answer this question.
I will feel miserable, I have lived in Hyderabad for 7 long years away from my home town Nagpur for job, and I can tell you I didn't enjoy it one bit. Though I had my wife and kids with me in Hyderabad, but it never felt like home to me, my parents were staying with my only younger brother in Nagpur.
I missed my parents, my home, my friends, my neighbours, my frenemies ;), my roadside tea stall(chai tapri) and those potholes in the road, I missed all of it badly.
So one fine day in the office, I decided to call it quits, I Resigned, came back to Nagpur, where I belonged to and it has been seven years now and I do not regret.

如果你不住在家里，你会有什么感觉？
感谢Sri Harsha Bammidi邀请我回答这个问题。
我会感到痛苦，我在海得拉巴住了7年，为了工作离开了家乡那格浦尔，我可以告诉你我一点都不喜欢那。虽然我在海得拉巴有妻子和孩子，但对我来说这从来都不是家，我的父母和我唯一的弟弟住在那格浦尔。
我想念我的父母、我的家、我的朋友、我的邻居和我的朋友；，我的路边茶摊（chai tapri）和路上的坑洞，我错过了所有这些。
所以在一个晴朗的日子里，我决定辞职，我辞职了，回到那格浦尔，我属于那里，现在已经七年了，我不后悔。

James Reed
For those who live away from home, have you ever feel the need to drop everything and come back home?
I left home at 18 to attend a university and have been living away ever since. Today I am retired and living in Thailand. Moving often and living many places has some big rewards but missing home always happens now and then even today.
Remember that home is not a place. Many have returned to the place of their boyhood only to discover that it was not the place they missed but their boyhood. Many similar examples are possible. A place is only a context for the important things to happen. Normally, these involve relationships with other people.
The same applies to people, too. Sometimes meeting an old friend is fine but often both of you have changed so much that it really is not the same anymore. You do not miss the physical person you miss the special relationship you had during a time passed.
All of which leads to the well know idea that you can’t go home again.

对于那些远离家乡的人来说，你是否曾经觉得有必要放下一切回到家里?
我18岁离开家去上大学，从那以后一直住在外面。今天我退休了，住在泰国。经常搬家和在很多地方生活会有很大的回报，但总是时不时想家，甚至在今天也是如此。
记住，家不是一个地方。许多人回到了他们童年的地方，却发现这不是他们想念的地方，而是想念他们的童年。许多类似的例子也是可能的。一个地方只是发生重要事情的背景。通常情况下，这些都涉及到与他人的关系。
同样的道理也适用于人。有时和老朋友见面很好，但通常你们两个都变了很多，真的不一样了。你怀念的不是那个有形的人，而是过去一段时间里你们之间的特殊关系。
所有这些都导致了一个众所周知的想法，那就是你不可能再回家了。

Vishal Thapa
How does it feel to go back to NITK after a long vacation at home?
First three years, you don't really feel like going back to college.
The good food and comfort of home is too good to let go.
During the final year you want to be at the college as much as possible.
When you're going there for the last time, in a train, a bus or whatever way, you don't want the journey to end cos you know deep inside your heart that you'll never make this journey again.

在家度过长假后回到NITK学校的感觉是怎么样的？
头三年，你真的不想回到大学。
家里的美食和舒适让人爱不释手。
在最后一年，你想尽可能多地呆在大学里。
当你最后一次去那里时，无论是坐火车、公交车还是其他什么方式，你都不希望旅程结束，因为你内心深处知道，你再也不会踏上这段旅程了。

Ann McConnell
What happens when you come home from a vacation?
Strange question. But ok.
I unpack, do laundry, put clothes away. Check out the refrigerator to see what needs to be restocked, make a list, so that I can shop tomorrow. Eat the frozen dinner that I was smart enough to put into the freezer before leaving for the vacation. Take a shower and climb into bed. Then the next morning I get up and go to work, stop at the post office and pick up the mail, do the grocery shopping on the way home. Get home put the food away, lug the suitcases to the attic for storage. Skip dinner, I had a big lunch.

当你度假回家时会发生什么？
问题很奇怪，但好吧。
我打开行李，洗衣服，把衣服收起来。检查一下冰箱，看看需要补充什么，列一个清单，这样我明天就可以购物了。吃一顿冷冻晚餐，我很聪明，在去度假之前把它放进了冰箱。洗个澡，爬上床。然后第二天早上我起床去上班，在邮局停下来取邮件，在回家的路上去杂货店购物。回家把食物收起来，把行李箱拖到阁楼上存放。不吃晚饭——我午饭吃得很饱。

Rishi Rich
Have you ever run away from home? If yes, where did you go, and did it work out?
Originally Answered: Have you ever ran away from home? If yes, where did you go, and did it work out?
I was 19, parents that didn't quite understand their only son (i was struggling with a bad bout of depression due to plethora of mishappenings in life), and my dad used to be quite raged and to an extent displeased with me for some or the other reason, resulting in arguments and constant friction at home.
One fine morning, as i stepped out of the shower and was getting ready for college (i role up late and had already missed a couple of lectures, honestly i was unable to sleep until wee hours in the morning, and hence overslept.) Dad started furiously and mercilessly ranting in some of the most hurtful words, and not being in the right state of mind, i just grabbed my travel bag, threw in some clothes, and without thinking twice i left home. all of this happened in 15 minutes!
i had no money on me, had 0 clue where i was heading to, i went to a friends home and kept my bag at his home saying i have to figure out where i shall head from this moment ‘coz home is the last place i would ever return to.

你曾经离家出走过吗？如果有，你去了哪里，结果如何？
最初的回答是：你曾经离家出走过吗？如果有，你去了哪里，结果如何？
我19岁，父母不太理解他们唯一的儿子(由于生活中发生了太多的不幸，我正与一场严重的抑郁症作斗争)，我的父亲曾经非常愤怒，在某种程度上对我不满意，导致在家里争吵和不断产生摩擦。
一个晴朗的早晨，我洗完澡，准备去上大学(我起得很晚，已经错过了几节课，老实说，直到凌晨我才睡着，因此睡过头了。)爸爸开始愤怒地、无情地咆哮起来，说了一些最伤人的话。由于心情不好，我抓起旅行袋，塞进几件衣服，就不动声色地离开了家。这一切都发生在15分钟内!
我身上没有钱，也不知道要去哪里，我去了一个朋友家，把包放在他家里，说我必须想清楚从这一刻起我要去哪里，因为家是我最后一个会回去的地方。

i went to college and called up my then girlfriend (she understood me like no one else ever did till date) and yet another great girl ( she is that rare absolutely awesome gem of a person, i owe her a hell lot!) to bunk their classes and meet me outside, sat with them contemplating options and crying, they tried convincing to head back home, i kept arguing and coming up with more and more options including committing suicide as it crossed my mind as i was so fed up of living!
until it was evening and we reached a conclusion that i need a psychiatrist to help me cope up with these urges to kill myself, the mood swings due to the depression, and thats where i need to start, i borrowed some money and reached at a hospital, all unsure while i took an appointment with the doctor. having no clue what i am going to tell her. Diana, that was the doctors name, eased me out and i spoke for the next one hour telling her what i felt like. she asked questions and i answered, it somehow just kept flowing unhindered, bare truth, things that i hadn't ever shared. and at the end of this she told me to call my parents. i was scared and very reluctant. she insisted and i dialled and handed her the phone.
She called them to the hospital. 20 mins later they stepped in and she sent me out and talked to them for a good 45 mins while i impatiently waited outside, all the time contemplating if this is again my window to run away from here. a million emotions running through me! Depressions slowly eating away at me. Yet i stayed glued to the wall outside waiting.
45 mins later i was called inside, i met my parents, there was an awkward silence, i was told to go home with them and come back again tomorrow. i was scared, the ride back home was filled with silence too. but silence felt more comforting than dads words this morning!
it took my parents a few months to understand ( they didn't ask much, they just let me be, gave me the little space that maybe i needed). they haven't yet understood me. but they just let me cope up with it with therapy, slowly as i made some progress, we were too used to the silence and peace at home. somewhere that just gave me enough solace to never have to run away from home again!
I have always been thankful to
Diana, she managed to do what nobody else could have done.
She kept me alive. ( my life is her gift to me)
and that Friend, she kept the humour alive and that relieved a good deal of the stress in my life.

我去了大学，给我当时的女朋友打了电话(她比任何一个人都了解我)，还有另一个很棒的女孩(她是一个罕见的、绝对了不起的人，我欠她太多了）翘课去找我，和他们坐在一起，考虑各种选择，哭泣，他们试图说服我回家，我一直在争论，想出越来越多的选择，包括自杀，因为我已经厌倦了生活!
直到晚上，我们得出了一个结论，我需要一个精神科医生来帮助我应对自杀的冲动和抑郁症引起的情绪波动，这是我需要进行的第一步，我借了一些钱，去了一家医院，在预约医生时一切都是不确定的。我不知道要告诉她什么——戴安娜，医生的名字，让我放松了下来，我在接下来的一个小时里告诉了她我的感受。她问了问题，我回答问题，不知怎么的，沟通一直很顺畅，实话实说，说出一些我从没说过的事。最后，她让我给父母打电话。我很害怕，也很不情愿。她坚持要我打电话，我拨了电话，再把电话递给她。
她把他们叫到医院。20分钟后，他们走了进来，她把我送出去，然后和他们聊了45分钟，而我不耐烦地在外面等着，一直在想这是不是我逃离这里的机会。无数情绪在我身上流淌！沮丧慢慢吞噬着我。然而，我仍然在外面的墙边等待着。
45分钟后，我被叫进去，见到了我的父母，一片尴尬的沉默，我被告知和他们一起回家，明天再回来。我很害怕，回家的路上也一片寂静。但这种沉默比爸爸早上的话更让人感到安慰！
我的父母花了几个月的时间才明白(他们没有要求太多，只是让我自己去治疗，给了我可能需要的一点空间)。他们还没有理解我。但他们只是让我通过治疗来应对，慢慢地，我取得了一些进展，我们太习惯了家里的寂静和安宁。一个能给我足够慰藉，让我再也不用离家出走的地方!
戴安娜，她成功地做了其他人都做不到的事。
她让我活了下来。(我的生命是她给我的礼物)
还有那个朋友，她始终保持着幽默，这大大减轻了我生活中的压力。

Jim Watkins
How come people go away to sunny vacation spots during summer back home but stay home in the cold winter?
My daughter and her husband are enjoying a trip to Europe for two weeks. They took a river cruise on the Rhine and continued on to France. Right now, July 25, they are in Paris where the temperature is a record 107F. They mentioned how they had to hide in their hotel room with the air conditioning on max, just to get some relief from the mid-day temperatures.
My wife and I were discussing this while we were on a walk in our neighbourhood in a suburb of Vancouver Canada. The sun was shining, the temperature was in the low 70s (F) and there was a light breeze. I mentioned how fortunate I feel to live in such a nice place with such a pleasant climate. We would never leave this area in July or August to vacation anywhere else. Our niece is coming for a visit from Toronto, where the temperatures are very high and the humidity even higher.
All I can say is that it probably depends on the summer temperatures and humidity where you live and on when you can get the time off with your family. Some sunny vacations spots are very nice in the summer. Take Hawaii for instance. It’s nice there year ‘round. However, if you live some place like Vancouver, you would be foolish to leave in the summer even to Hawaii. People with children in school most of the rest of the year, don’t have a lot of choice, however. I know people who have taken their family to Hawaii or some Mexican beach in the summer because that’s the only time they can get away with the family.

为什么人们在夏天去阳光明媚的度假胜地度假，而在寒冷的冬天却呆在家里？
我女儿和她丈夫正在享受为期两周的欧洲之旅。他们在莱茵河上进行了一次河上巡游，然后继续前往法国。现在，7月25日，他们在巴黎，那里的温度达到了创纪录的107华氏度。他们提到，为了缓解中午的气温，他们不得不躲在空调开着的酒店房间里。
我和妻子在加拿大温哥华郊区的一个街区散步时正在讨论这个问题。阳光明媚，气温在70华氏度以下，还有微风。我提到我很幸运能住在这样一个气候宜人的好地方。我们永远不会在七月或八月离开这个地区去其他地方度假。我们的侄女是从多伦多来的，那里的温度很高，湿度甚至更高。
我能说的是，这可能取决于你住的地方夏天的温度和湿度，以及你什么时候能和家人在一起。一些阳光明媚的度假胜地的夏天非常不错。以夏威夷为例，那里一年四季都很不错。然而，如果你住在温哥华这样的地方，即使在夏天离开，去夏威夷也是愚蠢的。然而，一年中其余大部分时间孩子都在学校的人没有太多选择。我认识一些人，他们在夏天带家人去夏威夷或墨西哥的一些海滩，因为那是他们唯一可以和家人一起外出的时间。

Linda
What's the best number of days to be away from home on vacation?
That depends on how much you want to go back. I find 2 weeks is good for me. However, I once went to Colorado for a two week venture. I wanted to see if it was as good as everyone was telling me. My x and I drove from Mi and were exhausted! We looked for jobs and found them. We went back to get our pick up truck and more clothing 2 month later. Back to Colorado we went. We made visits to MI to visit friends and family often. I would stay at my daughters and visit while he went on a trip. We stayed 16 years! It was time to return home when my parents were failing. Dad had had a stroke and even though I flew in for that I wanted to be with him. So, here I am married and still living in MI even though my parents have passed. At 70 I’d like to go back to live there, but, I think we might just take a vacation there sometime. Maybe for 2 weeks!

离家度假的最佳天数是多少天?
这取决于你有多想回去。我发现两周对我来说就很好。然而，我曾经去科罗拉多进行过为期两周的冒险活动。我想看看它是否像大家说的那样好。我和x从密歇根州开车过来，累坏了！我们找工作，也找到了。两个月后，我们又去取了一辆卡车和更多的衣服，我们回到了科罗拉多州。我们经常去密歇根州看望朋友和家人。当他外出旅行时，我会待在女儿们身边。我们待了16年！当我父母衰老的时候，我回家了。爸爸中风了，不过我飞过来就是想和他在一起。所以，我在这结婚了，尽管我的父母已经去世，但我仍然住在密歇根州。70岁的时候，我想回去住在那里，但是，我想我们可能只是去那里度假。也许两周吧!
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Denise Shelton
What are some things people miss most about their home life while on vacation? What would be something that makes them feel at home while on vacation?
The most common is probably sleeping in their own bed. If you are in love and go away without your partner you may miss them. These things are understandable. Longing for petty things like your favorite brand of something is ridiculous. We should travel to expand our world. Anyone who is so uncomfortable with leaving their familiar surroundings that they’re unhappy should stay home.

度假时，人们最怀念的家庭生活是什么？什么能让他们在度假时有宾至如归的感觉？
最常见的可能是睡在自己的床上。如果你恋爱了，离开时没有伴侣，你可能会想念他们。这些事情是可以理解的。渴望一些琐碎的东西，比如你最喜欢的品牌，这些都是荒谬的。我们应该旅行来拓展我们的世界。如果一个人因为离开熟悉的环境而感到不舒服，那么他就应该呆在家里。

Annie T. Causey
Why does it feel horrible to get home after a vacation?
It feels horrible to get home after a vacation because it's like saying goodbye to the fun and relaxation you experienced while away.
You had time to explore new places, try different foods, meet interesting people, and just enjoy yourself without any of the stressors of everyday life.
Coming back home means returning to reality with all its responsibilities and obligations that can be overwhelming after such an enjoyable break from them.
It's hard not to feel a little bit sad when your vacation is over!

为什么度假后回家感觉很糟糕？
度假后回家感觉很糟糕，因为这就像和你外出时所经历的乐趣和放松说再见。
你有时间探索新的地方，尝试不同的食物，遇到有趣的人，享受自己，没有任何日常生活的压力。
回家意味着回到现实中，面对所有的责任和义务，在如此愉快的休息之后，这些责任和义务可能会压倒一切。
当你的假期结束时，很难不感到有点悲伤!

Jo Chown
What’s the first thing you do after getting home from a long, busy vacation trip?
Take my coat off. Fill kettle and put a tea bag in a cup. Take off shoes. Put water in cup. Open and empty suitcase. Stir tea bag. Put dirty washing is washing machine and turn on. Take out tea bag and put in milk and sugar. Sit down in comfy chair and sip tea with satisfaction.

从漫长而忙碌的假期旅行回到家后，你做的第一件事是什么？
把我的外套脱掉，把水壶装满，把茶包放进杯子里，脱鞋。把水倒进杯子里。打开并清空手提箱。搅拌茶包。把脏衣服放在洗衣机里并打开洗衣机。取出茶包，放入牛奶和糖。坐在舒适的椅子上，心满意足地啜饮着茶。