为什么抑郁症如此难以克服?（二）
Why is depression so hard to overcome?
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网友：如何克服抑郁症，有哪些困难？
当一个人处于抑郁状态时，我亲身经历过。我父亲一生中有很多次抑郁，最后以自杀告终
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Why is depression so hard to overcome?
为什么抑郁症如此难以克服?
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How to overcome a depression and what are the difficulties?
When a person is in a depression, which I experienced first hand. My father was a lot of times depressed over his life, what ended in a suicide.
A depression for him could last over periods of about 3 or 4 months. Then there was a little progress and after a few months he got stuck in the same depression again. Sadly I did not know then, on an age between 10 and 20 when it happened, what I know now. Bear with me and let me share the solution with you.
如何克服抑郁症，有哪些困难？
当一个人处于抑郁状态时，我亲身经历过。我父亲一生中有很多次抑郁，最后以自杀告终。
对他来说，抑郁症可能会持续3到4个月。然后有了一点进展，几个月后，他又陷入了同样的抑郁。遗憾的是，当时我还不知道，事情发生时我只有10到20岁，现在我知道的是什么。请稍等，我将与大家分享解决方案。
A depression is a negative emotion and feels bad. Every negative emotion is based on the formulated negative thoughts. When you keep formulating negative thoughts over a longer period, you are called depressed, it also equals to a pessimist. A pessimist is someone who formulates all the time negative thoughts instead of positive thoughts.
All negative thoughts, will create negative emotions and bad feelings.
All positive thoughts, will create positive emotions and great feelings.
How you feel is just a result of the thoughts you are formulating consciously (in the present moment), or subconsciously (thoughts you have been formulating in the past and added them to your believe system).
什么是抑郁症？
抑郁症是一种消极的情绪，感觉很糟糕。每一种消极情绪都是基于既定的消极想法。当你在一段较长的时间内不断形成消极的想法时，你被称为抑郁，这也相当于悲观主义者。悲观主义者是一个总是表达消极想法而不是积极想法的人。
所有消极的想法，都会产生负面情绪和不良情绪。
所有积极的想法，都会产生积极的情绪和伟令人愉快的感情。
你的感受只是你有意识地(在当下)或潜意识地(你在过去形成的想法，并将它们添加到你的信仰系统中)形成的想法的结果。
A positive thoughts is good for you AND good for all people on the world AND good for Nature. Thoughts which are not good for you or others or nature are not positive thoughts, but negative thoughts.
Many of you will not use this definition to create their thoughts, that is the only reason why you experience negative emotions in your life and have bad feelings. Try it, research it and see it for yourself when you don’t believe me.
Neither a negative person nor a negative situation can ever make you feel bad. You are the one that formulates your thoughts, so you are always responsible how you feel.
Many people don’t see this causality between thoughts, emotions and feelings. When you master your thoughts, you master your feelings. That is what enlightenment is all about.
What makes it difficult for many people to stop this depression?
When you experiencing a negative experience in your life, you have a choice to formulate a positive or a negative thought. Do you bring the negative experience into the right positive context or not?
Many people formulate thoughts what is so called appropriate to form at a situation. When someone steals from you, yells at you, treats you unfair, is unreasonable in your eyes, when you can’t pay the bills, get fired, etc. Then they automatically form thoughts which were stored in the subconscious. It is appropriate to feel bad. That is a “”normal” reaction for many of you.
When someone addresses you negatively or a situation gives you a negative experience, you can reply with positive thoughts or negative thoughts. This is the difference, having a negative or a positive attitude, the difference between an optimist and a pessimist, and even a difference between being depressed or happy.
积极想法的定义是什么？
积极的想法对你有好处，对世界上所有人都有好处，也对大自然有好处。对你、他人或大自然都不好的想法不是积极的想法，而是消极的想法。
你们中的许多人不会用这个定义来创造他们的想法，这是你在生活中经历负面情绪并产生不良情绪的唯一原因。当你不相信我的时候，试一试，研究一下，自己看看。
无论是消极的人还是消极的情况都不会让你感到难过。你是制定自己想法的人，所以你总是对自己的感受负责。
许多人看不到思想、情绪和感觉之间的因果关系。当你控制了你的思想，你就控制了你的感情。这就是启蒙的意义所在。
是什么让很多人难以摆脱这种抑郁?
当你在生活中经历消极的经历时，你可以选择形成积极的或消极的想法。你是否会将消极的经历带入正确的积极环境中?
许多人在某种情况下形成所谓适当的思想。当有人偷你的东西，对你大喊大叫，对你不公平，在你眼里是不可理喻的，当你付不起账单，被解雇，等等。然后他们自动形成思想，并储存在潜意识里。感觉不好是正常的。对你们很多人来说，这是一个“正常”的反应。
当有人对你说消极的话，或者某个情况给你带来消极的体验时，你可以用积极的想法或消极的想法来回答。这就是消极或积极态度的区别，也就是乐观主义者和悲观主义者的区别，甚至是沮丧或快乐的区别。
When you offer help to a depressed person, he or she will in first instance decline help, wants to retreat, wants solitude and to be angry, frustrated, negative and depressed all the time. Or will try to find relief by alcohol, drugs, sex, etc to avoid the awareness of the problem.
A depressive person is a helpless person, trapped and a victim in their own negative spiral of thoughts. A depressed person that does not want help, cannot change him or herself. He or she does not know that formulating positive thoughts, will stop this negative spiral of doom thinking. It is an endless loop, that can end in suicide. What I have experienced at an age of twenty. Perhaps this can save some parents to choose differently in life.
The first question for a depressed person is
do you want to feel happy or bad?
When you want to feel bad, I can’t help you. I will ask you tomorrow again.
When you desire to feel good, I can help you.
The second question is do you think, you focus on positive or negative thoughts?
When you focus in your life on what you do not like, what you do not have, what you cannot do, what you are not, what you hate, what you get irritated or angry, what you despise, what you hate, etc. You are constantly formulating answers on these questions, which are negative thoughts.
You are looking at the glass half empty instead of the glass being half full. Negative thoughts create negative emotions, so this person has formulated negative thoughts. When you repeat these negative thoughts over and over again in your thoughts, or talking about them, then the negative thoughts will be connected by the synapses in your brain to your believe system. Just by repeating and focusing on them.
Ask a depressive person to take a paper and pen and write down, everything what is in his or her mind, why does he or she feel bad? write down all the thoughts that is in this persons mind, what pops up in his or her mind.
对于一个抑郁的人来说，困难在于作为一个悲观主义者，他已经不断地产生消极的想法。读到这篇文章时，第一反应是“把你积极和消极的想法塞进你的……”“真是胡说八道”。当你沮丧的时候，你就会明白我的意思。
当你向一个抑郁的人提供帮助时，他或她首先会拒绝帮助，想要退缩，想要独处，并且总是愤怒、沮丧、消极和抑郁。或者会试图通过酒精、毒品、性行为等来缓解压力，以避免意识到这个问题。
抑郁的人是一个无助的人，被困在自己消极的思想漩涡中，成为受害者。一个抑郁的人如果不寻求帮助，就无法改变自己。他或她不知道，制定积极的想法，来阻止这种消极的厄运思维。这是一个永无止境的循环，可能以自杀告终。也许我二十岁时所经历的一切可以让一些父母在生活中做出不同的选择。
对抑郁症患者来说，第一个问题是你想要快乐还是难过?
当你想难过的时候，我帮不了你。我明天再问你。
当你想要感觉良好时，我可以帮助你。
第二个问题是，你专注于积极的还是消极的想法？
当你在生活中专注于你不喜欢的、你没有的、你不能做的、你不是的、你讨厌的、你被激怒或愤怒的、你鄙视的、你憎恨的等等想法时，你会不断地对这些问题制定答案，这些都是消极的想法。
你看到的是半空的杯子，而不是半满的杯子。消极的想法会产生消极的情绪，所以这个人已经形成了消极的想法。当你在脑海中一遍又一遍地重复这些消极想法，或者谈论它们时，这些负面想法就会通过你大脑中的突触与你的信仰系统联系起来，完全重复并专注于它们。
让一个抑郁的人拿起纸和笔，写下，他或她脑子里的所有东西，为什么他或她感觉不好?写下这个人脑海中所有的想法，他或她脑海中突然出现的想法。
The thoughts can be different, don’t worry about that. Just put as many as you can find on paper. It will become clear soon.
Life sucks.
My partner is very bad for me or I will never find a right partner for me, my partner does not respect me, does not love me, etc.
I have no possibilities to find work.
I have studied the wrong profession an now I have to suffer for it
I am not smart enough, I am not good enough, I am not handsome or pretty enough, etc.
I can’t pay the bills, I get all the time people who want money from me, and I don’t know what to do. Life sucks.
I am so tired of this life, always problems and it never works out for me on a good way.
I wish I would be dead to forget all those sorrows. Or I take alcohol or drugs to relief the pain. Afterwards I feel bad about that too.
My life will never change, it is one terrible life. I just did it wrong and others did … this or that…. I wished I could do it over again.
That idiot on the Internet thinks, that I can choose to feel good. When my life is shit, I feel shit. That is logic.
I have this terminal disease, there is no hope for me left. I will die.
I have lost my loved one partner/child, parents, I can’t be happy anymore. Why can’t they be here, why did it happen, It’s terrible.
etc.
When a depressed person is willing to look at the thoughts he or she has formulated and believe to be true, then it reveals the negative thoughts. Always and with no exception. When we know what thoughts that person has formulated in a negative context, we are able to find the opposite. Use humor to make the exercise into a game.
你为什么感觉不舒服?
想法可以不同，别担心。能写多少就写多少。一切很快就会变得明朗。
生活很糟糕。
我的伴侣对我很不好，或者我永远找不到合适的伴侣，我的伴侣不尊重我，不爱我，等等。
我找不到工作。
我学错了专业，现在我不得不为此受苦
我不够聪明，我不够优秀，我不够英俊或漂亮，等等。
我付不起账单，总是有人向我要钱，我不知道该怎么办。生活很糟糕。
我厌倦了这种生活，总是遇到问题，而且从来没有好的办法。
我希望我能死，忘记所有的悲伤。或者我服用酒精或药物来缓解疼痛。之后我也为此感到难过。
我的生活永远不会改变，这是一种可怕的生活。我完全做错了，其他人做了这个或那个。我真希望我能重来一次。
网上的那个白痴认为，我可以选择感觉良好。当我的生活一团糟的时候，我感觉很糟。这就是逻辑。
我得了这种绝症，我已经没有希望了，我会死的。
我失去了我所爱的伴侣/孩子，失去了父母，我再也无法幸福了。为什么他们不能在这里，为什么会发生这种事，太可怕了。
等等
当一个抑郁的人愿意看到他或她已经形成并相信是真实的想法时，那么它就揭示了消极的想法。总是如此，没有例外。当我们知道这个人在消极的情况下形成了什么想法时，我们就能找到相反的想法。幽默一点，把练习变成游戏。
This second exercise is a GAME. To transform above thoughts into the real opposite thoughts, the opposite thoughts are the positive thoughts, which are good for you AND others. You take the same thoughts of your list, and transform them one by one. When a positive remark comes in your head, just add them too. Just see it as a game, not worrying about what is reality for you or not. We treat this below this exercise, just find the opposite thoughts of a crazy, super optimistically positive person.
I just give the example to let you see how you can help a depressive person or yourself. Again, don’t mind about the thoughts, or when they differ, that is not the issue. Get to know yourself.
Positive thoughts and positive remarks, the positive optimist would have formulated:
Life is wonderful.
What I like about my partner is….. I desire to find a positive partner who is like….. my partner respects me and loves me very much.
I have many possibilities to find work.
I have studied a nice profession, I can have a choice to do something with it, or even to take this change to choose another direction. I heard they are searching people for…….
I will look at jobs in newspapers and the Internet, I will find something what I really love to do. Otherwise I search for someone who can help me to get into a nice new direction.
I am smart enough, I am good enough, I am handsome or pretty enough, etc. I am who I am, and love myself very much, just like I love all other people around me unconditionally.
I can pay the bills, I will arrange a way to get my finance in order, I will ask for help. I know what to do. Life is wonderful.
Obstacles are there in life to learn from to choose positive thoughts instead of negative thoughts. Besides that life feels lighter and much more happier to me. Great.
I am starting to see a point in life. To win by overcoming the obstacles in life. This makes me stronger, wiser and more positive. It will work out for me on a good way.
Every one dies one day, as long as I am here I will do my best and that is all I can. When I take alcohol or drugs I don’t solve the problem, I increase the problem. Let me forget about alcohol and drugs and face the challenges in life.
I will feel so good, when I will overcome this situation.
My life will change for the better, it is going to be a good life. I have to focus on what I can, I am, I have, I desire, and focus what others have for positive thoughts about me or even can help me.
I should ask people for help. Some won’t but there are always people who like to help me. I will find them. I just have to do a little effort and keep positive thoughts in my mind and keep it up.
That person on the Internet thinks differently, perhaps I should try it. I have nothing to loose. When I manage my thoughts, I manage my feelings. That is something I certainly want to learn. When my life is shit, I can only make it better. Sounds much better.
I have this terminal disease. I have to accept it like it is and make the best of it. Everyone dies one time, I will leave this over to God. I know that when I focus on positive thoughts, being happy and enjoying life, perhaps I will get some nice surprises in my life.
When I have to die, I can choose to be happy in the meanwhile and enjoy the time I still have. I think it is better for a sick person to try to be happy and enjoy life, this is better than the opposite attitude.
I have lost my loved one partner/child, parents, I can be happy and enjoy life. It is just a choice. I have to accept that it happened to me.
I should focus on the good times we had together in the past. I send them my love, gratitude and happiness every day. I know they want me to be happy on this moment, just what I would like when I passed over (died) in their place.
etc.
No more exercises, happy. The biggest part has been done. Not finished, we come to this below.
First have a look at the two lists, we have created. You can literally see why the first list makes you depressed and why the second one with positive thoughts does not. There is a huge difference in thoughts you chose to believe. Which causes the huge difference between a depressed person and a happy optimist.
只剩下一项练习了，解决困扰你的抑郁或其他负面情绪。
第二个练习是一个游戏。要把上面的想法转化为真正的相反的想法，相反的想法就是积极的想法，它对你和别人都有好处。你把清单上相同的想法，一个一个地转化。当你的脑海中出现积极的评价时，也把它们加进去。把它当成一场游戏，不要担心对你来说它是否是现实。我们把它放在这个练习下面，只是为了找到一个疯狂的，超级乐观积极的人的相反想法。
我举这个例子是想让你们知道如何帮助抑郁症患者或自己。同样，不要介意这些想法，或者当它们不同时，这也不是问题所在。了解自己就好。
积极的乐观主义者会有积极的想法和积极的言论：
生活是美好的。
我喜欢我的伴侣的地方是…。我希望能找到一个积极的伴侣，就像…。我的伴侣很尊重我，也很爱我。
我有很大可能是能找到工作的。
我学习了一个很好的职业，我可以选择用它做点什么，甚至可以借此改变，选择另一个方向；我听说他们正在找人……。
我会在报纸和互联网上找工作，我会找到一些我真正喜欢做的事情。否则，我会寻找一个能帮助我进入新方向的人。
我足够聪明，足够优秀，足够英俊或漂亮，等等。我就是我自己，非常爱自己，就像我无条件地爱周围的所有人一样。
我可以支付账单，我会安排一种方法来整理我的财务，我会寻求帮助。我知道该怎么做。生活是美好的。
生活中有很多障碍需要学习，选择积极的想法而不是消极的想法。此外，生活对我来说更轻松、更快乐，太好了。
我开始看到人生的意义。通过克服生活中的障碍来赢得胜利。这让我变得更坚强、更聪明、更积极，这对我来说是一个好办法。
每个人都有一天会死去，只要我在这里，我就会尽我所能。当我喝酒或吸毒时，我并不能解决问题，反而会增加问题。让我忘记酒精和毒品，直面生活中的挑战。
当我克服这种情况时，我会感觉很好。
我的生活会变得更好，这将是一种美好的生活。我必须专注于我能做什么，我是什么，我拥有什么，我渴望什么，并关注别人对我的积极看法，甚至可以帮助我。
我应该向人们寻求帮助。有些人不会帮助我，但总有人愿意帮助我。我会找到他们的。我只需要做一点努力，在脑海中保持积极的想法，并保持下去。
网上那个人的想法不一样，也许我应该试试。我没有什么可放松的。当我管理我的思想时，我就管理我的感受。这当然是我想学习的东西。当我的生活一团糟时，我只能让它变得更好，听起来好多了。
我得了这种绝症。我必须接受它，并充分利用它。每个人都会死一次，我会把这件事交给上帝。我知道，当我专注于积极的想法、快乐和享受生活时，也许我会在生活中得到一些惊喜。
当我不得不死去的时候，我可以选择在这段时间里快乐，享受我还有的时间。我认为对一个病人来说，试着快乐和享受生活是更好的，这比相反的态度要好。
我失去了我所爱的伴侣/孩子，失去了父母，我可以幸福地享受生活。这只是一个选择。我必须接受发生在我身上的事。
我应该把注意力集中在我们过去在一起的美好时光上。我每天都向他们表达我的爱、感激和幸福。我知道他们希望我在这一刻快乐，就像我代替他们死去时所希望的那样。
等等
不需要再练习了，开心。最大的部分已经完成。还没有结束，我们继续：
首先看一下我们创建的两个列表。你可以清楚地看到为什么第一个列表会让你沮丧，为什么第二个有积极想法的列表不会。你选择相信的想法有很大的不同。这就造成了抑郁症患者和快乐乐观主义者之间的巨大差异。
Is reality to look around in life and put everything in a negative perspective, or see what is going on and put it in the right positive perspective.
Are you a person that embraces, avoids, hide, and justify negativity, because you don’t want to do the effort to change?
Or do you like to be happy, optimistic and enjoying your life. Even when some negative persons or negative situations comes along. Don’t give a huge weight to them, by formulating them into a negative perspective. When you put the negative persons and negative situations in your life into the right positive context life will become much more lighter, happier and more fun.
Last part.
When you think negative and desire to think positive, how can we make this into a reality. How can we forget the negative thoughts, and really believe the pure positive thoughts? That is the question and not difficult.
Which list makes you feel great, the positive list. Right. It is logical, I don’t have to be psychic to know that.
When you repeat thoughts by thinking, watching, reading, communicating about them, you will create synapses in your brain to connect these thoughts to your subconscious mind.
When you have a thoughts made from words - visualized images or real images - feelings - values about the thoughts, they all will be connected by the synapses in your brain to your believe system.
When you tell yourself every day I am ugly, I am stupid, etc. Than a synapse will be created this thoughts to your believe system. You will start to really believe this is true.
A depressed person really believes he or she makes the right thoughts, which are logical in that situation the person is in. We have proven that you can think in the same situation differently. Think about that for a while.
When you keep on formulating negative thoughts, you stimulate the synapses in your brain which connects the negative thoughts to your believe system. How more you do this, how more negative you become.
When you change your focus unto the positivity and the list of positive thoughts and repeat them over and over again. Feel the words, visualize as if you are already in this state, feel how good it feels, choose to be positive in this way. After a while you create synapses that connect the positive thoughts with your believe system. It is just like learning a history statement. It is programming your subconscious mind or just learning.
What you focus on positive or negative, is what you will become.
Positive thoughts, create positive emotions and feel great.
Negative thoughts, create negative emotions and feel bad.
Not a very difficult choice, is it?
Most people think they know it all, still they are not happy, they are not in balance, and they are constantly experiencing negative emotions. How ever negative emotion is a signal as a guidance to tell you that you think something that is not good for you.
This is the way to go from being a depressed person, unto becoming a very optimistic and positive person. Remember when you have to walk a path in life with obstacles, you can enjoy it by choosing positive thoughts.
However when you are positive and smiling even in negative circumstances. It is more likely you attract that desired partner, to get that desired job, to get that help you need, etc.
Life is just a choice.
什么是现实？
现实是用消极的眼光看待生活中的一切，还是用积极的眼光看待正在发生的事情。
你是一个因为不想努力改变而拥抱、避免、隐藏、合理化消极情绪的人吗？
或者你喜欢快乐、乐观和享受你的生活。即使出现了一些消极的人或消极的情况。不要过分重视它们，不要把它们变成负面的观点。当你把生活中消极的人和消极的情况放在正确的积极环境中时，生活会变得更轻松、更快乐、更有趣。
最后一部分：
当你消极思考，渴望积极思考时，我们如何才能将其变成现实。我们如何才能忘记消极的想法，真正相信纯粹的积极想法？这就是问题所在，并不难。
哪一个清单让你感觉很棒—积极的清单。没错，这是合乎逻辑的，我不需要通灵就能知道答案。
当你通过思考、观察、阅读、交流来重复想法时，你会在大脑中产生突触，将这些想法与你的潜意识联系起来。
当你有一个由文字——可视化的图像或真实的图像——感觉——价值观构成的想法时，它们都会通过你大脑中的突触连接到你的信仰系统。
当你每天都告诉自己我很丑，我很愚蠢等等时，你的信仰系统就会产生一个突触。你会开始真正相信这是真的。
一个抑郁的人真的相信他或她做出了正确的想法，这在这个人所处的情况下是合乎逻辑的。我们已经证明，在同样的情况下，你可以用不同的方式思考，想一想。
当你不断形成消极的想法时，你会刺激大脑中的突触，将消极的想法与你的信仰系统联系起来。你做得越多，你就变得越消极。
当你把注意力转移到积极和积极的想法上，并一遍又一遍地重复它们。感受文字，想象自己已经处于这种状态，感受它的感觉有多好，选择以这种方式保持积极。过一段时间，你会产生突触，将积极的想法与你的信仰系统联系起来。这就像学习历史陈述一样。它是在编程你的潜意识，或者只是在学习。
你关注的是积极的还是消极的，这就是你将成为什么样的人。
积极的想法，创造积极的情绪，感觉很棒。
消极的想法，制造消极的情绪，感觉很糟糕。
这不是一个很难的选择，对吧？
大多数人认为他们无所不知，但他们并不快乐，他们不平衡，他们不断地经历负面情绪。消极情绪是一种信号，作为一种指导，告诉你你认为有些事情对你不利。
这就是从一个抑郁的人到成为一个非常乐观和积极的人的方法。记住，当你不得不在生活中走一条有障碍的路时，你可以通过选择积极的想法来享受它。
然而，当你是积极的，微笑，即使在消极的情况下。你更有可能吸引到理想的伴侣，得到理想的工作，得到你需要的帮助，等等。
生活只是一种选择。