我30岁了，能告诉我一些人生智慧吗？（一）

Felipe Estrella
1. Reflect on your 20's and look at what you do/don't want to do anymore and adapt. Ie: instead of going to house parties with friends and have a wasted night. Rather, day drink with friends, get home safely and get some sleep.
2.If you don't like what you do for work, make a three year transition plan… asap.
3.Double down on your career. You're not to young or too old. But closer to old.
4.Hang out with loved ones. Spend time with your grandparents and parents.
5.Have a self care routine that positively impacts your body and mental health.
6.No one really cares about you as much as you think; if you haven't noticed by now.
7.Be an Adult. Control your sleep and nutrition.. and everything else will fall into place.

1.反思你20岁的时候，看看你做什么/不想做什么，然后进行调整。举个例子：不和朋友一起去家庭聚会，一晚上浪费时光。相反，白天和朋友一起喝酒，安全回家，然后睡一觉。
2.如果你不喜欢你的工作，尽快制定一个三年的过渡计划。
3.加倍努力。你正值中年，但在不断老去。
4.与爱人一起闲逛。花时间陪伴你的祖父母和父母。
5.制定自我护理程序，这对身体和心理健康有着积极影响。
6.没有人像你想象的那样在乎你；如果你现在还没有领悟的话（请抓紧）。
8.做一个成年人。控制你的睡眠和营养摄入……其他一切都会各就各位。

Vivek Shukla
Entering 30s is a significant phase.
You most likely would be going through mindset change, adapting to societal pressures, new relationships, career stress and whatnot.
30s reinforce some of the learnings from 20s, with new life aspects unlocked in the 30s; having little manoeuvre left for the 40s and so on.
In my opinion, you can do the following in your 30s (as I am doing it myself too):
1.start taking ownership of things and don't blame others if they don't work. Instead, retrospect and recalibrate your efforts.
2.become serious towards your goals, be it marriage, career change, family care or money management.
3.learn to control emotional reactions. Develop the art of delayed response at it helps during a conflict in relationship or work.
4.be willing to say sorry in a relationship even if it might not be your mistake. However, make it a point to let the other person realise their mistake once the emotions have settled.
5.learn the courage to say wrong as wrong, even if the result may cause some stress.
6.prioritise your well-being.

30岁是一个重要的阶段。
你很可能会经历心态转变，适应社会压力、新关系、职业压力等等。
30多岁可以强化20多岁时的一些经验，也能解锁新的生活体验；而40多岁时就几乎没有什么回旋余地了。
在我看来，你可以在30多岁的时候做以下事情（就像我做的一样）：
1.开始拥有对事情的掌控，如果别人不工作，不要责怪别人。相反，回过头来重新调整你的努力节奏。
2.认真对待你的目标，无论是步入婚姻、选择职业、照顾家庭还是管理金钱。
3.学会控制情绪。培养钝感力的艺术，这有助于在关系或工作中缓和冲突。
4.愿意在一段关系中说对不起，即使这可能不是你的错。然而，一旦情绪稳定下来，一定要让对方意识到自己的错误。
5.学会承认错误的勇气，即使结果可能会带来一些压力。
6.优先考虑你的利益。
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7.discover side hustles. They break the monotony of routine and increase overall confidence. I found love in creative arts, book reading, and writing on Quora.
8.travel a lot. I picked this from my 20s and I am fortunate enough to continue in 30s and hopefully in 40s.
don't be obsessed with noticing what others think about you because no one cares!
If 20s was all about aborbing knowledge, make your 30s about sharing with others; and level up your overall well-being.
Bonus ones if you are still scrolling:
1.practice some form of physical exercise. Gym, waking, cycling develop endurance and consistency in routine.
2.read various genre books as it equips us with rich vocabulary and different storytelling style.
3.write journals as they enforce the message you want to put out to the universe. Chances are the universe will fulfill those messages in unimaginable ways.
4.practice charity as it brings emotional bliss; whether it is purchasing a meal for the poor, donating blankets in winter, or paying tuition fees for an orphan.
5.practice gratitude as writing down consistently what you are grateful for keeps you humble. And fulfilled!
6.invest heavily in yourself. Premium app subscxtions and courses add value to your life. My recent experience sums this up. I procrastinated for 2 years to draw a dog portrait. I purchased an iPad last month and drew it in 2 days!
7.learn money management. Keep yourself informed with market trends. Have health and life insurance for yourself and family. Invest not just in Gold, but also in mutual funds, pension, & retirement funds.

7.另辟蹊径。这些事情打破了常规的单调，增加了你整个人的信心。我在艺术创作、书籍阅读和Quora写作中找到了爱。
8.经常旅行。我从20多岁的时候就知道了这一点，我很幸运能在30多岁继续，希望能在40多岁仍然继续。
9.不要太在意别人对你的看法，因为没人在意！
如果20岁都是向别人汲取知识的，那么30岁就应该分享知识；提升你的整体幸福感。
如果您仍在滚动（鼠标），奖励以下（建议）：
1.进行某种形式的体育锻炼。去健身房、保持清醒、骑自行车，锻炼耐力和韧性。
2.阅读各种类型的书籍，因为它为我们提供了丰富的词汇和不同叙事风格。
3.写日记，因为这会强化你想要向世界传达的信息。宇宙很有可能以让人不可想象的方式来实现。
4.践行慈善，因为它能带来情感上的幸福；无论是为穷人买一顿饭，还是在冬天捐赠毯子，或者为孤儿支付学费。
5.学会感恩，不断写下你所感恩的东西，让你保持谦卑。并且感动满足！
6.多多投资自己。订阅高级应用程序和课程，为您的生活增添价值。我最近的经历证明了这一点。我拖延了两年才画了一幅狗的肖像；我上个月买了一台iPad，两天就画好了！
8.学习理财。随时了解市场趋势。为自己和家人购买健康和人寿保险。不仅投资黄金，还投资共同基金、养老金和退休基金。
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Brandon Walker
1.People, on the whole, are good. The more trusting you are, the more trusted you will becom.
2.You are going to die. We are all going to die. It’s the natural conclusion to life, and if you don’t try to avoid that, then you might truly live.
3.If you find yourself rushing - anytime - take a moment to ask yourself why.
I am not a wise man, but I have healed some of my wounds. I have tried to tell you the most important things I wish I knew at your age. Please feel free to disregard my ‘nuggets’.
Thinking about wisdom at the age of 30 is a good sign, in my humble opinion. The world needs more thoughtful people.

1.总体而言，人们都很好。你越是信任别人，别人就会越信任你。
2.你会死的。我们都要死。这是人生的自然结局，如果你不逃避这一点，那么你可能才是真正活着。
3.如果你发现自己很匆忙——任何时候都这样——花点时间问问自己为什么。
我不是一个聪明人，但我已经医好了我的一些伤痕。我试着告诉你我希望在你这个年纪知道的最重要的事情。
在我看来，30岁时的智慧思考是一个好兆头。世界需要更多有思想的人。

Dan Mcnellis
I’m 62 and here’s what I have learned. There is nothing more important in life than how much love you have given. They say that when you die your life gets replayed before your eyes in an instant and how much you have loved others is the only thing that matters at that point. What you accomplished in your career, how much wealth you acquire, skills you acquire, talents you showcase, none of that will have any significance unless you used them to help others.
I have also learned that when I look upon others and think they are idiots because they don’t know what I know, can’t see what seems plainly obvious to me or can’t do what I can do, I am out of line and being no good to anyone including myself because a heart filled with contempt is not a good feeling. A heart filled with love is better for me and for all I encounter.
The best approach when encountering those who don’t know what I know is to use my knowledge, my abilities and my God given talents to help others rather than hold them in contempt and to do so recognizing that there are areas in which they could school me. Your talents are God given gifts. Share those gifts with others and they will grow and so will the love that you can share with others!

我已经62岁了，这是我学到的。生命中没有什么比你付出了多少爱更重要的了。他们说，当你死的时候，你的一生会在你眼前瞬间重演，而你有多爱别人是此时此刻唯一重要的事情。你在职业生涯中取得了什么成就，获得了多少财富；你收获的技能，展示的天赋，这些都没有任何意义，除非你用它们来帮助别人。
（之前）我会认为别人是白痴，因为他们不知道我知道什么，理解不了对我来说显而易见的东西，或者做不到我能做的事情。而现在我知道了自己这么做是越界的，对任何人都不好，包括我自己。因为一颗充满蔑视的心不是一种好的感觉。一颗充满爱的心对我和我遇到的人来说都会更好。
当遇到那些不如我知道得多的人时，最好的方法是利用我的知识、我的能力和上帝赐予的天赋来帮助他人，而不是轻视他们。我认识到他们可以在某些领域教育我。你的天赋是上帝赐予的礼物。与他人分享这些礼物，他们会成长，而你也可以在与他人分享爱的过程中成长！

Bob Rob
I'm 57 years old, I'll tell you the best piece of advice I ever got. Never underestimate the power of keeping your mouth shut.

我57岁了，我会告诉你我得到的最好的建议。永远不要低估闭嘴的力量。
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Sarah Knight
1.Find some exercise or activity that you enjoy, try to do it everyday. Exercise is the most under used anti-depressant.
2.Don’t try to fit in. Be yourself & find the people that appreciate you for it.
3.Have accountability. If you made a mistake take ownership of it & try to do better.
4.Don’t work somewhere where they don’t treat the lowest employee with the same respect as the highest.
5.Be teachable. You are not always right.
6.You can have difference of opinions & still be friends. Just because someone doesn’t agree with you, doesn’t mean they hate you.
7.Look out for others. Don’t let people take advantage of you but try to be helpful & considerate too.
8.Learn to be alone. When you can be by yourself, you learn more about yourself & what you want & need without people influencing you.
9.Friendship is earned, not just given. Same with love. If you want friendship, learn to be a friend.
10.Don’t be around people that don’t respect your boundaries. If you tell someone “stop doing that” & they continue or argue. They don’t respect you.

1.找一些你喜欢的锻炼或活动，试着每天都做。运动是最常见的抗抑郁药。
2.不要试图融入其中。做你自己，并找到欣赏你的人。
3.有责任心。如果你犯了一个错误，请承担责任，并努力做得更好。
4.不要在那些对待最底层员工与对待最高层员工不一样的地方工作。
5.虚心请教别人。你并不总是对的。
6.你可以与别人有不同的意见，但你们仍然是朋友。仅仅因为某人不同意你，并不意味着他们恨你。
7.留心他人。不要让别人占你的便宜，但也要努力提供帮助和学会体贴。
8.学会独处。独自一人在没有人影响你的情况下，更多地了解你自己，了解你想要什么和需要什么。
9.友谊是赢来的，而不仅仅是求的。爱也是如此。如果你想要友谊，就学会当个好朋友。
10.不要和不尊重你的界限的人在一起。如果你告诉某人“停止这样做”，他们仍然继续或争论，说明他们不尊重你。

11.Love should feel organic, not forced. If your relationship feels forced, it’s not love.
12.Learn to be rejected & excluded. You are not going to like everyone & not everyone is gonna like you. When it comes to applying jobs, it’s not personal so don’t take it personally.
13.Avoid unnecessary drama.
14.When you’re socializing. Avoid talking about politics or religion, unless it’s a political or religious setting.
15.You don’t need to be friends with your co workers.
16.Know what you want out of relationships. If a behavior is a turn off, don’t have relationships with people that engage in it.
17.Being bossy doesn’t make you a leader.
18.Mind your own business. Unless the person is hurting you or someone you love, mind your own business.
19.People are different, they like different things. Not everyone has to like the same things you like.
20.Bad things happen to good people.

11.爱应该是有机的，而不是被迫的。如果你在关系里感觉是被迫的，那不是爱。
12.学会被拒绝。你不会喜欢每个人，也不是每个人都会喜欢你。当涉及到申请工作时，这不是你的问题，所以不要太在意。
13.避免加戏。
14.当你在社交时。避免谈论政治或宗教，除非你有政治或宗教背景。
15.你不需要和同事做朋友。
16.知道你想要从关系中得到什么。如果某人的行为令人反感，不要与他们建立关系。
17.专横并不能使你成为领导者。
18.管好你自己的事。除非对方伤害了你或你爱的人，否则别管闲事。
19.人是不同的，他们喜欢不同的东西。不是每个人都喜欢你喜欢的东西。
20.好人身上也会发生坏事。

21.Respect privacy. Don’t involve other people into something that should be private. Such as, you get in a fight with your love interest. That’s between you & them. It’s okay to reach out to someone if something doesn’t feel right but don’t involve others all the time.
22.Have a self care routine.
23.Respect yourself.
24.We are humans. We are allowed to feel. It’s okay to not be positive all the time but don’t let it consume you. If you are starting to feel like you can’t function, reach out.
25.If you don’t swim, you’ll drown.
26.Set goals. Whether it’s daily or years to come. It gives you something to focus on.
27.You can’t control others behaviors but you can control yours.
28.Be self-sufficient. Learn basic cooking skills, housekeeping skills, maintenance. People are not always around to rely on.
29.Leave people alone, if they want to be left alone. You don’t NEED to socialize all the time. If they’re asking for space, that’s them setting a boundary. Respect it.
30.Age doesn’t mean maturity. You mature through experience.

21.尊重隐私。不要让其他人卷入本应是私人的事情。比如，你和你的爱人发生了争执。那是你和他们之间的事。如果某件事情感觉不对劲，可以联系某人，但不要总是让其他人参与进来。
22.养成自我护理的习惯。
23.尊重自己。
24.我们是人类。我们有不同的感觉。一直保持乐观是可以的，但别内耗。如果你开始觉得自己不能正常工作，那就寻求帮助。
25.如果你不会游泳，你会被淹死的。
26.设定目标。无论是当下还是未来几年。它给了你一些启发。
27.你无法控制他人的行为，但你可以控制自己的行为
28.自给自足。学习基本的烹饪技能，家务技能，保养。人们并不总是有其他人可以依靠的。
29.如果人们想独处，就让他们独处。你不需要一直社交。如果他们要求空间，那就是他们设置了一个边界。尊重它。
31.年龄并不意味着成熟。你通过获得经验变得成熟。

Schlitz E. Alden
Practice low-level ecstasy.
The longest relationship you’ll have in life is with yourself, make friends and learn to enjoy your own company.
Quality beats quantity ever time.
Read! Most people only live one life, readers get thousands.

不以物喜
你一生中最长的关系就是和自己的关系，与自己成为朋友并享受独处。
质量永远胜过数量。
请读一读！大多数人只活一次，而读者却有成千上万人。

Chas Warren
1.Don't be afraid to make mistakes.
2.Don't be afraid to admit your mistakes.
3.When you repeat your mistakes, don't be too hard on yourself the first time.
4.If you continue repeating your mistakes, permanently sever relationships with everyone who contributes to this happening.
5.Live for at least two years in a foreign country.
6.Treat everyone as you would wish to be treated unlMess you are a masochist.
7.Treat your health as if your life depended in it.
8.Seek a career which provides more meaning than wealth, yet still keeps you out of poverty.
9.Learn something new every day.
10.Remember that the only friends you never want to lose are those who love you when you're weird.

1.不要害怕犯错。
2.不要害怕承认错误。
3.当你重复犯错时，第一次就不要对自己太苛刻。
4.如果你继续重复你的错误，永久性地与每一个促成这一事件的人断联。
5.在外国生活至少两年。
6.如果你是一个受虐狂，就按照你希望的方式对待每一个人。
7.关注健康，这是生命重中之重。
8.寻求一份比财富更有意义的职业，但也得能让你摆脱贫困。
9.每天学习新东西。
10.记住，你永远不想失去的朋友是只有那些在你古怪时仍然爱你的人。