QA问答：经过一段很长时间的恋爱后，爱情真的会消失吗？
Is it true that love will fall in a long-time relationship?
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爱是耐心的，爱是善良的。它不嫉妒，不自夸，不骄傲。它不侮辱他人，不追逐私利，不轻易愤怒，不记录错误。爱不以道德败坏为乐，而以忠诚为乐。
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Is it true that love will fall in a long-time relationship?
经过一段很长时间的恋爱后，爱情真的会消失吗？
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If you let it. That's the short answer and most do, they let the passion fall and then they get into a routine. some have date night and go out and maybe even have sex after and it gets old, but when you keep that passion alive and that's what i wanted to do in this relationship cuz i want it to last my lifetime.
如果你让它消失的话，它会的。这是一个简短的答案，大多数人都是这样做，他们会让激情下降，然后进入常规生活。有些人会在约会之夜外出，甚至在约会后做爱，随着时间流逝，如果你保持激情的话，爱会继续。这是我在目前的这段关系中想要做的，因为我希望这段爱能延续到我的整个人生。
我已经知道，为什么我的第一次和第二次婚姻会没有持续下去，我会从我的错误中吸取教训，这一次将是永远。当人们遇到他们的真爱时，他们通常会陷入爱河，但随着时间的推移，爱情会逐渐消失，因为他们无法保持爱情的活力。问问任何人，他们是否仍然像最初那样给自己的妻子写情书，他们是否还会继续给妻子写诗？并不是妻子不想要情书和诗了，而是因为妻子也陷入了照顾孩子的常规生活，而爸爸下班回家后很累，只想吃饭睡觉。等等等等。
在生活中，想要激情，人就必须坚持下去，我会给我爱的人写一辈子，因为当她找到这些时，我可以听到她的笑声，这只是激情的一小部分。给她鲜花的原因无非是我爱她，上一次男人在妻子生日或情人节的时候给她花是什么时候？看看我的意思，因为如果你让人们回答上面这些问题，你会发现，他们可能不会像他们第一次在一起时，或者深陷情网时那样，一直保持着爱的激情。但是，他们又偏偏想要这样的激情，所以，他们会去别的地方寻找，这就是人们成为背叛者的原因。人活着需要激情，如果和你陷入激情中的人，与和你结婚的人，是同一个人，那么，你将更幸福，妙不可言。
No.
What’s true is the giddy, intoxicating, butterflies-in-the-stomach vertigo of a new relationship will fall. A lot of people confuse that giddy intoxication with “love,” so they think when it fades, that means you aren’t in love any more.
Those giddy feelings aren’t love. Polyamorous folks refer to those feelings as “new relationship energy.” Confusing those feelings with love is a VERY common mistake, and some people will actually leave their partners when they fade, assuming that the love has ended.
They’re so strong it can sometimes be hard to tell how you really feel about someone until they fade.
不。
事实是，一段新恋情会让人头晕、沉醉、想入非非。很多人把这种令人目眩的陶醉与“爱”混为一谈，所以他们认为当它消失时，就意味着你不再爱了。
那些令人目眩的感觉不是爱。多愁善感的人将这些感觉称为“新的关系能量”。将这些感觉与爱混淆是一个非常常见的错误，有些人会在他们感觉退去后离开他们的伴侣，假设爱情已经结束。
他们是如此强大，以至于有时很难说出你对某人的真实感受，直到他们消失。
Happens with monogamous partners also. I have been married to the same woman for 40 years. And while she can still melt my butter, the quiet of sitting in the same room together reading is the best.
一对夫妇也可以保持爱的感觉。我和同一个女人结婚40年了。虽然她还能点燃我的激情，但和她坐在同一个房间里一起安静的看书是最好的。
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True. Infatuation and lust are not love.
没错。迷恋和欲望不是爱。
The Greeks were way ahead of us, three words to our one. Eros, philia, and agape. The young were cautioned to wait out the eros as it badly warped one’s judgement.
希腊人比我们更懂爱，我们的一个单词，在他们那里是三个： Eros（肉体的爱）、philia（ 关爱、友爱 ）、agape（神之爱、无条件的爱）。他们警告年轻人要等待肉体的爱，因为它会严重扭曲一个人的判断。
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The only person I’ve known who kept that “madly in love” infatuation for his wife going for all his life was markedly autistic, which is probably significant.
我认识的唯一一个，一生都对妻子保持“疯狂的爱”的人，是个明显的自闭症患者，这可能很重要。
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth
爱是耐心的，爱是善良的。它不嫉妒，不自夸，不骄傲。它不侮辱他人，不追逐私利，不轻易愤怒，不记录错误。爱不以道德败坏为乐，而以忠诚为乐。
I’ve always enjoyed this verse! Thanks for sharing
我一直很喜欢这首诗！感谢分享。
Well, then, What is love? Baby, don't hurt me.
那么，爱是什么？宝贝，别伤害我。
To be extremely specific: “New relationship energy” is just another word for dopamine.
非常具体地说：“新关系能量”只是多巴胺的另一个说法。
In my experience, a lot more adrenaline is involved. The highs and lows and anxiety-ridden overthinking is like nothing so much as a wildly over-caffeinated tweakout. Sweaty palms and shaky nerves and talking too much and oversharing.
根据我的经验，更多的可能是肾上腺素。高潮和低谷，以及焦虑过度的思考，就像是一种过度摄入咖啡因的感觉。手心出汗，神经颤抖，说话太多，过度分享。
…Obsession… what's weird is that I no longer obsess AND I haven't felt infatuated since 2015.
……痴迷……奇怪的是，我不再痴迷，自2015年以来，我再也没有进入痴迷的状态。
“Polyamorous folks refer to those feelings as “new relationship energy.”
I’d probably describe those feelings that way too. Maybe polyamorous folks feel them more often.
“多愁善感的人把这些感觉称为“新的关系能量”。”
我可能也会这样描述这些感受。也许多愁善感的人更容易感觉到。
My wife and I have a very different relationship now than we did when we met 16 years ago. The love between us is incredibly strong. The giddiness I have towards her still lives, but that’s just always been part of my personality.
我和妻子现在的关系与16年前刚见面时的关系截然不同。我们之间的爱非常强烈。我对她的痴迷仍然存在，这一直是我个性的一部分。
Could that giddy feeling be that which is associated with limerence?
那种头晕的感觉，会不会是与注意力有关的呢？
Sometimes an experience will cause you to see someone in a different light that you’d not previously seen, and bring those feelings back.
More than a few times in my marriage, there have been rocky times, where later my wife seeing me being good with the kids reaffirmed her love for me—sometimes to the point of seeming infatuated again.
有时，一次经历会让你以一种你以前从未见过的不同的视角去看待某人，并将曾经的感觉带回来。
在我的婚姻中，有过不止几次的艰难时期，后来我的妻子看到我和孩子们相处得很好，再次重拾了她对我的爱，有时甚至会再次表现出迷恋。
You can make up all the private definitions of love you want. When you fall in love you know it. Translate the many words for love in Greek and leave our English Love alone.
你可以编造所有你想要的爱的私人定义。当你坠入爱河时，你就懂了爱。你可以翻译希腊语中的许多爱的单词，但是，请让我们英语中的“LOVE”独自美丽。
Eyes can not see what mind doesn’t know. Unless someone has been in love, they won’t know what it feels like.
眼睛看不到，头脑不知道的东西。除非有人谈过恋爱，否则他们不会知道爱是什么感觉。
Nope it's the exact opposite.
Let's look at this by creating values:
Love
Infatuation
At the beginning of a relationship you have a lot of infatuation but not a lot of love. The infatuation is those butterflies that you get, that excitement, that uncertainty, and the novelty of these new experiences. But you don't actually love the person yet. You don't know them well enough to actually love them.
As you maintain the relationship for a long time you lose some of that initial excitement and butterflies in novelty. So the infatuation kind of mellows out after a while. But love increases over time. You learn more about this person. You see them as a deeper person. You care more about the things that they've been through and the things that they're currently going through. You've learned to rely on them and trust them. You've become comfortable around them that you're able to let your guard down.
Love grows over the course of relationship. Or it should anyway if you're having a healthy relationship.
不，恰恰相反。
让我们通过创造标准来看待这一点：
1、爱
2、迷恋
在一段感情的开始，你有很多迷恋，但没有很多爱。迷恋是你得到的蝴蝶，那种兴奋，那种不确定性，以及那些新奇的新体验。但你还没有真正爱上这个人。你对他们不够了解，以至于无法真正爱上他们。
当你长时间保持这种关系时，你会失去最初的兴奋感和新奇感。所以过了一段时间，这种迷恋就慢慢消失了。但爱会随着时间的推移而增加。您可以了解更多有关此人的信息。你对他们的了解达到了更深的层次。你更关心他们经历过的事情和他们目前正在经历的事情。你已经学会了依赖和信任他们。你在他们身边变得很舒服，你可以放松警惕。
爱在维持关系的过程中成长。如果你有一段健康的关系，无论如何都应该是这样的。
It is possible for the intensity of love to change over time in a long-term relationship. However, this does not necessarily mean that love will fall or disappear completely.
Some people may experience a deepened sense of love and connection as they get to know their partner better over time.
Other factors, such as communication, compromise, and mutual effort can also play a role in maintaining a strong and healthy relationship
1、在长期的关系中，爱的强度可能会随着时间的推移而改变。然而，这并不一定意味着爱情会完全消失。
2、随着时间的推移，一些人可能会加深对伴侣的爱和联系。
3、其他因素，如沟通、妥协和相互努力也可以在保持牢固的健康关系中发挥作用
People have different ways of expressing and experiencing love, and what one person may perceive as a decrease in feelings, the other may not. It's also important to remember that a relationship can go through ups and downs, and it's possible for feelings of love to fluctuate.
4、同样值得注意的是，一个人认为的“失恋”，可能对他们的伴侣来说未必如此。
5、人们有不同的表达和体验爱的方式，一个人可能会感觉到爱的减少，另一个人可能不会。同样重要的是要记住，一段感情会经历起起伏伏，爱的感觉也有可能有波动。
6、此外，“失恋”的概念也会受到社会和文化对一段关系应该是什么样子的影响。人们谈论一段关系的“蜜月期”，以及恋爱和吸引的感觉会随着时间的推移而自然减少，这并不罕见。然而，这并不是一种既定的关系，在未来的几年或几十年里，这段关系可能同样令人满意和充满爱意。
7、重要的是要记住，健康的关系需要双方的努力。公开沟通，愿意妥协，对努力保持牢固的关系是很重要的。如果一个伴侣感到不满足或不想联系，那么解决这个问题，并共同寻找解决方案是很重要的。
No, if you mean die away, no, not necessarily. Some connections last a lifetime.
不，如果你的意思是死亡，不，不一定。有些联系会持续一生。
If the people allow it to, yes it will. It doesn't have to though. In a healthy relationship where both people are committed, the love should grow overtime; not wane.
如果人们允许的话，是的。但不必如此。在一段双方都投入的健康关系中，爱应该随着时间的推移而增长；而不是衰落。
No, the relationship will go up and down like a Rollercoaster over the years, but the love will always be there. It's all on what the partner dishes out and what the other can take.
不，随着时间的推移，这段关系会像过山车一样上上下下，但爱会一直存在。这一切都取决于对方会出什么招，而另一个人能不能接住。
It's a common misconception that love fades away over time in long-term relationships. However, it's not necessarily true that love will fall in a long-term relationship. While it's true that the initial "honeymoon phase" of a relationship may not last forever, it's possible for couples to continue to feel love and attraction for each other over the long-term.
It's important to remember that relationships take work and effort to maintain. It's not uncommon for couples to go through difficult times, but if both partners are willing to put in the work, they can often come out stronger on the other side.
It's also important to understand that love can change and evolve over time. The way you feel about someone at the beginning of a relationship may not be the same as how you feel about them years down the road. But that doesn't mean the love is gone, it can be just different.
So don't worry, love can still be there in a long-term relationship. And remember, love is not just a feeling, it's also a choice, so both partners should make the effort to choose each other every day.
这是一个普遍的误解，即在长期的关系中，爱会随着时间而消逝。然而，爱情不一定会在长期的关系中消失。虽然一段感情最初的“蜜月期”可能不会永远持续下去，但从长远来看，夫妻之间仍有可能继续感受到彼此的爱和吸引力。
重要的是要记住，维持关系需要付出努力。夫妻经历困难时期并不罕见，但如果双方都愿意投入努力，他们往往可以在另一方表现得更坚强。
同样重要的是，要理解爱可以随着时间的推移而改变和发展。在一段关系开始时，你对某人的感觉可能与多年后你对他们的感觉不同。但这并不意味着爱消失了，它可能只是不同。
所以别担心，在长期的关系中，爱依然存在。记住，爱不仅仅是一种感觉，它也是一种选择，所以双方每天都应该努力选择对方。
Perhaps for some but not for all. To say that all long standing relationships will see a decline in the amount of Love shared is precisely absurd. When you spend a lifetime with someone, how do you think you'll handle it if your partner goes before you do? No, Love will not fall. Love conquers all evil.
对一些人来说，也许是对的，但对所有人不适用。说所有长久的关系中，爱的分量都会减少，这是非常荒谬的。当你想与某人共度一生时，如果你的伴侣先于你而去，你会如何处理？不，爱不会倒下。爱能战胜一切邪恶。
No, that is not true. If two people TRULY LOVE EACH OTHER when they begin the relationship, then their love for each other will GROW with time instead of failing or decreasing with time.
不，这不是真的。如果两个人在开始恋爱时真心相爱，那么他们对彼此的爱将随着时间而增长，而不是随着时间而失败或减少。
Do you mean “ fall out of love ?”
Yes that's can happen , but not only in long-term relationship . It can happen in a short time relationship.
Long time relationship ? Do you mean the longer we will be in relationship the less we will be reluctant to “ be loving each other?”
Well , that's called “ devotion “ . The longer we are in relationship the more we want to stay devoted to the one we are committed to.
Can we lose devotion ?
Yes we can . Not only in long-term relationship but in a short term relationship.
Relationships are complicated so as when it's comes to love someone . You won't lose it , you just lose the passion to love again that's happen when life complications [ health] , work , friends, family and ones own unattended life goals interferes with the relationship . That's when we feel like we are falling out of love .
Love won't just disappear from A good & healthy relationship , love will simply die when it is A bad relationship long-term and short !
你是说“失去爱情”吗？
是的，这是可能发生的，但不仅仅是在长期关系中会如此，也可能在短时间内发生。
长期关系？你的意思是，我们的关系越长，我们就越不愿意“相爱”？
好吧，这叫做“投入”。我们的关系越久，我们越想对我们所致力的人保持投入。
我们会不再忠诚吗？
是的，我们会。不仅在长期关系中，而且在短期关系中都会如此。
关系是复杂的，所以当涉及到爱一个人的时候。你不会失去爱，你只是失去了爱的激情，当生活中的并发症（健康）、工作、朋友、家人和自己的生活目标干扰了这段关系时，就会发生这种情况。那就是我们感觉自己快要失去爱情的时候。
爱情不会从一段良好而健康的关系中消失，当它变成一段长期而糟糕关系时，爱情就会消亡！
love is a chemical, It fades. If love even exists. Generally people stay together out of getting to know each other and feeling comfortable. Ashocking 87.9% of people interviewed would cheat. Why? Love doesn’t exist. Lust does. Why do you love your parents and children? They’re part of you, you can be honest with them. Why do you love your girlfriend? Regular sex, fear of rejection. Have you changed for them? Would you die for them? No and no.
爱是一种化学物质，它会褪色。如果爱存在。一般来说，人们呆在一起是为了彼此了解，感觉舒适。87.9%的受访者会作弊。为什么？爱是不存在的。欲望却是确实存在的。你为什么爱你的父母和孩子？他们是你的一部分，你可以对他们诚实。你为什么爱你的女朋友？经常性生活，害怕被拒绝。你会为他们改变吗？你会为他们而死吗？不，不。
Not fall. But rather change. All relationships go through phases. And there’s nothing wrong with that.
One thing that wont change is that you’ll have your best friend right there with you all the time.
不是消退。而是改变。所有的关系都会经历这个阶段。这没什么错。
有一件事不会改变，那就是你最好的朋友会一直陪在你身边。
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I personally believe love doesn’t fail it just becomes something else a warmer more definitive love. I was married for over 40 years until he died I was in love with him.
我个人认为，爱不会消退，它只是变成了一种更温暖、更坚定的爱。我结婚40多年，直到他去世，我和他一直相爱。
Love grows!. Whenever & wherever love exists & is sustained in any kind of a relationship, it will continue to grow.
爱在成长！无论何时何地，爱在任何一种关系中都会持续下去。
My wife and I just celebrated our 53rd Anniversary. We are more in love than ever.
我和妻子刚刚庆祝了53周年结婚纪念日。我们比以往任何时候都更相爱。