什么阻碍了你的成功（二）
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网友：星期五。这是我对成功的看法：成功有5个因素：本质，养育，条件，幸福感，执行。
那么本质是你与生俱来的天赋或能力.......
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What is holding me back from being successful?
什么阻碍了你的成功？
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Success, OK, here’s my take:
There are 5 factors to success
Nature
Nurture
Circumstance
Happenstance
Your do.
So then, Nature. Nature is the talents or abilities you are born with. Some are good at music, some math, some languages, some intellect. Whatever. Some just get an average dose and some a lot and some none.
Nurture. How was your upbringing? Did you have good role models. Did your school system support and cultivate your interest and intellect?
星期五
这是我对成功的看法：
成功有5个因素：
本质
养育
条件
幸福感
执行。
那么本质是你与生俱来的天赋或能力。一些人擅长音乐，一些人擅长数学，一些人擅长语言，一些人才智出众。无论什么能力，有些人只是达到平均水平，有些人擅长，有些人毫无天赋。
养育：你的成长经历如何？你有好的榜样吗。你的学校系统是否支持并培养了你的兴趣和智力？
Happenstance. You win the lottery. You are born into wealth. You strike gold or oil. You gamble and win a fortune.
Your do. So, this is one you actually have control over. It includes working, studying, praying, going to seminars, going to church, meditating, taking care of your health (body, mind, teeth), and practicing. Believing in yourself. Malcolm Gladwell in “Outliers” says you need 10,000 hours of practice to become an expert in anything….well, maybe.
条件：你居住的区域有机会吗？你周围的人支持吗？我曾经遇到一个年轻人，当有人要求他将产品从一个工厂运送到另一个工厂时，他开启了一项业务。四年后，他有了几辆卡车，卖掉了自己的生意，成为了一名快乐的露营者。可以说出几个这样的故事。
幸福感：你中了彩票。你生来就富有。你可以开采黄金或石油。你赌博赢了一大笔钱。
执行：所以，这是你可以控制的。它包括工作、学习、祈祷、参加研讨会、去教堂、冥想、照顾健康（身体、思想、牙齿）和练习。相信自己。马尔科姆·格拉德韦尔在《局外人》中说，要成为任何领域的专家，你需要经过10000小时的练习，也许吧。
I think that you need 3 out these five that are above average to be successful. If we rate each of these on an average-neutral-above average scale, you will need to be at least neutral or a little above average to get going. Then with “Your do” you can put yourself into the successful category.
Here’s how I would rate myself. The scale runs from -1 to +1 with 1/4 increments
Nature. + 1/2 - above average. I have been healthy all my life and my doctors say so. Like most people, I think I’m smarter than average, However, no real special talents.
Nurture. 0 - neutral. Neutral because I had some excellent love and caring and some terrible nurturing tactics.
Circumstance. + 3/4 - above average. Lived in a time of prosperity and opportunity. I had a non-oppressive government. I was given educational opportunities. Lived in a time of relative peace.
Happenstance 0 - neutral. No big lucky strikes. But then no real bad stuff either.
Your do. +1 - above average. I have worked hard, studied hard, and prayed a lot.
So that puts me at 2 1/4 out of a possible 5. And that’s about right for me at 71 years of age, with a good home life, loving wife, good kids, home, financial security, and a cat.
结论
我认为你需要在这五项中有三项高于平均水平才能成功。如果我们用平均-中性-高于平均的尺度来评价这些因素，你至少需要保持中性或略高于平均水平。然后，通过“执行”，你可以将自己归入成功的范畴。
以下是我对自己的评价。刻度从-1到+1，增量为1/4
本质：+1/2-高于平均值。我一生都很健康，医生也这么说。和大多数人一样，我认为自己比一般人更聪明。然而，不存在真正的特殊人才。
养育：中性，因为我有一些卓越的爱和关切，还有一些糟糕的养育策略。
环境：+3/4，高于平均值。生活在繁荣和机遇的时代。我有一个不搞压迫的政府，得到了教育机会。生活在一个相对平静的时代。
幸福感：中性。大的幸运没有降临我身上。但也没有真正的糟糕时刻。
执行：+1，高于平均值。我努力工作，努力学习，并做了很多祷告。
因此，这5个方面，所以我成功的概率是2又1/4。对于71岁的我来说，这是最合适的，有一个美好的家庭生活，爱我的妻子，优秀的孩子，有家，有经济保障，还有一只猫。
Rohit Kashyap, Maytree School创始人兼首席执行官(2019 -至今)
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Fear of Failure- Most of us don't want to start a new thing just because we think we will fail.
Laziness- We miss Many Opportunities just because of our lazy attitude towards our job.
Excuses- We don't take many opportunities just because we take it for granted and wait for next opportunity. You will make an excuse next time too.
Not Trying- We think some things are hard and just because our mindset we don't don't dare to try.
自负——我们大多数人都不想学习新事物，因为我们认为自己无所不知。
害怕失败——我们大多数人不想开始一件新的事情，只是因为我们认为我们会失败。
懒惰——只是因为我们对工作的懒惰态度。我们错失了很多机会。
借口——我们没有抓住很多机会，只是因为我们认为它是理所当然的，并等待下一个机会，不过下次你也会找借口的。
不去尝试——我们认为有些事情很难，只是因为我们的心态—我们不敢去尝试。
Suppose one day you decided to go to the gym to shape up your body.
You were very excited and determined to go to the gym initially. But as it usually happens, you got tired after a week of it. Now you started skipping it. Initially one day and then two days and so on.
But one day you went to the gym after a huge break of 14 days. You were exercising unwillingly there when you saw a girl like her entering the gym.
What would be your feeling now?
A feeling of joy and excitement, right? Like you got a purpose in life, in your sad and monotonous life!
What would you do now?
You will wake up even before the alarm bell wakes you up the next day and days after that. Go to the gym to see that girl. Exercise heavily to impress her, right?
What will be the final result?
You will achieve your goal. You will get a toned and impressive body in no time. And you will get the girl also by your impressive body.
假设有一天你决定去健身房锻炼身体。
一开始你很兴奋，决心要去健身房。但就像通常发生的那样，一周后你会感到厌倦。现在你开始认为不去不要紧。最初是一天，然后是两天，以此类推。
但是有一天，你在休息了14天之后去了健身房。当你看到一个像她一样的女孩走进健身房时，你正在那里不情愿地锻炼。
你现在会有什么感觉?
一种快乐和兴奋的感觉，对吧? 好像在你悲伤而单调的生活中，有了目标一样!
你现在会怎么做?
第二天和之后的几天，你甚至会在闹钟叫醒你之前醒来。你去健身房看那个女孩。大量运动是为了给她留下深刻印象，对吧？
最后的结果会是什么?
你会实现你的目标。你很快就会拥有健美而令人印象深刻的身材。你也会因为你那令人印象深刻的身材而得到那个女孩。
Consider the gym as your work/studies doing which (promptly and on time) will make you successful.
Consider toning your body as the purpose or goal you want to achieve for being successful.
Consider that girl as fame that comes along with achieving that toned body (success).
Now what will you do to achieve that success and fame in your life?
Have a goal or purpose in life.
Study/work hard.
Become punctual and regular. Not skipping work or studies.
Dream about achieving that fame so that you can maintain your rhythm, excitement and joy.
That it!
现在，让我们把这个场景应用到我们的生活中。
把健身当作你的工作/学习，它(及时地)会让你成功。
把锻炼身体作为你想要成功的目的或目标。
把那个女孩看作是伴随着那健美身材而来的名声(成功)。
现在，为了在你的生活中获得成功和名声，你会做些什么呢?
生活中要有目标。
努力学习/工作。
要守时，有规律。不逃避工作或学习。
梦想着获得这样的名声，这样你就可以保持你的节奏，兴奋和快乐。
就是这样！
What is holding back answer is MINDSET. i.e. WRONG MINDSET.
If you want to success in Life but you are thinking about past every time.
You want to be Achieve GOAL but you are in day by day routine problems life.
Also Holding Back is HABITS that is BAD or UNWANTED HABITS
If you have good and perfect habits you are successful in your Life.
Get note daily what you do.
Where are you wrong.
Minimize them.
Holding Back is THINKING i.e. everything junk apart from Goal
Also some of the points you should CLear that.
阻碍你成功的是心态。例如，错误的心态。
如果你想在生活中获得成功，但你每次都在想着过去。
你想要达到目标，但你却日复一日在例行问题中生活。
还有一些是不好的或不想要的习惯
如果你有好的和完美的习惯，你的生活是成功的。
每天记下你所做的事。
你哪里错了?
最小化。
阻碍因素是想法，也就是说，除了目标，一切都是垃圾。
还有一些你应该明白的观点。
No Procrastination.
No lezzy
No internet and social media
No TV
No bad friends
No Time waste.
You can do
Gym
Exercise Regularly
Running
Walking
Meditate
Yoga
Pranayam
These are some of the points can make you back. Have Discipline in your life.
明确的目标
没有拖延。
不懒惰
不看互联网和社交媒体
不看电视
不交糟糕的朋友
不要浪费时间。
你可以
健身
定期锻炼
跑步
步行
冥想
瑜伽
调息
这些都是一些可以让你摆脱不好习惯的要点，生活中要有纪律。
You, your habits and your circumstances.
The first two are in your control to change and modify.
The third is for you to adapt yourself to and to improve the way in which you could handle it.
Practise makes you perfect and keep praticising till you think you are good enough for the next thing.
All the best
你自己，你的习惯和你的环境。
前两项由你自己控制更改和修正。
第三是让你适应并改进你处理它的方式。
练习让你变得完美，坚持练习，直到你认为自己足够好，可以做下一件事。
愿一切都好。
Your expectations. Expect less, be micro-ambitious. Do not set goals like establish a big company or buy an expensive mansion. Set path, like: everyday I'll do something for my happiness.
People who are happy will be successful. People who wait to be successful and think, they can be happy afterwards will never be eiter ;-)
你的期望。期望少一些，要有远大的抱负。不要设定目标，比如建立一家大公司或购买一栋昂贵的豪宅。设定路径，比如：每天我都会为我的幸福做点什么。
快乐的人会成功。那些等待成功并认为他们可以在成功后快乐的人永远不会成功。
I think a few things are holding you back from being successful.
One, is that you're putting your life in the hands of other people. I mean people who can make decisions for your life. This can be very dangerous and I think this is something you should really look into.
Two, is that you're not looking for the best in life, but are giving in to the crowd and following them instead of standing out on your own and making your own path in life. This can be very dangerous, because you could miss out on something amazing.
Three, is that you're not taking care of yourself physically and mentally. You have to take care of yourself so that you can be successful in everything that you do. If you don't take care of yourself, then no one will.
These are three things that I see holding many people back from being successful in their lives. There are so many more things as well, but these are three big ones that come to mind right now. I hope this helps you!
我认为有几件事阻碍了你的成功。
第一，你把你的生命交给了别人。我指的是可以为你的生活做出决定的人。这可能非常危险，我认为这是你应该认真研究的事情。
第二，你不是在寻找生活中最好的东西，而是在向人群屈服，随波逐流，而没有独立自主，走自己的人生道路。这可能非常危险，因为你可能会错过一些令人惊叹的东西。
第三，你没有照顾好自己的身心。你必须照顾好自己，这样你才能在你所做的每件事上都成功。如果你不照顾好自己，那就没人会照顾你。
我认为这三件事阻碍了许多人的成功。还有很多其他的事情，但这是我现在想到的三个重要的事情。我希望这对你有帮助!
Harsh Purohit，住在印度马哈拉施特拉邦的孟买
Think about that question for a moment.
When you want to make an as big a change in your life, you need to face anything and everything holding you back from successfully making that change.
Everything that drains your energy, distracts your focus or clutters your mind.
Mental clutter can’t be measured in pounds or kilograms, but it is often some of the heaviest stuff we carry around in life. It either prevents us from moving forward or its weight makes our progress sluggish. It’s baggage that needs to be unloaded. Right now you might even feel how this guy looks.
You know the greatest obstacle to your own success? Yourself. No one else，it’s the truth.
Beyond the baggage you might already be aware of, there is plenty more you are carrying around with you that is unknowingly holding you back from the work you’ve always wanted to do.
Here are are a few . . .
是什么阻碍了你去做一直想做的工作？
思考一下这个问题。
当你想在生活中做出同样大的改变时，你需要面对一切阻碍你成功做出改变的事情。
一切耗尽你的精力、分散你的注意力或扰乱你的思绪的事情。
精神混乱不能用磅或公斤来衡量，但它往往是我们生活中最沉重的东西。它要么阻止我们前进，要么它使我们的进展缓慢。这是需要卸下的包袱。现在你甚至能感觉到这家伙的样子。
你知道自己成功的最大障碍吗？是你自己，不是其他人，这是事实。
除了你可能已经意识到的包袱之外，你身上还带着很多东西，不知不觉地阻碍了你一直想做的工作。
这里列举一些.....
Fear is a painful emotion triggered by an action your mind believes is dangerous and threatening.
Studies have shown that pain from fear is experienced the same as physical pain.
People are afraid of everything. Everyone one of us has fears whether we chose to recognize them or not. The worst fears are those that rule almost every decision we make in our lives and prevent us from testing the limits of our potential.
Fears have had a legitimate role in our evolution (read Seth Godin’s post about quieting your lizard brain). They make use more alx and protect us from harm.
你的恐惧
恐惧是一种痛苦的情绪，由你认为危险和具威胁性的行为引发。
研究表明，恐惧带来的痛苦与身体上的痛苦是一样的。
人们害怕一切。我们每个人都有恐惧，无论我们是否选择承认它们。最可怕的恐惧是那些主宰我们生活中几乎每一个决定的恐惧，它们阻止我们测试自己潜力的极限。
恐惧在我们的进化过程中扮演了一个合理的角色（阅读赛斯·戈丁（Seth Godin）关于让蜥蜴大脑安静的帖子）。它们使我们更加警觉，保护我们免受伤害。
What are my fears?
I’m afraid of dying before I’m finished with the work I know I have inside me, not being able to pay my bills (which has never been a problem, but alas still a fear) and letting people down who counted on me (the source of this fear is from enduring years of Catholic guilt from my loving mother).
What fears are holding you back?
然而，现代生活减轻了许多曾经困扰我们祖先的恐惧，但它们仍然是作用于我们内心的强大力量。一旦我们认识到它们并将从内心中引导出来，我们就可以减少它们的作用力。
我的恐惧是什么？
我害怕在完成我内心的工作之前死去，无法支付账单（这从来不是一个问题，但唉，仍然是一种恐惧），让依赖我的人失望（这种恐惧的根源是多年来我忍受着我深爱的母亲对天主教的愧疚）。
是什么恐惧阻碍了你？
A craving is a powerful desire that needs to be almost immediately satisfied.
Generally, it’s a physical need. It’s also typically a need that comforts us but has the potential to make us lose our self-control. We overdo it. We all have that temptation within us.
We need to reign in our cravings because they bring us out of alignment with our goals and our purpose. They are a huge drain on our energy, our time and our money. The little comfort they offer can end up being very destructive.
What are my biggest cravings?
Chips, sugar, and alcohol are my downfalls. I crave them all. I can polish off a bag of tortilla chips or an entire Ritter chocolate bar in one sitting. Let’s just say once I have more than 2 drinks, the probability of drinking way, way more than I should is highly probable. That’s the thing about cravings, they fill you up with empty satisfaction.
What cravings are holding you back?
你的渴望
渴望是一种强烈的欲望，需要立即得到满足。
一般来说，这是身体上的需要。它通常也是一种安慰我们的需求，但有可能使我们失去自制力。我们做得过头了。我们都有这种诱惑。
我们需要控制我们的欲望，因为它们会使我们与我们的目标和目的不一致。它们会大量消耗我们精力、时间和金钱。他们提供的一点点安慰最终可能会造成非常大的破坏。
我最大的渴望是什么？
薯片、糖和酒精是我的弱点。我渴望所有这些。我可以一口气把一袋玉米饼片或一整根里特巧克力棒磨掉。假设一旦我喝了超过2杯酒，喝得比我应该喝的多得多的概率是非常大的。这就是渴望的原因，它们会让你空虚得到满足感。
什么样的渴望阻碍着你？
A desire is a strong feeling or wishes to have something in particular in your life that will bring you satisfaction.
Generally, it’s something currently out of your reach. It can be both an attainable and unattainable goal.
Desires can be both healthy and unhealthy. I believe healthy desires are lofty goals that can motivate you to create positive change in your life.
Unhealthy desires become obsessions. They become the sole source of your happiness. They become a need and not something to be enjoyed.
What are my unhealthy desires?
I once desired financial security. Who doesn’t want to have to worry about money? Once I achieved my desire, I was severely disappointed. Becoming financially secure didn’t make me feel any more satisfied or happy. I felt even more empty inside because I ignored all the other ingredients to my happiness. I learned the hard way that money isn’t everything.
What unhealthy desires are holding you back?
你的愿望
欲望是一种强烈的感觉或愿望，希望在你的生活中有一些特别的东西能给你带来满足。
一般来说，这是你目前无法触及的东西。它既可以是一个可实现的目标，也可以是无法实现的目标。
欲望可以是健康的，也可以是不健康的。我相信健康的愿望是崇高的目标，可以激励你在生活中创造积极的改变。
不健康的欲望会成为困扰。它们成为你幸福的唯一来源。它们成为一种需要，而不是一种享受。
我不健康的欲望是什么？
我曾经渴望财务安全。谁都不想为钱发愁？一旦我实现了我的愿望，我就非常失望。经济上的安全并没有让我感到更满足或快乐。我感到内心更加空虚，因为我忽略了幸福的所有其他因素。我很难明白钱不是万能的。
什么不健康的欲望阻碍着你？
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An expectation is a strong belief that something will likely happen or it is a preference to have something happen in a certain way.
More often than not, expectations are not within our control. When our expectations aren’t realized, they can leave is very disappointed.
Your goals should be guideposts to give your life direction. Expectations are rigid. They can be walls of disappointment when you can’t climb over them.
Our careers are filled with expectations about when we’ll get promoted, how much money we’ll make, how successful will be in 5 years, etc. Sometimes those expectations are unrealistic because we haven’t taken an honest assessment of ourselves and our abilities.
We get easily disappointed when these expectations aren’t met and ignore all the progress we have made.
你的期望
期望是一种强烈的信念，认为某件事很可能会发生，或者倾向于以某种方式发生。
通常情况下，我们无法控制期望。当我们的期望没有实现时，他们会很失望地离开。
你的目标应该是指引你人生方向的路标。期望是严格的。当我们的期望没有实现的时候，就会很失望的离开。
我们的职业生涯充满了对何时晋升、赚多少钱、5年后会有多成功等的期望。有时这些期望是不切实际的，因为我们没有对自己和自己的能力进行诚实的评估。
当这些期望没有得到满足时，我们很容易感到失望，并忽视我们已经取得的所有进展。
Honestly, I’ve had so many expectations for myself in my career it’s hard to remember them all! Looking back I have realized, my most productive expectations are those about how I live my purpose and my values.
The expectations that were counterproductive to my career were those tied to specific outcomes like getting promotions, making a certain amount of money by a certain age, constantly thinking my “next job” was finally going to make me completely happy or waiting for the “right time” to pursue an opportunity.
What expectations are holding you back?
我的期望是什么？
老实说，在我的职业生涯中，我对自己的期望太多了，很难记住所有的期望！回顾过去，我已经意识到，我最有效的期望是关于我如何实现我的目标和价值观的期望。
对我的职业生涯产生反作用的期望是那些与特定结果相关的期望，比如升职、在某个年龄之前赚了一定的钱、不断地认为我的“下一份工作”最终会让我完全快乐，或者等待“合适的时机”来寻找机会。
什么样的期望阻碍了你？
Your risk tolerance is your motivation for seeking untested opportunities and your ability to embrace change.
I also like to think of your risk tolerance as a measure for your “fear of failure”.
People with a low tolerance for risk direct all their energy into holding onto everything they already have. They fear change.
People with a high tolerance for risk direct all their energy into pursuing new opportunities that have no guarantee of success. They are driven by change.
The world around you is changing faster than ever before. Risk avoidance is probably not in your best interest because change is coming to your life whether you want it to or not.
When you take a chance and fail, at least you will learn a little more about yourself and add another piece to your puzzle of success.
What is my risk tolerance?
Early in my career, I would say I was very conservative about taking on risk. Since I was laid off, my risk tolerance has grown tremendously and now I run toward failure because I know I will learn from it.
What is your risk tolerance?
你的风险承受能力
你的风险承受能力是你寻求未经考验的机会的动力，也是你拥抱变化的能力。
我也喜欢把你的风险承受能力作为衡量你“害怕失败”的标准。
对风险承受能力较低的人会将所有精力投入到他们已经拥有的一切中—他们害怕改变。
对风险承受能力较高的人会将所有精力投入到无法保证成功的新机遇中—他们是由变化驱动的。
你周围的世界正在以前所未有的速度变化。避免风险可能不符合你的最佳利益，因为无论你是否愿意，改变都会降临到你的生活中。
当你没有抓住机会时，至少你会对自己有更多的了解，为你取得成功更近一步。
我的风险承受能力是多少？
在我职业生涯的早期，我会说我对冒险非常保守。自从我被解雇后，我的风险承受能力大大提高，现在我奔向失败，因为我知道我能从中吸取教训。
你的风险承受能力是多少？
Permission is giving someone else the authority to decided what you can and can not do.
Asking for permission is ingrained in us as children and leaves a deeper imprint on us as adults than we would like to imagine.
We constantly look for the validation of others to tell us when it’s time for us to make our next move and which opportunities are best for us to pursue.
I’m giving you permission to stop asking for permission. You are the sole authority over your life and how you get to live it. You may disappoint many people in the process, but they aren’t living your life, you are.
请求许可
许可是授予他人决定你能做什么和不能做什么的权力。
请求允许在我们小时候就已经根深蒂固，并且在我们成年人身上留下的印记比我们想象的要深。
我们不断寻求他人的认可，以告诉我们何时该采取下一步行动，以及哪些机会是我们最适合追求的。
我允许你停止请求许可。你是决定你生活和你如何生活的唯一授权方。在这个过程中，你可能会让很多人失望，但他们不会参与你的生活，只有你自己参与你的生活。
Before starting Life Skills That Matter I thought I could only build a business by having a partner. More often than not, I under minded several opportunities because I sought their validation.
Worse, I convinced myself I needed it. I slowly came to realize I was the reason for my business success, not my partners. My need for permission also held me back from choosing partners that best complimented my strengths.
What permission do you need to do the work you’ve always wanted to do?
在我的职业生涯中，我是如何获得许可的？
在开始“重要的生活技能”之前，我认为只有有一个合作伙伴，我才能建立一个企业。很多时候，因为我寻求它们的认可，我忽视了一些机会。
更糟糕的是，我说服自己我需要它。我慢慢地意识到，我是生意成功的原因，而不是由我的合作伙伴决定的。我对许可的需求也阻碍了我选择最能体现我优势的合作伙伴。
你需要什么许可才能完成你一直想做的工作？