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Success, OK, here’s my take:
There are 5 factors to success
So then, Nature. Nature is the talents or abilities you are born with. Some are good at music, some math, some languages, some intellect. Whatever. Some just get an average dose and some a lot and some none.
Nurture. How was your upbringing? Did you have good role models. Did your school system support and cultivate your interest and intellect?
Happenstance. You win the lottery. You are born into wealth. You strike gold or oil. You gamble and win a fortune.
Your do. So, this is one you actually have control over. It includes working, studying, praying, going to seminars, going to church, meditating, taking care of your health (body, mind, teeth), and practicing. Believing in yourself. Malcolm Gladwell in “Outliers” says you need 10,000 hours of practice to become an expert in anything….well, maybe.
I think that you need 3 out these five that are above average to be successful. If we rate each of these on an average-neutral-above average scale, you will need to be at least neutral or a little above average to get going. Then with “Your do” you can put yourself into the successful category.
Here’s how I would rate myself. The scale runs from -1 to +1 with 1/4 increments
Nature. + 1/2 - above average. I have been healthy all my life and my doctors say so. Like most people, I think I’m smarter than average, However, no real special talents.
Nurture. 0 - neutral. Neutral because I had some excellent love and caring and some terrible nurturing tactics.
Circumstance. + 3/4 - above average. Lived in a time of prosperity and opportunity. I had a non-oppressive government. I was given educational opportunities. Lived in a time of relative peace.
Happenstance 0 - neutral. No big lucky strikes. But then no real bad stuff either.
Your do. +1 - above average. I have worked hard, studied hard, and prayed a lot.
So that puts me at 2 1/4 out of a possible 5. And that’s about right for me at 71 years of age, with a good home life, loving wife, good kids, home, financial security, and a cat.
Rohit Kashyap, Maytree School创始人兼首席执行官(2019 -至今)
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Fear of Failure- Most of us don't want to start a new thing just because we think we will fail.
Laziness- We miss Many Opportunities just because of our lazy attitude towards our job.
Excuses- We don't take many opportunities just because we take it for granted and wait for next opportunity. You will make an excuse next time too.
Not Trying- We think some things are hard and just because our mindset we don't don't dare to try.
Suppose one day you decided to go to the gym to shape up your body.
You were very excited and determined to go to the gym initially. But as it usually happens, you got tired after a week of it. Now you started skipping it. Initially one day and then two days and so on.
But one day you went to the gym after a huge break of 14 days. You were exercising unwillingly there when you saw a girl like her entering the gym.
What would be your feeling now?
A feeling of joy and excitement, right? Like you got a purpose in life, in your sad and monotonous life!
What would you do now?
You will wake up even before the alarm bell wakes you up the next day and days after that. Go to the gym to see that girl. Exercise heavily to impress her, right?
What will be the final result?
You will achieve your goal. You will get a toned and impressive body in no time. And you will get the girl also by your impressive body.
Consider the gym as your work/studies doing which (promptly and on time) will make you successful.
Consider toning your body as the purpose or goal you want to achieve for being successful.
Consider that girl as fame that comes along with achieving that toned body (success).
Now what will you do to achieve that success and fame in your life?
Have a goal or purpose in life.
Become punctual and regular. Not skipping work or studies.
Dream about achieving that fame so that you can maintain your rhythm, excitement and joy.
What is holding back answer is MINDSET. i.e. WRONG MINDSET.
If you want to success in Life but you are thinking about past every time.
You want to be Achieve GOAL but you are in day by day routine problems life.
Also Holding Back is HABITS that is BAD or UNWANTED HABITS
If you have good and perfect habits you are successful in your Life.
Get note daily what you do.
Where are you wrong.
Holding Back is THINKING i.e. everything junk apart from Goal
Also some of the points you should CLear that.
No internet and social media
No bad friends
No Time waste.
You can do
These are some of the points can make you back. Have Discipline in your life.
You, your habits and your circumstances.
The first two are in your control to change and modify.
The third is for you to adapt yourself to and to improve the way in which you could handle it.
Practise makes you perfect and keep praticising till you think you are good enough for the next thing.
All the best
Your expectations. Expect less, be micro-ambitious. Do not set goals like establish a big company or buy an expensive mansion. Set path, like: everyday I'll do something for my happiness.
People who are happy will be successful. People who wait to be successful and think, they can be happy afterwards will never be eiter ;-)
I think a few things are holding you back from being successful.
One, is that you're putting your life in the hands of other people. I mean people who can make decisions for your life. This can be very dangerous and I think this is something you should really look into.
Two, is that you're not looking for the best in life, but are giving in to the crowd and following them instead of standing out on your own and making your own path in life. This can be very dangerous, because you could miss out on something amazing.
Three, is that you're not taking care of yourself physically and mentally. You have to take care of yourself so that you can be successful in everything that you do. If you don't take care of yourself, then no one will.
These are three things that I see holding many people back from being successful in their lives. There are so many more things as well, but these are three big ones that come to mind right now. I hope this helps you!
Think about that question for a moment.
When you want to make an as big a change in your life, you need to face anything and everything holding you back from successfully making that change.
Everything that drains your energy, distracts your focus or clutters your mind.
Mental clutter can’t be measured in pounds or kilograms, but it is often some of the heaviest stuff we carry around in life. It either prevents us from moving forward or its weight makes our progress sluggish. It’s baggage that needs to be unloaded. Right now you might even feel how this guy looks.
You know the greatest obstacle to your own success? Yourself. No one else，it’s the truth.
Beyond the baggage you might already be aware of, there is plenty more you are carrying around with you that is unknowingly holding you back from the work you’ve always wanted to do.
Here are are a few . . .
Fear is a painful emotion triggered by an action your mind believes is dangerous and threatening.
Studies have shown that pain from fear is experienced the same as physical pain.
People are afraid of everything. Everyone one of us has fears whether we chose to recognize them or not. The worst fears are those that rule almost every decision we make in our lives and prevent us from testing the limits of our potential.
Fears have had a legitimate role in our evolution (read Seth Godin’s post about quieting your lizard brain). They make use more alx and protect us from harm.
What are my fears?
I’m afraid of dying before I’m finished with the work I know I have inside me, not being able to pay my bills (which has never been a problem, but alas still a fear) and letting people down who counted on me (the source of this fear is from enduring years of Catholic guilt from my loving mother).
What fears are holding you back?
A craving is a powerful desire that needs to be almost immediately satisfied.
Generally, it’s a physical need. It’s also typically a need that comforts us but has the potential to make us lose our self-control. We overdo it. We all have that temptation within us.
We need to reign in our cravings because they bring us out of alignment with our goals and our purpose. They are a huge drain on our energy, our time and our money. The little comfort they offer can end up being very destructive.
What are my biggest cravings?
Chips, sugar, and alcohol are my downfalls. I crave them all. I can polish off a bag of tortilla chips or an entire Ritter chocolate bar in one sitting. Let’s just say once I have more than 2 drinks, the probability of drinking way, way more than I should is highly probable. That’s the thing about cravings, they fill you up with empty satisfaction.
What cravings are holding you back?
A desire is a strong feeling or wishes to have something in particular in your life that will bring you satisfaction.
Generally, it’s something currently out of your reach. It can be both an attainable and unattainable goal.
Desires can be both healthy and unhealthy. I believe healthy desires are lofty goals that can motivate you to create positive change in your life.
Unhealthy desires become obsessions. They become the sole source of your happiness. They become a need and not something to be enjoyed.
What are my unhealthy desires?
I once desired financial security. Who doesn’t want to have to worry about money? Once I achieved my desire, I was severely disappointed. Becoming financially secure didn’t make me feel any more satisfied or happy. I felt even more empty inside because I ignored all the other ingredients to my happiness. I learned the hard way that money isn’t everything.
What unhealthy desires are holding you back?
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An expectation is a strong belief that something will likely happen or it is a preference to have something happen in a certain way.
More often than not, expectations are not within our control. When our expectations aren’t realized, they can leave is very disappointed.
Your goals should be guideposts to give your life direction. Expectations are rigid. They can be walls of disappointment when you can’t climb over them.
Our careers are filled with expectations about when we’ll get promoted, how much money we’ll make, how successful will be in 5 years, etc. Sometimes those expectations are unrealistic because we haven’t taken an honest assessment of ourselves and our abilities.
We get easily disappointed when these expectations aren’t met and ignore all the progress we have made.
Honestly, I’ve had so many expectations for myself in my career it’s hard to remember them all! Looking back I have realized, my most productive expectations are those about how I live my purpose and my values.
The expectations that were counterproductive to my career were those tied to specific outcomes like getting promotions, making a certain amount of money by a certain age, constantly thinking my “next job” was finally going to make me completely happy or waiting for the “right time” to pursue an opportunity.
What expectations are holding you back?
Your risk tolerance is your motivation for seeking untested opportunities and your ability to embrace change.
I also like to think of your risk tolerance as a measure for your “fear of failure”.
People with a low tolerance for risk direct all their energy into holding onto everything they already have. They fear change.
People with a high tolerance for risk direct all their energy into pursuing new opportunities that have no guarantee of success. They are driven by change.
The world around you is changing faster than ever before. Risk avoidance is probably not in your best interest because change is coming to your life whether you want it to or not.
When you take a chance and fail, at least you will learn a little more about yourself and add another piece to your puzzle of success.
What is my risk tolerance?
Early in my career, I would say I was very conservative about taking on risk. Since I was laid off, my risk tolerance has grown tremendously and now I run toward failure because I know I will learn from it.
What is your risk tolerance?
Permission is giving someone else the authority to decided what you can and can not do.
Asking for permission is ingrained in us as children and leaves a deeper imprint on us as adults than we would like to imagine.
We constantly look for the validation of others to tell us when it’s time for us to make our next move and which opportunities are best for us to pursue.
I’m giving you permission to stop asking for permission. You are the sole authority over your life and how you get to live it. You may disappoint many people in the process, but they aren’t living your life, you are.
Before starting Life Skills That Matter I thought I could only build a business by having a partner. More often than not, I under minded several opportunities because I sought their validation.
Worse, I convinced myself I needed it. I slowly came to realize I was the reason for my business success, not my partners. My need for permission also held me back from choosing partners that best complimented my strengths.
What permission do you need to do the work you’ve always wanted to do?