Joel Bushart
I've only ever been given one piece of advice about relationships that I feel is definitely worth following. I received lots of the standard advice from many sources over the years.

我只收到过一条关于处理关系的建议,我觉得这建议绝对值得遵循。这些年来,我从许多渠道收到了很多标准的建议。

1.Marry your best friend.
2.Be honest with each other.
3.It's all about communication
4.Happy wife, happy life

1.嫁给你最好的朋友。
2.彼此坦诚相待。
3.一切都是为了沟通
4.幸福的妻子,幸福的生活

However, the only advice I felt I couldn't ignore was given to me by my grandmother. She said “Never marry someone who you haven't seen absolutely furious. You need to know how they act when they're angry and if you can deal with it for decades.”

然而,我觉得我唯一不能忽视的建议是祖母给我的。 她说:“永远不要嫁给一个你没有见过他发火的人。 你需要知道他们生气时的行为方式,以及你是否能忍受几十年。”

She made certain of this when my grandfather asked her to marry him. They liked to go back country camping. So, soon after she said yes, they went on a 4 day camping trip. She purposefully only packed 2 days worth of food.

当我的祖父向她求婚时,她确定了这一点。 他们喜欢下乡野营。 所以,在她答应(嫁给他)不久后,他们就开始了为期 4 天的露营之旅。 她故意只打包了 2 天的食物。

She kept my grandfather from knowing until after dinner the second day out. Then, she watched what he did, how he treated her, and how he handled his anger. He didn't raise a hand to her, or seek any form of punishment or retribution. He did yell a little, but mostly he did what needed to be done. He managed to get some more food on the way home after cutting the trip short.

直到第二天出去吃晚饭后,她才让我祖父知道。然后,她就要看着他要做什么,(也就是)他如何对待她,如何处理他的愤怒的。他没有动手,也没有寻求任何形式的惩罚或报复。他确实喊了一会,但大多数时候他做了确实需要做的事情。在缩短行程后,他设法在回家的路上多弄了些食物。

She always said that she knew she'd spend the rest of her life with him after seeing him angry, and that she'd be happy.

她总是说,在看到他发火的样子后,她知道自己可以与他共度余生,她感到很开心。

As far I know they were. My grandfather passed away after over 50 years of marriage. My grandmother some years later.

据我所知,他们是(相濡以沫的)。我的祖父在结婚 50 多年后去世了,几年后我的祖母也走了。

I was lucky that, when I was dating, circumstances allowed me to see my wife absolutely furious without my direct action being required to cause it. I've been happily married for over 14 years now.

我很幸运,当我在约会时,环境(顺水推舟地让)我看到我的妻子非常愤怒的样子,而无需我直接采取行动来激怒她。(而)我已经幸福地过了14余年了。