生活中哪些方面明白得太晚？
What did you learn too late in life?
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网友：我在晚年才明白，金钱并不重要，在二三十岁之前获得爱情并不重要。没有物质你可以快乐，但没有做你自己你就不可能快乐。我一直想攻读博士学位，学习是我热爱的东西，它让我内心平静。我在孟买最好的大学攻读了生物化学硕士学位。我有自己的房子，但我的家庭经济状况不太稳定，所以我不得不放弃我的博士梦想......
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What did you learn too late in life?
生活中哪些方面明白得太晚？
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Bhakti Chilekar，前艾昆纬高级中央监察员(2016-2020)
我在晚年才明白，金钱并不重要，在二三十岁之前获得爱情并不重要。没有物质你可以快乐，但没有做你自己你就不可能快乐。我一直想攻读博士学位，学习是我热爱的东西，它让我内心平静。我在孟买最好的大学攻读了生物化学硕士学位。我有自己的房子，但我的家庭经济状况不太稳定，所以我不得不放弃我的博士梦想。我进入一家公司工作，说真的，收入很高。我在公司工作的第十年结束后的一个月工资是我从10年级到大学的学费的两倍。我过去每个月花3-4万化妆和昂贵的购物等等。我的生活在社会上的人看来非常成功，但我快乐吗？没有。我很晚才明白，我的生活中，我的幸福就在我的博士梦中，所以当人们失业/经济困难的时候，我离开了我的高薪工作，去读博士。我想进入印度科学院/印度理工学院。离开工作后，我明白了一件事，金钱并不重要。当我失业的时候，我的生活很平静，但我喜欢做什么就做什么。是的，我的经济稳定，我有完备的储蓄，但现在我意识到，休息一下，做一些我喜欢的事情，比从事一份令人极不愉快的工作要快乐得多，因为我一开始并不喜欢这份工作。
Whatever happens do what you like. Success doesn't mean to be rich. Social status doesn't makes you happy, peace of mind does.
You don't have to be in a toxic relationship just because your society doesn't approve divorce. Being in a toxic marriage or toxic job can be bad for your mental health. It's ok to leave toxic job/ marriage, your mental health is more important than your social status.
Your parents are not angel beings sent from heaven, accept them with their negative traits. Don't keep high expectations just because they are your parents, they are also human beings. Be kind.
Sex is not important. It is one of the horrible experience if you are stuck in a toxic relationship. Give importance to love than looks or appearance.
It's ok to be single and happy in your 40′s than ruining your mental health in a bad relationship.
Love is about giving with receiving. It's a two way business, if you're giving a lot in a relationship think twice and have a balanced relationship with equal give and take than a one sided toxic relationship.
Stop pleasing people, stop finding love in others. Self love is very important, practice it.
Forgiveness is very important in life and yes it doesn't mean you are accepting that person's faults it means you are clearing that clutter in your mind.
Ego is useless but self esteem is important, so act wisely.
Not all women are innocent. Stop judging people by their gender.
为了回答你的问题，我会记下我晚年学到的东西。
不管发生什么，做你喜欢做的事。成功并不意味着富有。社会地位不会让你快乐，内心的平静会让你快乐。
你不必仅仅因为社会不赞成离婚就陷入一种令人极不愉快的关系中。处于一个令人极不愉快的婚姻或令人极不愉快的工作中可能对你的心理健康有害。离开令人极不愉快的工作/婚姻没关系，你的心理健康比你的社会地位更重要。
你的父母不是上天派来的天使，接受他们的缺点吧。不要因为他们是你的父母，就对他们抱有很高的期望，毕竟他们也是人，善待他人。
性并不重要。如果你陷入了一段令人极不愉快的关系，这是一次可怕的经历。爱比外表更重要。
在40多岁的时候单身并快乐比在糟糕的关系中破坏你的心理健康还好。
爱是给予与接受。这是一个双向的生意，如果你在一段关系中付出了很多，请三思而后行，要保持一种平等付出的平衡关系，而不是一种片面的令人极不愉快的关系。
停止取悦他人，停止在他人身上寻找爱。自爱很重要，要练习。
在生活中宽恕非常重要，是的，这并不意味着你接受了那个人的错误，这意味着你正在清理你头脑中的混乱。
自我是无用的，但自尊很重要，所以要明智地行动。
并非所有女性都是无辜的。不要以性别来评判别人。
Edit 1: Thanks for so many views and upvotes. I got amazed by seeing your response and comments. :)
I want to add few more things:
You may not be a millionaire but you have enough reasons to be grateful. Gratitude always helps a long way to keep you motivated. Be grateful of your parents, mentors, siblings, friends. Always try to see a glass full than seeing the glass empty.
Whenever you feel alone, remember there is an energy around you which can heal you. It can be God, pets, or even a riverside place. God and nature will surprise you, how much you can get healed just by being around positivity. :)
If you are getting down due to life circumstances (that can be mentally or financially). Many call it as a failure. Don’t lose hope. Perseverance is a quality of a leader. Keep going. Always remember, A master is the one who has learn from their mistake. He might have lost 1000 times but he became successful because he tried one more time which actually worked.
There are many bullies around. You need to stand tall and be confidant (and ethical always). Remember one thing ‘God give wings to those who can fly’ and ‘Someone can take your wings but they can’t fly with it.
Your ideas/emotions are valid. Even if someone laugh at your ideas but you think it makes sense, then just keep trying. Sir Abdul Kalam was rejected at so many Institutes, but he kept trying and now he is one of the leader in India with zero haters.
If you feel totally discontent in a job then you can just take a break (first of all you need to plan your finances though). If it is a toxic job then accepting a lesser salary (with a better work environment) makes sense. If you feel your job is not right for you and you feel drawn to some other field then you can plan accordingly. There is a huge difference between ‘an end’ and ‘a pause’. If a lion doesn’t hunt for sometime then also it is called as an lion, and he can start over stronger after a break.
You will find your destination, albeit losing the way often. Truly lost are those, who never ventured out of their homes.
一心多用是不健康的，我们应该一次完成一项任务，而不是同时处理许多事情，然后搞砸所有事情。
编辑：感谢这么多的观点和点赞。看到大家的反应和评论，我感到很惊讶。
我想补充几点：
你可能不是百万富翁，但你有足够的理由感恩。感恩总是能让你在很长一段时间内保持动力。感激你的父母、导师、兄弟姐妹、朋友。永远试着看到满的杯子，而不是空的杯子。
每当你感到孤独时，请记住，你周围有一种能量可以治愈你。它可以是上帝、宠物，甚至是河边那方水土。上帝和大自然会让你大吃一惊，你能通过积极的态度得到治疗。
如果你因生活环境而情绪低落（可能是精神上或经济上的）。许多人称之为失败。不要失去希望。毅力是领导者的品质。继续前进。永远记住，大师是从错误中吸取教训的人。他可能输了1000次，但他成功了，就因为他又试了一次，结果真的成功了。
周围有很多恶霸。你需要昂首站立，要有自信（并且始终保持道德）。记住一件事：“上帝给会飞的人翅膀”和“有人可以给你弄上翅膀，但他们不能带着它飞。”。
你的想法/情绪是正确的。即使有人嘲笑你的想法，但你认为它是有意义的，然后继续尝试。卡拉姆爵士被很多研究所拒绝了，但他一直在努力，现在他是印度没有人恨他的领导人之一。
如果你对一份工作完全不满，那么你可以休息一下（但首先你需要计划好你的财务）。如果这是一份令人极不愉快的工作，那么接受更低的薪水（有更好的工作环境）是有道理的。如果你觉得你的工作不适合你，并且你觉得自己被吸引到了其他领域，那么你可以做出相应的计划。“结束”和“暂停”之间有着巨大的区别。如果狮子有一段时间没有捕猎，那么它也被称为狮子，他可以在休息后重新变得更强壮。
你会找到你的目的地—尽管你经常迷路。真正迷路的是那些从不出门的人。
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Well I think it’s in 2018, I learnt many things through series of events.
Health insurance is very important for all family members.
Pain make us stronger, more resilient and more grounded.
Human choose the best possible option.
Learn to say no
Always trust your instinct
We only regret the chances we didn’t take
Solitude is important to figure out many things
Health is the greatest asset in the world. It is life’s greatest blessing. Never ever take your good health for granted, you need to take care of it.
Money is very important and sometimes in worst situation it can bring the real happiness, but don’t be slave for it. I have seen poor people dying due to debt.
Hope, love and Faith matters most.
Need to value untold sacrifices by your parents, family and friends.
我想是在2018年，我通过一系列的活动学到了很多东西。
健康保险对所有家庭成员都很重要。
痛苦让我们更坚强，更有韧性，更脚踏实地。
人类选择最好的选择。
学会说不
始终相信你的直觉
我们只是后悔没有抓住机会
独处对于了解很多事情很重要
健康是世界上最大的财富。这是人生最大的祝福。永远不要把你的健康视为理所当然，你需要照顾好它。
金钱是非常重要的，有时在最糟糕的情况下，它可以带来真正的幸福，但不要成为它的奴隶。我见过因债务而死的穷人。
希望、爱和信仰是最重要的。
需要重视父母、家人和朋友做出的不可言喻的牺牲。
No body gives a damn.
You will be pulled into the rat race, sooner or later, in one or the other form.
It isn’t about money until you realize that it is.
Most of the mental constructs created by society needs to be broken to live peacefully.
Goodness is equated to incapability by default.
There will be a time when we envy looking at monks.
Preaching comes only from a filled stomach.
Society is going down in most of the dimensions.
Humanity is doomed.
Had i known these in my early teens, i could have enjoyed life more.
没人在乎。
你迟早会以这样或那样的形式被拉进激烈的竞争中。
在你意识到它是钱之前，它并不重要。
需要打破社会创造的大多数心理结构，才能和平生活。
默认情况下，善良等同于无能。
总有一天，我们会羡慕僧侣们。
说教只能在饱腹后进行。
社会在大多数方面都在衰退。
人类注定要灭亡。
如果我在十几岁的时候就知道这些，我会更加享受生活。
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Kavita，全栈开发者(Python, Django, Flask, Angular)
Luck matters.
Finance is equally important to learn and require equal concentration that you spend on skills to earn money.
Quora is just another Social media now, not everything you read is true, informational or useful!
If you are addicted then there's nothing cool in using Quora over Facebook.
Money does buy happiness.
Content you consume can change your life perspective. Video you watch, meme you like, TV show that you just completed and Movie that you are going to watch can change a lot of things!
Even the answer you are reading now or might read next can change a lot of things!
Sometimes its better to understand about your opinion. Calmly say it to yourself - “I don’t know enough about this to have an opinion” instead of writing or speaking something random.
IIT Tag matters.
Love is not unconditional be it your parent, sibling or girl friend.
Reading books really changes you as a person. You get years of experience compressed together within weeks. Regular reading can prepare you well for life decisions.
外表和运气很重要。
财政对学习同样重要，你需要在赚钱的技能上投入同样的精力。
Quora现在只是另一种社交媒体，并不是你读到的所有东西都是真实的、具有信息性的或有用的！
如果你上瘾了，那么比起Facebook，使用Quora就没什么好酷的了。
金钱确实能买到幸福。
你消费的内容可以改变你的人生观。你看的视频，你喜欢的网络迷因（在网络上由一用户传至另一用户的图片、视频等内容），你刚刚完成的电视节目和你要看的电影可以改变很多事情！
即使是你现在读到的或下一步可能读到的答案也会改变很多事情！
有时候理解你的观点会更好。冷静地对自己说——“我对这个不太了解，无法发表意见”，而不是随便写或说些什么。
印度理工学院标签很重要。
爱不是无条件的，无论是你的父母、兄弟姐妹还是女朋友。
作为一个人，读书真的会改变你。几周内，你就将多年的经验压缩在一起。定期阅读可以为你的人生决策做好准备。
What is the purpose of asking this question ? If you want to make sure to not make the mistakes that the people of those amazing answers are saying, then you're in the wrong path.
One thing is for sure. You will make those mistakes (and that's good) even though you acknowledge the answers. How can you see their value if you don't have the right mindset?
How do you get the right mindset ? By experiencing. You can read thousands of books teaching you how to bike, if you don't go through trial and tribulations you'll never bike.
We are here in this world not to acknowledge but to feel, create, and experience.
问这个问题的目的是什么？如果你想确保不犯那些给出惊人答案的人所说的错误，那么你就走错了路。
有一件事是肯定的。即使你认可了答案，你也会犯那些错误（这很好）。如果你没有正确的心态，你怎么能看到他们的价值？
你如何获得正确的心态？通过体验。你可以阅读成千上万本教你如何骑自行车的书，如果你不经历考验和磨难，你就永远不会骑自行车。
我们来到这个世界不是为了认可，而是为了感受、创造和体验。
That “Worries” are not worth even a moment of the time we spent on them! If I had known this 20 years ago, I would have spent a happier life.
We have been taught to worry about things, right from our younger days! If you are not worrying you are not considered a “responsible” person.
Once you realise that “whatever happens” do not need your control over them (except the urge to urinate or defecate, which you need to control until you get to the space reserved for it) you are the happiest person in the world!
Now I don’t even worry about the comment from people who know me “What a worry less person! Most irresponsible!”.
这些“担忧”甚至不值得我们花一刻时间在它们身上！如果20年前我知道这一点，我会过得更幸福。
我们从小就被教导要为某些事情担忧！如果你不担心，你就不会被认为是一个“负责任”的人。
一旦你意识到“无论发生什么”都不需要你控制它们（除了小便的冲动，你需要控制这种冲动，直到到达为它保留的空间），你就是世界上最幸福的人！
现在，我甚至不担心那些了解我的人对我给出的评论：“多么不担心的人！最不负责任！”。
The lesson I learned too late in life was how to be a good friend by hiring a therapist because your therapist is paid to listen to you cry.
Just because they’re your friends and you’re having an episode doesn’t mean you MUST confide in them. Known as the “sad friend” I learned this the hard way by losing a great deal of “best” friends. It’s hard to deal sometimes but running your friend through the ringer every time you board your emotional roller coaster will make them hate hanging with you.
I know my friendship has run it’s course if they start asking if I’ve considered therapy or meds.
That means they’re tired of hearing me cry about irrational fears that won’t matter in 15 minutes. It sucks but that’s life ya know?
在生活中我明白得太晚的方面，如何通过聘请治疗师成为好朋友因为你的治疗师是靠听你哭来赚钱的。
仅仅因为他们是你的朋友，你有了问题并不意味着你必须向他们倾诉。我被称为“悲伤的朋友”，在失去很多“最好的”朋友后，我经历了惨痛的经历才明白这一点。有时候这很难处理，但是每次你坐上情绪过山车的时候都会让你的朋友失望，这会让他们讨厌和你在一起。
我知道，如果他们开始问我是否考虑过治疗或药物，我们的友谊已经结束了。
这意味着他们在15分钟内厌倦了听我为无关紧要的非理性恐惧而哭泣。这很糟糕，但这就是生活，你知道吗？
Life sucks and torture alot. Situations fucks the life of an individual. Regret and guilt can't be forgiven.
This is how my life and I have become. Filled with frustration and depression. Don't know what to do where to go, how to get whom to ask.
Feels like take a label of hire me and roaming in the market maybe someone could hire. I feel like this year was specially for me and all the pass-out students of 2020. We are not getting job, no one is ready to hire and even no body is getting job due to covid 19.
So hey Myself Gyanendra G Biswal, completed my graduation and searching for job, though not getting a job and been at home. You guys can say me an educated unemployed. Yeah I am one of that who is not so financially strong, has responsibilities to fulfill and yet not getting positive response.
I got to know that these life was full of life. Earlier I was said that if you study properly you will get good job. So I studied hard scored good yet nowhere to go but looking for job. Though some of my friends who were dropped from college due to backlogs are earning good and enjoying their life. What does this means?
生活很糟糕，折磨人。情况会毁掉一个人的生活。后悔和内疚是不能被原谅的。
这就是我和我的生活:充满了沮丧和沮丧。不知道该做什么?不知道该去哪里?不知道该去问谁。
感觉就像拿着雇佣我的标签，在市场上闲逛，也许有人会雇佣我。我觉得今年对我和所有2020年毕业的学生来说都是特别的一年。我们并没有得到工作，并没有人准备好雇佣人，甚至并没有人因为新冠肺炎而得到工作。
所以，嘿，我自己贾南德拉·比斯瓦尔（GyanndraG Biswal）完成了我的毕业典礼，正在找工作，虽然没有找到工作，也一直呆在家里。你们可以说我是一个受过教育的失业者。是的，我是一个经济实力不强的人，有责任去履行，但没有得到积极的回应。
我知道这些生活充满了活力。早些时候我说过，如果你好好学习，你会得到一份好工作。所以我努力学习，成绩很好，但除了找工作，我无处可去。然而我的一些朋友因为积压的工作而辍学，但他们的收入很高，生活也很愉快。这意味着什么？
I am good in Content writing, Accounting and blogging yet I don't own any single money. But the guy who was good for nothing owns his bike. What yhis means?
SKILLS DOESN'T MATTER.
But when I started searching for job got to know that experience matters.
I GOT ONE SIMPLE QUESTION WHY MOST OF THE ORGANIZATION CHOOSE FOR EXPERIENCE RATHER THAN FRESHER?
I know as fresher we couldn't start our work from day one, but haven't the experienced guy being train in the beginning?. .
Why are fresher's said to do Internship in the beginning with no salary only giving some travelling cost? Are freshers givem double payment when the become pro in business. Why the hell does it matters fresher and experienced.
If time and guidance is invested on fresher he would prove to be an asset. Than why this injustice.
So from life I learn it now that education doesn't matter, skills doesn't matter but experience do matter. Its okay if you are dull in studies but do gain experience. Apart from studies FOCUS ON EXTRA CURRICULAR ACTIVITIES.
LIFE IS UNFAIR IT TAKES AWAY ALOT OF THING IT HARASS ALOT, IT MAKES FEEL GIVING UP BUT YEAH ATLAST ITS LIFE IT SHOULD GO ON.
IF YOU GAVE UP YOU ARE A COWARD. IF YOU DON'T GET JOB YOUR LAZY. EVERYTIME PEOPLE JUDGE YOU WITHOUT CONSIDERING HOW IT FEELS.
THESE ARE THE THINGS WHICH I LEARNED NOW, WISH I COULD HAVE LEARNT THIS EARLIER.
教育不重要。
我擅长内容写作、会计和博客，但我没有一分钱。但那个一无是处的家伙拥有他的自行车。这意味着什么？
技能并不重要。
但当我开始找工作时，我知道经验很重要。
我有一个简单的问题，为什么组织中的大多数人选择有经验而不是选择新手？
我知道，作为新手，我们不能从第一天开始工作，但有经验的人谁又不是一开始就在接受培训呢？
为什么说新生一开始要实习—没有薪水，只付一些旅费？当新生成为专业人士时，他们是否会得到双倍的报酬。为什么它更重要，更年轻，更有经验。
如果在新生身上投入时间和指导，他将被证明是一种资产。为什么会有这种不公正。
所以我从生活中学到，教育不重要，技能不重要，但经验很重要。如果你在学习上很迟钝也没关系，但是你可以获得经验。除了学习之外，还要注重课外活动。
生活是不公平的，它带走了很多困扰，让人觉得要放弃，但最后它的生活还是要继续。
如果你放弃了，你就是个胆小鬼。如果你不找到工作，你就就懒惰。每次人们评价你时都不考虑你的感受。
这些都是我现在学到的东西，但愿我能早点学会。
I learnt about self-discipline too late.
Even though it was a concept my parents did their very best to hammer into my head, I just thought they were nagging me. Besides, their lives didn’t look that attractive to me, so what in the world was this self-discipline nonsense going to do except keep me waking up at 5 am to do stuff I didn’t have any interest in doing?
The folly of youth…
Now, as a 38 year old, I wish I understood and integrated the concept of self-discipline in my world 20 years earlier.
I wish I did cultivate the discipline of waking up early, reading more, focusing on my own God-given gifts and working on them on a consistent basis. I’d have accomplished a whole lot by now.
Self-discipline = self-love in my humble opinion.
我学习自律太晚了。
尽管这是一个我父母尽全力灌输给我的概念，但我只是觉得他们在唠叨。此外，他们的生活对我来说没有吸引力，所以这种毫无意义的自律除了让我在早上5点起床去做我没有兴趣做的事情外，还能做什么呢?
年轻人的愚蠢……
现在，作为一个38岁的人，我希望我能在20年前理解并将自律的概念融入我的世界。
我真希望我能养成早起、多读书、专注于上帝赐予我的天赋并持续不断地努力的习惯。到现在为止，我已经完成了很多。
依我拙见，自律=自爱。
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I learned late in life to abandon the illusion that your invulnerability protects you and embrace giving of yourself to, helping, and loving others.
After college, I ignored my own natural loving nature and tried to put on a manly facade that kept people at a distance. The workplace taught me to be wary of others and to protect myself from them. So many terrible people tried to hurt me.
Here I am in middlelife and I see now my folly. Love is all that matters. Loving and helping others is what makes me happy.
Take heed young men. Our culture has toxic elements that distort your views and values. Forget all the nonsense and remember that love is the only thing you will care about on your deathbed. Love deeply, care deeply, help others, stay other-focused, tell people you care for them, show them you care, invest yourself in the happiness of others, and live a virtuous life.
我在晚年学会了放弃那种认为自己无懈可击可以保护自己的幻觉，学会了去给予、帮助和爱他人。
大学毕业后，我忽视了自己天生热爱的天性，试图装出一副男子汉气概，让人们保持距离。工作场所教会我要提防他人，保护自己不受他们的伤害。那么多可怕的人想伤害我。
我现在正处于中年，我现在明白了我的愚蠢。爱是最重要的。爱和帮助别人是我快乐的原因。
注意了，年轻人。我们的文化中有扭曲你的观点和价值观的有毒元素。忘记所有的废话，记住爱是你临终前唯一关心的事情。深深地爱，深深地关心，帮助他人，保持专注，告诉人们你关心他们，向他们展示你的关心，为他人的幸福而投资，过着高尚的生活。
Homo sapiens are fascinated about pictures and graphics.
Love and attraction fade away.
Men's love is mainly driven by physical attraction and outer appearance and girl's/ women's love is mainly driven by money, career, future opportunity and family's support.
People go for the best option available.
In the real world money matters the most and though it can't buy you happiness but it can make easily available the elements to make you happy.
Looks and outer beauty matters a lot. But everyone will deny it because of fear of criticism and for formality.
To unlove a person you truly love is not as easy as it sounds. It is one of the toughest tasks in the world.
There is nothing right or wrong in this world. Everything is defined by man made rules and society’s customs.
智人痴迷于图片和图形。
爱和吸引力逐渐消失。
男人的爱主要由身体吸引力和外表驱动，而女孩/女人的爱主要由金钱、事业、未来机会和家庭支持驱动。
人们会选择最好的选择。
在现实世界中，金钱最重要，虽然它不能买到幸福，但它可以很容易地提供让你幸福的元素。
外表和穿着很重要。但每个人都会因为害怕批评和拘泥于形式而否认它。
爱一个你真正爱的人并不像听起来那么容易。这是世界上最艰巨的任务之一。
这个世界上没有对错之分。一切都是由人为的规则和社会习俗来定义的。