为什么人们会在生活中失败(三)
Why do people fail in life?
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网友：你害怕。你试过做事，但都没做成。当你看到其他新事物出现时，你封锁你的心，然后你将之抛之脑后，那是因为你厌倦了，你厌倦了看到自己失败，不想再尝试任何事情。但你为什么如此厌倦？那是因为你曾经努力去实现的每一件事，无论你进步了多远，你都能看到你的目标还有多远......
所以你放弃了
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Why do people fail in life?
为什么人们会在生活中失败?
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Steven Haddock，法学学士学位，25年诉讼、行政法、催收、破产和专业监管经验
I just watched the 2019 version of the movie “Midway” yesterday and they played out an incident that actually happened during their war game trials.
One of the junior officers placed the two American carriers just to the north-east of Midway Island, instead of at Pearl Harbor where they were stationed. As the game progressed, the American fleet sank three Japanese carriers while the fleet was busy attacking Midway Island. The officer was reprimanded and ordered to play the game again with the carriers stationed at Pearl Harbor.
这个组合是看不到失败的可能性的，如果你看到了，就忽略它。
我昨天刚看了2019年版的电影《中途岛》，他们讲述了在军事演习中真实发生的一件事。
其中一名初级军官将两艘美国航空母舰部署在中途岛的东北方向，而不是他们驻扎的珍珠港。随着游戏的进行，美国舰队在忙于攻击中途岛时击沉了三艘日本航空母舰。这名军官受到训斥，并被命令与驻扎在珍珠港的航空母舰再玩一次游戏。
The same thing happened at Arnhem in 1944. The whole plan depended on there not being any major German forces there. However, the allies received intelligence that there were German tanks in the area. The Germans were there because the tanks needed a break and they figured Arnhem would be quiet. The British went ahead anyway and were never able to capture the key bridge because they didn’t have enough on the ground to take on an entire tank division.
合乎常理地，当真正的战斗发生时，美国人确实明白了日本人想要做什么，并将他们的三艘航母（他们修复了一艘日本人认为将被摧毁的航母）部署在中途岛东北部。当日本人意识到这一点时，他们取消了对中途岛的第二次攻击，转而试图准备攻击美国舰队，毕竟，这是整个行动的重点。相反，美国人在他们发动飞机并摧毁三艘航空母舰之前就到达了那里，而在那一点上，他们自己的海军资产没有损失。
1944年，阿纳姆也发生了同样的事情。整个计划取决于那里没有任何德国主力军队。然而，盟国收到情报称，该地区有德国坦克。德国人在那里是因为坦克需要休息，他们认为阿纳姆会安静下来。英国人还是继续前进，但始终未能占领关键的桥梁，因为他们没有足够的地面兵力。
Leonard Kim，商业/职业作家|数字营销者|动物爱好者
But why are you so jaded?
That's because with everything you ever tried to achieve, no matter how far you progressed, you saw how far away that goal was. And then you realized that you were nowhere close to achieving it. And you became discouraged. And it felt impossible to move ahead.
So you gave up.
Ultimately, this meant you failed to hit your goal. And you failed to hit that goal because you were discouraged by how out of reach it was. But the only reason it was out of reach to begin with is because you made it an expectation. Something you must achieve in your life.
Imagine what life would be like if you didn't expect to be a millionaire. If you didn't expect to earn $100,000. If you didn't expect to get a million views. If you didn't expect to get the person of your dreams.
Imagine if you just did something because you wanted to do something.
你害怕。你试过做事，但都没做成。当你看到其他新事物出现时，你封锁你的心，然后你将之抛之脑后，那是因为你厌倦了，你厌倦了看到自己失败，不想再尝试任何事情。
但你为什么如此厌倦？
那是因为你曾经努力去实现的每一件事，无论你进步了多远，你都能看到你的目标还有多远。然后你意识到你离实现目标还差得远。然后你就泄气了。我觉得无法继续前进。
所以你放弃了。
最终，这意味着你没有达到目标，没能实现这个目标，你因为目标的遥不可及感到气馁。但一开始它遥不可及的唯一原因是因为你把它当成了一种期待。你必须在生活中取得成就。
想象一下，如果你没想到会成为百万富翁，生活会是什么样子。如果你没想到能挣10万美元。如果你没想到会有一百万次的浏览量。如果你没想到会得到你的梦中情人。
想象一下，如果你只是因为想做某事而做某事。
Probably not.
Why?
Because you wouldn't be discouraged. You'd be happy because you're doing something you like. And when you're doing something you like, you want to do more of it. And when you do more of it, you start to see results.
So if you want to achieve success, stop working backwards.
You don't start from the destination and then move to the starting line. Or you will never make it back across. You start at the starting line and you just go forward. And when the finish line appears, you'll have made it. But you don't know when it'll appear, or how long it'll take. It may be a day. It may be a week. It may take until the rest of your life. But you keep moving forward because you don't even have an end in sight, or an expectation placed upon yourself. You keep moving forward because that's what you do when you're doing something you enjoy. You keep moving forward because what you're doing becomes a way of life.
And when you keep moving forward, you get to where you wanted to be. Even if you don't even want it anymore.
So kiss those expectations goodbye. And say good riddance to disappointment. Because that will just become a feeling of the past. Just as long as you get rid of your goals and expectations and focus on doing work that's of high value instead.
你会放弃吗?
可能不会。
为什么？
因为你不会泄气。你会很高兴，因为你正在做你喜欢的事情。当你做你喜欢的事情时，你想做更多。当你做更多的时候，你就会看到结果。
所以，如果你想获得成功，就不要倒退。
你不要从目的地出发，然后再到起跑线。否则你永远也回不去了。你得从起跑线开始，然后一直前进。当终点线出现时，你就成功了。但你不知道它什么时候出现，或者需要多长时间。这可能是一天。可能要一个星期。这可能要等到你的余生。但你一直前进，因为你甚至看不到终点，对自己也没有期望。你不断前进，因为当你做自己喜欢的事情时，你就是这么做的。你不断前进，因为做你所做的事成为了一种生活方式。
当你继续前进时，你会到达你想要的地方。即使你不再期望了。
所以，和那些期待吻别吧。对失望说再见。因为那将成为过去的感觉。只要你抛开目标和期望，专注于做有价值的工作就行。
Not having enough knowledge about different career options : I had a friend who just scored 67 in Class 12th (in 2016), but after that setback he chose to do a Diploma course in Spanish language from an institute in Delhi instead of going for a regular B. Tech like everyone else. Today, he is earning 45k per month and those B. Tech guys are still in their last year of graduation. And majority of them do not even have the passion for Engineering, either.
A lot of Confusion : More than half of Indian college students are confused about their careers, they don't know what they want in their life. During graduation, in the first year, students want to be an IAS officer, next year they shift to CAT after reading that Arts students gets leverage in MBA entrance and in 3rd year, everyone want to be an entrepreneur after reading Elon Musk. Now, they all doing MA in History.
Lack of Focus and Patience : In my used to be graduation class, students wanted to do everything in one shot, like one student wanted to be the topper of the class, President of the Student unx, IAS officer, A singer(had a youtube channel) and ofcourse looking for a girlfriend. Today, he is a tiktok artist , lost his glorious career due to lack of focus.
对不同的职业选择没有足够的了解：我有一个朋友（2016年）在12班的成绩仅为67分，但在那次挫折之后，他选择在德里的一所学院学习西班牙语文凭课程，而不是像其他人一样去读普通的理工学士学位。如今，他每个月的收入是4.5万英镑，而那些理工学士还处于毕业的最后一年。他们中的大多数人对工程甚至都没有热情。
很多困惑：超过一半的印度大学生对自己的职业感到困惑，他们不知道自己想要什么。在毕业时，第一年，学生们想成为一名IAS官员，第二年，他们在读到文科学生在MBA入学时获得优势后，转向CAT，第三年，在读了埃隆·马斯克之后，每个人都想成为一名企业家。现在，他们都在读历史硕士。
缺乏专注和耐心：在我以前的毕业班上，学生们想一次完成所有事情，比如一个学生想成为班上的佼佼者、学生会主席、IAS官员、歌手（建立油管频道），当然还有找女朋友。如今，他是一名tiktok艺人，由于缺乏专注而失去了辉煌的职业生涯。
Peer Pressure : I had a friend, surprisingly passionate for Coding(computer science) had a job in Accenture. But his batchmates were preparing for Civil Services , thus he jumped that boat in fear of missing out something. This year's CSE was his 3rd attempt, and he is thinking of re-joining the IT sector again.
People fail in their life because they don't know about themselves, lack confidence, get influenced by surroundings and lose focus in between.
P. S. : The above answer is written from my perspective as a used-to-be student.
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缺乏自我意识：一些擅长写作的人选择成为工程师，一些擅长商业的人由于同龄人的压力想成为工程师。这在印度很常见。学生们不知道自己的长处和短处。因此，选择一个错误的职业并一直坚持。不幸的是因为这不是他们感兴趣的领域，他们在那个特定的职业中并不出色。
同伴压力：我有一个朋友，对编码（计算机科学）有着惊人的热情，他在埃森哲（Accenture）工作。但他的同事们正在为公务员制度做准备，因此他也去考公务员，生怕错过什么。今年是他第三次尝试CSE，他正在考虑再次加入IT行业。
人们在生活中失败是因为他们不了解自己，缺乏自信，受到周围环境的影响，并在其间失去注意力。
附言：以上答案是从我作为一名曾经的学生的角度写的。
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Because they are asking the silly questions like this.
don't ask stupid things,just work for your goal
everyone will gets success at some or other place.
your ‘own attitude and your level of thinking’ makes you a successful person.
you havn't got an iit, no problem
you havn't got a job in PSU, no problem
you aren't a successful entrepreneur, no problem
you havn't cleared the IAS, no problem
you don't have a very good salary package, no problem
you don't even know that you are successful at something ,for which others are trying too hard.
so believe in yourself you will get everything you are capable of, he is successful or she is successful is just a myth.
Hope you will get my points correctly.
your upvote will encourage me to write more.
因为他们在问这样愚蠢的问题。
不要问愚蠢的事情，只为你的目标而努力
每个人都会在某个地方获得成功。
你的“自己的态度和思维水平”使你成为一个成功的人。
你没有考进印度理工学院没问题
你没有从事供电设备工作，没问题
你不是一个成功的企业家，没问题
你还没有通过IAS，没问题
你的薪资待遇不太好，没问题
你甚至不知道自己在某件事上取得了成功，而其他人正为之努力。
所以相信自己你会得到你所能得到的一切，他或她成功只是一个神话。
希望你能正确理解我的观点。
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hriyal Prabhudesai，就读于浦那的武装部队医学院
How true these lines seem to be,how realistic those lines are. Failure is never the end of a journey, rather we should visualize it as a beginning of a new journey,but with a different and improved vision and perspective.
Let me narrate a short story perhaps most of us already know it,still here I go.
‘As a man was passing the elephants, he suddenly stopped, confused by the fact that these huge creatures were being held by only a small rope tied to their front leg. No chains, no cages. It was obvious that the elephants could, at anytime can break away from their bonds but for some reason, they did not.
He saw a trainer nearby and asked why these animals just stood there and made no attempt to get away. “Well,” trainer said, “when they are very young and much smaller we use the same size rope to tie them and, at that age, it’s enough to hold them. As they grow up, they are conditioned to believe they cannot break away. They believe the rope can still hold them, so they never try to break free.”
The man was amazed. These animals could at any time break free from their bonds but because they believed they couldn’t, they were stuck right where they were.’
“失败不是成功的对立面，而是成功的一部分”
这些线条看起来有多真实，就有多现实。失失败从来都不是旅程的终点，相反，我们应该用一种不同的、改进的眼光和视角把它想象成一个新旅程的开始。
让我来讲述一个短篇故事，也许我们大多数人都已经知道了，但我还是讲下。
“当一个人经过大象时，他突然停了下来，他被这样一个事实弄糊涂了：这些巨大的动物只被一根绑在前腿上的小绳子抓住了。没有锁链，没有笼子。很明显，大象可以随时挣脱束缚，但出于某种原因，它们没有挣脱束缚。
他看到附近有一位驯兽师，就问为什么这些动物只是站在那里，不想逃跑。“嗯，”驯兽师说，“当它们非常小的时候，我们用同样大小的绳子把它们绑起来，再那个年龄，就足够抓住它们了。随着它们长大，它们习惯于相信自己无法挣脱。它们相信绳子仍然可以抓住它们，所以它们永远不会试图挣脱。”
那人很惊讶。这些动物在任何时候都可以挣脱束缚，但因为它们认为自己无法挣脱束缚，就被困在原地不动。
Failure is a part of learning. We should never give up the struggle in life. You Fail not because you are destined to fail, but because there are lessons which you need to learn as you move on with your life.
So true that is. Life is a journey we embarked upon the day we took birth,and failures and successes are just a part and parcel of this beautiful journey.
“Failures are finger posts on the road to achievement”
Failure teaches us lessons that success can't teach us. In fact as APJ Abdul kalam sir said “ Don't read success stories, they'll only give you a message,read failure stories,they'll give you ideas to succeed!”
So never be afraid of faliure,everyone has to have their share of experiences with failure, just to learn the lessons of life.
像大象一样，我们中有多少人一生都仅仅因为我们曾经失败过一次而坚信我们不能做什么。
学习的一部分是失败。我们生活中永远不应该放弃奋斗。你失败不是因为你注定要失败，而是因为在你以后生活的过程中，需要吸取教训。
的确如此。人生是我们从出生那天开始的一段旅程，失败和成功只是这段美好旅程的一部分。
“失败是通往成功之路的指南针”
失败教给我们的教训是成功教不到的。事实上，正如APJ Abdul kalam sir所说，“不要读成功故事，他们只会给你一个信息，读失败故事，他们会给你成功的灵感！”
所以永远不要害怕失败，每个人都必须分享失败的经历，只是为了学习这些生活中的教训。
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Because all they’ve ever been taught to do is survive, this mentality is commonly found to be born in the first six years of life, it applies to a lot of people (the majority of the human population), not just some.
Childhood conditioning can be damning, and is lifelong, e.g. I am nonsocial, conditioned to be in childhood, as a consequence I relate to no one, a very lonely place to find myself in.
I need to socialise I’m advised, that’s easy to say if you are a socialiser, which I’m not, I have no social skills so what do I talk about? In real life, when I converse with the odd person I listen, I have nothing to contribute, I’m told being a listener is a good thing
Undoing childhood conditioning is easier said than done, it can be like teaching an old dog new tricks, very tiring, seemingly unworthwhile, impossible even.
因为他们一直被教导要做的就是生存，这种心态通常是在生命的前六年产生的，它适用于很多人（大部分人），而不仅仅是一些人。
童年的条件反射可能是致命的，而且是终生的，例如，我是一个不合群的人，从小就习惯了，因此我与任何人都没有关系，这是一个非常孤独的地方。
我被建议我需要社交，如果你是一个社交高手，那说起来容易，但我不是，我没有社交技巧，那我该说什么呢?在现实生活中，当我与我所听的古怪的人交谈时，我没什么可说的，我被告知做一个倾听者是有利的。
消除童年时期的条件反射说起来容易做起来难，就像教一只老狗学新把戏一样，非常累，似乎不值得，甚至不可能。
维克多·伊查，阅读超过50本书
John’s reply usually goes something like this: “You cannot achieve what you have not defined.” John’s response is designed to help the questioner begin the journey to discovering his or her purpose.
John says this because he has learned from experience that the problem for most people who want to be successful is not that they can’t achieve success; it’s that they cannot define their purpose.
That’s challenging for many of us, because we often picture success as looking like someone else.
We find ourselves pursuing the wealth of Bill Gates, the intelligence of Albert Einstein, the athletic ability of Michael Jordan, or the imagination of Walt Disney. When becoming someone else is our picture of success we eliminate the possibility of becoming who we are meant to be.
So how do you discover your purpose in life? How do you discover the person you were created to be?
Here are some questions I ask myself to help identify my purpose:
约翰麦克斯韦尔在巡回演讲和担任教练时，最常被问到的问题是:“我如何才能成功?”
约翰的回答通常是这样的：“你无法实现你没有定义的目标。”约翰的回答是为了帮助提问者开始探索他或她的目的。
约翰这样说是因为他从经验中了解到，对于大多数想要成功的人来说，问题不在于他们不能取得成功；这是因为他们没有定义自己的目的。
这对我们中的许多人来说都是一个挑战，因为我们经常把成功想象成和别人的成功一样。
我们发现自己追求比尔·盖茨那样的财富、阿尔伯特·爱因斯坦的智慧、迈克尔·乔丹的运动能力或沃尔特·迪士尼的想象力。当成为别人是我们定义的成功时，我们就排除了成为我们想成为的人的可能性。
那么，你如何发现自己的人生目标呢？你是如何发现你生来就是要成为的人的？
以下是我问自己的一些问题，以帮助确定我的目的：
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I have heard John Maxwell say many times, “When I see people who are tired before their time, lagging with their life, and complaining about their circumstances, I know that they have no purpose.”
All of us have a strong desire buried in our hearts, something that speaks to our deepest thoughts and feelings, something that sets our souls on fire. Searching for that fire will bring perspective that will help you establish priorities.
我在寻找什么？
我听约翰·麦克斯韦说过很多次，“当我看到人们在他们的时代到来之前就感到疲倦，给生活落上了枷锁，抱怨自己的处境时，我知道他们没有目标。”
我们每个人心中都有一种强烈的愿望，一种能表达我们内心深处思想和感情的东西，一种能点燃我们灵魂的东西。寻找火种会给你带来视角，帮助你确定优先级。
Think about your unique mix of abilities, the resources available to you, your personal history, and the opportunities around you. If you obxtively identify these factors while considering the desire of your heart, you will be well on your way toward discovering your purpose in life.
Each of us is different. No one else in the world has exactly the same gifts, talents, background, or future. That’s one of the reasons it would be a serious mistake for you to try to be someone other than yourself.
我为什么被创造出来？
想想你独特的能力组合，你可以利用的资源，你的个人历史，以及你周围的机会。如果你在考虑内心渴望的同时客观地识别这些因素，你将很快发现自己的人生目标。
我们每个人都不一样。世界上没有其他人拥有完全相同的天赋、才能、背景或未来。这就是为什么说你试图成为别人而不是你自己是一个严重的错误。
John Maxwell says, “Successful and unsuccessful people do not vary greatly in their capabilities. They vary in their desire to reach their potential.”
To reach your potential, you must first believe that you have it. If you don’t believe that you have potential, you will never try to reach it. And if you aren’t willing to work toward reaching your potential, you will never be successful.
President Theodore Roosevelt gave great advice on this when he said, “Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.”
我相信自己的潜力吗？
约翰·麦克斯韦说：“成功者和失败者的能力差别不大。他们在发挥潜力的愿望上有所不同。”
要发挥你的潜力，你必须首先相信你拥有它。如果你不相信自己有潜力，你就永远不会尝试去实现它。如果你不愿意努力发挥自己的潜力，你就永远不会成功。
西奥多·罗斯福总统在这方面给出了很好的建议，他说：“在你所在的地方，用你所拥有的，做你能做的。”
To put it simply—NOW! However, this seems to be the most paralyzing question for many people.
Some people never try to discover their true purpose for living. They live their lives from day to day allowing others to dictate what they do and how they do it.
Others know their purpose, yet never act on it because they are waiting for inspiration or an invitation to get started. They don’t realize that the most dangerous temptation is delaying your discovery of purpose.
我什么时候开始？
简而言之，现在！然而，对许多人来说，这似乎是最让人不知所措的问题。
有些人从不试图发现自己生活的真正目的。他们的生活日复一日，让别人来决定他们做什么和怎么做。
另一些人知道自己的目标，但从来没有付诸行动，因为他们在等待灵感或一个开始的邀请。他们没有意识到，最危险的诱惑是拖延你发现目标的时间。
Sundhar Ram在亚马逊工作
Some people succeed because they work hard.
In both cases, you work.
If you are highly intelligent enough to calculate 16 digit multiplications in your mind within 20 milliseconds yet sit down doing nothing you are bound to fail.
If you have an eidetic memory, but don't know how to use it, you are bound to fail.
If you never want to fail, and never try, you cannot fail neither succeed, which makes you a failure again.
Lots of people work for money.
Lots of people work on something they hate.
Some people work on things they like, things they yearn for, they become happy.
It is not about making money. It is about being happy.
If you work as a garbage collector, collect enough money to feed your child and the love of your life everyday, enjoy every night cuddling beneath the beautiful night sky staring at the horizon, having no idea if you will wake up tomorrow, but you don't care, does it mean you have succeded?
有些人成功是因为他们聪明的工作。
有些人成功是因为他们努力工作。
在这两种情况下，你都能工作。
如果你足够聪明，能够在20毫秒内计算出16位数的乘法，而坐下来什么都不做，你肯定会失败。
如果你记忆力超强，但不知道如何使用它，你注定会失败。
如果你从来不想失败，也从来没有尝试过，你就不能失败也不能成功，这使你再次失败。
很多人为钱工作。
很多人都在做他们讨厌的事情。
有些人致力于他们喜欢的事情，他们渴望的事情，他们变得快乐。
这与赚钱无关，它是关于快乐的。
如果你是一名垃圾收集者，每天赚足够钱来养活你的孩子和你生命中的挚爱，享受每一个夜晚，拥抱在美丽的夜空下，凝视着地平线，不知道明天是否会醒来，但你不在乎，这是否意味着你成功了？
Success is a measure as defined by others.
Satisfaction is a measure as defined by you.
Work so that you are satisfied with it.
Make friends who make you satisfied.
If you are not satisfied with your success, it is never one.
如果你拥有一家价值10亿美元的公司，每分钟赚1000美元，住在一个有1000套设施的100英亩农场房子里，独自睡在一个封闭的房间里，或者每天和一个新来的女孩在一起，没有任何亲密的朋友，或者有一些朋友羡慕你，因为你可以为他们花钱而粘着你，每天你睡觉时都不知道你会不会醒来，但它时时刻刻萦绕着你，这是否意味着你成功了?
成功是别人定义的衡量标准。
满意度是你定义的衡量标准。
努力工作，让你满意。
结交让你满意的朋友。
如果你对自己的成功不满意，那就永远不会成功。