我们在哪里可以找到幸福（中）

Avni Rawat, lives in India

阿夫尼·拉瓦特，生活在印度

You can find happiness within yourself. Only you can make yourself delighted.
That's why we say self-love is crucial.
Sometimes, you find happiness within the smallest things which you never even thought of.
To find happiness within yourself, there is a need to self introspect yourself. What do you love to do? If you're doing something, what's the purpose of doing it? You've to ask yourself.
I recommend that you must listen to music?? , make sure you vibe in the music, admire it.
Spend some time alone in peace till you feel fresh, have coffee, talk to yourself.
If you ever feel low or want to share something, feel free to share.
Smile honey

你可以在自己身上找到快乐。只有你才能使自己高兴。
这就是为什么我们说自爱是至关重要的。
有时候，你会在你从未想过的最微小的事情中找到幸福。
要在自己身上找到快乐，需要自我反省。你喜欢做什么？如果你正在做某事，那么做的目的是什么？你得问问自己。
我建议你一定要听音乐，确保你在音乐中有共鸣，欣赏它。
花些时间独处，直到你感觉新鲜，喝咖啡，自言自语。
如果你感到情绪低落或想分享一些东西，请随意分享。
亲爱的，微笑吧。

Ritesh Kumar Mishra, Keen to share philosophic topics

Ritesh Kumar Mishra，热衷于分享哲学话题

A farmer was digging well for the purpose of finding water. He dug a few feet and when he didn't find water, he would start digging another well.
This man was digging well like insane.
Jalaluddin Rumi was standing there with his disciples, he said, “You can see this farmer is digging a well, if this man had put his whole energy into just one well, he would have reached to the deepest source of water long ago but the way he is digging, he will surely destroy his whole field.”
Where can we find happiness - If we will put our whole energy at one place, doesn't matter what we are doing, we will get instant happiness, instant blissful moment, a moment of ecstasy, a moment of totality, you become divine as you have invested your whole energy to bloom in this moment.

一个农民正在挖井以便找水。他挖了几英尺，当他找不到水时，他就开始挖另一口井。
这个人在疯狂地挖井。
诗人鲁米和他的门徒站在那里，他说：“你可以看到这个农民正在挖井，如果这个人把全部精力放在一口井上，他早就到达了最深的水源，但他挖井的方式肯定会毁掉他的整个田地。”
我们在哪里可以找到幸福，如果我们把全部精力放在一个地方，不管我们在做什么，我们都会得到瞬间的幸福，瞬间的幸福，瞬间的狂喜，你变得神圣，因为你投入了你的全部精力在这一刻绽放。

Brandon Goldfarb
I struggled my whole life with happiness. In America, it is embedded into the society that happiness is something which must be pursed. Basically everyone always feels that something is missing in their lives; Even amidst good times, there is this undertone that something is missing in our lives and we spend our whole lives trying to rectify this feeling. We all know we’re looking for something, but not quite sure what that something is. So we follow along the path prescribed by our parents and society which is to acquire obxts. We hope that by doing so, we hope that this air of dissatisfaction will be removed and we will have a life we can be truly satisfied with. Just to be clear, by obxt I don’t necessarily mean physical obxts like money, cars and houses. Even subtle obxts like friends, knowledge, status and power are obxts because they are acquired through time. In our lives this looks something like “I was that, I am this, I will be that.” This equates to time or becoming. Essentially, we never feel adequate as we are and feel we must do something, get something or become something remedy this sense of inadequacy. So our lives consist of spurts of pleasure with a never-ending struggle to regain such pleasures.

我为幸福挣扎了一辈子。在美国，幸福是必须追求的东西，这一点已深入人心。基本上每个人都会觉得生活中缺少了什么；即使在美好的时光里，我们的生活中也有缺失的东西，我们用一生的时间试图纠正这种感觉。我们都知道我们在寻找什么，但不太确定那是什么。因此，我们遵循父母和社会规定的路径，即获取目标。我们希望通过这样做后这种不满的气氛将被消除，我们将拥有一种我们能够真正满意的生活。我只是想说清楚，我所说的实物并不一定是指金钱、汽车和房屋等实物。即使是像朋友、知识、地位和权力这样微妙的物体也是包含在其中，因为它们是通过时间获得的。在我们的生活中，这看起来像“我是那个，我是这个，我会是那个。”这等同于时间或成为。从本质上说，我们从来没有感觉到我们是足够的，我们觉得我们必须做一些事情，得到一些东西或成就一些东西来弥补这种不足感。因此，我们的生活包含着快乐的迸发，以及为了重新获得快乐而进行的永无止境的斗争。
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We work, struggle, strive and battle to get xyz and when we finally get xyz we feel happy. But this happiness is always temporary. The issue is that we assume a causal relationship between the acquisition of our desires and happiness. We think, “Obviously, I’m happy because I finally got the promotion/car/diploma.” I too was stuck in this trap. Eventually amidst deep depression. What is the point of struggling all of our lives just to die and have nothing to show for it in the end? Even if you get what you want, you’re defeated and if you don’t get what you want you’re defeated. This was true from my experience at least. I knew that no material obxt was capable of bringing the lasting happiness I wanted. We live in fear, we all have this looming threat of death hanging over our heads and we want to know that our short time here isn’t wasted. All we want is to be happy so that we can die with absolutely no regrets, we want to live such a good life that we can face our own mortality with absolutely no fear whatsoever,

我们为了得到某某某而工作和奋斗，当我们最终得到某某某时，我们感到快乐。但这种幸福总是暂时的。问题在于，我们假设欲望的获得与幸福之间存在因果关系。我们会想:“我之所以很高兴，因为我终于得到了提升、购买了汽车、获得文凭，我也陷入了这个陷阱。最终在深深的沮丧中。我们挣扎了一辈子，直到死去却一无所获，这有什么意义呢？即使你得到了你想要的，你也被打败了，如果你没有得到你想要的，你就被打败了。至少从我的经验来看，这是真的。我知道没有任何物质能够带来我想要的持久的幸福。我们生活在恐惧中，我们都面临着死亡的威胁，我们想知道我们活着的短暂时间没有被浪费。我们想要的是快乐，这样我们就可以毫无遗憾地死去，我们想要过一种美好的生活，这样我们就可以毫无恐惧地面对自己的死亡。

Anyways, seeing the usual pursuit of happiness wasn’t capable of bringing real lasting happiness and satisfaction, I began looking for it in the only place I hadn’t looked, my own self. Sages from all across time have always told us in one form or another that happiness comes from within us. They said that the kingdom of heaven is within us, they said it’s possible to be completely satisfied under all circumstances, they said that we are what we’re seeking. I was determined to find out if this was true or not. We don’t control external circumstances in our lives, but if outside events can determine how we feel inside, that is the worst kind of slavery. So I questioned myself, inquired into myself all day long. Questions like: Who am I? Who is the one suffering? What am I scared of losing when I die? Happiness always comes from within us, therefore all I was doing was trying to remove the internal barriers barring my happiness. I doubted everything, I didn’t care about what the Buddha’s and Christ’s of the world said other than to find out for myself if what they said was true?

不管怎么说，我发现平常追求快乐并不能带来真正持久的快乐和满足，于是我开始在我唯一没有寻找的地方寻找快乐。古往今来的圣人总是以这样或那样的方式告诉我们，幸福来自我们的内心。他们说天国就在我们身体里面，他们说在任何情况下都可以完全满足，他们说我们就是我们所追求的。我决心弄清楚这是真是假。我们无法控制生活中的外部环境，但如果外部事件能够决定我们内心的感受，那就是最糟糕的被奴役了。所以我整天都在盘问自己。像这样的问题：我是谁？谁在受苦？我死后害怕失去什么？幸福总是来自我们的内心，因此我所做的一切就是试图消除阻碍我获得幸福的内在障碍。我怀疑一切，我不在乎世界上的佛陀和基督所说的话，更不是自己去验证他们说的是不是真的。
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I wanted to be free from suffering, free from fear, free from this great sense of alienation we all know and I was determined to make this happen. Hours per day I questioned and observed. Then it hit me. I simply am what I am and that’s all I ever could be. I am my senses. I am my thoughts. I am my feelings. I am my reactions. I cannot get rid of sadness because I am sadness. I cannot get rid of fear because I am fear. I simply accepted myself completely. I accepted life completely and all of its components. My whole life I wanted to control myself, control my feelings, control my reactions. But sadness comes all by itself, fear comes all by itself, thoughts come by themselves. I don’t control these anymore than I control my beating heart. If I could control my feelings, thoughts and reactions, then they would always come just the way I wanted them to. Our lives would be 24/7 non-stop pleasure trains if we could choose that. We think we can fight our emotions and thoughts but the harder we try the more energy we give to them.

我想要从痛苦中解脱，从恐惧中解脱，从这种我们都知道的巨大的疏离感中解脱，我决心要实现这一点。我每天提问和观察几个小时。然后我突然想到。。我就是我，这就是我所能做的一切。我是我的感官。我是我的思想。我是我的感情。我是我的反应。我无法摆脱悲伤，因为我很悲伤。我无法摆脱恐惧，因为我害怕。我只是完全接受了自己。我完全接受了生活及其所有组成部分。我一生都想控制自己，控制自己的感情，控制自己的反应。但是，悲伤是自己来的，恐惧是自己来的，思想是自己来的。我不能控制这些，就像我不能控制我跳动的心脏一样。如果我能控制自己的感觉、想法和反应，那么它们总是按照我想要的方式出现。如果我们可以选择的话，我们的生活将是全天候不停运转的游乐火车。。我们认为我们可以战胜自己的情绪和想法，但我们越努力，我们给予它们的能量就越多。

Life doesn’t trouble me because I offer no resistance to it. I am not the one picking my thoughts, I am not the one picking my feelings, I am not the one picking my decisions. I am simply watching. Watching is absolutely free from all of this. Our lives are like books playing out in real time, but we aren’t the words in the book. We are like the pages the book is written on. Awareness is the ocean, people are like the waves and the currents and ripples are experiences. When we think we are the wave, we limit ourselves and inherit the problems of the wave. Waves are born, waves die. Awareness molds itself like water and is intimately one with experience. Awareness is always free from its content. With freedom there is love. Pure love in which nothing binds us is what we are. Seeing this, one is able to live a normal life whilst being completely detached from all that happens.
We are eternity itself. When we go to sleep at night, nothing is there and we remain with ourselves in our infinite, timeless perfection. Do we not love sleep? We relinquish all limitations of time and space and remain one with ourselves as perfect, eternal, infinite nothingness. When we wake up in the morning, we forget ourselves. We forget what we are. We are the nothing which gives birth to all somethings. We are the nothing that gives birth to thoughts and feelings. We are the ocean which gives birth to all waves and currents. This nothing is pure awareness, pure consciousness or pure being. Call it God if you want. You are one with that. Stop trying to be this or that . Must you do anything to simply be? Does awareness require any effort at all on your part? Simply be with whatever happens; Thoughts, feelings, sensations and reactions have never impeded your being for an instant. Love is what you are. Happiness is what you are. Be free from control and you will have the control you want. You are what the whole universe is doing at this moment, not some small person which needs to make money and have a family before death.
The wave is scared of dying until it realizes it was always the ocean in the first place. Let your wave crash in one instant and you will see. Relinquish all attachments to experience, thoughts, feelings, memories and instantly you merge into eternity. You don’t need to stop having thoughts or feelings, you simply need to know they don’t belong to you.

生活不困扰我，因为我对生活毫不抗拒。我不是选择我的想法的人，我不是选择我的感觉的人，我不是选择我的决定的人。我只是在看。观看是绝对自由的。我们的生活就像实时上演的书，但我们不是书中的文字。我们就像写书的书页。意识是海洋，人就像波浪，水流和涟漪就是经验。当我们认为自己是波浪时，我们限制自己，并继承波浪的问题：波浪生，波浪死。意识像水一样塑造自己，与经验紧密相连。意识总是游离于它的内容之外。有自由就有爱。我们是纯洁的爱，没有什么能束缚我们。看到这一点，一个人能够过上正常的生活，同时完全脱离所有发生的事情。
我们是永恒本身。当我们晚上睡觉的时候，什么都没有，我们和自己保持着无限、永恒的完美。我们不爱睡觉吗？我们放弃时间和空间的所有限制，与我们自己保持一个完美、永恒、无限的虚无。当我们早上醒来时，我们忘记了自己。我们忘记了自己是什么。我们是孕育万物的虚无。我们是产生思想和感情的虚无。我们是海洋，孕育着所有的波浪和洋流。这一切都不是纯粹的觉知、纯粹的意识或纯粹的存在。如果你想叫它上帝。你就是其中之一。不要试图做这个或那个。你必须做些简单的事情吗？意识需要你付出任何努力吗？无论发生什么，都要随遇而安；思想、感觉、感觉和反应从来没有一刻阻碍过你的存在。爱就是你自己。幸福就是你本身。摆脱控制，你就会得到你想要的控制。你是整个宇宙此刻正在做的事情，而不是一个在死前需要挣钱养家的小人物。
海浪害怕死亡，直到它意识到它本来就是海洋。让你的波浪瞬间崩塌，你就会明白。放弃所有对经验、思想、感觉、记忆的依恋，你会立刻融入永恒。你不需要停止思考或感受，你只需要知道它们不属于你。

Robert Roth, Meditator in bayside New York

罗伯特·罗斯，纽约贝赛德的冥想者
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Happiness is elusive. The more human beings pursue it the more it eludes us. The philosopher Immanuel Kant said people can pursue the horizon forever, but only small children think we can actually reach it. Pursuing happiness is like pursuing the horizon. The more we chase it the further it is from us.
The Buddha said that desire is the cause of all suffering. Today people desire wealth, success, power, and fame. None of these things seem to bring lasting happiness. Happiness is always fleeting. The Christian writer C.S. Lewis said “ when we moderns now look up to the stars, it is not to the firmament of angels looking kindly back, but out, endlessly out into the lonely void. “ People in the Middle Ages felt a sense of awe and enchantment at the vastness and mystery of the universe. Today with the decline in religious faith we have lost that sense of awe and enchantment. Science and technology have replaced religious faith in modern times. People have lost a sense of gratitude for being alive. Albert Einstein said “ a calm and humble life will bring more happiness than the pursuit of success and the constant restlessness that comes with it. “.
Meditation helps calm your restless mind and resolves doubts and conflicts so that you will have a greater sense of peace and happiness. It will expand your consciousness so that you will have a sense of wonder and appreciation for each new day. With your expanded consciousness you will have a sense of gratitude for the miracle of life and the universe.

幸福是难以捉摸的。人类追求它的次数越多，它就越逃避我们。哲学家伊曼纽尔·康德（Immanuel Kant）说，人们可以永远追求地平线，但只有小孩子认为我们能够真正到达它。追求幸福就像追求地平线。我们越是追逐它，它离我们越远。
佛陀说欲望是一切痛苦的根源。今天，人们渴望财富、成功、权力和名望。这些东西似乎都不能带来持久的幸福。幸福总是转瞬即逝的。基督教作家C.S.刘易斯（C.S.Lewis）曾说过：“当我们现代人仰望群星时，不是仰望天使的苍穹，而是仰望无尽的孤独的虚空。中世纪的人们对宇宙的浩瀚和神秘感到敬畏和迷恋。今天，随着宗教信仰的衰落，我们失去了敬畏和迷惑的感觉。现代科学技术取代了宗教信仰。人们失去了对活着的感激之情。阿尔伯特·爱因斯坦说。“一个平静而谦逊的人生会比追求成功以及随之而来的无休止的不安带来更多的快乐”
冥想有助于平静你不安的心灵，解决疑虑和冲突，让你拥有更大的平和和幸福感。它会扩展你的意识，让你对每一个新的一天都有一种惊奇和感激的感觉。随着你意识的扩展，你会对生命和宇宙的奇迹产生一种感恩之情。

Marcus Lundgren, Annoying music snob
It’s not too difficult to know where to find happiness, but actually getting there can be a lifelong challenge. But first things first.
Where is happiness?
People are ego-driven pleasure-seekers. When we talk about having a “purpose”, what we really mean is that we want to have and do things that we find enjoyable. Things that seem worth the effort. That’s why when we get things for free, we don’t enjoy them quite as much because our sense of purpose is directly lixed with making an effort. It only gives us more time left over to wonder what to do with all the free time we now have; time we otherwise would’ve spent making the effort to get what we wanted.
Happiness can be found in having a sense of purpose. If we don’t have purpose, then everything we do can easily feel pointless and routine.

要知道在哪里找到幸福并不难，但实际上要找到幸福是一个终生的挑战。但首先要做的是要搞清楚幸福在哪里？
人们是自我驱动的寻欢作乐者。当我们谈论有一个“目标”时，我们真正的意思是我们想要拥有和做我们觉得有趣的事情、看起来值得努力的事情。这就是为什么当我们免费得到东西时，我们并没有那么享受它们，因为我们的目标感直接与努力联系在一起。这只会给我们留下更多的时间去思考如何利用我们现在所有的空闲时间；否则我们会花时间努力得到我们想要的。
幸福可以在有目标感中找到。如果我们没有目标，那么我们所做的每件事都很容易让人觉得毫无意义和例行公事。

How do we become happy?
Most people want to have their basic needs covered before they start thinking about anything else. That usually means a roof over their heads, food on the table, a decent job, a good salary, a couple of kids, a pet or two and a few weeks’ paid vacation per year. There are, of course, many people who only want a few of these things, but in general, most of us need a home and something to eat. And clothes to wear.
Any further needs beyond that is mostly subjective and directly reflect the tastes and desires of each and every individual person.
Some people dream big, others dream small. Some are career people, while others find pleasure in the simple things of life.
Then you have artists and dreamers, for whom the typical blueprint of life isn’t sufficient to fill the emptiness they feel inside. These people need something more.

我们如何变得快乐？
大多数人在开始考虑其他事情之前，都希望自己的基本需求得到满足。这通常意味着有房子住，有食物吃，有一份体面的工作，一份好的薪水，几个孩子，一两只宠物，以及每年几周的带薪假期。当然，有很多人只想要这些东西中的一小部分，但总的来说，我们大多数人都需要一个家和一些吃的东西，还有要穿的衣服。
除此之外，任何进一步的需求都是主观的，直接反映了每个人的品味和愿望。
有些人梦想远大，有些人梦想渺小。有些人是职业人士，而另一些人则从简单的生活中找到乐趣。
还有艺术家和梦想家，对他们来说，典型的生活蓝图不足以填补他们内心的空虚。这些人需要更多的东西。

What that is, is once again subjective, but given the sheer number of things a person could want beyond what’s socially expected, I think it’s safe to say that this group of people is the one most likely to embrace progress, change and variety.
But what most people have in common is the need to get what they want.
It doesn’t matter if they want all the world’s riches or if they settle for less, at the end of the day, they won’t feel happy if they’re denied the chance to even work for what they want.
Some people have selfish ambitions. Others find happiness in helping others.
Ultimately, however, everyone is driven by ego. Whatever makes you feel good, that’s what makes you feel happy.

我们如何变得快乐？
大多数人在开始考虑其他事情之前，都希望自己的基本需求得到满足。这通常意味着有房子住，有食物吃，有一份体面的工作，一份好的薪水，几个孩子，一两只宠物，以及每年几周的带薪假期。当然，有很多人只想要这些东西中的一小部分，但总的来说，我们大多数人都需要一个家和一些吃的东西，还有要穿的衣服。
除此之外，任何进一步的需求都是主观的，直接反映了每个人的品味和愿望。
有些人梦想远大，有些人梦想渺小。有些人是职业人士，而另一些人则从简单的生活中找到乐趣。
还有艺术家和梦想家，对他们来说，典型的生活蓝图不足以填补他们内心的空虚。这些人需要更多的东西。

Conclusion
People need a sense of purpose. This can be found by having goals and either fulfilling or working towards fulfilling your ambitions and desires.
If you’re greedy, happiness will be found in acquiring material wealth.
If you’re giving, happiness will be found in helping out those in need.
If you’re none of the above, the sky’s the limit. You can find happiness in working on a personal project, solving a great problem, making new discoveries or being a lazy bum who sleeps under a newspaper together with a pet rat called Barry, etc.
The point is that it doesn’t matter what you do, as long as you do what YOU want to do. Sometimes just trying to get what you want is enough. You can find happiness in striving for something as well. Sometimes striving for something is even better than actually getting what you want.
But you need to want something to find happiness.
And the less you want, the easier it is to be satisfied and feel happy.
That’s the great irony of it all.

结论
人们需要一种目标感。这可以通过设定目标、实现或努力实现你的雄心壮志和愿望来实现。
如果你贪婪，幸福会在获得物质财富中找到。
如果你在付出，幸福会在帮助那些需要帮助的人中找到。
如果上面都不是的话，天空就是极限。你可以在做一个个人项目、解决一个大问题、有新发现或是成为一个和一只叫巴里的宠物老鼠一起睡在报纸下面的懒汉中找到快乐。
关键是你做什么并不重要，只要你做你想做的。有时候，只是想得到你想要的就足够了。你也可以在为某事奋斗中找到快乐。有时候，为某件事奋斗甚至比实际得到你想要的还要好。
但是你需要一些东西来找到幸福。
你想要的越少，就越容易感到满足和快乐。
这是最大的讽刺。

Medhini Seshadri, former Professor

Medhini Seshadri，前教授

Happiness is not a place,you may take many vacation but if you don't know how to find joy within your self you will always stay miserable. In the busy corporate world of bangalore, software and other professionals have a 5 day per week working style. On weekends they trek, or visit nearby places of interest to rewind. So do they find true happiness in those two days? They get recharged to stay awake and alive for the next week? If someone truly loved their job they do not take any break to recharge or recover. But look at our youth, most of the people hate the jobs they are in, how can they find peace in life. If you can't love what you do then do what you love. The numerous loans you have taken for buying things which you thought will give you happiness, their regular EMIs prevent you from leaving your job. So, did you find happiness in these things you bought (luxury apartment /car/expensive branded clothes)?
You can find happiness only in one place. within your self. Yeah you have heard this before. People who are lonely and ‘wierd’ say such things. If you search for happiness outside of you, you will be only in an illusion of happiness and not true happiness.
Remember no thing/place/person can give you happiness permanently. You are the source of absolute joy. This realisation is only the beginning of a long journey. It may take ages for you to even reach the beginning. But the journey will be your final destination.

幸福不是一个地方，你可能会有很多假期，但如果你不知道如何在自己内心找到快乐，你将永远痛苦。在班加罗尔繁忙的企业界，软件和其他专业人员每周工作5天。周末，他们徒步旅行，或参观附近的名胜。那么他们在这两天里找到了真正的幸福吗？给他们充电，让他们在下周保持清醒和活力。如果有人真的热爱自己的工作，他们不会休息来充电或寻求恢复。但看看我们的年轻人，大多数人都讨厌他们所从事的工作，他们如何才能在生活中找到安宁。如果你不能爱你所做的，那就做你所爱的。你为了买那些你认为会给你带来幸福的东西而借的无数笔贷款，它们经常会阻止你离开工作。那么，你在买的这些东西（豪华公寓、汽车、昂贵的品牌服装）中找到快乐了吗？
你只能在一个地方找到幸福。在你的内心。是的，你以前听过。孤独和“懦弱”的人会说这样的话。如果你在外面寻找幸福，你只会在幸福的幻觉中，而那不是真正的幸福。
记住，没有任何东西、地方、人能给你永久的幸福。你自己是绝对快乐的源泉。这一认识只是漫长旅程的开始。你可能需要很长时间才能认识到这一点。但旅程将是你的最终目的地。