你什么时候知道你的生活已经改变了?

Youssef Heliwa
1- When you prefer silence much more than talking.
2- When you stop chasing love, and become the one who care less in your relationship.
3- When you follow your gut not your degree in your career.
4- When you take 100% of your responsibility, and stop blaming others about your life.
5- When you aren't a child anymore, and face failure in Life.
6- When you get the first heart break from the one you loved for a long time.
7- When you stop overthinking, and start doing.
8- When you get up early daily. and start your day with reading.
9- When you deactivate your social media accounts forever, and start focusing on your own destiny.

当你更喜欢沉默而不是说话的时候。
当你停止追逐爱情，成为一不在乎你们关系走向的人。
当你在职业生涯中追随你的不能而不是你的职级时。
当你承担100%的责任，停止为你的生活责备别人。
当你不再是孩子，能面对生活中的失败的时候。
当你第一次为你深爱了很久的人心碎的时候。
当你停止过度思考，开始行动的时候。
当你每天早起的时候。从阅读开始你的一天的时候。
当你永远停用你的社交媒体账户，开始关注你自己的命运的时候。
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Preet Kaur, M.com from Indira Gandhi National Open University
I learned following lessons in my life
Being our own friend is the best feeling ever .
There is no need to be nice to everyone always. They can use you also.
We should not give anyone power over us.
We can't control our life but our emotions.
Don't trust too much.
Don't expect too much from anyone.

在我的生活中，我学到了以下几点
做自己的朋友是有史以来最好的感觉。
没有必要总是对每个人都好，他们也可以利用你。
我们不应该给任何人支配我们的权力。
我们不能控制我们的生活，只能控制我们的情绪。
不要太相信别人。
不要对任何人期望太高。

Kajal Swain
Since the year of 2018, I decided to take care of myself as a self depending girl. So I did those things , that made me as little bit stronger personallity ! Then I worked in such those direction what I wanted.. .. .I was 18 years old in the time I did want to do something as beyond my capacity. So I had found out something that gave me comfortable shift to work on my dream.. That time I had no more option for me because I was just phase in 18So I decided to Tutioned some CBSE student and taken my study. Then I did.. .Changing point.. . If you really want to be something then work on it, because whenever you could able to get that in your own way, that makes you as a strongest person ever. That I learned from my own becoming decision..
After 1 month of my teaching to some students, then they gave me nearly 2000 rupees.. And that's the true time I thought I could do anything what makes me comfident and a true satisfier as a self inspiration..Trueeeeee smile Behind my looks.. . .

从2018年开始，我决定作为一个自力更生的女孩来照顾自己。所以我个性更强了！然后我朝着我想要的方向前进。在我18岁的时候，我确实想做一些超出我能力范围的事情。所以我发现了一些东西，可以让我轻松地完成我的梦想。那个时候我没有更多的选择，因为我刚刚进入18岁的学习阶段，所以我决定辅导一些学生的同时完成我的学业。然后我就做出了改变。如果你真的想成为一个什么样的人，那就努力吧，因为只要你能以自己的方式做到这一点，你就会成为一个有史以来最坚强的人，我从自己的决定中学到了。
我教了一个月学生后，他们给了我将近2000卢比。那是我认为我可以做任何事情的真实时刻，让我有信心成为一个自我激励的真正的满足者。

Come to some another phase. . After that life was going very well as in some regards.. . Life is lovely when you think you are not one who’s face unnecessary drama and felling hurt??.. . But also everyone face different drama centre in their own channel of life.. So just be calm.. .
Listen, everybody has a story of their own problem and mistakes . But it's your responsibility how do you deal with it!
Here's something that I learned in this phase of my life..
Every moment is a new opportunity for everybody. So if you aren't Keep going towards it, then force yourself and make it happen.. You Can.. Because you are the child of Almighty..
Failure is hardship of life and it always seems like a hard way to find out your own place to succeed in life. But it's natural and everybody face it in their own life. Certain people have so much comfort life but so many people have taken responsibility towards family, study and finance as like me. But never stay at this point of failure just push yourself and make some great towards you and also for family. You can because you are the angel of your parents .

从进入另一个阶段以后，在某些方面的生活过得很好。当你认为你不会因为不必要的刺激而受伤时，会感觉到生活中是充满爱的。但是每个人在他们自己的生活中总是面对着不同的刺激，所以保持冷静。
听着，每个人都有自己的问题和犯错。但如何处理是你的责任。
这是我在过往经历中学到的东西。
对每个人来说，每一刻都是一个新的机会。所以，如果你不坚持下去，那就强迫自己去实现它。你能—因为你是全能之子。
失败是人生经历的苦难，要找到自己的成功之路似乎总是很难的。但这是很自然的，每个人都会在自己的生活中面对它。有些人过着舒适的生活，但也有很多人像我一样对家庭、学习和财务负责。但永远不要停留在失败的这一点上，只要督促自己，为自己和家人做点改善。你可以，因为你是你父母的天使。

Motivate yourself in the hard phase of life because it's so needed at that time. You are born to be a winner. Pretty sure You can make it happen because you are the future of ahead generation of this universe.
Inspiration comes from Aspirations so remember it. You are the one who was doing so much mistake in her /his life, but the time is right now to becoming some great forward for your own self. Because you are a real warrior. You can. You Will… ??
I love to see my problem as a new solver.. So I understood on my own way to find out how manage to everything in my own way!Secret of changing is the best masterpiece thing our life . So I keep it always in my heart?. You think it on the of life that make you surprise..Always being smiling on way of living..we all are God child and we are superior on our own place to live with a new way of life.. .

在生活的艰难阶段要激励自己，因为在那个时候它是如此的被需要。你生来就是赢家。很确定你能做到，因为你是这个宇宙的未来。
灵感来自渴望，所以请记住它。你是那个在生活中犯过许多错误的人，但现在是你自己成为伟大前锋的时候了。因为你是一个真正的战士，你可以的。
我喜欢把我的问题看作一个新的求解程序。所以我用我自己的方式去了解如何用我自己的方式去管理一切！改变的秘密是我们生活中最好的杰作。所以我一直把它放在心里。你认为这是生活中的惊喜，在生活的道路上永远保持微笑。我们都是上帝的孩子，我们在自己的地方以一种新的生活方式生活。
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Haem Zaff, Electronics Engineer - Software Developer

Haem Zaff，电子工程师-软件开发人员

Base on my own experiences in life:
- When my parents divorced
I realized life is not a fairy tale, even if you are 6 years old.
- When I went to school for the first time
I realized waking up early and losing comfort has a meaning.
- When I failed at school for the first time
I realized I am not the smartest person in the world.
- When I fell in love for the first time
I realized there are so many undiscovered emotions in me.
- When I graduated from university
I realized good times pass soon.
- When I got my first job
I realized that I could barely use anything I had studied in the real world.
- When I got my first salary
I realized that there is reward for working hard. And how hard it is to make money for a living.
- When I kissed a girl for the first time
I realized that there are feelings in the world that should only be experienced personally.
- When I broke up with my love
I realized instincts and emotions can lead humans in totally illogical paths to accept the unacceptable.
- When I came back to consciousness after my first surgery
I realized that we are very fragile creatures. And how ignorant we are to the value of life and health.
- When I bought my first house
I acknowledged the value of saving and investing for the future.

根据我自己的生活经历：
我父母离婚的时候：我意识到生活不是童话，即使你只有6岁。
当我第一次上学的时候：我意识到早起和失去舒适感是有意义的。
当我第一次在学校失败的时候：我意识到我不是世界上最聪明的人。
当我第一次坠入爱河时：我意识到我有太多未被发现的情感。
当我大学毕业的时候：我意识到好时光很快就过去了。
当我得到第一份工作时：我意识到我几乎不能使用我在现实世界中学习过的任何东西。
当我拿到第一份薪水的时候：我意识到努力工作是有回报的的同时了解挣钱谋生是多么困难。
当我第一次吻一个女孩的时候：我意识到世界上有一些感情，只有亲身经历才能体会到。
当我和我的爱人分手的时候：我意识到本能和情感会导致人类在完全不合逻辑的道路上接受不可接受的东西。
当我第一次手术后恢复知觉时：我意识到我们是非常脆弱的生物。我们对生命和健康的价值是十分无知。
我第一次买房子的时候：我承认储蓄和投资对未来的价值。

Ben Jackson, Really into cultures and how they came to be and work.

本·杰克逊，真的很喜欢各种文化以及它们是如何形成和工作的。

I learned from a young age that nothing last forever. Friends, family, etc. I remember this one guy I knew from elementary all the way to high school. We didn’t really become friends until high school. We had a few clases together in the course of our time there. Things between us began because we had the same interests.
Unfortunately, friends come and friends go and he was no exception. As we got older, we drifted apart. You see, he was Christian whereas i’m a spiritualist . One time he started sending me texts about my faith which I found confusing and even invasive. When I asked him about that later, he responded he was simply just “curious” or something.
We never talked about it again… Years after we drifted apart I was going to Six Flags White Water and wanted to bring someone with me but everyone else had plans. Despite being warned, I took a risk and bought two tickets to go to Six Flags White Water. As it turns out he was wishy-washy and ended up leaving me dry. So I went by myself. I was hurt but I did use the tickets my self and even bumped into an old friend from college.
So yeah, that was a hard lesson. Sometimes you think you know someone until they stand you up.

我从小就知道没有什么是永恒的：朋友、家人等等。我记得我从小学到高中认识的一个人。直到高中我们才真正成为朋友。在那期间，我们一起上过几节课。我们之间的事情开始是因为我们有相同的兴趣。
不幸的是，朋友来了又走，他也不例外。随着年龄的增长，我们渐渐疏远了。你看，他是基督徒，而我是一个唯心论者。有一次，他开始给我发关于我的信仰的短信，我觉得这让我困惑，甚至有侵犯性。后来当我问他这件事时，他回答说他只是“好奇”或者别的什么。
我们再也没谈过这件事了，在我们分手多年后，我打算去六旗白水主题公园，想带个人一起去，但其他人都有计划。尽管有心理预期（他不会去），我还是冒险买了两张去六旗白水的票。事实证明，他优柔寡断，最后把我晾干了。所以我自己去了。我受伤了，最后我一个人过去的，甚至还撞见了一位大学的老朋友。
所以，是的这是一个难得的教训。有时候你自认为你认识一个人，直到他们放你鸽子。

Swati Sharma, Creative Writer at Titan Biotech Limited (2018-present)

斯瓦蒂·夏尔马，泰坦生物科技有限公司创意作家（2018年至今）

My life changed in one night !
Yes, you heard it right. "16th august-2017"... It was the night which actually changed my life and gave it a new and better direction. I was preparing for govt. exams and wasn't happy with it. Moreover, i know i am just wasting my time but still couldn't give up on that because i did’nt know what i will do. I was not earning, i was aimless, I was clueless and the most disturbing element i was unhappy with what i am doing.
That night my brother was drunk n we decided to talk
Amit- Are you happy the way you are living? studying all day, siting at home,no outgoings, surrounded with books all the time
Me- NO ! But what i can do about that? i have to grab a govt job. You are blessed with your photography talent. I am good at nothing.
Amit- Swati are you kidding me? you are the who always taught me to follow what your heart says? where is that girl who always wanted to stand out of the crowd? Is she lost or you dont want her to find her? Remember you always used to write motivational stuff,poems,stories,quotes? What about that? I think you were pretty good in that.
Me- Yeah ! I like writing but what i don’t know how to start..
The conversation end after 4 hours & I didn't sleep that night and for 2 more nights. I asked for his laptop the day after that night, kept my books aside and wrote 2 articles. I uploaded my resume as a writer and send them a cover letter.
Today, i am working as creative writer and i cannot be more happy than this.

我的生活一夜之间改变了！
是的，你听对了。2017年8月16日的那一夜改变了我的生活，给了我一个新的更好的方向。我当时正在准备政府考试，但对此很不满意。而且,我知道我只是在浪费时间,只是仍然不能放弃,因为我不知道我会做什么。我没有挣钱，我漫无目的且不知所措，最令人不安的是我对自己所做的事感到不快。
那天晚上我弟弟喝醉了，我们决定谈谈：
你现在的生活方式幸福吗？整天学习，整天被书包围，坐在家里，不外出。
我？不！但是我能做些什么呢？我得找份政府方面工作。你很有摄影天赋，我什么都不擅长。
Amit-Swati：你在开玩笑吗？你是那个一直教我按照你内心说的去做的人？那个总想在人群中脱颖而出的女孩在哪里？她迷路了还是你不想让她找到路？还记得你总是写激励性的东西，诗歌，故事吗？那怎么办？我认为你在这方面做得很好。
我？是的！我喜欢写作，但我不知道如何开始。
谈话在4个小时后结束，那天晚上我没睡，后面的两个晚上也没睡。后天晚上，把书放在一边，找他拿了笔记本电脑，写了两篇文章。我上传了我作为作家的简历，并给他们发了一封求职信。
今天，我能作为一名创意作家在工作，我再高兴不过了。

Wolf Bogaert, aiming to appreciate the beauty around me daily.

Wolf Bogaert，目标是每天欣赏我周围的美景。

When you no longer say ‘yes’ when you mean ‘no’.
When you tell your Mom you love her, and you deeply mean it.
When you no longer hold resentment towards those who hurt you.
When you finally accept full responsibility for your life and you stop blaming others for your misfortune.
When instead of staying up until 4am watching series, you wake up early and start your day with journaling, reading and meditating.
When you eat chicken, rice and broccoli instead of instant noodles and twinkies for lunch.
When you face that first heartbreak.

当你不再说“是”时，当你的意思是“不”时。
当你告诉你妈妈你爱她，而且你是真心的。
当你不再对伤害你的人怀恨在心时。
当你最终对自己的生活承担全部责任，不再为自己的不幸而责怪他人时。
当你不用熬夜到凌晨4点看电视剧时，你会早起，开始一天的日志、阅读和冥想。
当你午餐吃鸡肉、米饭和西兰花而不是方便面和奶油夹心面包的时候；
当你第一次面对心碎。

Himadri Shekhar, MBA from Indian Institute of Management Indore (2021)

Himadri Shekhar，印度印多尔管理学院MBA（2021年）

When I stopped checking on people who never checked on me.
They had a life. Clearly I was not a part of it. I filled their absence by their social media account. Checking their Facebook was my good morning wish. Their Whatsapp status, my good night.
I checked my friend’s account few weeks ago. Smiling , he stood with a glass of wine. He changed his city. I was his world once, now I’m not even a part of his galaxy.
I called to wish him good luck. He ignored. I called again.I never had a huge friend circle, but those in my little bubble mattered a lot.
“Who’s this?” the person who remembered every detail of my life answered. Now my voice was just another sound for him.
And that was the end of chasing people. I was reminded of my priorities. I rewrote my priority list.
It changed my life. I saved on my energy and fantasies. I was more happy with myself.
Solitude is bliss.

当我停止查看那些从未了解过我的人时。
当我不再查那些从没查过我的人的时候。他们有自己的生活。显然我没有参与其中。我只是通过他们的社交媒体账号参与其中。看他们的脸书是我的早安问候。看他们的Whatsapp状态作为晚安问候。
几周前我查了我朋友的状态：他微笑着，端着一杯酒站在那里，而且他换了一座城市。我曾经是他的世界，现在我甚至不是他的银河系的一部分。
我打电话祝他好运，他置之不理。我又打一次。我从来没有过一个庞大的朋友圈，但我认为在其中的那些人很重要。
记得我生活中每一个细节的人回答：“你是谁？”。现在我的声音对他来说只是另一种声音。
追赶着的关系到此为止了，这提醒了我要分清轻重缓急。我重写了我的优先级列表
它改变了我的生活。我节省了精力和幻想。我对自己更满意。
孤独是一种幸福。

Prashant Chaudhari, when i hear people sigh life is hard i am always tempted to ask compared to what

Prashant Chaudhari，当我听到人们感叹生活艰难时，我总是忍不住要问：和什么相比

Being a doctor there are few incidences i would like to narrate,
1. I was i labour room, performing a delivery. Her entire family was outside, waiting for the birth. She was in excruciating pain. Labour pain is most unbearable pain experienced by human beings on pain scale. It take a lot of effort on the part of mother in natural labour. Nursing staff has to continously encourage mother to push. The entire process is full of agony and as the baby comes out and after cleaning the baby, when you hand it over to mother and just see the look on her face, you understand, something has changed.

作为一名医生，我想讲述的事件很少，
我在产房接生。她全家都在外面等着孩子的出生。她处于极度痛苦之中。分娩疼痛是人类所经历的最难以忍受的疼痛。自然分娩的母亲需要付出很大的努力。护理人员必须不断鼓励母亲。整个过程充满了痛苦，当婴儿出来时，在清洁婴儿后，当你把它交给母亲，看到她脸上的表情时，你知道，有些事情发生了变化。

2. When i was in emergency ward, it was my first night duty and i was in call for 24 hours. There was no patients. So i was talking to my friend about how irritating it is to be not able to sleep and was feeling very drowsy. Suddenly a patient comes, 5 yr old boy brought by his father in a road traffic accident run over by a truck. We all get up and everyone becomes alx. We check the boy immediately only to find that he was brought dead. I went to break the news to father.i could see that he was looking at me with utmost expectations that i would tell him good news yet with the tinge of fear that something bad has happened. With most difficulty and hiding the emotions under my professional demanour i tell him the news and to this day i remember his sudden outburst of tears. I can still feel the agony of a father for his son and i knew something has changed.

当我在急诊室时，这是我的第一个夜班，我24小时待命。没有病人。所以我跟我的朋友说，睡不着觉是多么的烦人，昏昏欲睡之际。突然，一个病人来了，父亲抱着一个5岁的男孩，这个男孩在一次道路交通事故中被一辆卡车辗过。我们都起床了，每个人麻溜的行动起来。我们立即检查了那个男孩，结果发现他已经死了。我去把这个消息告诉父亲，我看到他正带着极大的期望看着我，希望我能告诉他好消息，但同时也带着一丝恐惧，害怕发生了什么坏事。我把这个消息告诉了他，直到今天我还记得他突然哭了起来。我现在还能感受到父亲为儿子所感到的痛苦，我知道有些事情已经改变了。

3. I was sad as month was coming to an end and i had only few hundred rupees left to go through. Walking by the OPD( outpatient registration department ) of my hospital. There was this aged woman around 70 yrs sitting with her grandson may be who i noticed was having squint. She was arguing with the man on the counter for how the fees for registration paper at our civil hospital has increased to 10 rs from 5 rs. Previously and that she would not have any money left to go back to her village. I went there and paid for her registration and give her 100 rs and while i was going back, she kept her hands on my head and started crying. And for some reason i was not worried on that day anymore.

我很难过，尽管这个月快结束了，我只剩下几百卢比了。走过我医院的门诊部。有一位70岁左右的老妇人和她的孙子坐在一起，我注意到她可能有斜视。她和柜台上的那个男人争论，为什么我们医院的挂号费用从以前的5卢比增加到了10卢比，而且她将没有钱回到她的村庄。我走过去，给她付了挂号费，给了她100卢比。当我回去的时候，她把手放在我头上，开始哭泣。出于某种原因，那天我不再担心了。

4. I was young posted in ophthalmology and i was on call. It was my first day of the first posting. I got a call for a patient and i was in my room with my friend. We were watching a movie. He asked me if i am not going for the call. I out of my naivety said, ' its just ophthalmology call. Its not like that he is going to die if i am 5 min late.'
What he said was the lifelong lesson for me,' yeah. You are right. At most what can happen. He will lose his eyesight.' And i knew right there from my first case i am never going to neglect any patient because from my frx of reference the suffering may not seem much but to patient, its the most important thing at that time and i got a lesson in medical ethics which i never forgot.

我是年轻的眼科医生，随时待命。这是我第一天值班。我接到一个病人的电话，当时我和朋友在房间里。我们在看电影。他问我是否可以不去接电话。我天真的说，这只是眼科的电话。如果我迟到5分钟，他不会死的。
他说出了对我来说是终生的教训，'是的。你是对的。最多能发生什么。从我的第一个病例开始，我就知道我不会忽视任何患者，因为从我的参照系来看，痛苦似乎不多，但对患者来说，这是当时最重要的事情，我学到了一堂我从未忘记的医德课。

5. At the medical school, we had to perform dissection on dead bodies. At first with our own concepts of life amd death, all of us are scared but as we learn more and realize how much benefit the dead man is actually doing to the society i felt a sense of gratitude and i understood death as not some sort of end point but just a milestone for new begining.

在医学院的时候，我们不得不解剖尸体。首先是我们自己对生死的概念,我们都是害怕,但当我们更多了解和意识到究竟对社会有多少好处,我感到一种感激之情,我理解到死亡不是某种终点只是新开始的一个里程碑。