现在开始做些什么，可以在5年后对我们有很大帮助？（二）
What can people start doing now that will help them a lot in about five years?
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网友：我刚刚失去了我23岁的儿子...两个月前发生了一场悲惨的自行车事故，他骑车上班途中被一辆校车撞倒。
他喜欢 Quora，我也迷上了它。带着微笑生活，微笑可以传递给他人。对学习充满热情，阅读，阅读，再阅读，各种跨领域的书籍，儿童书籍，科技书籍，Quora，报纸，博客.......
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What can people start doing now that will help them a lot in about five years?
现在开始做些什么，可以在5年后对我们有很大帮助？（二）
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I just lost my son of 23 years ...two months ago in a tragic bike accident, he was riding to work and was hit by a school bus. He loved Quora and got me hooked.
Live with a smile in your eyes, it carries thru to others.
Be passionate about learning, read, read, read. Everything, cross genres. Children's books, tech books, Quora, newspapers, blogs.
Listen, then talk, then listen again.
Don't be afraid to love someone, start with your family. Fall in love.
Wake up and think how you can make those close to you have a better day, a better life.
我刚刚失去了我23岁的儿子...
两个月前发生了一场悲惨的自行车事故，他骑车上班途中被一辆校车撞倒。
他喜欢 Quora，我也迷上了它。
带着微笑生活，微笑可以传递给他人。
对学习充满热情，阅读，阅读，再阅读，各种跨领域的书籍，儿童书籍，科技书籍，Quora，报纸，博客。
听，然后说，然后再听。
不要害怕去爱一个人，从你的家人开始，去爱吧。
清醒过来，想想怎样才能让你身边的人拥有更好的一天，更好的生活。
Enjoy laughter. Keep smiling with your eyes too.
Exercise and eat healthy. Habits can change. My son Neil had just recently bought his bike, blogged about his path of safety, trying out his route, finding the best brakes...was becoming involved in bike friendly communities, was moving to be near a riding trail into downtown (Indianapolis).
He had smoothies made for the day in his backpack .
He loved an unbelievably sweet and smart girl he met in college. He was on countdown to his wedding. Oh so happy.
Make plans that make you reach high; Neil planned to go to Stanford for grad school. He was the oldest sibling, and they now proudly carry on his passion in life.
Believe in guardian angels.
Live like each day is a gift.
Because it is.
找到一个精神立足点。
享受笑声，眼睛也要保持微笑。
运动，保持健康饮食，习惯是可以改变的，我的儿子尼尔买了自行车之后，在博客上写下他的安全之路，尝试了骑行的路线，找到了最好的刹车.....加入到对自行车友好的社区，搬到了一条通往市中心(印第安纳波利斯)的骑行小道附近。
他在自己的背包里装了够喝一天的冰沙。
他爱上了一个在大学里认识的、难以置信的、甜美而聪明的女孩，他正在为他的婚礼倒计时，他好幸福....
制定能让你上升、进步的计划，尼尔计划去斯坦福读研究生，他是兄弟姐妹中最年长的一个，兄弟姐妹们现在自豪地继承了他的生活激情。
相信守护天使的存在。
把活着的每一天都当成一份礼物。
因为事实就是如此。
Here is the list that will completely transform you into a better person in 5 years time :
1. Eat healthy. Try to reduce /eliminate junk food.
2. Exercise 15 minutes a day.
3. Join public speaking group - toastmaster. Watch and learn how great speakers talk eg. Steve Jobs, any top politician, cult leader
4. Learn how to code and join open source community. Replace this with any skill of your choice, preferably something that has high demand eg. Electronic circuit design, graphic design
5. Learn how to sell, go out there and sell something, anything. Get used to rejections and you will be unstoppable.
6. Talk to 1 stranger everyday. Stranger = opportunity. Opportunity to make new friend, to get new ideas, to get rid of that fear talking to stranger, to start a business venture and much more. Heck yeah, that stranger might be your future soulmate
7. Write 20 ideas on anything everyday. Keep digging and you might find gold. When you find gold, make sure you take action
8. Meditate everyday
9. Read positive materials every morning. Stop reading newspaper in the morning.
10. Write 5 reasons why you are grateful everyday before you sleep.
下面的清单将在5年内完全改变你，让你成为一个更好的人：
1. 饮食健康 尽量减少/杜绝垃圾食品。
2. 每天锻炼15分钟。
3. 加入公共演讲团体，学演讲，观察和学习伟大的演讲者是如何说话的，例如：史蒂夫乔布斯、任何顶级政治家、邪教领袖。
4. 学习编程并加入开源社区，也可以是你所选择的任何技能，最好是有高要求的技能，比如电子电路设计、平面设计。
5. 学习销售，走出去卖东西，任何东西都行，习惯被拒绝，你就会变得不可阻挡。
6. 每天与一个陌生人交谈，陌生人=机会，把握机会结识新朋友，获得新想法，摆脱与陌生人交谈的恐惧，开始创业等等，另外，某个陌生人可能是你未来的灵魂伴侣哦。
7. 每天写20个关于任何事情的想法，继续挖掘，你可能会找到宝藏，当你找到宝藏时，请确保你采取行动。
8. 每天冥想。
9. 每天早上阅读积极的书籍，不要在早上看报纸。
10. 每天睡觉前写下五个你感恩的理由。
Living in a manner to successfully avoid these regrets: Top five regrets of the dying
· Be honest to yourself and start living a life true to yourself, not the life others expect of you. Do it NOW. Wherever you are with whatever you have. No excuses.
· Be physically fit NO MATTER WHAT. That you don't have enough time to hit the gym coz you work 14 hours a day should not be an excuse. Focus on your health the way you focus on love or your career. Give up junk food, smoking and other unhealthy habits. And get health insurance.
以成功避免这些遗憾的方式生活：（附：链接：临终者的五大遗憾）
· 对自己诚实
开始过真正属于自己的生活，而不是别人期望的生活，现在就开始吧，无论你在哪里，无论你拥有什么，不要找借口。
· 无论什么时候都要身体健康
你没有足够的时间去健身房，因为你每天工作14个小时，这不应该是一个借口，像关注爱情、关注事业那样关注你的健康，放弃垃圾食品、吸烟和其他不健康的习惯并购买健康保险。
· Travel. Not having enough money or time are the most common excuses. Travel while you are young. It will change you in ways no other experience can. Not to mention there are some things you can do only when you are young. Read this article: Why you should travel young
· Learn to live within your means. Try not to borrow. Seriously.
· SAVE. You know you can. Begin with saving a small amount periodically but do remember to increase it with time. Read articles, talk to people who earn as much as you do and their saving plans. Also, invest.
· 建立有价值的关系
不是公关，不是Facebook上那种友谊，与关心你和你关心的人的真正朋友保持联系，记住，幸福是最好的分享。
· 旅行
没有足够的钱或时间是最常见的借口，趁你还年轻，去旅行，它将以其他经验所不能的方式改变你，更不用说有些事情只有在你年轻的时候才能做。（看下这篇文章《为什么年轻时应该去旅行》 ）
· 学会量入为出
不开玩笑——尽量不要借钱。
· 存钱
你懂的，你可以的，开始时定期存一小笔钱，但要记住随着时间的推移增加，多读书，与那些和你一样收入的人交谈，了解他们的储蓄计划，还有，投资。
· Do that thing that you really want but are really afraid to do it.
· Know the difference between being courageous and being foolhardy. Think before you act.
· Introspect and work on becoming a better person. Listen to your critics and true friends. Consciously work on giving up self-defeating or narcissistic behaviors.You know if you are too selfish, easily angered or too judgmental. You know if you don't give your 100% while studying. Change that. BE THE KIND OF PERSON YOU WANT TO MEET.
· 表达你的真实感受
在邀请一个超出你能力范围的人出去时感到犹豫不决？或者告诉你父亲你有多爱他？鼓起勇气去做吧。
在你意识到之前可能已经太晚了，现在是时候说出你一直想说的悲伤和 "我真的很喜欢你 "了。
我是一个内向的人，但我鼓起勇气约出了每一个我真正非常喜欢的人，虽然有些人拒绝了我，但约出他们的那种纯粹的解放感是无法形容的。
· 做你真正想做但又害怕去做的事。
· 要明白勇敢和鲁莽的区别，在行动之前三思。
· 反省并努力成为一个更好的人。倾听批评你的人和真正的朋友，有意识地放弃自我挫败或自恋的行为，太自私、太容易生气或者太武断？学习的时候不能100% 的投入？改变这些，成为你想遇见的那种人。
· Read (in general). And not only so that you can talk about Murakami or the foreign policy at high-end parties or to impress someone.
· Do not give up your hobbies.
· Keep LEARNING new things. This is one of the most undrerrated virtues and a prerequisite for mental health. And it doesn't have to be a new language, or a musical instrument, if you don't have the time. New words, games. ideas, philosophies etc. Reading a random wiki page everyday, solving crossword or sudoku can be equally refreshing for the brain.
· Laugh for 5 minutes every morning.
· 每天读报纸，不要上网，试着每天读纸质书。
· 阅读，这不仅仅是为了让你能在高端派对上谈论村上春树或外交政策，或者给某人留下深刻印象。
· 不要放弃你的爱好。
· 不断学习新事物。这是最无懈可击的美德之一，也是心理健康的先决条件，如果你没有时间，也不一定要学习一门新的语言，或者一种新乐器，新单词，新游戏，思想、哲学等等都可以，每天随机阅读一下维基百科，做做填字游戏或数独同样能让大脑焕然一新。
· 每天早上笑5分钟。
· CONSCIOUSLY TEACH YOURSELF TO LOOK AT THE BRIGHTER SIDE OF THINGS. AND NO, you are not fooling yourself / lying to yourself when you do that. Be grateful for what you have. So what if you worked hard and yet didn't get the marks / credit you deserved? Or the love of your life passed away in an accident? Or were fired during the recession? You don't have cancer or a tumor in your brain. If you have it, your probably have access to the medical care required to treat it. THE VERY FACT THAT YOU ARE READING THIS ANSWER ON THE SCREEN OF A COMP / LAPTOP / PHONE is the proof that you are luckier than millions. It is okay to feel bad when life deals you an unfair blow but please, stop complaining and taking things for granted. This is the first step towards happiness. Watch 'Life is Beautiful'.
· 冥想
最好是每天早上，如果你没法做到，至少确保你在一天中有10分钟的时间让你的大脑平静下来，什么都别想，听听自己的呼吸声，放松身心。
· 有意识地教会自己看到事物光明的一面
不，你这样做并不是在欺骗自己/欺骗自己，对你所拥有的心存感激，那么，如果你努力工作，但是没有得到应得的分数/功劳又怎么样呢？或者你一生的挚爱在一次事故中去世了？在经济衰退期间被解雇了？
你没有得癌症或者脑瘤，你能在电脑/平板电脑/手机屏幕上看到这个答案的事实本身就证明你比无数人幸运，当生活给你不公平的打击时，你可以感到难过，但是请不要抱怨，不要把事情看成是理所当然的，这是通往幸福的第一步。（请观看《美丽人生》）
· Know when to say no. When to give up and when to hang on. Try try till you succeed but know when to stop trying.
· Be prepared for the unexpected. Life is what happens when we are busy making other plans. It may not necessarily be unpleasant or bad but even if it is, try to handle it in the best possible manner. Be prepared for the possibility of having twins (or triplets) when you plan a baby, or being fired if your organization is downsizing, moving to a city you dislike if your wife gets an opportunity too good to be true there etc.
· 尝试新事物
同时，尝试走出你的舒适区，并且要有规律的间隔。
· 知道什么时候该说不
知道什么时候该放弃，什么时候该坚持，不断尝试直到你成功，但是要知道什么时候停止尝试。
· 为意外做好准备
生活就是当我们忙于制定其他计划时发生的事，它不一定是不愉快的或坏的，但即使它是，尝试以最好的方式处理它，当你计划要一个孩子的时候，做好怀双胞胎(或者三胞胎)的准备，或者当你的组织正在裁员的时候被解雇，当你的妻子得到一个好得不真实的机会的时候搬到一个你不喜欢的城市等等。
· Do not hold grudges. I struggle with that everyday and fail but I don't stop trying. Think more about ideas and things to do, and less about people.
· 可以后悔，但不要让它毁了你
永远不要认为一个决定的影响是最终性的，无论多么糟糕或愚蠢，即使它是不可逆转的，所以你参加完一个聚会回来，由于酒后驾车，你遭遇了一场事故，失去了一条腿，这是令人难过的，是的，你可能会一直后悔，但要知道生活还在继续，时间会治愈一切。
· 不要心怀怨恨
我每天都在为这个问题挣扎，但我没有停止努力，多想想你自己的想法和要做的事情，少想别人。
· Strive for balance in life and in everything you do. Do not let anything - love, faith, work; consume you.
· Be disciplined. Try to have a good routine. Routine is the housekeeper of inspiration (quote by Carlos Ruiz Zafon)
· 研究逻辑
我知道这听起来很奇怪，但我们推理事情的方式可能是非常错误，而且我们经常这样，看看这些例子吧。
“我很不幸，因为我妈妈在我13岁的时候就去世了，第二年我遇到了一场事故，之后又被抢劫了。”“大多数男人都是混蛋。”“我欺骗了你，那是因为你欺骗了我。”
永远都要质疑自己的观点和意见，不是所有的事情都是或应该是主观的，大多数死板的人对自己都很自信，而且他们的推理往往不合逻辑，这让我感到害怕，如果你就是那样的人，甚至连自己都不知道怎么办？
· 在生活中和你所做的每一件事中，都要力求平衡
不要让任何事情，无论是爱情、信仰还是工作吞噬你。
· 严于律己
试着养成良好的习惯，习惯是灵感的管家 ( 引自卡洛斯·鲁伊斯·扎丰 )
· Do something for the environment. We live so indifferently to the problems around us. Degradation of the environment is one of the greatest problems ruining our world and will most definitely be the reason for our extinction; if we do not do anything about it. We are all victims of consumerism but I insist that we should all try to do whatever we can for the environment. · Take baby steps but begin. And the time is now.
· Waste less time. Life comprises of days and days, of hours. Every minute you waste, costs you a part of your life. Remember that.
Happy living :)
· 少说脏话，哪怕是在你的脑海里也不要。
· 为环境做点什么
我们对我们周围的问题如此漠不关心，环境退化是破坏我们世界的最大问题之一，如果我们不采取任何措施，它肯定会成为我们的灭亡之源，我们都是消费主义的受害者，但我坚持认为，我们都应该尝试为环境做一些力所能及的事情，一步一步慢慢来，但要开始，现在就是时候了。
· 少浪费时间
生命是由一天天，一小时一小时组成的，你浪费的每一分钟，都是在浪费你生命的一部分，记住这一点。
快乐的活着 : )
· Keep a diary
· Write down the key points of what you did for the day. This may be trivial, but it will show how you spend your day.
· Write down thoughts you have for doing even simple things like buying something. This will show where your money goes.
· At the end of every month do a summary of what you have done, and mark out things you have achieved for the month, or failed to achieve. This includes your income, health, buying items, fixing things.
· Put a value on your time. If you assess your time as being worth $20 an hour then assess everything you do at that rate. So if writing and posting a letter takes half an hour, then it costs $10.
· Give yourself short term goals. Write down what you hope to achieve in the next month. Then assess how well you did it. If you failed then write down why.
· Have an excercise plan, and try hard to stick to it.
- 写日记
- 写下你一天所做的事情的关键点，这可能是微不足道的，但它会显示你是如何度过这一天的。
- 写下你做哪怕是简单的事情如买东西的想法，这将显示你的钱的去向。
- 在每个月的月底，对你所做的事情做一个总结，并标出你在这个月所取得的成绩，或未能取得的成绩，这包括你的收入、健康、购买的物品、修理的东西。
- 对你的时间进行估价。如果你评估自己的时间价值为每小时20美元，那么你所做的一切都要以这个价格来评估，假如写一封信需要半小时，那么它的成本是10美元。
- 给自己设定短期目标。写下你希望在下个月实现的目标，然后评估你做得如何，如果你失败了，那么写下原因。
- 定一个锻炼计划，并努力坚持下去。
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· Keep a simplified record of your outgoings and income. This is not for accounting but just to see if your lifestyle affects this in a way that courses a need for adjusting
· Get rid of excess baggage. This covers items you don't need, habits that are distractions, friends who you will not miss, hobbies that absorb your resources.
· Mix with people who have similar goals to yourself. (this does not mean never mix with anyone else)
· Do not assume you will ever have time to do things you can't do now or soon.
· Learn the difference between Urgent and Important
· Don't rely on others to solve your problems. Try to solve all your own problems even if they can be solved with money or help. Learning how to fix a dripping tap may seem needless, but it gives an insight into problem solving.
· Find out how other people solved their problems or failed to.
- 你需要像规划公司一样规划你的个人生活。为你所做的事、你认识的人、你为任何东西付出的钱、以及你为实现目标所付出的财产和行动设定一个价值。
- 对你的支出和收入做一个简化的记录。这不是为了核算，只是为了看看你的生活方式是否会影响到你，是否需要调整。
- 扔掉多余的包袱，这包括你不需要的物品、分散注意力的习惯、你不会想念的朋友、消耗你资源的爱好。
- 与那些与你有类似目标的人交往。(这并不意味着永远不要和其他人交往)
- 不要假设你将永远有时间做你现在或不久后不能做的事情。
- 了解紧急和重要之间的区别
- 不要依赖他人来解决你的问题。尝试自己解决问题，即使这些问题可以通过钱或他人的帮助来解决，学习如何修理漏水的水龙头可能看起来没有必要，但它可以让人了解解决问题的方法。
- 观察其他人是如何解决他们的问题或他们是怎么失败的。
· Give Yourself Permission To Have Fun - I was sitting in the train and saw a guy listening to music while lip-syncing to the song with a lot of conviction, as if he were performing. People were looking at him as if he were weird, but he was an example of true freedom. Freedom from what other people think of you and allowing yourself to express yourself and enjoy life.
· Live Below Your Means - You don’t need to buy the trendy shoes, clothes or gadgets. They’re all nice to have but they aren’t necessities. Save your money by cutting down on the unnecessary things you spend your money on.
· Aggressively Seek Knowledge - This practice has changed my life significantly in only the first few months. Read a lot of books and seek information. Educating yourself is a major catalyst for personal growth.
· Stop Quitting Things - Commit to completing any projects you start. This will make you more sextive with how you invest your time and also teach you the discipline to get things done.
· 允许自己享受乐趣——我坐在火车上，看到一个男人一边听音乐，一边信心十足地对口型，就好像在表演一样，人们看他的眼神好像他是个怪人，但他是真正自由的典范，从别人对你的看法中解脱出来，表达自己，享受生活。
· 量入为出——你不需要购买时髦的鞋子、衣服或其它什么小玩意儿，这些很美好，但它们不是必需品，通过减少不必要的花费来节省你的钱。
· 积极地寻求知识——这种做法仅仅在最初的几个月里就极大地改变了我的生活，阅读大量的书籍，探索知识，自我教育是个人成长的主要催化剂。
· 停止放弃——承诺完成任何你开始的项目，这会让你对如何投资时间更有选择性，也会教会你如何自律把事情做好。
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· Don’t Settle - Refuse to settle in all areas of your life - relationships, careers, friendships, etc. Know your worth and what you deserve.
· Trust Yourself - When you make a decision in life, trust that you are making the right one. You may not know how things will look on the other side, but trust that everything will be alright.
· Build Your Brand - The words you speak, actions you take, and projects you engage in are all part of your overall brand. Make sure that you strive to put forth the highest quality work you can on anything that has your name on it.
· You Are Enough - Remind yourself that you are smart enough, cool enough, attractive enough, etc. The only validation that matters is your own. Learn to love and appreciate yourself and what you have to offer. You are unique and nobody can take that away from you.
· 每天与心爱的人联系——我坚信这一点，你永远不知道你最后一次见到或者和某人说话会是什么时候，让你关心的人知道他们对你有多重要。
· 不要安于现状——拒绝安于你生活的所有领域，包括人际关系、事业、友谊等等，懂的自己的价值和那些是你应得的。
· 相信自己——当你在生活中做出决定时，要相信你的决定是正确的，你可能不知道事情的另一面会怎样，但要相信一切都会好起来。
· 建立你的口碑——你所说的话，你所采取的行动，你所参与的项目都是你整个人的一部分，确保你努力在任何有你名字的事情上投入精力以最高质量完成工作。
· 你够好了—— 提醒自己你够聪明，够酷，够有吸引力，等等，唯一重要的确认你就是你，要学会爱自己，欣赏自己，欣赏自己能提供的东西，你是独一无二的，没有人能从你身上夺走这一点。
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· Exercise. And if you can, exercise in the morning. This helps in so many ways. It will help you sleep better at night and be more alx during the day. It will help wake you up in the morning by getting your blood flowing. It will help to sharpen and focus your mind. It will help relieve stress. There are just so many benefits.
· Don't say "I'll do it tomorrow" or "I don't have time". Tomorrow tends to be the imaginary land that never arrives, and 95-99% of the time when people say "I'll do it tomorrow" or "I don't have time" it really means "I'd rather just be lazy."
· Don't make excuses. Just do it. If there is something that you want to do, whether it is just something that you think would be fun, a new experience, or something to better yourself then do it. This sort of goes with point #2. If you're making excuses then all that means is your really don't want it that badly.
· Read books. Get off the internet. Stop reading pointless 3 paragraph articles and read something substantial. It will help expand your vocabulary, it will open your mind, it will inspire real thinking and creativity, and more.
· 运动
如果可以的话，早上锻炼，这在很多方面都有帮助，它将帮助你晚上睡得更好，在白天更有活力，它会帮助你在早晨醒来，让你的血液通畅，有助于使你的头脑更加敏锐和集中，有助于缓解压力，这样做有很多好处。
· 不要说“我明天做”或“我没有时间”
明天往往是永远不会到来的想象之地，当人们说 "我明天做 "或 "我没有时间 "时，95-99%的时候，它意味着 "我就是懒"。
· 不要找借口
做就是了，如果有你想做的事情，无论它是你认为有趣的事情，还是新的经验，或者是为了改善自己的事情，那么就去做吧，这和第二点是呼应的，如果你在找借口，那就意味着你并没有那么想做它。
· 读书，远离网络
停止读一些毫无意义的网络段子，读一些实质性的东西，这将有助于扩大你的词汇量，开阔你的思维，激发真正的思考和创造力，等等。
Don't hold grudges. Do not harbor hate. It takes a lot of energy to be mad at people so don't bother. Just let things go. And if someone continues to inspire these bad feelings in you, then let them go. It's that simple.
· Stop and smell the roses. It's good to want to better yourself, but you also need to know when to take time for yourself and relax. Let your batteries recharge.
· Be thankful and grateful. Sometimes it can be hard in the moment to realize that you actually have it pretty good, but every now and then just stop and think about everything that you have in your life. There is always someone who has it worse so you should be happy that you have what you have. It's also good to want to be better and to not just accept things for what they are, to challenge the status quo, but at the same time if you are always surging forward and you never stop to appreciate what and who is around you then one day when you finally do stop, you may realize there's nothing left.
· 省钱
对此要积极主动，在接下来的5-10年里，你可能会非常高兴你这样做了。
· 不要心存怨恨
不要心怀仇恨，生别人的气需要耗费很多精力，所以还是别了，就让事情过去吧，如果有人继续激发你的这些坏情绪，那么就让他们离开，就这么简单。
· 停下来闻闻玫瑰花香
想让自己变得更好是件好事，但你也需要知道何时为自己花点时间，放松一下，给自己的“电池”重新充电。
· 心怀感激和感恩
有时，你可能很难意识到你实际上拥有很好的条件，但每当这个时候，停下来，想想你生活中拥有的一切。
总有一些人的情况更糟，所以你应该为你所拥有的一切感到高兴，想要变得更好，不只是接受事物的本来面目，挑战现状是好事，但同时，如果你总是向前冲，从不停下来欣赏你周围的事物和人，那么有一天当你最终停下来时，你可能会发现什么都没有了