你怎么知道别人真的爱你(上)

Bella Smith, Freelance Writer/Contributor at The Minds Journal (2019-present)
If someone really loves you, they won’t make you feel like you need to constantly fight for their attention. They know the way to make you feel at home.
If someone really loves you, you don’t have to keep begging them for a text, call or attention.
If someone really loves you, they’ll admire you for something less obvious and they’ll never ask you to do things that you obviously can’t.
If someone really loves you, they will never let you go sleep wondering if you still matter.
If someone really loves you, they won’t let the energy you’ve shared with them be wasted
If someone really loves you, they won’t let you lose the best years of your life .
If someone really loves you, they wouldn’t let you slip away. No matter how bad the situation may seem.
If someone really loves you, they will never hurt you. And if they do, you’ll see that in their eyes, they’re hurting too.
If someone really loves you, they won’t hesitate to tell you the songs that kept them alive when they felt like nothing else could save them.
If someone really loves you, they’ll appreciate your nude soul far more than your nude body.
If someone really loves you, they will not hit the like button on most of your post. They’ll click all the comments.
If someone really loves you, they’ll understand that no matter how good your heart is, it also gets tired.
If someone really loves you, no matter how busy they are, they will always find a special time for you and don’t let you wait too long for their text or call.
If someone really loves you, they should make you feel safe, loved and happy. Not tense, scared and anxious.
If someone really loves you, they’ll always make you think that you are interesting enough to talk to everyday.
If someone really loves you, they’ll always find a way to make you feel that you really matter. Otherwise, they will find an excuse.
If someone really loves you, no matter how mad they’re, they won’t stop to care.
If someone really loves you, you don’t always have to force them to respect you.
If someone really loves you, eventhough they saw you at your worst, they’ll still think you are the best.
If someone really loves you, they’ll care about why you’ve been quiet all day and they don’t get mad cause you’re acting different.
If someone really loves you, you don’t always have to force them to stay in your life.
If someone really loves you, they will make you a better person than you were once before.
If someone really loves you, they’ll enjoy your madness and do not try to change you.
If someone really loves you, they’ll never forget the day you started talking.

如果一个人真的爱你，他们不会让你觉得你需要不断地争取他们的注意力。他们知道如何让你感到受重视。
如果一个人真的爱你，你不需要一直乞求他们给你发短信、打电话或求关注。
如果一个人真的爱你，他们会因为一些不那么明显的事情而钦佩你，他们不会要求你做一些你显然不能做的事情。
如果一个人真的爱你，他不会让你困惑自己是否重要而入睡。
如果一个人真的爱你，他们不会让你和他们分享的精力给浪费掉
如果一个人真的爱你，他们不会让你失去生命中最好的时光。
如果一个人真的爱你，他不会让你从他身边溜走。不管情况看起来有多糟。
如果一个人真的爱你，他永远不会伤害你。如果他们这样做了，你会从他们的眼睛里看到，他们也在受伤。
如果一个人真的爱你，他们会毫不犹豫地告诉你那些让他们活着的歌，当他们觉得没有什么可以拯救他们的时候。
如果一个人真的爱你，他们会欣赏你赤裸的灵魂，而不是你赤裸的身体。
如果一个人真的爱你，他们不会在你的大部分帖子上点赞。他们会点击所有的评论。
如果一个人真的爱你，他就会明白，不管你的心有多好，也会累的。
如果一个人真的爱你，不管他有多忙，他总能找个特别的时间陪你，不会让你等他的短信或电话等得太久。
如果一个人真的爱你，他们应该让你感到安全、被爱和幸福。不紧张，不害怕，不焦虑。
如果一个人真的爱你，他会让你觉得你很有趣，可以每天和他聊天。
如果一个人真的爱你，他们总会想办法让你觉得你真的很重要。否则，他们会找借口。
如果一个人真的爱你，不管他有多生气，他都不会停下来关心你。
如果一个人真的爱你，你不必总是强迫他们尊重你。
如果一个人真的爱你，即使看到了你最糟糕的一面，他们仍然会认为你是最好的。
如果一个人真的爱你，他们会关心为什么你一整天都很安静，他们不会因为你的不同而生气。
如果一个人真的爱你，你不必总是强迫他们留在你的生活中。
如果一个人真的爱你，他们会把你变成一个比曾经更好的人。
如果一个人真的爱你，他们会欣赏你的疯狂，而不会试图改变你。
如果一个人真的爱你，他将永远不会忘记你们开始交谈的那一天

Ram Ganeshia, be wise follow your brain along with heart.
1. The way they look at you
A lot can be said in the eyes. When your partner looks at you, do their eyes look calm and kind and sweet? Maybe a little sparkly? Do you ever catch them looking at you when you're doing something else? These are all quiet ways of communicating love.
2. The kinds of things they plan to do
There's nothing wrong with curling up for some movie-watching action, but it's also worth paying some mind to what kinds of activities your partner plans for the two of you. If they pick special events that you would particularly enjoy, that means they're listening — and they want to make you happy.

他们看你的眼神，很多话可以在眼睛里被说出来。当你的伴侣看着你的时候，他们的眼神是否显得平静、亲切、甜蜜?也许有点闪闪发光?当你在做别的事情的时候，你有没有发现他们在看你?这些都是传达爱的安静方式。
他们计划要做的事情，蜷成一团看电影没什么错，但考虑一下你的伴侣会为你们安排什么样的活动也是值得的。如果他们选择了你特别喜欢的活动，那就意味着他们在听——而且他们想让你开心。

3. They want to make you happy
If your partner sometimes puts aside their preferences to yield to what you want or need, this is important. Not every time. Not always. We all need to do this kind of thing for each other. But if your partner says, "I want to do whatever you want," and means it, they are performing a small act of kindness — and love. It's hard sometimes to put one's desires aside and do what your partner wants. But it's so worth it.
4. They pamper you
We're all tired at the end of the night. If your partner cozies up and rubs your feet or your back, they are displaying a little act of love. Same goes for if they run you a bath, or read to you, or make you a midnight snack or cup of tea.

他们想让你开心，如果你的伴侣有时会把他们自己想做的事放在一边，让你去做你想要或需要的事情，这一点很重要。不是每次。不总是这样。我们都需要为彼此做这种事。但如果你的伴侣说“我想做你想做的事”，并且是真心的话，那他们就是在表现一种善意和爱。有时候很难把自己的欲望放在一边，去做你的伴侣想做的事。但这太值得了。
他们纵容你，晚上结束时我们都累了。如果你的伴侣舒服地抚摸你的脚或背部，他们是在表达爱意。同样，如果他们给你洗澡，或给你读书，或给你做宵夜或茶，情况也是如此。

5. They show emotion
It's hard to cry in front of someone else. But if they feel comfortable in doing so in front of you, you may be well on your way to love town.
6. They trust you
And you trust them. Trust is vital. For any real, lasting partnership to be forged, trust has to be utmost in the equation. If you travel and don't worry about what they're up to in your absence, and the same is true for them, this is a good sign.

他们表现出情感，在别人面前哭是很难的。但如果他们在你面前这样做并很自在，那你可能就走上了爱情之路。
他们信任你，你信任他们。信任是至关重要的。要建立真正持久的伙伴关系，信任是最重要的。如果你外出旅行，不用担心你不在的时候他们在忙什么，他们也一样，这是一个好迹象。

7. They are understanding
Compassion goes a long way. If your partner is gentle with you, that's so valuable. If you have to cancel a date because your friend needs you, or if you just want to spend your Saturday morning sleeping after an exhausting week, and that's met with understanding or even enthusiasm, you're with the right person.
8. They care about you
A combination of actions and words express the way someone feels about us, and it's worth noticing when a person is particularly warm or compassionate or lovely. If your partner has told you they love you, enjoy. If not, don't get too hung up on those words. If your partner exhibits many or most of these characteristics, they care deeply for you. And it's very possible that they love you. Let it unfold.

他们的理解，同情是很重要的。如果你的伴侣对你温柔，这是非常宝贵的。如果你因为朋友需要而取消约会，或者如果你只是想在疲惫的一周后在周六早上睡觉，而这得到了理解甚至鼓励，那么你找对了人。
他们关心你，行动和语言的结合表达了别人对我们的感觉，当一个人特别温暖、富有同情心或可爱时，这是值得注意的。如果你的伴侣告诉你他们爱你，那就享受吧。如果没有，也不要太在意这些话。如果你的伴侣表现出这些特征中的许多或大部分，那么他们非常关心你。很有可能他们爱你。让它发挥吧。

Josh Borza, studied at State University of New York at Cortland (2010)
I could sit here and write a book or a long answer but I’m gonna make this short and sweet and from the heart in hopes people read it because I am going to be real and answer based on experiences from my life seeing
they only see you in a room full of beautiful people,not their phone either. After being with enough woman good and bad , I believe in true love now . We are all meant for someone but we don’t find them a lot because of how people love and interact based on peer pressure and worries of what others may think. I’m newly single, ( calm down ladies… ) and if I knew what I learne over the years when I was young i would take back a lot and not date one ，To often we dated for looks or status, or even thinking we liked someone but how do you honk you like Someone unless you truly know them . Facebook , Instagram, whatever other app you use is all smoke in mirrors. What I’m saying I’m guilty of to and I regret it . We to often put on a from in the beginning which dooms us from the start. Then six months down the road were comfortable and our real self comes out realizing it’s more of an infatuation or crush or even sexual. Then its over and your wonderin* why you can’t find someone steady. Or why can’t i find a husband or wife ? Well the answer is In front of us all but society and technology give us false realities.

我可以坐在这里写一本书或者一个很长的答案，但我要把它写得简短而甜蜜，并且发自内心，希望人们能读到它，因为我将是用真实的，并根据我的生活经验来回答。
1:在一个满是漂亮姑娘的房间里，他们只看到你，手机也不看。在经历足够多的女人的好与坏之后，我现在相信真爱了。我们都是为某个人而生的，但我们太多时候都没有找到他们，因为人们的爱和互动是基于同龄人的压力和对他人想法的担忧。我刚刚单身，（女士们请冷静…）如果我过去就知道我年轻时学到的这些，我会有很多东西可以回忆，而不是只记得约会。我们经常约会是为了相貌或地位，或者甚至认为我们喜欢某个人，但是如果你不真正了解他们，你怎么说你喜欢某个人呢。Facebook，Instagram，任何你使用的应用程序都是烟雾弹。我说的话让我感到内疚，我很后悔。

There is not one perfect human out there but there’s a ton of good people we can marry and live with ，we would just appreciate life for what it is and stop fsking to be something;we’re not in order not;to lose someone we think we love,when all Along you know your not really happy , or all yourself is this what love is.? And for me it really hit me when I had kids. When my son was born 7 years ago something changed in me forever.i appreciated life for what it was. Life is beautiful and fulfilling when you can really love something. Having a kid made me open my eyes as to how arrogant and ridiculous I was. I loved and still love my kids and that’s the first item I fealt love like that. I had a great childhood ,great family and friends a mentors but never understood it .

我们常常从一开始就摆出一副样子：从一开始就命运注定我们在一起。接下来的六个月我们过得很舒服，我们真正的自我意识到这更多的是一种迷恋、依恋甚至是性行为。然后一切都结束了，你会奇怪为什么你找不到一个稳定的人。或者为什么我找不到丈夫或妻子？答案摆在我们面前，但社会和科技给了我们虚假的现实。
世界上没有一个完美的人，但是有很多我们可以结婚并生活在一起，我们会感激生活本来的样子，不再逃避成为什么样子;我们不是为了不失去我们认为我们爱的人，尽管你知道你并不真正快乐，或者你自己就是爱的全部。对我来说，当我有孩子的时候，它真的打动了我。当我的儿子7年前出生的时候，我的内心发生了永远的变化，我欣赏生活的本来面目。当你真的能爱上某样东西的时候，生活是美丽而充实的。有了孩子，我才明白自己是多么的傲慢和可笑。我爱而且仍然爱我的孩子，这是我第一个喜欢的。我有一个美好的童年，有很好的家庭和朋友，还有导师，但我从来都不明白这一点。

Now I see all people for who they are. Everyone’s got something to give. And 90% of the people we think we want to date aren’t showing their true colors, making it impossible and almost unfair to make people believe we’re ready to love and be loved . So after saying all that I apologize to anyone I hurt or treated poorly. I was immature and not ready to be a man and thought I was. All people are beautiful ,black white , color doesn’t matter. I’m a man now and I can honestly say I dated what I thought were hot girls and that was dumb. I didn’t realize people’s looks don’t make them attractive if anything they make people ugly inside. I see woman now and appreciate and I’m attracted to confidence,kindness,responsible ,good care keepers,family woman ,and overall Just A good heart. Because even if you don’t think they seem pretty on the outside when someone creates a bond with you they grow with you. They become sexy and almost insatiable. You crave them more and more every day . There smell , their attitude, their personality , the way they do and approach things, and other little things we overlook.

现在我看到了所有人的本来面目。每个人都有可以给予的东西。而我们认为我们想约会的人中的90%没有表现出他们的本来面目，这使得让人们相信我们已经准备好去爱和被爱是不可能的，也是不公平的。所以说了这些之后，我向任何我伤害过的人道歉。我还不成熟，还没准备好成为一个男人，还自以为是。所有的人都是美丽的。我现在是个男人了，老实说，我和一个我认为很性感的女孩约会过，那太愚蠢了。我没有意识到人们的外表并不能让他们变得有吸引力。现在我被自信，善良，有责任心，好的看护人，家庭主妇，以及一颗善良的心的女人所吸引。因为即使你觉得他们外表看起来不漂亮，当有人与你建立联系时，他们也会与你一起成长。他们变得性感，你每天都越来越渴望他们的气味，他们的态度，他们的个性，他们做事和处理事情的方式，以及其他我们忽略的小事情。

So that’s what love really is ………….. it’s waking up and looking over at your partner sleeping and you get a weird smile on your face and just watch them sleep……
it’s being yourself without ever questioning who you are and them being ok with that and supporting you.
it’s missing the smell and even missing the way someone gets mad at you from time to time ……
it’s never feeling emtpy and never feeling full …….
its sitting up at night talking for hours without realizing where the time went……..

这就是爱的真谛：
睡醒看着你的伴侣睡着了，你脸上露出奇怪的笑容，看着他们睡着……
做你自己，永远不要质疑你是谁，他们会接受并支持你。
想念那种味道，甚至想念有人时不时对你发火的样子......
永远不会觉得空虚，永远不会觉得饱.......
晚上坐着聊了几个小时却不知道时间去了哪里……

its looking at pictures of them and feeling proud of them for who they are and who they are becoming or have become……….
it’s giving in and saying sorry when your not always wrong ……..
it’s sacrificing a day with your friends to help ur wife who came down with.
it’s going through struggles and hard times only to learn and grow from them and become even stronger and better………..
it’s not ME and it’s not YOU……it’s US…….
if I could I would change my past but I’m not sorry because everyone has a plan and this is part of mine ….

看着他们的照片，为他们是谁和他们正在成为或已经成为谁而感到自豪………
当你不是每次都错的时候，对方总是会屈服并说对不起……
牺牲一天的时间和你的朋友一起帮助你的妻子。
正在经历挣扎和艰难的时期，一起从中学习和成长，变得更加强大和更好………
不是我也不是你……是我们……。
如果可以的话，我会改变我的过去，但我不后悔，因为每个人都有自己的计划，这是我的一部分。

those mistakes groomed me for who I am today and whoever I am with next will be the right one because I a, ready to give someone my love ….. I do not never want to feel like I lost someone special again and hope I can find another soulmate….i miss kids mother who I realized I loved more and more everyday I saw her, I was just not ready to be the man she needed. If I could nod it all over I would tell her and show her everyday how special she was To me…. I miss her being mad and miss her being upset….i miss seeing her for who she is in the morning before coffee,no makeup and her robe on……I miss having someone have my back and open thier heart not me…. Love is everything you don’t;think it is ….its growing with someone through all the bad and rough times only to have a better bond after it. I cant even look at her picture without becoming sad and crying.if I had to I would 100% give her my life to save hers because I wouldn’t want to live without her.bein* without her would be far worse than being dead.thsts what love is . Putting someone else’s feelings and life in front of yours.if I don’t get back with her whoever i see next Will get the real me. So next time you date someone be yourself, do it for you bc if not you won’t ever love.i lost somebody special to me and I will NEVER let that happen again.There will be nobody and nothing more important than my lover and next bestfeind.i just hope I do find another one. I miss how soft their skin is , how they smile , and plan things out that Guys don’t. I appreciate woman for who they are so I’m ready to give someone my love. If you read this and feel the same way reach out To me , just start with talking and getting t know each other ,Thank you for real, woman are special and deserve to be given 100% of our love……. Im living in central New York and ready to take another crack at It
message me if anyone ever needs a friend or help. I’m enjoy expressing myself and listening.

这些错误培养了我，让我成为了今天的我，无论我和谁在一起，都将是正确的人，因为我准备好了给别人我的爱，我不想再感到失去了一个特别的人，我希望我能找到另一个灵魂伴侣。我想念孩子们的母亲，我意识到我越来越爱她，我只是没有准备好成为她需要的男人。如果我能点头的话，我会告诉她，让她每天都知道她对我有多特别。我想念她生气、想念她心烦意乱的样子、我想念早上在喝咖啡，不化妆的样子。我想念有人在背后支持我，敞开心扉，而不是只有我自己。爱是与一个人一起成长，经历了所有的困难和坎坷，只是为了在之后有一个更好的关系。我看着她的照片都会伤心哭泣。如果必须的话，我会百分之百地献出我的生命来拯救她，因为我不想没有她。没有她比死还要糟糕。这就是爱。把别人的感情和生活摆在你面前。如果我不跟她和好，下一个见到的人就会看到真正的我。所以下一次你约会的时候，做你自己，否则你就不会再爱了。我失去了一个对我来说特别的人，我永远不会让这种事情再次发生。没有人，也没有什么比我的爱人和下一个最好的朋友更重要的了。我只希望我能找到另一个。我想念他们柔软的皮肤，他们的笑容，还有那些男人做不到的事情。我欣赏女人的本来面貌，所以我准备好给某人我的爱。如果你读到这篇文章，也有同样的感受，请你联系我，从交谈开始，彼此了解。.谢谢你的真心，女人是特别的，值得我们给予100%的爱，我住在纽约市中心，准备再试一次。
如果有人需要朋友或帮助，请给我留言。我喜欢表达自己和倾听。

Lori Swain
Love is not just an emotion or a word to describe how someone feels. It shows itself in your behavior. How you treat someone. It’s not about the gifts or social status. Love doesn’t care about material things. Love compliments who you already are. It doesn’t make you who you are. Love is all that is good and nothing evil. You can’t love someone if your betraying them.
I think the word love is used to freely. I believe a lot of people are in love with being in love. They confuse lust with love. They think love is going to fix them, make them happy or complete them. Love is not a responsibility. Your happiness is dependent on you. You must be happy with who you are and love yourself. Only then are you capable of loving another. You can’t fix someone and no one can fix you. I can’t make you happy and you can’t make me happy. Love happens when we are ready. A natural attraction is felt between two people. They are interested in each other and want to know more about them. They learn this person. They like their personality and how they think, their idea and their dreams. They become closer and compliment each other. They want to be with that person. They want only good for them. They support them on everything and do what they can to protect them. They never want to see them hurt or unhappy. There is nothing mean or hateful about their actions. They love each other as they love themselves. With kindness, compassion and understanding. Always.

爱不仅仅是一种情感或一个词来描述一个人的感受。它表现在你的行为上：你如何对待别人。这不是礼物或社会地位的问题。爱情不关乎物质。爱是对你的赞美。它不能决定你是谁。爱是一切美好的东西，而不是邪恶的东西。如果你背叛了一个人，你就不会爱上他。
我觉得爱这个词是用来表达自由的。我相信很多人都是为了恋爱而恋爱的。他们混淆了欲望和爱。他们认为爱可以修复他们，让他们快乐，让他们完整。爱不是一种责任。你的幸福取决于你自己。你必须为自己感到高兴，并且爱自己。只有这样，你才能爱别人。你不能治好别人，也没人能治好你。我不能让你幸福，你也不能让我幸福。爱发生在我们准备好了的时候。两个人之间会产生一种自然的吸引力。他们对对方感兴趣，想更多地了解对方。他们学习这个人。他们喜欢自己的个性，喜欢自己的思维方式，喜欢自己的想法和梦想。他们变得更亲密，互相恭维。他们想和那个人在一起。他们只想要好的东西。他们支持他们的一切，尽他们所能保护他们。他们不想看到孩子受伤或不快乐。他们的行为没有卑鄙或可恨之处。他们像爱自己一样爱对方。带着善良、同情和理解。总是这样。

When you love and are loved you we know it. Your partners actions and behavior will show it. You will feel their love. You’ll never doubt his love, you’ll be able to tell him anything without feeling embarrassed, his presence will comfort you. You’ll know your safe. There will be no fear only trust. He will encourage you and support you. There will be no demands or threats. You will see the love for you in his heart and in his eyes. You will know in your heart that this person would hurt you. You will know without them saying a word that you are the one they love and beside you is where they want to always be.

当你爱和被爱时，我们知道。你伴侣的行动和行为会表现出来。你会感受到他们的爱。你永远不会怀疑他的爱，你可以告诉他任何事情而不感到尴尬，他会安慰你。你会知道你的保险箱。没有恐惧，只有信任。他会鼓励你，支持你。不会有任何要求或威胁。你会在他的心里和眼睛里看到对你的爱。不用他们说一句话，你就会知道你是他们爱的人，在你身边是他们想永远在的地方。

My neighbor is an example of true love. In his 70’s now, his wife and him married 50 years ago. You can see in his eyes how much he loves her every time he says her name. When I meet him a year ago he asked if d like to meet her. He took to a big beautiful room at the end of a hall. A big window took up one entire wall. He introduced me to his wife. He was as proud as he could be. He told me how after there 3rd son was born she was diagnosed with a strain of M.S. before their son was 1 yr old she was bedridden. This was over 30 yrs ago. He raised the 3 children, cooked cleaned and cared for his wife as well as worked 2 jobs to pay the medical bills. He refused to have her hospitalized. The prognosis was not good he told me. I looked at his wife as a tear ran down her face. He took a tissue and said “ honey, let me get that sweet tear” as he wiped her face. He said he built her this room large enough so the family could be with her. The big window so she could thank God for each new day he gave us together. There was a table and chairs. A sofa and recliner. Games and puzzles. The room was full of life. Her in her bed with flowered linens so cheerful. It was beautiful. She was unable to speak but he knew what she had jestered and he pointed to a collage of pics on the wall. Years of past holidays with family and friends. So many people and her in her bed surrounded by them all. By now I was in tears. And sh make a sound and he said here, she says it’s your turn to dry your eyes. As he handed me a tissue. I looked at her and told her she is so blessed to have so many people that love her. He said the doctors call her a miracle. She out lived her first doctor and he gave her only 3 yrs to live. I was looking at love. The miracle of love. She nodded and smiled and glanced at her husband. I swear could have heard her say “his love”.

我的邻居就是真爱的例子。在他70多岁的时候，他的妻子和他已经结婚50年了。每次他说她的名字，你可以从他的眼睛里看到他有多爱她。一年前我见到他时，他问我愿不愿意见见她。他走进大厅尽头的一间漂亮的大房间。一扇大窗户占据了一整面墙。他把我介绍给他妻子。他非常骄傲，他告诉我，在第三个儿子出生后，她被诊断出患有多发性硬化症，儿子还不到1岁，她就卧床不起了。这是30多年前的事了。他养育了3个孩子，做饭、打扫、照顾妻子，还打两份工来支付医药费。他拒绝让她住院。我看着他的妻子，泪水从她的脸上滑落。他拿起一张纸巾，一边为她擦脸，一边说:“亲爱的，让我把那甜蜜的眼泪拿出来吧。”他说他给她建了一个足够大的房间，这样家人就可以和她在一起了。大窗户让她可以感谢上帝给我们的每一个新的一天。有一张桌子和椅子。沙发和躺椅。游戏和拼图。房间里充满了生机。她躺在铺满鲜花的床单上，非常高兴。很漂亮。她说不出话来，但他知道她在开什么玩笑，他指着墙上的一幅拼图。与家人和朋友一起度过了多年的假期。那么多人和她一起躺在床上，被他们团团围住。现在我已经哭了。她发出声音，他说，她说轮到你擦干眼睛了。他递给我一张纸巾。我看着她，告诉她，她是如此幸运，有这么多的人爱她。他说医生称她为奇迹。她的第一个医说她只有3年的生命，但是她活了下来，我看到的是爱情：爱的奇迹。她点点头，微笑着看了丈夫一眼。我发誓我能听到她说“这就是他的爱”。
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As he was walking me out I started to notice the house so clean and how he has always been such a happy man. It must have been a difficult life managing everything I asked him how do you do it? He said “ do what”. It must have been hard. 3 kids and 2 jobs. He said. There is no “how” about it. She’s my wife, these are my kids. This is my life. I am living my life with the people I love.”

当他送我出去的时候，我开始注意到房子是那么干净，他一直是一个多么快乐的人。我问他你是怎么做到的?他说“做什么”。那一定很艰难：带三个孩子，干两份工作。他说没有“怎么样”一说。她是我妻子，这些是我的孩子。这就是我的生活，我和我爱的人一起生活。