为什么人们不再约会了？
Forever Alone: Why Aren''t People Dating Anymore?
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网友：我二十八岁了，有自己的一番事业，由于工作原因，我会经常旅游。很难找到一个传统的女人。许多人不知道要如何沟通。由于社交媒体的存在，一切都变得很容易.......
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"I'm a strong independent woman, what can you offer me?"
“我是一个坚强的独立女性，你可以给我什么？“
I’ve been single for quite awhile and I must say it’s going very well
我单身很久了，我得说一切都还不错
Same here , 20 years no dating and still happy.
一样，20岁了，至今没有约会过，但还是很快乐
I’m twenty-eight, and I have a great career, and I travel a lot due to my job.
It's hard to find a traditional woman. A lot of them do not know how to communicate. Everything has been on a silver platter due to social media. I go on a date, and they can't hold a conversation; they're not able to talk about anything other than drinking, or smoking, or partying and whatnot. I do not drink, I do not smoke, and I do not go clubbing.
The risk of marriage is on the man, and I'm not risking all the hard work I've put in for a mediocre and unstable mind.
I am surrounded by older men, and I listen to their stories and their experiences with marriage. Not worth it.
我二十八岁了，有自己的一番事业，由于工作原因，我会经常旅游。很难找到一个传统的女人。许多人不知道要如何沟通。由于社交媒体的存在，一切都变得很容易。我去和她们约会，但她们好像不太会聊天，除了喝酒，抽烟，开派对之外，什么话都不说。我不抽烟，不喝酒，我也不泡吧
婚姻的风险由男人承担，我不会为了一个平庸而不稳定的人拿自己辛苦获得的一切去冒险。我的周围都是一些老男人，我听着他们有关婚姻的故事和经历，觉得不值得去结婚
When you'll hit your 30's those same women will try to "settle" with you and will tell you that they "aren't playing games anymore" They will try to sell themselves as good women and good housewives, beware of that.
当你30多岁的时候，这些女人会试图和你“和解”，并告诉你她们“不再出去玩了”。 她们会试图把自己推销成一个好女人和一个好主妇，要注意这一点。
Sadly true. I've been single for 5 years now because I don't have that childish attitude that girls seem to like. On the flip side, I'm not enough of a catch for women who are more mature.
遗憾的是，你说的没错。我已经单身五年了，因为我没有女孩子喜欢的那种幼稚的态度，另一方面，我也不适合那些更成熟的女人。
Just stay focused on your career, your health, and inner peace. Seems that's all a man can do these days.
专注于你的事业、健康和内心的平静。看来现在的男人只能做这些了。
I gave up on woman because none of them seemed worth it. Then I met a woman who had given up men because none of them seemed worth it. And since we both have extremely high moral standards, it worked
我放弃女人是因为她们不值得我追，后来我遇到一个放弃了男人的女人，因为没有人值得她去追。因为我们都是道德要求极高的人，所以在一起了
Women want traditional men but don't want to be traditional women.
女人想要传统型的男人，但自己并不愿意做传统型的女性
More men don't want a traditionnal women (and don't want to be traditionnal as well).They can't handle the pressure on their shoulders
更多的男人不愿意要传统型的女人，而且自己也不想变得传统。他们无法处理肩头上的压力
I was married for 25 years, am now divorced and I just don't feel like making myself that vulnerable again.
我结婚25年，现在已经离婚，我只是不想再让自己那么脆弱了。
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I hear ya. I haven't even been married yet, but have been stabbed in the back by someone who I thought was a close friend and that hurt quite a bit. Can't imagine what that must've been like after 25 years of marriage.
我还没有结婚，但曾被一个亲密的朋友在背后捅了一刀，这让我有点受伤。真不敢想象结婚25年是什么感觉。
The problem is that women try to meet nice men after the bad men had their way with them
问题是女人在和坏男人发生关系后，又努力想找一个好男人
Very true
说得对
Why aren't people dating anymore? The reason is female expectations of men are highly unrealistic now.
为什么人们都不约会了？因为女性对男性的期望高到不现实
I’m 29, and haven’t been in a relationship (or on a date) for over 6 years. And I’m damn proud of it. The statement that “all the good ones are taken” is absolutely true. I tried Tinder, POF, and all the other sham online dating apps out there. They’re useless.
我29岁，已经有六年多没有谈过恋爱了。我为此感到自豪。我试过Tinder, POF,和所有其他在线约会软件。但都没有用。
"Why aren't people dating anymore?" Ask the people who are not dating. I'm sure they will tell you why.
“为什么人们不再约会了?”问问那些没有在约会的人。我相信他们会告诉你原因的。
Just because she's "single", doesn't mean she isn't seeing anyone.
不要以为她是单身就以为她没有在和人约会
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Another reason is that a sense of masculinity in men and femininity in women is falling, and we are increasingly becoming androgynous, mostly because of behavioural, attitude and lifestyle changes.
另一个原因是男性的阳刚之气和女性的阴柔之气都在下降，我们越来越变得像雌雄同体，主要可能是因为行为，态度和生活方式的改变
I'm SO happy I grew up in the 60's-70's!! Things back then were SO normal. You young people don't know what you missed..
我真开心自己是在六十到七十年代长大的，当时的一切都很正常。你们年轻人不会知道自己错过了什么
I quit dating almost 10 years ago. I'm 58 and have been married a few times. I'm retired. I finally have peace in my life. Love is for the young.
我差不多十年前就不约会了。我今年58岁，结过几次婚。我已经退休了，生活的很平静，爱情是为年轻人准备的
Dating/getting into a serious relationship can become stressful nowadays.
现在约会或进入一段严肃的感情已经给人造成了压力。
I've been online dating for years. And I meet a nice girl every couple of years or so and actually date them. In the end, their #1 priority is their career and having their guy fit into their lives and not the other way around. Disappointing but just seems to be the same pattern over and over again.
多年来，我一直和人在进行网恋。大约每两年我会见到一个好女孩，和她们展开现实中的约会。最后，她们最在乎的还是自己的事业，希望男人能够适应她们的生活，而不是反过来。我很失望，但似乎每一次约会都是这样的结果
Happily single 7 1/2 years, freedom is so peaceful.
快乐的单身生活已经有七年半了，感受到了自由生活的宁静
For men: too risky to date women
For women: "we are independenthhh!! REEEE"
对于男人：约会有风险
对于女性：我们是独立女性
From a New Zealanders point of view, i now completely avoid relationships as the Ideology of feminism has made it almost impossible to have one
作为一个新西兰人，我现在完全避免了男女关系，因为女权主义的意识形态几乎使得约会变得不可能
I wish traditional dating, traditional family values was the norm again.
我希望一个传统的约会，希望传统家庭的价值观再次成为标准
1. Modern women have unrealistic expectations for men.
2. Modern women have an over inflated sense of self worth.
3. Modern women think their beauty is the only thing they need to offer in a relationship.
4. Modern divorce laws are unfair towards men.
5. Men are beginning to realize all of this, and are no longer interested in investing themselves into serious relationships with women.
1：现代女性对男人有不切实际的要求
2：现代女性过高估计她们的自我价值
3：现代女性认为在男女关系中，美貌是她们唯一需要付出的东西
4：现代离婚法对男性不公平
5：男人开始意识到了这些问题，不在对投资认真的恋爱关系感兴趣
Hi im a brit and recently my son graduated from a british University,he found it hard to date any young woman as he found them all left wing
我是英国人，最近我儿子从英国大学毕业，他发现很难和年轻女性约会，因为他发现她们都拥有左翼思想
Women want a perfect man. 6ft tall, 6 figure income (non-blue collar) and 6 pack abs. So they reject the majority of men for the top 10 to 5%.
女人想要的是完美男人，6英尺高，6位数收入（不能是蓝领）6块腹肌。所以她们为了最优秀的前10%到5%的男人拒绝了大部分的追求者。
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Men are increasingly intermarrying into other ethnic groups or some are even leaving western countries altogether if they want to find love.
越来越多的男人和其他民族的女性结婚，甚至有的还离开西方国家去寻找真爱
Love my wife! She's so good to me!
爱我的妻子，她对我很好
"Dating" is now gone because marriage and family has declined in importance.
约会已经消失不见了，因为婚姻和家庭的重要性正在下降。
I've never been into hookup culture, and I have always dated with the view of getting married. Boy has things been rough the past few years... and I lived in highly conservative states.
我从来没有接触过勾搭文化，我总是带着结婚的想法约会。男孩们过去几年的日子不好过，我住在一个非常保守的州
I’m 26 and still have yet to find a girlfriend ever in my whole life. Dating is very rare for me. The girls I meet are never interested past the first date. Some of them don’t even want to date at all. It’s been a real struggle for me, and I hope I don’t end up alone. I’m not giving up.
我26岁了，还没有找到一个女朋友。我很少约会。我见过的女孩在第一次见面之后就对我不感兴趣了。有些女孩甚至根本不想约会。我真是饱受煎熬，希望自己不会孤独终老把。我还没有放弃
Dude same i have never had a gf.I used to worry is something wrong with me but now im in my 30s i dont care.When i see men begging their wives for permission to buy stuff at the grocery store I'm like hell no I dont wanna be that guy. Dont ever marry cos its a one sided contract can you ever negotiate as a captive with the hostage taker? No you cant, how can you say no to her when she can threaten you with divorce. I dont wanna be a slave and if you do really want a family, work hard save around 100-200k go to south east asia marry a girl there and stay there , dont ever bring them back to the 1st world.If you do they will become your typical golddigger.
兄弟，我从来没有交过女朋友。我过去担心是我自己有问题，但现在我30岁了，我不在乎了。当我看到男人央求妻子要求去杂货店买一点东西时，我就想我永远不要成为那样的家伙。婚姻如同单方面的合同，作为人质，你能和劫匪谈判吗，不能，当她要威胁你离婚时，你要怎么对她说不。我不想成为一个奴隶，如果你实在想成家，那么努力工作，存下十到二十万到东南亚去娶一个女孩，然后留在那，不要把她们带回第一世界国家。如果你这么做了，她们就会变成拜金女
im 36 and a Christian. Im seeing soo many actual christian girls that dont want to date/hang out or even get to know anyone outside their family.
我36岁，是一个基督徒，我看到很多信仰基督教的女孩不愿意出去约会，或者甚至不愿意认识家庭以外的任何人。
I didn't get a girlfriend til my 30s.
我30多岁才有女朋友。
Southeast Asia really does have better girls for a variety of reasons. I'm also 26 & the best relationship I ever had was dating a girl from the Philippines over the internet about 10 years ago. At least in the Far East there's hope for being able to have a good family with the girls being beautiful, determined to succeed, & quite intelligent thanks to better education there.
由于各种原因，东南亚的女孩确实更好。我26岁，我最好的一次恋爱经历就是和一个菲律宾女孩，我和她是十年前在网上认识的。至少在远东有希望建立一个完美的家庭，那里的女孩子美丽，有事业心，由于那里的教育水平很高，还很聪明。
I cant imagine dating a girl my age. (30-35)
我无法想象我这样的年纪和女孩子约会(30-35)
My experience has been the complete opposite. Everybody is married or in a relationship. It's extremely rare to meet someone that's actually single
我的经历完全相反。我认识的每个人都结婚或恋爱了。很少能遇到真正单身的人。.
You probably live in a rural area - this is a metropolitan problem more than anything .
你可能住在农村——这是大城市最严重的问题。
@Blues Clues
I don't live in a rural area, but it's also not a huge city either. Makes sense though
我不住在农村，但也不是大城市。不过你说的有道理
I'm 41 never married. I am wealthy and want children. I'm not meeting any women that would be good mothers to them
我41岁，未婚，我很有钱，想要有一个孩子。我遇到的女人都不够好，做不了好妈妈
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We live in a world where couples in the slightest problems, they don't want to work things out or talk it out.
现在夫妻间有一点小问题都不想解决，也不讲出来
I don’t do relationships, makes me feel weird. So I’ve never dated
我不谈恋爱，这会让我觉得很奇怪。我从没约会过