我怎么才能幸福快乐（下）
How can I be happy？
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网友：锻炼：7分钟就足够了，你认为是你没有时间做的吗？再想想。看看纽约时报上提到的7分钟训练。这是一项我们任何人都能适应日程安排的锻炼计划。锻炼对我们的快乐和幸福有着如此深远的影响，它是克服抑郁的有效策略。多睡觉：通过睡觉对负面情绪的敏感度会降低.....
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How can I be happy?
我怎么才能幸福快乐？
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1. Exercise: 7 Minutes Could Be Enough
Think exercise is something you don't have time for? Think again. Check out the 7 minute workout mentioned in The New York Times. That's a workout any of us can fit into our schedules
Exercise has such a profound effect on our happiness and well-being that it is an effective strategy for overcoming depression.
2. Sleep More: You'll Be Less Sensitive to Negative Emotions
We know that sleep helps our body recover from the day and repair itself and that it helps us focus and be more productive. It turns out sleep is also important for happiness.
3. Spend More Time With Friends/Family: Money Can't Buy You Happiness
Staying in touch with friends and family is one of the top five regrets of the dying.
If you want more evidence that time with friends is beneficial for you, research proves it can make you happier right now, too.
锻炼：7分钟就足够了
你认为是你没有时间做的吗？再想想。看看纽约时报上提到的7分钟训练。这是一项我们任何人都能适应日程安排的锻炼计划。
锻炼对我们的快乐和幸福有着如此深远的影响，它是克服抑郁的有效策略。
多睡觉：通过睡觉对负面情绪的敏感度会降低
睡眠有助于我们的身体从白天疲惫状态恢复并自我修复，它有助于我们集中精力，提高工作效率。事实证明，睡眠对幸福也很重要。
多花时间和朋友/家人在一起：金钱买不到幸福
未与朋友和家人保持联系是死亡时的五大遗憾之一。有更多的证据证明和朋友在一起对你有益，研究证明，这也能让你更快乐。
1. Log some time with your furry friends.
Play fetch with Fido or sneak in a few cuddles with your kitten. Interacting with your pets can release oxytocin in the brain ― you know, the “warm and fuzzy” hormone ― resulting in that joyous feeling.
2. Count your blessings.
There’s nothing like a little thankfulness to boost your mood. Research shows expressing gratitude can make you happier. Try writing down three things you’re thankful for at the end of each night.
3. Remind yourself how great you are.
PSA: You are awesome — you just gotta believe it for yourself. Studies show self-acceptance is crucial to a happier life, but it’s a habit we barely practice.
4. Call your mom.
Pick up that phone. Research suggests hearing your mom’s voice can help reduce stress. And less stress means a happier you.
5. Technology isn’t all bad. Take a break from your overflowing inbox and switch gears to a different kind of email. “We fight so hard against the negative and we forget to tell people how powerful a two-minute positive e-mail could be,” Harvard-trained researcher and Before Happiness author Shawn Achor told Oprah in 2014.
保持快乐的一些基本方法是：
花点时间和你的毛茸茸的朋友在一起，和你的宠物狗玩耍，或者偷偷地和你的猫咪拥抱几次。与宠物互动会在大脑中释放催产素——你知道的，一种“温暖而毛茸茸的”荷尔蒙——从而产生快乐的感觉。
你的祝福，没有什么比感恩更能改善你的心情了。研究表明，表达感激能让你更快乐。试着在每天晚上结束的时候写下三件你要感激的事情。
提醒自己你是多么的伟大，你是了不起的——你只要相信自己。研究表明，自我接纳对于实现更快乐的生活至关重要，但我们很少实践这种习惯。
打电话给你的妈妈，拿起电话吧。研究表明，听到妈妈的声音有助于减轻压力。压力越小，你就越快乐。
科技也不全是坏事。从你塞满的收件箱中休息一下，切换到不同类型的电子邮件。2014年，哈佛大学研究员、《幸福之前》的作者肖恩·阿克尔在接受奥普拉采访时表示:“我们如此努力地与消极的情绪作斗争，却忘了告诉人们一封两分钟的积极的电子邮件有多么强大的力量。”
Admit it: There’s nothing quite like a solo jam session, and apparently science agrees. Research shows that trying to boost your mood while listening to music actually can help lift you to a more positive state.
7. While you’re at it, listen to sad music.
No, really. Studies also suggest listening to sad music can help boost positive feelings. (We just see this as another excuse to listen to Adele on repeat.)
8. Give back.
We didn’t get to where we are without a little help, so why not extend that same generosity to someone else? Not only will your kindness influence others, studies show it’ll also make you happier, too.
9. Hang out with someone who is happy.
Joy really is contagious. Research shows the more you surround yourself with positive people, the happier you’ll feel. Time to go catch up with your BFF?
10. Watch a funny video.
听音乐，没有什么比得上即兴独奏演奏会，而且显然科学也同意这一点。研究表明，在听音乐的同时试图提升你的情绪，实际上可以帮助你进入一个更积极的状态。
当你这样做的时候，听听悲伤的音乐。研究还表明，听悲伤的音乐可以帮助提升积极情绪。(我们只是把这看作是重复听阿黛尔音乐的又一个借口。)
回馈，如果没有一点帮助，我们不会走到今天这一步，那么为什么不把同样的慷慨给予其他人呢?研究表明，你的善良不仅会影响别人，还会让你更快乐。
和快乐的人在一起，快乐真的很有感染力。研究表明，你身边积极的人越多，你就会感觉越快乐。是时候去见你的死党了?
看一个有趣的视频。
计划一次假期，对旅行的期待几乎和旅行本身一样好。据《纽约时报》报道，有研究表明，为度假做准备能提高我们的幸福感。温暖的阳光和令人兴奋的斜坡只是额外的奖励。
The anticipation for a trip is almost as good as the trip itself. Prepping for a vacation has been shown to increase our happiness levels, the New York Times reported. The warm sun or exciting slopes are just an added bonus.
12. Whip up a good meal.
Tap into your inner chef and hit the kitchen. Researchers say people who employ creative process in small ways ― like coming up with a new pasta recipe for dinner ― feel happier overall.
13. Get in a good workout.
Consider this our love letter to exercise. Not only is it good for your body, but it’s equally as beneficial to your brain. When you work up a sweat, you release endorphins, immediately upping your happiness levels. Go ahead, get moving.
14. Spend money on experiences.
A fulfilling life doesn’t lie in our possessions, it’s found in the experiences we have and the people we share them with. If you’re going to spend a little moolah, spend it on a trip, a concert or any other experience that will bring you joy. Science says you’ll be happier in the long run.
15. Challenge yourself.
Work for that promotion or take on that marathon. It’s a lovely treat for your mind, according to Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project. “Challenge and novelty are key elements of happiness,” Rubin wrote in Real Simple. “The brain is stimulated by surprise, and successfully dealing with an unexpected situation gives a powerful sense of satisfaction.”
看一个有趣的视频。
计划一次假期，对旅行的期待几乎和旅行本身一样好。据《纽约时报》报道，有研究表明，为度假做准备能提高我们的幸福感。温暖的阳光和令人兴奋的斜坡只是额外的奖励。
赶快做一顿美餐，发掘你内心的厨师欲望，然后进入厨房。研究人员说，在小的方面运用创造性过程的人——比如想出晚餐的新意大利面食谱——总体上感觉更快乐。
好好锻炼身体，把这看作是我们的情书。它不仅对你的身体有好处，而且对你的大脑同样有益。当你出汗时，你会释放内啡肽，立刻提升你的幸福感。继续，行动起来。
在体验上花钱，一个充实的生活不在于我们的财产，而在于我们的经历和与我们分享这些经历的人。如果你打算花点钱，把它花在旅行、音乐会或任何其他能给你带来快乐的经历上。科学表明从长远来看你会更快乐。
挑战自己，为升职或参加马拉松而努力。根据《幸福计划》(The Happiness Project)的作者格雷琴·鲁宾(Gretchen Rubin)的说法，这是对你的心灵的款待。“挑战和新奇是快乐的关键元素，”鲁宾在《Real Simple》中写道。“大脑会受到惊喜的刺激，成功地处理意外情况会给人一种强大的满足感。”
We get it — smiling may be the last thing you want to do when you’re in a sour mood, but it could help to turn that frown upside-down. Research shows faking a smile can help elevate our mood, even if we’re not genuinely into it right away.
17. Go outside.
Take advantage of your backyard or stroll a park you’ve never been to before and thank yourself later. One study found that going for a brief walk in nature can help improve your mood and alleviate stress.
18. Make some new friends.
Research shows making friends increases our happiness and well-being. Join a club, talk to your coworker or strike up a conversation in the grocery line — you never know what kinds of new connections you can make.
19. Drink a glass of milk.
Dairy contains tryptophan, an essential amino acid that helps create serotonin, the “happy” chemical in the brain. Milk: It not only does the body good, it does the brain good too.
20. Take a cozy bath .
If that isn’t the look of happiness, we don’t know what is. Plus, research suggests that warm baths make us feel warm on the inside, too.
假装微笑，我们明白当你心情不好的时候，微笑可能是你最不想做的事，但它可以帮助你把皱眉的状态颠倒过来。研究表明，假装微笑可以帮助提升我们的情绪，即使我们并没有马上真正投入其中。
出去，在后院好好走走或者逛一个你从没去过的公园，然后感谢你自己。一项研究发现，在大自然中散步可以帮助你改善心情，减轻压力。
结交一些新朋友，研究表明交朋友能增加我们的幸福感，加入一个俱乐部，和你的同事交谈，或者在杂货店里搭讪——你永远不知道你能建立什么样的新关系。
喝一杯牛奶，乳制品中含有色氨酸，一种有助于产生5-羟色胺的必需氨基酸，5-羟色胺是大脑中一种“快乐”的化学物质。牛奶：它不仅对身体有好处，对大脑也有好处。
洗个舒服的澡，如果那不是幸福的表情，我们不知道什么是幸福。另外，研究表明，洗热水澡也能让我们的身体感到温暖。
More sleep = A happier you. Too little shuteye slows down our cognitive processes and increases the risk of depression. Try hitting the pillow 30 minutes earlier each night or taking a nap in the middle of the day.
22. Embrace the aging process.
Most people wish they could avoid aging, but studies show that we’re happier as we get older. Experts theorize this could be because the older we get, the more we reflect on positive experiences.
23. Have a good cry.
It sounds counterintuitive, but it may actually work. Research has found that crying can lead to positive increase in mood following the flow of tears. Those in the study reported feeling better than they did before they had a reason to cry.
24. Follow the “golden ratio.”
This theory, developed by positive psychologist Barbara Fredrickson, holds that for every one negative experience you have, you should have three positive ones in order to achieve happiness. Makes sense to us!
25. Show your appreciation for someone else over email.
足够的睡眠，更多的睡眠意味着更快乐。睡眠不足会减缓我们的认知过程，增加抑郁的风险。试着每天晚上提前30分钟睡，或者在中午的时候小睡一会儿。
拥抱衰老的过程，大多数人都希望自己能避免衰老，但研究表明，随着年龄的增长，我们更快乐。专家认为，这可能是因为我们年纪越大，我们对积极经历的反思就越多。
好好哭一场吧，第一直觉可能没有，但实际上可能是有效的。研究发现，哭泣可以让眼泪流下后的情绪得到积极的提升。参与研究的人报告说，他们的感觉比哭之前更好。
遵循“黄金比例”，这个理论是由积极心理学家芭芭拉·弗雷德里克森(Barbara Fredrickson)提出的。她认为，为了获得幸福，你每经历一次消极的经历，就应该有三次积极的经历。这对我们来说很有意义!
通过邮件向别人表达你的感激之情
Your generosity will make your day and their’s. Looking for a way to give praise that isn’t superficial?
27. Find the perfect temperature.
The weather outside has a direct influence on how we feel on the inside. One study found that happiness is maximized at an approximate 57 degrees Fahrenheit.
28. Keep a one-sentence journal.
Sometimes the most mundane moments turn out to be the loveliest source of happiness. Research shows recording these everyday events may make us happier later on because we appreciate them a lot more when they’re revisited. In other words, if you ate a scrumptious chocolate brownie on Wednesday, write it down.
30. Stop to smell the flowers, literally.
One study on how scent affects joy found that participants who were in a floral-scented room sexted three times as many happiness-related terms than negative terms.
赞美别人，你的慷慨会让你和他们的日子都愉快。在寻找一种不肤浅的赞美方式吗?
合适的温度，外面的天气对我们内心的感觉有直接影响。一项研究发现，幸福感在大约57华氏度时达到最大化。
坚持写一句话日记，
有时候，最平凡的时刻也会成为最可爱的幸福源泉。研究表明，记录这些日常事件可能会让我们以后更快乐，因为当我们重新回忆它们时，我们会更感激它们。换句话说，如果你周三吃了美味的巧克力布朗尼，把它写下来。
停下来闻闻花香，一项关于气味如何影响快乐的研究发现，在有花香的房间里的参与者选择与快乐相关的词汇的数量是负面词汇的三倍。
Here’s a good excuse (not that you need one) to hit the sheets: Research suggests having sex can reduce stress. Of course, how much is up to you. But worth a try, eh?
32. Just TRY being happy.
Can you think yourself to joy? Some researchers believe so. According to two experimental studies, taking happiness into your own hands can boost your well-being.
33. Try to cut back on work.
Residents of Denmark, one of the happiest countries in the world, spend less time than most Americans in the office. Only 2 percent of Danes work long hours, which is categorized as 50 hours per week. And full-time workers still devote 66 percent of their day to self-care, like eating and sleeping.
34. Get spiritual.
Spirituality and religion have been lixed to higher happiness and well-being, according to a review of studies on spirituality and health. Sometimes it helps to know you’re connected to something greater than yourself.
35. Celebrate little victories.
There’s power in small moments. Whether it’s getting an answer correct at trivia or catching your favorite song on the radio, indulge in the little “wins” of your day. “I think when we take time to notice the things that go right — it means we’re getting a lot of little rewards throughout the day,” Susan Weinschenk, author of How to Get People to Do Stuff, previously told HuffPost. “That can help with our moods.”
做爱。这里有一个很好的借口（不是说你需要这样的借口）让你上床睡觉：研究表明做爱可以减轻压力。当然，多少取决于你。但值得一试，对吧？
试着开心点。
你能觉得高兴吗?一些研究人员这样认为。根据两项实验研究，把快乐掌握在自己手中可以提高你的幸福感。
尽量减少工作，丹麦是世界上最幸福的国家之一，丹麦居民在办公室的时间比大多数美国人都少。只有2%的丹麦人工作时间很长，每周工作50小时。而全职工作者仍有66%的时间用于自理，比如吃饭和睡觉。
保持精神状态，根据对精神和健康研究的回顾，精神和宗教与更高的幸福感有关。
庆祝小小的胜利，无论是在琐事中得到正确的答案，还是在收音机里听你最喜欢的歌，都要沉迷于一天中的小“胜利”“我认为，当我们花时间注意到事情进展顺利的时候——这意味着我们一整天都能得到很多小回报，”苏珊·温申克，《如何让人们做事》一书的作者，先前告诉《赫夫邮报》这是有助于缓解我们的情绪的。”
Research shows nostalgia makes us happier and more optimistic. Time to dig out those old yearbooks?
37. Skip the small talk and go deep.
Anyone can talk about the weather. Let yourself get a little more connected and have a substantial conversation with someone — research shows it will boost happiness and well-being.
38. Recite a positive mantra.
You can either create your own or find one online (personally, we like these encouraging words). Search for a phrase that’s going to bring meaning to you. Research shows having a mantra can help with bad feelings. Find yours!
39. Spend money on someone else.
Investing in other people really does pay off — for them and for you. According to one 2008 study, spending money on others promotes your own happiness.
40. Become a better listener.
How much do your really pay attention to your conversations? Researchers theorize the more we listen, the happier and more meaningful our lives are — particularly within our relationships. As Epictetus once said, “We have two ears and one mouth so we can listen twice as much as we speak.”
36. 想想快乐的回忆，研究表明，怀旧会让我们更快乐、更乐观。是时候翻出那些旧年鉴了?
37. 别闲聊了，深入点，任何人都可以谈论天气。让你自己与别人有更多的联系，进行一次实质性的交谈——研究表明这会增加幸福感。
38. 背诵积极的咒语，你可以自己创建一个，也可以在网上找到一个(就个人而言，我们喜欢这些鼓励的话)。搜索一个能给你带来意义的短语。研究表明，口头禅可以帮助缓解不良情绪。找到属于你的!
39. 把钱花在别人身上，在别人身上投资确实会有回报——不管是对他们还是对你。根据2008年的一项研究，把钱花在别人身上会让你更快乐。
40. 成为一个更好的倾听者，你有多关注你的谈话?研究人员推断，我们听得越多，我们的生活就越快乐、越有意义——尤其是在人际关系中。正如爱比克泰德曾经说过的那样，“我们有两只耳朵和一张嘴，所以我们听的次数是说的两倍。”
The modern way of motivational crap and Fake Positivity drenched people, Books, videos and articles doling out “Stay Happy, Stay Positive” Bullshit has really screwed the way we seek and perceive happiness.
There are two ways to be happy :
Stay Blindly positive, smile stupidly without any reason to fake it till you make it and pretend that you’re happy under the influence of alcohol, tobacco, drugs, money, power, sex and ignorance
Start working on changing yourself, your mind and thought process to withstand a rough and evil world outside with internal peace of mind that will keep you happy from inside out
“保持快乐，保持积极”的废话真的破坏了我们寻找和感知幸福的方式。
有两种方法可以让你快乐:
保持盲目的积极，傻笑，没有任何理由，假装直到你做到，假装你在酒精，烟草，毒品，金钱，权力，性和无知的影响下很快乐
开始改变你自己，改变你的思想和思维过程，让你内心平和，让你从内到外都快乐。
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If you are ready to really work hard for eternal happiness, If you want to be really happy forever :
The first and foremost thing that you need to realize is that happiness is a state of mind and not a result of your outer world
All materialistic things and external sources of joy in the world can make you Happy, but it wouldn’t last too long unless you have a strong control over your mind and thoughts
And, How do you control your thoughts and mind ?
Live a minimalistic life - Expensive gadgets, fancy restaurants and branded clothes are a Psychological trap created by companies to fool you.
They don’t give you happiness, They just fool you into believing that you are happy
Keep yourself Busy - The more time you spend on social media or any unproductive activity, the more difficult it would be for your mind to get eternal happiness.
Internet gives instant gratification. Productive work will give you inner happiness
Explore new things : Most people do not know what work they like, what things they are good at and what would make their life better tomorrow. Because they never try new things.
Doing new things that you haven’t done before can be life changing.
如果你想选择第二条方式，请继续读下去
如果你真的准备为永远的幸福而努力，如果你想永远的幸福:
你需要意识到的第一件和最重要的事情是，幸福是一种精神状态，而不是你外在世界的结果
世界上所有物质的东西和外部的快乐源泉都能让你快乐，但它不会持续太久，除非你有一个强大到控制你的思想和想法。
你如何控制你的思想和想法?
过一种极简主义的生活——昂贵的小玩意，高档的餐厅和品牌服装都是公司为了愚弄你而制造的心理陷阱。
他们不会给你幸福，他们只是骗你相信你是幸福的。
让自己忙碌起来——你花在社交媒体或任何非生产性活动上的时间越多，你的大脑就越难获得永恒的快乐。
互联网给人即时的满足感。富有成效的工作将给你内在的快乐。
探索新事物:大多数人不知道他们喜欢什么工作，他们擅长什么，什么能让他们的生活更美好。因为他们从不尝试新事物。
做一些你从未做过的新事情可以改变你的生活。
Go beyond your regular and busy life and make time for trying new things.
A goat cannot expect a tiger to not eat her because she’s a vegetarian, similarly, you cannot expect the world to be good to you, if you are good to others
Don’t expect anything from anyone and you’ll be happy from inside
If you keep on trying to be happy, you’ll never be happy for too long
But if you are willing to change yourself from inside, you’ll never be dependent on your external conditions to be happy
可以是编码、写作、公共演讲、烹饪、烘焙、教学、跳舞、玩一种新运动或练习瑜伽，保持身心健康。
超越常规和忙碌的生活，腾出时间尝试新事物。
山羊不能指望老虎带给它快乐，因为她是素食主义者而不吃她，同样，如果你对别人好，你也不能指望世界对你好。
不要期望从任何人那里得到任何东西，你会从内心得到快乐。
如果你一直努力让自己快乐，你这快乐不会持续很久。
但是如果你愿意从内在改变自己，你就永远不会依赖外在条件来获得快乐。
Once Upon a time, there was a saint. He was disturbed by one of his students.
His Student was very lazy and always use to procrastinate and The saint used to be disturbed by his student.
One day in morning saint called that student and given him a piece of stone and said to him that it is magical stone and whenever you touch the stone with iron. the iron will become gold.
The student was happy that the saint had given him magical stone but saint had also mentioned that he is going outside the village and he will come back tomorrow in eve.. after coming back he will take the stone.
The saint left the place after handing over the magical stone to his student.
Now the student started thinking about what he can do with that stone. first, he decided that he will think the whole day what can be done after getting so much wealth.
Next Day, he thought the saint will come in the evening, He has a lot of time he decided to have lunch first then after launch he decided to take some rest and after that, he will go to market buy a lot of iron and convert that in gold.
从前，有个圣人，他被他的一个学生打扰了。
圣人的学生非常懒惰，经常拖拖拉拉，圣人常常被学生打扰。
一天早晨，圣人把那个学生叫来，给了他一块石头，并对他说，这是一块神奇的石头，你用铁去碰它。铁会变成金子。
学生很高兴圣人给了他魔法石，但圣人也提到他要去村外，明天晚上就会回来。回来后，他会把石头拿走。
圣人把魔法石交给他的学生后离开了那个地方。
现在这个学生开始思考他可以用那块石头做什么。首先，他决定一整天都想在得到这么多财富后能做些什么。
第二天，他以为圣人会在晚上来，他有很多时间，他决定先吃午饭，然后在行动，他决定休息一下，然后，他会去市场买很多铁，转化成黄金。
Now Let's come on the actual question, How can I be happy?
There is one rule of being happy and successful is Taking Action.
Take Action when other procrastinate. Take action when others are sleeping. Take Action when others are thinking. Take action when others are not even listening. Take action when others are daydreaming. Dreamers can’t change the world, Doers can. Start Taking actions and the action brings satisfaction of trying instead of thinking. The simple way of being happy is taking action.
“Remember, it isn't the dreamers who have good lives - it's the doerS.”
休息的时候，他在想得到那么多钱后会做什么，突然他睡着了。晚上，他醒了，跑到市场去买铁，但在路上，他找到了圣人，圣人说，你的时间已经结束了，把石头还给我。
现在让我们来讨论真正的问题，我如何才能快乐?
要想获得快乐和成功，有一条规则就是采取行动。
在其他人拖延的时候采取行动。在别人睡觉的时候采取行动。在别人思考的时候采取行动。当别人都不听的时候就采取行动。当别人在做白日梦的时候采取行动。梦想家不能改变世界，实干家可以。开始采取行动，行动会给你带来尝试而不是思考的满足感。快乐的简单方法就是采取行动。
“记住，拥有美好生活的并不是梦想家，而是实干家。”
The happiest person I've ever met in my life wasn’t a millionaire, a billionaire or someone that won the lottery (I actually haven’t met any of those three yet, but it helps the story).
It was a guy that works at the cashier at my local supermarket.
He seems to be the happiest, friendliest and most fulfilled person on this planet.
I never saw someone being so passionate about doing his job. He talks to everyone, asks how their day was and usually lightens up my and everybody else’s day. It’s a gift.
Sometimes I even go and buy my stuff there just to see his friendliness at work. It fascinates me every time.
But it also makes me wonder what his recipe might be, his recipe for happiness. And why so many people are chasing what he seems to have found.
Most importantly, he probably found it without ever having searched for it. Maybe one magic morning it just happened to be there. And I guess that might be his secret sauce.
The secret sauce that might help all of us to be happier and enjoy our lives even more (in case there is such thing as happiness).
我一生中遇到的最幸福的人不是百万富翁，不是亿万富翁，也不是中了彩票的人(实际上这三种人我都没见过，这对我的故事有帮助)。
我家附近超市的收银员打来似乎是这个星球上最快乐、最友好、最满足的人。
我从没见过有人这么热爱自己的工作。他和每个人聊天，问他们这一天过得怎么样，通常会让我和其他人的一天变得愉快，这是一个礼物。
有时我甚至会去那里买东西，只是为了看看他在工作中的友善。它每次都让我着迷。
但这也让我想知道他的幸福秘诀是什么。还有为什么那么多人追逐他似乎已经找到的东西。
最重要的是，他可能在没有寻找的情况下就找到了它。也许是某个神奇的早晨它碰巧在那里。我猜这可能是他的秘密武器。
秘密酱料可能会帮助我们所有人更快乐，甚至更享受我们的生活。
We get the feeling that something might be missing in our lives. A feeling that could best be described with unhappiness. So we start the pursuit of happiness. A never ending pursuit...
This is something completely natural and human. So the question should be more about how we can stop questioning our own path and start living a happy life instead.
To answer this question let's take a look at this beautiful short story, which is a true story by the way (originally appeared in form of a poem in The New Yorker, May 16th, 2005):
An author was at a party on Shelter Island given by a billionaire. A friend came over to him and asked him how he felt that the guy throwing this party makes more money a day than he will ever be able to make with all of his books combined. And the author said, “Fair enough. But I’ve got something he can never have”. “Now what could that be?”, his friend was wondering. And the author replied, “Enough”.
Not having enough is the beginning of the vicious circle and the reason why we start comparing ourselves with others, start questioning our own path and feel like something is missing (although we might already have everything).
As soon as we start realizing the power of having enough we might get a step closer to finding the key to happiness.
The key that the guy working at the cashier at my local supermarket has found already. The key we are all trying to find.
一旦我们开始质疑我们现在正在做的事情，看到成百上千的其他闪亮的机会，开始与他人比较，让自己被他人美好生活所蒙蔽，我们开始质疑自己的道路。
我们总觉得生活中缺失了什么。这种感觉可以用不快乐来形容。所以我们开始永无止境的追求幸福。
这是完全自然和人性的事情。所以问题应该更多地是关于我们如何停止对自己的道路的质疑，转而开始一种幸福的生活。
为了回答这个问题，让我们来看看这个美丽的短篇故事，这是一个真实的故事(最初以诗歌的形式出现)
一位作家参加了一个亿万富翁在希尔德岛举办的聚会。一个朋友来找他，说他觉得开这个派对的人一天赚的钱比他所有的书加起来赚的还多。作者说，“很好。但我拥有他永远得不到的东西。”“那是什么呢?”他的朋友想。作者回答说:“够了。”
觉得不够就是恶性循环的开始，这也是为什么我们开始与他人比较，开始质疑自己的道路，感觉缺少了一些东西(尽管我们可能已经拥有了一切)。
一旦我们开始意识到拥有足够的力量，我们就会离找到幸福的钥匙更近一步。
我家附近超市的收银员已经找到了那把钥匙。我们都在寻找的钥匙。