你喜欢自己什么？(下)
What do you like about yourself?
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这是一个好问题，因为我一直在自我厌恶自己，是时候想想真正喜欢我自己的东西了。
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What do you like about yourself?
你喜欢自己什么？
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· I sort of have a photographic memory. Although it is not as strong as it was when I was younger but I can look at a book with one glance and vividly see them in my mind at will when I was younger. It helped a lot in school during exams. I wasn't really diagnosed with it by anyone most of them just assume I have a great memory but my parents never wondered why. Though now, I'd have to get a few moments before I can store the details in my mind but it is still pretty accurate. Even the past books I've read before, I can still clearly see some of the pages I genuinely like.
· I remember almost everything. It helps that I write everyday about my daily encounters and experiences in life. I remember everyone's birthdays special events, historical events and even the awkward things that happened to me years ago. It is both a blessing and a curse. Sometimes it would even play back on my mind and it makes me cry because I can't get over it even if it happened ages ago.
这是一个好问题，因为我一直在自我厌恶自己，是时候想想真正喜欢我自己的东西了。
我有一种摄影般的记忆力。虽然没有年轻时那么强大，但我可以一目了然地看一本书，在年轻时随意地在脑海中生动地看到它们。在学校考试期间对我帮助很大。我没有被任何人真的诊断出来，他们中的大多数人只是认为我记忆力很好，但我的父母从来不知道为什么。虽然现在，在我能把细节储存在脑子里之前，我需要一些时间，但它仍然相当准确。即使是以前读过的旧书，我还是能清晰的看到一些真心喜欢的页面。
我几乎记得一切东西。这有助于我每天写下我在生活中的日常遭遇和经历。我记得每个人的生日、特殊事件、历史事件，甚至是几年前发生在我身上的尴尬事情。既是福也是祸。有时它甚至会在我的脑海中回放，让我哭泣，因为即使它发生在很久以前，我也无法忘记它。
· I have a thirst for knowledge. I am the kind of person who wants to know every single thing about everything. My interests ranges from literature, arts, history, science, technology, philosophy, religion, paranormal, mysteries etc. Basically everything about the Universe and how it works. I find it exciting whenever I would unravel all the mysteries that is out there.
· I am an introvert. I know how to socialize, I used to like being in the center of attention, I used to like hanging out with people and I pretty much get along with everybody. But now, I mostly prefer to be alone. I've outgrown the ideas of popularity and having too many friends. It can be toxic and draining. There are also a lot of dramas, jealousy, competitions which makes relationships with other people difficult. I learned how to avoid all of those unhealthy things in my life. I am now fine with having few good friends who will stick with you no matter what. Being alone doesn't have to be a bad thing. Whenever I am all by myself and at peace, I can find comfort.
· I am a bookworm. It didn't occur to me until I was 12 where I finally knew my love for reading books. I have had a lot of books when I was younger and I love reading them over and over again. I have a great collection of old and new books (some I have given away to my friends). Reading makes me feel more alive, bringing me to places I have never been and letting me experience adventures in a different world. It lets me live a thousand lives and I don't feel stuck in the same place I've always been whenever I read. Some of my favorite authors include: Anne Rice (her Interview with the Vampire books and the Claiming of Sleeping Beauty series), Dan Brown (my favorite is Deception Point),J.K. Rowling (Harry Potter), Sally Gardner (The Red Necklace and the Silver Blade), Tolkien (Lord of the Rings duh..). Oh I could go on and on... I also love the classics written by Jane Austen, Leo Tolstoy, Louisa May Alcott, Victor Hugo even the classic works of Shakespeare. Literature has never been boring for me.
我是一个天生就很好奇的人。有时这可能会让别人很烦。我喜欢和那些我觉得有趣的人交谈，因为我喜欢从别人的角度来看待东西。这让我更了解这个世界。我喜欢观察远处的人。我喜欢观察人类的行为。
我渴望知识。我是那种想知道每件事的人。我的兴趣范围包括文学、艺术、历史、科学、技术、哲学、宗教、灵异、神秘等等。基本上关于宇宙的一切以及它是如何工作的。每当我揭开外面所有的神秘面纱时，我都感到兴奋。
我是个内向的人。我知道如何社交，我过去喜欢成为关注的焦点，喜欢与人交往，我和每个人都相处得很好。但是现在，我大多时候更喜欢一个人。我已经不再有想受欢迎和拥有朋友的想法了。这使得与他人的关系变得困难。我学会了如何避免生活中所有那些不健康的事情。现在不管发生什么，没有几个好朋友会和我在一起。一个人不一定是坏事。每当我独自一人，心平气和的时候，我就能找到慰藉。
我是一个书呆子。直到12岁，我才意识到我对读书的热爱。我年轻的时候有很多书，我喜欢一遍又一遍地读。我收藏了大量的新旧书籍(有些我已经送给了我的朋友)。读书让我感觉更有活力，带我去从未去过的地方，让我体验不同世界的冒险。它让我过上了一千种生活，而且每当我阅读时，我不会感到被困在我一直在的地方。我最喜欢的一些作者包括:安妮·赖斯(她对吸血鬼的采访和《睡美人的权利》系列)、丹·布朗(我最喜欢的是《欺骗点》)、J.K罗琳(哈利·波特)、莎莉·加德纳(红项链和银刃)、托尔金(指环王)..)哦，我可以继续说下去，我也喜欢简·奥斯汀、路易斯·卡罗尔、路易莎·梅·奥尔科特、维克多·雨果甚至莎士比亚的经典作品。我从来都不觉得文学很无聊。
· I learned English at MMORPG games. My parents introduced me to MMORPG games. at 6 years old. Although, I can speak simple English during that age, I can say that I more English through the angry Americans yelling during raids than in school. I even picked up a neutral accent. But school helped me improved grammar. (Sorry if my grammar and punctuation are terrible here, it's been years since I was writing formally).
· I am a writer or at least I'd like to think that I am. No, I am not a professional nor a published writer. I write everything . I just love it and I am passionate about it more than anything else. It is one the little things that actually makes me happy. I may not be qualified to be one of the best-selling authors, a journalist or a famous blogger but nothing will stop me from writing. I wish I can do it for a living but the practical people around me thinks it is stupid and useless and chances of making my dreams come true is incredibly thin. Nevertheless, I will still write my thoughts, feelings, poetry.
我是个书呆子。我是《星球大战》的超级粉丝。看过电影，看过连续剧，看过书，看过漫画，甚至玩过游戏。我也痴迷《权力的游戏》。看书，看节目，甚至回答了很多关于它的问题。我钦佩GRRM，因为他捕捉到了我梦寐以求的终极幻想世界。除了《星球大战》和《权力的游戏》，我还是漫威和DC的粉丝。
我在MMORPG游戏上学会了英语。我爸妈在我6岁的时候给我介绍了MMORPG游戏。虽然，在那个年龄，我会说简单的英语，但我可以说，通过愤怒的美国人在突袭中大喊大叫，我比在学校学到了更多的英语。我甚至学会了中性口音。但是学校帮助我提高了语法。(如果我这里的语法和标点符号很糟糕的话，很抱歉，我已经多年没有正式写作了)。
我是个作家，至少我愿意这么认为。我不是专业人士，也不是出版作家。我什么都写。我就是喜欢它，我对它充满激情，胜过一切。这是一个小事情，实际上让我高兴。我可能没有资格成为畅销书作家，记者或著名博客作者，但没有什么能阻止我写作。我希望我能以此为生，但是我周围的人认为这是愚蠢和无用的，使我的梦想成真的机会是非常渺茫的。尽管如此，我还是会写我的思想，感情，诗歌。
· I am a highly sympathetic person. This is due to putting myself on to someone’s shoes. I don't judge easily. I always let myself see things in their perspective so I could understand the situation better before I give my judgment.
· I am a good debater. Although later in life, I suddenly had a major fear of speaking in front of the crowd (despite of my experiences performing on stage whether it is acting, speeches, dancing or singing in front of an audience for years), it takes time for me to muster my courage to speak up but when I do, I will burn you alive. ( just kidding, do I sound too arrogant and boastful?) Thanks to my anxiety issues (though anxiety is not a joke okay?) and nonstop worrying about every single thing, I always worry about the next possible scenario, calculate them (what if they said this and that? How do I counter this?), I always think about how to counter every imaginable series of events and I would look at it at every angle. I would look at each logical fallacies you commit and use them against you. I would always think about understanding both sides of the argument thoroughly and it helps me a lot to win them. I had many fun (healthy) debates in my school years.
· I am good at connecting with people. Maybe not to everyone but I made many good friends who shared their stories, lessons and wisdom in life. I like to consider myself as a people person despite of preferring to be alone most of the time. I like people with depth, I like listening to their stories and being a part of their life even if I am just a tiny percentage of it. This is a place where you can share experiences, knowledge and wisdom for everybody hoping it can help someone.
将歌曲和故事粘贴到一张纸上(或打印出来，因为我们生活在高科技中。)因为写作让我在没人想听的时候有发言权。
我是一个非常有同情心的人。这是因为我能共情。我不轻易下结论。我总是让自己从他们的角度来看问题，这样在我做出判断之前，我就能更好地了解情况.
我是一个优秀的辩手。虽然在后来的生活中，我突然很害怕在人群面前说话(尽管我在舞台有多年表演的经验，无论是表演、演讲、跳舞还是在观众面前唱歌)，但我需要时间来鼓起勇气说出来，但当我这样做的时候，我会把你活活“烧”死。(开个玩笑，我是不是听起来太自吹自擂了？)感谢我的焦虑问题，并且不停的担心每一件事，我总是担心下一个可能的场景，计算他们(如果他们说这个说那个呢？我该如何应对？)，我总是想着如何反击每一个可以想象到的系列事件，我会从各个角度去看。我会看着你犯下的每一个逻辑谬误，并用它们来对付你。我总是想彻底理解争论的双方，这对我赢得他们很有帮助。我在学校的时候有过很多有趣(健康)的辩论。
我擅长与人交往。也许不是对每个人，但我交了许多好朋友，他们分享了他们的故事、教训和人生智慧。我喜欢把自己当成一个喜欢与人交往的人，尽管大多数时候我更喜欢独处。我喜欢有深度的人，我喜欢听他们的故事，成为他们生活的一部分，即使我只是其中的一小部分。这是一个你可以分享经验、知识和智慧的地方，每个人都希望它能帮助别人。
· I think I am beautiful. （never in my life I thought I'd feel confident saying it to random people who would potentially disagree but let me have this confidence while I still have it. I just don't want to sound arrogant) I thank my parents and my ancestors for giving me great genes.People often compliment me with my youthful look and pretty face even if I don't usually present myself at my best. My mom is really beautiful (people would even think we are sisters) and my dad is looks younger than his age. I have a beautiful sister as well and most women in our clan are generally good looking. We are beautiful family.
我的成就。我只有19岁，但我很自豪地说，我在那个年龄获得了信息技术理学学士学位，我也获得了全额奖学金！我真的很努力。我在学校度过了一生中难忘的时光。这是我发现自己潜力的地方，也是我真正激情所在的地方。我是一名校园作家，我的作品在地区、部门和地区竞赛中获得了几个奖项。我希望我从事写作事业，但我必须选择一条实用的道路。我写了数百首诗。它始于我10岁的时候，我们有一个家庭作业，我们需要写一个排比句。人们喜欢我写的东西，正是在那个时候，我意识到，我喜欢写诗。我12岁时写了第一本书，但它们还没有出版。我把我写的作品保存在一个盒子里。我只是没有得到足够的支持，我认为它还没有准备好被审查和出版，但总有一天会到达那个阶段。
我觉得我很美。（我从来没有想过我会自信地对那些可能不同意我观点的人说这话，但让我在仍然有这种自信的时候拥有这种自信。我只是不想显得傲慢）我感谢我的父母和我的祖先给了我伟大的基因。人们经常赞美我年轻的容貌和美丽的脸庞，即使我通常不会表现出我最好的一面。我妈妈真的很漂亮（人们甚至会认为我们是姐妹），我爸爸看起来比他的实际年龄小。我还有一个漂亮的妹妹，我们家族的大多数女人都很漂亮。我们是一个美丽的家庭。
1. I like that I am confrontational: I have never been the person to shy away from a topic or conversation because I thought the other person would feel uncomfortable. I am a very honest woman and I pride myself in that.
2. I’m very sensitive to a person’s feelings: There are so many things I have come to learn about my friends over the years that I’ve known them. Lots of dark secrets which was told to me in confidence. In the moment of a fight, I have never thrown a person’s insecurity in their faces. I have always remained respectful and expressed myself without fighting dirty.
3. I wholeheartedly believe in redemption: There is no one in my life currently now or in my past, that I would refuse to speak to if we had a bad fall out. I don’t believe in holding grudges. If you have wronged me, I will eliminate you from my life. But if you come to me years down the road, wanting to mend our relationship, I am more than willing to. I don’t hold onto hate.
我喜欢这样的话，我是一个有对抗性的人：我从来没有因为我认为对方会感到不舒服而回避话题或谈话。我是一个非常诚实的女人，我为自己感到骄傲。
我对一个人的感受非常敏感:这些年来，我了解了很多关于我朋友的事情，以至于我认识了他们。很多秘密都是秘密告诉我的。在打架的那一刻，我从来没有把一个人的不安全感丢在他们脸上。我一直尊重他人，表达自己，而不与肮脏作斗争。
我十分相信救赎:在我的生活中，无论是现在还是过去，如果我们发生了严重的争吵，我都不会拒绝和任何人说话。我不记仇。如果你冤枉了我，我会把你从我的生活中消除。但是如果你多年以后来找我，想要修复我们的关系，我非常愿意，我不坚持仇恨。
2. I’m very open minded: I don’t believe religion should dictate how a person should think. I’m very big on LGBTQ rights. I attend Pride Parade every year. I don’t shame a person for being promiscuous, drinker, or even drug user. I had a friend who was scared to come out to me, because he was worried how I would view him. I knew he was gay even before he came out to me. Your sexual orientation does not matter to me.
3. I’m empathetic: I understand hardship, I understand financial struggle. I understand there are times when everything seems to be going wrong. I won’t ever put down a person for their insecurities or struggles. Karma is real and you don’t want Karma to come for you.
4. I love unconditionally: If you have a place in my life, I love you for who you are. Not what you can provide for me. I’ve known so many people who keep a circle around them, simply for what they can provide for them. I don’t believe in a relationship like that. I don’t use people, nor do I expect people in my life to view me as someone they can use.
5. I will celebrate your every achievement as though it is my own: You got pregnant? Congratulations! You kicked that awful habit? Lovely let’s celebrate! You passed your exam that you were stressing about! Let’s get drinks! I’m never going to diminish someone’s light because I’m jealous. Your victory is as important as my own. I want you to feel validated and loved as I would want to feel in that situation.
我喜欢学习新的文化:我几乎没有孟加拉朋友。我的大多数朋友和我属于不同的种族。我喜欢了解人们和我有多么不同。语言，美食，家庭价值观，信仰，道德。所有这些关于你的事情，对我来说都很有趣。教我你的生活方式吧。
我的思想很开放: 我认为宗教不应该规定一个人应该如何思考。我对同性恋权利很感兴趣。我每年都参加同志游行。我不会因为一个人滥交，酗酒，甚至吸毒而羞辱他。我有个朋友不敢向我坦白，因为他担心我会怎么看他。在他向我坦白之前，我就知道他是同性恋。我不在乎你的性取向。
我很有同情心，我理解困难，我理解经济困难。我知道有时候一切似乎都不对劲。我不会因为一个人的不安全感和挣扎而放弃他。因果报应是真的，你不希望因果报应来找你。
我无条件地爱:如果你在我的生活中有一席之地，我爱你是因为你是谁。不是你能为我提供什么。我认识很多人，他们围绕着自己，只是为了他们能为自己提供什么。我不相信那样的关系。我不利用人，也不指望生活中的人把我当成可以利用的人。
我会像庆祝自己的成就一样庆祝你的每一项成就:你怀孕了？恭喜！你改掉了那个坏习惯？让我们好好庆祝一下！你通过了你紧张的考试！我们去喝酒吧！我永远不会因为嫉妒而贬低别人的光芒。你的胜利和我的一样重要。我想让你感受到被认可和被爱，就像我在那种情况下想感受到的那样。
7. I'm a fighter and survivor: I don't shy away from a fight. At 18, I was arranged to a marriage without my consent. I fought tooth and nail for that divorce. I got it 22. I've suffered at the hands of domestic abuse, sexual harassment. I've had my friends that I would do anything for, turn their backs on me. I've had trust broken by people who I thought I could trust. I've faced bullying at a young age for being the only Southern Asian female in my neighborhood. It wasn't easy to overcome but that didn't shape my personality to be meek and withdrawn. I have a voice and I will use it. Not diminish it because of my past experiences.
8. Words don't break me: I come from a family that uses words to mentally break you. I've seen family members tear each other apart using confidential insecurities as weapons. I know how this weapon is utilized and I took away its power. I don't pay attention to what people think of me. The comments are the same “she's that arrogant American that is divorced! Broke that man's heart by divorcing him. She's so stupid. Who will want her now?” When you stop caring what people have to say about you, everything becomes so much calmer. Don't allow people to hurt you. You know your worth. You know every battle you had to overcome. All they know is the surface level information.
我努力变得更好:我知道我并不完美。我有缺点，我没有忽视我有缺点。我承认他们，努力让自己变得更好。我永远不会假设我拥有一切。如果我冤枉了你，或者让你难过，我很抱歉。我正在努力成为最好的自己。
我是一名战士和幸存者:我不会逃避战斗。18岁，未经我同意，我就被安排结婚了。我竭尽全力争取离婚。我22岁离婚。我遭受过家庭虐待和性骚扰。我曾经有过我的朋友，我愿意为他们做任何事，而他们却背叛了我。我被我认为可以信任的人打破了信任。我很小就面临欺凌，因为我是我邻居中唯一的南亚女性。这不容易克服，但这并没有塑造我温顺和孤僻的性格。我会发声，也不会因为我过去的经历而减少它。
言语不能让我崩溃:我来自一个用言语让你精神崩溃的家庭。我见过家人用保密的不安全感作为武器，把对方撕成碎片。我知道这种武器是如何使用的，我拿走了它的力量。我不在意别人对我的看法。评论都是一样的“她就是那个离婚的自大的美国人！和他离婚伤了他的心。她太傻了。现在谁会想要她？”当你不再在乎别人对你的评价时，一切都变得平静多了。不允许别人伤害你。你知道你的价值。你知道你要战胜的每一场战斗。他们只知道表层信息。
10. I value Education: I'm privileged to be able to continue my education and become a better woman. I have my Bachelors now and plan on getting a law degree. After a while I might even consider a PhD. There are so many Bengali woman that have been stripped of their rights to pursue an education. They for married off young and forced to become a mother. So many women begged their husbands to go to school to be able to make something of themselves. Their husbands are so terrified of their wives having a shred of independence that they refuse to even allow them to learn English. I have family members that to this day talk about wishing they could finish school and make something of themselves.
我很感激，并努力在生活中每天都这样做:我有一个表弟曾经问我，你是怎么到美国的？我说我是在那里出生的。他问我为什么？我说不知道。我父母移民到那里的。我想我很幸运。他说“是的，你很幸运。”那时我大概11、12岁。只是个孩子。永远不会忘记。有很多人会喜欢住在国外的特权，享受我们现在的生活。孟加拉国是一个非常贫穷的国家。如果你不富有，你就得挣扎。性别歧视是一个主要问题。宗教对那里的人们起着重要的作用。LGBTQ权利不被承认。每天断电，几个小时甚至一整天。性教育不存在。去孟加拉国参观后，我开始理解那里的人们有多么不同。我永远感谢生在美国。没有一天会忘记为自己是美国人而自豪。
我重视教育:我很荣幸能够继续接受教育，成为一个更好的女人。我现在有学士学位，并计划获得法律学位。过一段时间，我甚至会考虑读博。有这么多孟加拉妇女被剥夺了受教育的权利。他们年轻时结婚，被迫做了母亲。所以许多妇女恳求她们的丈夫让她去上学，以便能够让自己有所作为。他们的丈夫非常害怕他们的妻子有丝毫的独立性，以至于他们甚至拒绝让他们学习英语。我的家人至今都在谈论希望他们能完成学业，出人头地。
12. I don't judge, not even privately: I have friends from all different backgrounds. Ethnicity, religion, cultural values, mindset. I have friends that have faced really dark times in their lives. Sexual assault, domestic abuse, extreme poverty, etc. I don't every belittle a person based on their struggles. I really don't like gossipy people who talk about their friends behind their backs in an attempt to make them feel superior. I'm appreciative that you confided your struggles with me and I'm happy to know I'm someone you can trust to share your pain with.
我不像我的上一代人:我不持有上一代人持有的价值观。我不相信要违背女人的意愿把她嫁出去。我不相信婚姻只是一男一女之间的事。我不相信自杀比羞辱家人好。我不相信婚前性行为会使一个人被看不起。我没有坚持我的家庭所代表的任何信仰或价值观。我不允许宗教支配我的价值观。我是属于我自己，并以此为荣。
我不评判，甚至私下也不评判:我有各种不同背景的朋友。种族，宗教，文化价值观，心态。我有一些朋友在他们的生活中经历过非常黑暗的时期。性侵，家暴，赤贫等。我不会因为一个人的奋斗而贬低他。我真的不喜欢那些八卦的人在背后谈论他们的朋友，试图让他们觉得自己高人一等。我很感激你向我倾诉你的挣扎，我很高兴知道我是一个你可以信任的人来分担你的痛苦。
14. I'm proud to have grown: I've faced lots of obstacles that were very difficult. They may not all have been in my favor, but I have gained some insight about myself with each incident. I'm proud to have matured and continued to do so. I'm eager to meet the woman I become 10-15 years from now.
15. I'm not too proud to seek for help: I was in a bad place after my marriage. After a few years I sought out therapy. It was one of the best decisions of my life. After finally opening up to someone about the marriage, who validated my pain, told me that I had suffered from PTSD and allowed me to break down and cry was liberating. It wasn't a dirty secret that I had to be ashamed of and hide. It became a valid pain that I would no longer allow to control me. I'm not too proud to ask for help. I'm grateful for it. My therapist helped me from sinking into a deep hole of depression. I was able to free myself of the pain I held onto for years. Therapy saved my life.
我喜欢学习:不管是关于精神疾病。过去的挣扎、不同类型的美食还是不同的经历。我一直对学习新东西持开放态度，从不声称自己什么都知道或不想尝试新东西。
我为自己的成长感到骄傲:我面临过许多非常困难的障碍。他们可能并不都是对我有利的，但每个事件让我对自己有了一些了解。我为自己变得成熟并继续成熟而自豪。我渴望遇见10-15年后的我。
我也不至于骄傲到不去寻求帮助:结婚后我的处境很糟糕。几年后，我寻求治疗。这是我一生中最好的决定之一。在最终向某人敞开心扉谈论婚姻后，他证实了我的痛苦，告诉我我患有创伤后应激障碍，并允许我崩溃和哭泣，这是一种解放。这不是一个让我感到羞耻和该隐藏的肮脏的秘密。这成了一种我不再允许控制我的有效的痛苦。我不会骄傲到不去寻求帮助，我很感激我的治疗师帮助我避免陷入深深的抑郁深渊。我能够把自己从多年的痛苦中解脱出来，治疗救了我的命。