你觉得自己漂亮吗？（下）

Louise Blackwood, Dancing for 16 years
I've always been highly praised for my beauty by friends, family and strangers. I've never been the subject to much abuse based on how I look, never been told I'm unattractive in such a way etc, though I have experienced racism. I've always been a magnet, been popular since day one. This has most certainly impacted how I see myself. What we are subjected to at a young age help to mold us.
I'm quite intelligent, very logical. I have a more relaxed personality and don't get off on the attention I receive. Despite my praise I've stayed humble and this is because of the people I'm surrounded by and my own curiosity, open mind and gentle nature.

朋友、家人和陌生人总是对我的美貌赞不绝口。虽然我经历过种族歧视，但我从来没有因为我的外表而受到太多的辱骂，从来没有人说我没有吸引力等等。我一直很有吸引力，从（我）出生第一天起就很受欢迎。这无疑影响了我如何看待自己。我们年轻时所受的影响会塑造我们。
我很聪明，也很有逻辑。我的个性更放松，（所以）不会因为受到别人关注而受影响。尽管我受到了表扬，但我仍然保持谦虚，这是因为我周围的人以及我自己的好奇心、开放的思想和温和的天性。

I know I'm priveliged to have been given the life I have and I'm grateful for it. I try to leave positive impacts on others and love to share my education with others.
I do struggle with it sometimes though. Pros and cons/good and bad will always come together. I tend to attract negative attention just as much as I attract positive attention. This has forced me to learn harsh lessons.
I have insecurities like everyone else. I have days were my confidence is low, self doubt, anxieties. I feel the same pressures from society.

我知道我很荣幸能有这样的生活，我对此很感激。我努力给他人留下积极的影响，而且（我）喜欢与他人分享我的教育。
不过，我有时也会为此而挣扎。利与弊/好与坏总是在一起的。我倾向于吸引消极的注意力，就像我吸引积极的注意力一样。这迫使我吸取了惨痛的教训。
我和其他人一样没有安全感。我曾有过信心低落、自我怀疑、焦虑的日子。我也感受到了来自社会的压力。

I don't let it get to me, I don't let it ruin my view of myself. I refuse to degrade myself in the ways I'd never do to someone else. I'm aware of the fact that I'm only human. My beauty isn't the most important thing and it isn't what I want my entire life to be about. I want to live how I wish to without regrets. The most important person in my life is me, someone else's opinion means very little.
I think everyone should think well of themselves.We all have such a beautiful uniqueness.
Health and happiness both physically and mentally is what matters! Be kind to yourself, be patient. We're all perfect, we're supposed to be who we are. Treat yourself and others with the utmost respect and leave this world with a smile.

我不会让它影响我，不会让它毁了我对自己的看法。我拒绝以我从未对别人做过的方式贬低自己。我知道我只是个普通人。我的美丽不是最重要的，也不是我这一生想要的。我要过我希望的没有遗憾的生活。我生命中最重要的人是我自己，别人的意见无关紧要。我认为每个人都应该为自己着想。我们都有如此美丽的独特之处。
身体和精神上的健康和快乐才是最重要的!善待自己，并且有耐心。我们都是完美的，我们应该做我们自己。尊重自己和他人，带着微笑离开这个世界。

Katarína Nahálková, studies at Masaryk University (2023)

卡塔里娜·纳哈尔科娃，就读于马萨里克大学（2023年）

Well, yes I do. But my country and the people around me do not.
I never got the perks attractive people receive until I went to Japan. I have also never had anyone (openly) hit on me/confess their feelings until one year ago when I was 19 and I never received attention for being pretty. I think it might have something to do with the beauty standards in my country, Slovakia. Where I live, tan, “exotic” looking, tall, model-like girls are considered attractive.

是的，我漂亮。但我自己的国家和我身边的人没让我觉得我漂亮。
直到我去了日本，我才得到有魅力的人所得到的特殊待遇。直到一年前我19岁的时候，还从来没有任何人（公开）挑逗我或者向我表白，我从来没有因为漂亮而受到关注。我想这可能和我的国家斯洛伐克的美丽标准有关。在我住的地方，棕褐色（的头发），“异国情调”的长相，高高的，模特般的女孩被认为很有吸引力。

But I look nothing like that. I’m very pale, short-ish with light brown hair naturally (now it’s dyed red) and very round features. Until I came to Japan, I felt kinda ugly. But in Japan, I really experienced what is it like to feel pretty. I got random compliments from strangers, got asked if I was a model and all my friends from Japan just stared at me in disbelief when I told them I hadn’t really considered myself pretty before I came there. I had originally thought that they were complimenting me so much just because I was of a different race, but when I learned about the Japanese beauty standards, I came to realise that I really do fit almost all of them and whether I feel pretty or not mostly depends on what’s considered “pretty” in the country I live at the moment.
Eventually, I just decided to live with the mindset that I had when I was in Japan - that I am pretty. I am trying to stop caring whether I am receiving attention for my looks or not and simply trying to love myself.

但我看起来一点也不像那样。我脸色苍白，头发略短，并且天生的浅棕色(现在染成了红色)，五官很圆。在我来到日本之前，我觉得自己有点丑。但是在日本，我真正体验了漂亮是什么感觉。我会得到陌生人随机的称赞，他们问我是不是模特，当我告诉他们我来日本之前并不觉得自己漂亮时，我所有的日本朋友都难以置信地盯着我。我原本以为他们称赞我仅仅因为我是一个不同种族的,但当我了解了日本的审美标准,我开始意识到我（的长相）真的适合这里几乎所有的人,我觉得漂亮与否主要取决于是否在（目前我所在的）这个国家认为什么是“漂亮”。
最终，我还是决定保持我在日本时的心态——我很漂亮。我正试着不去在意别人对我外表的关注，只想着爱自己。

This is me a couple of months ago, with no makeup (replaced the photo because this one is more recent):

这是几个月前的我，没化妆(之所以用这张照片，因为这张照片是最近的):

There is already a person in my life that I am in love with. I am not interested in getting to know anyone with a romantic interest, sorry.
To the “you were only pretty because you were a foreigner” comments: Yes, it did play a role in the way people perceived me in Japan, as I mentioned in my answer above. No, it was not the only reason why “I was pretty” there. I know other white foreigners my age, who had a bit different experiences.

我这辈子已经爱上了一个人。抱歉，我没兴趣再去认识一个浪漫的人。
对于“你漂亮只是因为你是外国人”的评论：是的，正如我在上面的回答中提到的，这确实在日本人们对我的看法中起到了作用。不过，这不是“我很漂亮”的唯一原因。我认识其他和我同龄的白人外国人，他们的经历有些不同。

I did not, in any way, mean to make my country look bad while writing my answer. I love the place I was born in, no matter what beauty standards there are.
Last but not least: I am considering deleting this answer because I realise that it might sound like I am fishing for compliments. I am not, and I’m not used to this kind of attention. The point of this answer was to express that I chose to live with the mindset I had in Japan, that’s it.

我在写答案的时候，无论如何都没有让我的国家难堪的意思。我爱我出生的地方，不管（那里）有什么美丽的标准。
最后但并非最不重要的一点:我正在考虑删除这个答案，因为我意识到这听起来可能像是我在寻求赞美。我不是（这个意思），我也不习惯这种关注。这个回答的重点是表达我选择了以我在日本的心态生活，仅此而已。

Trina McLain, former Pit Manager at Apache Casino Hotel (2018-2019)

特里娜·麦克莱恩，前阿帕奇赌场酒店经理（2018-2019年）

I’ve been pondering this question for a few days now so I have put some thought into it. So I have my favorite iced coffee and threw in an extra shot of espresso to boot. I’ve also been encouraged by a Quoran friend to write on more topics. So this is for you “mate”. It is everly more difficult to open myself up to writing about my personal feelings. I’m a very private person by nature yet outgoing and passionate if you met me on the street. Yes it’s odd or strange or whatever thought crossed your mind as you read this. I’d much rather write on general topics or tell light-hearted stories however I will give it a go.

我已经思考这个问题好几天了，所以我已经考虑了一下。我点了我最喜欢的冰咖啡，外加一杯浓缩咖啡。我在知乎上的一个朋友也鼓励我写更多的话题。所以这是给你的"伴侣"。要让自己敞开心扉，写下自己的个人感受，是越来越困难了。我天性内向，但如果你在街上遇到我，你会发现我外向又热情。是的，当你读这篇文章的时候，你会觉得很奇怪。我更愿意写一般性的主题或者讲轻松愉快的故事，但我会尝试一下。

Do you think you are beautiful?
I’m assuming that you are referring to the physical form of beautiful however I truly believe it’s much more than that which I will explain further down my answer. It’s based on your general perception and perception of one’s self. In short to the question sometimes I do and sometimes I don’t. This is solely based on my perception of myself and not swayed by outside views, opinions or comments. There’s a couple different points I want to make before I elaborate on my short answer.

你认为自己漂亮吗？
我假设你指的是美丽的物理形式，但是我真的相信它远不止这些，我会在我的回答中进一步解释。它是基于你对自我的一般认知和感知。简而言之，有时候我漂亮，有时候我不漂亮。这完全是基于我对自己的看法，不受外界观点、意见或评论的影响。在详细阐述我的简短回答之前，我想先阐述几个不同的观点。

I’ve read some of the scientific theories to this question based on the symmetry on one’s face and overall body shape. For example women having the curvy hourglass figure is seen by men as a healthy woman for child bearing. A natural instinct. (Perhaps it’s why the very skinny models are not seen as attractive to a lot of men.) Men being broad in the shoulders or having a strong square facial shape is attractive features of men. I’m a straight female but find women very attractive when they are. I’d so kiss Sandra Bullock if I ever got the chance. Everyone has varying individual preferences. I’ve read some Quora answers that in other countries the paler the skin the more attractive you are but in the US it’s the opposite.

我读过一些关于这个问题的科学理论，这些理论都是基于一个人面部的对称性和身体的整体体型。例如，拥有沙漏形曲线的女性被男性视为健康的生育女性。这是一种自然的本能。(也许这就是为什么很多男人都不喜欢那些骨瘦如柴的模特。)而对于男性来说宽肩或方形脸型是吸引人的特征。我是一个异性恋的女性，但我觉得女人很有吸引力。如果有机会，我一定会亲桑德拉·布洛克的。每个人都有不同的个人偏好。我读过知乎上的一些回答，在其他国家，皮肤越白越有吸引力，但在美国正好相反。
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I’ve also read some answers to this question by women that without a doubt are physically attractive (beautiful) however answer with “No” almost searching for reassurance and or praising comments stating the obvious. My personal opinion on some of those answers that they are based on shallow narcissistic tendencies which in term makes them very unattractive to me even though physically they are gorgeous. Maybe I read them wrong or over analyzed it. I can assure you this answer comes from nothing of that sort as the internal turmoil in writing this has caused me to eat three packs of Smarties candy.

我也读过一些女人对这个问题的回答，毫无疑问，她们的外表很有吸引力(漂亮)，但是她们用“不”来回答，几乎是为了寻求安慰，或者说是为了那些显而易见的赞美之词。我个人对其中一些答案的看法是，这些是基于肤浅的自恋倾向，这使得他们对我来说非常没有吸引力，即使他们的身体很漂亮。也许我看错了，或者过度分析了。我可以向你保证，这个答案不是这样的，因为写这篇文章时，我内心的混乱就如同我吃了三包聪明豆。

As a typical average American east-coaster. (My location is important to point out because the west coast girls have better genes and are naturally more attractive than east coasters. Maybe it’s the sun or something special in the Pacific Ocean). Based upon sheer physical beauty I am average, cute you may say. A 6.5 outta 10. I attended beauty school in my early 20’s and through that study had every physical flaw pointed out to me on a regular basis. I’m still traumatized to this day and don’t wear lipstick because my lips are extremely crooked and worse when I speak. Hence why you will NEVER see me do a live chat or video of myself. I’m not a high maintenance gal but do wear make-up and color/hi-light my hair often. Now more so because (OMG I’m going to say this outloud) I have a ton of grey hair. I’m not remotely interested in shopping or being in fashion and hate shoes. I dress in a way that makes me feel professional and comfortable. Can’t go wrong with black and my wardrobe mirrors Dracula’s. I’ve had several positions where the dresscode was either business suits or casual business attire.

作为一个典型的美国东部沿海城市。(我的地理位置很重要，因为西海岸的女孩有更好的基因，天生比东海岸的女孩更有吸引力。也许因为是太阳或者太平洋上的什么特别的东西)。从纯粹的外表来看，我是一个普通人，你可能会说我很可爱。自认为百分之六十五漂亮程度吧）。我在20岁出头的时候进入了美容学校，通过一项研究，我的每一个身体缺陷都会定期被指出来。直到今天，我仍然受到创伤，也不涂口红，因为我的嘴唇歪歪扭扭的，一说话就更糟了。这就是为什么你永远不会看到我做实时聊天或视频节目。我不是一个做高额保养的女孩，但是我经常化妆和染发。现在更是因为(天哪，我要大声说出来)我有一大堆白发。我对购物和时尚一点兴趣都没有，我讨厌鞋子。我的穿着让我感觉专业和舒适。选择黑色是不会错的，我的衣柜里有吸血鬼的影子。我有好几个职位的着装要求要么是商务套装，要么是商务休闲装。

I have a 16 y/o daughter that is absolutely beautiful like model material. She’s 6′0, natural auburn hair, fair complected with high cheekbones and a knockout size 4 body. She has a unique look. I’ve taught her to respect herself and that looks aren’t the most important thing. She has a deadly combination of looks, personality and intelligence and that combination will take her much further in life than just looks alone. I would never want her to get caught up in the “Hollywood” ideology of becoming a model or something of that sorts because I believe it’s a very dark world on SO many levels.

我有一个16岁的女儿，像模特一样漂亮。她身高6英尺，自然的赤褐色头发，白皙的面颊，高颧骨，4号身材。她长得很独特。我教她尊重自己，外表不是最重要的。她将美貌、个性和智慧完美地结合在一起，这种组合将使她在生活中更进一步，而不仅仅是外表。我决不想让她陷入成为模特之类的“好莱坞”思想中，因为我相信这是一个在很多层面上都非常黑暗的世界。

Finally I will get back to the explanation of my answer. Natural physical beauty is only a fraction of what is perceived by others that are judging your beauty and what makes you beautiful. Throughout my life I’ve been on a roller coaster of highs and lows. When I am happy and at peace with myself no matter the color of my hair or how fluffy I may or may not be it’s my inner spirit, light or glow. The natural energy or vibrations I exude. In this state I can walk into a room and light it up. (I’ve been told this many times.) You attract what you are. On the flip side when I am depressed or stressed it wears on me and is physically noticeable even though I never change my physical attributes or normal routines. I don’t get the typical comments or stares that I do when I’m in my zen state. I believe in instant connections of energies. It’s not a daily change for me but based more on my general well being of external situations like job, money and overall general living conditions.
I currently am in a low place and it’s manifested into stress and frustration so today I am not beautiful. However I am working towards becoming beautiful once again. I apologize for the length of this answer but wanted to touch on a few points and hopefully you, the reader feel this was written as open, raw, honest and from the heart.

最后，解释下我的答案。自然的外表美只是别人对你的美貌的感知和使你美丽的因素的一小部分。在我的一生中，我就像坐过山车一样起起落落。当我感到快乐和平静的时候，无论头发的颜色或蓬松程度如何，这都是我内在的精神在放光。在这种状态下，我可以走进一个房间，把它点亮。(我已经被告知很多次了。)你吸引的是你自己。另一方面，当我感到沮丧或压力时，它会折磨我，即使我从来没有改变我的身体特征或正常的生活习惯，它也会在身体上引起我的注意。当我处于禅宗状态时，我不会得到典型的评论或注视。我相信能量之间的即时联系。对我来说，这不是每天都在改变，而是更多地基于我的外部环境，如工作、金钱和总体生活条件。
我现在处于低谷期，这表现为压力和挫折，所以今天我不漂亮。然而，我正在努力重新变得美丽。我很抱歉这个答案太长，但我想触及一些要点，希望读者能感觉到这是一篇开放、原始、诚实并且发自内心的文章。

Maria Freedmar, lives in Oklahoma

玛丽亚·弗里德玛，住在俄克拉荷马州
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Thanks for the A2A. Yes and no.
On one level, I am fully aware of my beauty and the power that comes with it. I have used that power to my advantage in social situations. It gave me confidence that enabled me to be more powerful in business. In business, it has been an advantage that I know enabled me to secure certain positions I would not have otherwise. For example, two departments I worked in were for the smart, social, and beautiful people because we could interact with all segments of the company and public and people were instantly drawn to us.
When it comes to men, I can pick and choose and walk away because I know there will be another in a minute. I have been able to be picky because I have options. Not everyone has options.

谢谢你邀请我来回答。（我的回答是）漂亮也不漂亮
在某种程度上，我完全意识到我的美丽和随之而来的力量。我已经在社交场合中充分利用了这种力量。它给了我信心，让我在商业上更加强大。在商界，这是一个优势，我知道这使我能够获得某些职位，否则我不会有这些。举个例子，我工作的两个部门是为聪明、社交和漂亮的人服务的，因为人们会立即被我们吸引，我们就可以与公司和公众的所有部门互动。
说到男人，我可以挑挑拣拣，然后一走了之，因为我知道一分钟后还会有一个（出现）。我之所以能挑剔，是因为我有选择。但不是每个人都有选择。

I do not take my beauty lightly. It is a gift that I did nothing for. I did nothing to deserve this other than be born to a couple that have remarkable genes.
My whole family is beautiful. When I say my whole family, my parents and siblings but also my aunts and uncles and cousins on both sides. We are all remarkably beautiful people. All of us are smart and the majority of us are tall. We struck it rich in the gene pool.
I assumed everyone’s family was as attractive as mine. It wasn’t until I was in high school or college that I started looking at more people’s families and realizing we are rare.

我从不轻视自己的美貌。这是我不求回报的礼物。除了生于一对有着非凡基因的夫妇之外，我什么也没做。
我全家都很漂亮。当我说我的整个家庭，（是指）我的父母和兄弟姐妹，还有我的叔叔阿姨和表兄弟姐妹。我们都是非常漂亮的人。我们都很聪明，大多数人都很高。我们的基因库有很多很棒的基因。
我以为每个人的家庭都和我的一样有魅力。直到我上了高中和大学，我才开始观察更多的家庭，意识到我们（这样的家庭）是稀有的。

On another level, when I look in the mirror, often, I see none of the beauty that others see. I question their standards of beauty but when so many people from different cities and countries say I am beautiful then somehow they must see something in my personality that I can’t in the mirror that they attribute to my beauty. Sometimes, when I look in the mirror, I see it. It could be when I have zero makeup on and look like I’m in my early 20’s (I’m 48) or when I have makeup on and it all seems to be working that day. Certainly, it’s not every day.
Regardless, I think there is a responsibility that comes with beauty. Sometimes I catch people staring at me. My first thought is that I have something on my face but then I remember. So I smile. This usually causes them to smile. Sometimes we talk. Sometimes they tell me how beautiful they think I am - complete strangers. I think that beautiful people need to be kind and to not be douchebags. After all, it’s pure luck that you look the way you do.

在另一个层面上，当我照镜子的时候，我经常看不到别人所看到的美。我质疑他们关于美的标准，但是当那么多来自不同城市和国家的人说我漂亮的时候，不知怎么的，（我觉得）他们一定在我的性格中看到了我在镜子里看不到的东西，他们认为这是我的美。有时候，当我照镜子的时候，我看到了它。可能是当我不化妆，看起来像20岁出头的时候(我目前48岁)，或者当我化了妆的那天看起来一切都很好的时候。当然，不是每天都这样。
不管怎样，我认为美丽是一种责任。有时我会发现有人盯着我看。我的第一个想法是我脸上有东西，但我很快就记起来了。所以我会微笑，这通常会连带他们跟着微笑。有时候我们说话。有时完全不认识的陌生人会告诉我他们觉得我有多美。我认为漂亮的人需要善良，而不是愚蠢。毕竟，你的长相纯属运气。

Sonia Camacho
I don't feel pretty nor ugly. I feel healthy and happy with myself so that's why I have good self steem. I think I'm only pretty when I smile. To me, a person’s physicall beauty is determined by their smile or the way their eyes express emotions.
When I lived in Mexico, my home country, I wasn't considered attractive or anything. I was just average. I never got particular attention by boys. Ever.
So when I moved to the USA almost four years ago to study at least high school here, I never thought the amount of male attention I would get. Maybe it has to do with the fact that there's so much diversity of culture, skin colors, body types and types of people that every one can have their own definition of beauty.

我觉得自己既不漂亮也不丑。我感到健康和快乐，这就是为什么我有很好的自尊。我觉得我只有笑的时候才漂亮。对我来说，一个人的外表美是由他们的微笑或眼神表达情感的方式决定的。
当我住在我的祖国墨西哥时，人们认为我没什么魅力。我只是个普通人。我从来没有受到过男生的特别关注，从来没有。
所以当我四年前搬到美国，至少在这里读高中的时候，我从来没有想过我会得到这么多男性的关注。也许这与文化、肤色、体型和人群的多样性有关，每个人都有自己对美的定义。
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I have gotten hit on and approached by many guys all this time. I was surprised because I don't have an hour glass figure, or pretty eyes, or special hair. Then when I asked them why they liked me, most ananswers included that they loved my smile, cheerful personality and my face lol. I never considered my self special in Mexico because the truth is I'm just an average Mexican. Most of friends and Family in Mexico were cheerful, goofy, extroverted, and always laughing. In Mexico you can make a friend in a few seconds and people who barely know you invite u to their parties.I was just like most teenagers in my school. But honestly I have never been depressed. I haven't even felt very sad longer than a few hours. Sadness and negative feelings don't go with me. I'M just a happy person and I don't need much to be happy either.
I think I'm I have a pretty soul. Wen I look at my face, I don't think I'm pretty or ugly. I just see my face as it is because some people might think I'm pretty doesn't mean I am. Every one has their own definition.

在这段时间里，我被很多男人搭讪和接近。我很惊讶，因为我没有沙漏身材，没有漂亮的眼睛，也没有特别的头发。然后当我问他们为什么喜欢我时，大多数的回答包括他们喜欢我的微笑，开朗的性格和我的脸，哈哈。我从不认为自己在墨西哥很特别，因为事实是我只是一个普通的墨西哥人。在墨西哥的大多数朋友和家人都是开朗、愚笨、外向的，总是笑个不停。在墨西哥，你可以在几秒钟内交到一个朋友，几乎不认识你的人会邀请你参加他们的聚会。我就像学校里的大多数青少年一样。但说实话，我从来没有沮丧过。我从来没有难过过几个小时，悲伤和消极的情绪不会随我而去。我只是一个快乐的人，我也不需要太多额外的快乐。
我想我有一个美丽的灵魂。当我看着自己的脸，我不觉得自己漂亮或丑陋。我只是看到了我的脸，因为有些人可能认为我漂亮，但这并不意味着我漂亮。每个人都有自己的定义。